Actually she could not believe … that in the end he had the guts to define all those ugly energies between the 2 of them. “How dare you … do that to me?!”
she was repeating that on and on and on.
But … he was only defining into a honest way the present moment … not running away anymore by so called … ugly energies of life.
She was mad … but he was … honest.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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He was … defining … the unhappiness itself … but she was still convinced that she needs to hide the real truth … cause happiness might … still re appear one day.
So … i was chatting with my friend … why do we run away … by the truth?!
What if the unhappiness is just a secondary effect of the fact
that we hide ourselves by the real situations from life?!
Unhappiness itself becomes a barrier in front of happiness …
but only understanding its causes … like my friend, the writer
was trying to do in his books … we can probably end this
journey on a … pathless path.
My friend … is a shy guy.
He did not even had to guts to define the real truth … with his life partner.
But he found in the end … the courage… to write his books. And the question is … what about u?!
Do you have the courage to define the truth?!
Can you do that with your life partner?!
Are you afraid of telling to that person … what you really feel?!
that you like and dislike that person … in the same time?!
that you love and hate that person … in the same time?! Should we have the guts of telling the truth?!
Should the life partner be mad on us?!
on what we think or feel?!
Is honesty good … but also welcomed into a relationship?! Well … we might also consider that truth hurts … but running away by what it really means … becomes the equivalent… of running away … maybe forever …. by the soul of that life partner.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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It’s hard to choose the right path … i know … but honesty … whatever it means … is not wrong.
It’s a difficult path … indeed … but ….
So … ask yourself why … to be unhappy forever?!
Why not start the cure process?!
and maybe we should also keep in mind that if you can’t say what you really think in front of the life partner …. you are certainly in the wrong story.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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Synchronizing energies
a very important thing to do when you are in
a story … and chase for happiness
I was in the train … on the way to Budapest.
Not having what to do … cause i was alone on that trip … i started to talk with the guy that was standing in front of me. He presented me his wife … but also his friends.
They were going in a trip to Tunisia and at that time the plane to Tunis could be taken only from Budapest. Everyone of them … had been so enthusiastic that … i could compare them with some school kids.
It was a very long way to Budapest … so Daniel started to tell me his life …but i was totally surprised that for him … his life meant his marriage.
Working in a bank … Daniel explains to me that one day he woke up and asked his wife:
“My dear! Just tell me … what do you expect from this life together?! Should we chase for money … and have all the material goods we ever dreamed about … or … simple chase for happiness?!”
Carla .. smiled .. and said to him:
“You know that i actually dream about lots of things, but most probably the wisest decision is as the 2 of us to
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synchronize our energies and … have on the top list … the
desire to be happy together.
Will we do it?!
Don’t know it … but at least … let’s try it!” And … Daniel kept telling me his story. His wife … was his Universe.
The meaning of that vacation was … to be together 24 hours a day, for 10 days in a row and explore the connection they had together.
At that time … about 15 years ago … i was seeing in front of my eyes … just money.
I wanted to get rich .. and did not cared about anything else … at all.
I was listening to Daniel … but it was like i was speaking with a great painter about … abstract art … and its meaning in our lives.
Yes … i was just listening … not understanding anything at all
from what he was telling me about his marriage, but also the importance of synchronizing the energies in a relationship.
They both were following all the important directions of life … a good career, have the necessary material goods a modern family is dreaming about, have enough money so that they could travel few times a year … but the main focus remained
the chase for happiness.
They always discussed what they actually need to do to achieve this objective … treating the subject as the most important one.
And they were probably happy together.
Not even bothered to take his phone number to call him in
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the future for asking advices about how could happiness be achieved into a couple.
I could not see at that time the importance of such a thing. I had only one purpose for my life … to get richer and richer, not really understanding at that time that the amount of money from my bank account is not in direct proportion with the happiness i would carry in my soul.
Even saw Daniel as naive … and a weak man in front of a woman that he was loving so much.
And i was so silly, that i treated the meeting with Daniel and Carla … as a simple meeting … not understanding the message the Universe was whispering to me.
I did not know at that time … the fact that there are moments in life when the Infinite Intelligence is speaking to us … using the people from the timeline of our lives.
So … 15 years ago … the message came to me… and I totally ignored it.
It was a secret revealed by an ordinary person, in love of his spouse … telling me about the tremendous power of synchronizing the energies.
Now … after failing in the relationship with my wife, i finally realize that getting rich was a nonsense objective.
But … once i understood the secret … i decided to start synchronizing energies with all the people from the timeline of my life.
And guess what?!
The trick … worked.
I could have listen that 15 years ago …. but i’ve been blinded
by the wish of getting rich … not realizing that simple asking for happiness is a wisest decision.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
59
A MARRIED MAN … PERCEPTIONS ABOUT … LOVE
philosophical essays
The false imagine built just to impress the world … will simple disappear one day and the real truth will be revealed … so why should we bother so much about it?!
The mayor of the capital of my country had been arrested.
Of course … for bribe.
This is usually what all the mayors from all around the country .. and maybe other countries also … are doing for getting rich.
Basically…. If one person is mayor … or vice mayor …. you
can see that they steal a lot.
And when i say a lot … i mean … millions of dollars.
But this guy .. i am telling you about was totally different. He was a surgery doctor, director of an important hospital … and had the image of a … saint.
I was laughing reading the articles in the newspapers … describing the mayor that built for himself over the years the false image of a saint.
I was laughing cause the same media that defined him as an amazing person … wrote after being arrested that the guy is a thief, a person with a horrible character etc etc.
And it is so damn funny seeing … that this saint which meanwhile became a devil …. was the mayor of the capital for more than 10 years.
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So who is lying?!
The mayor?!
The press?!
The judge that arrested him?!
What is the meaning of the false image in this equation?! Then i remember that i heard so many times … at so many people that were in a couple …. that the partner became … a devil.
The same person defined in the beginning as a saint … ends up having the image of Satan. But why?!
Is it just a perspective?!
If you would ask the persons that say that about their
partners … they will certainly give you one million reasons for
explaining their affirmations.
But what is the real truth?!
Why our perceptions about the people we like … or even love are metamorphosing in such a dramatic way?!
Why the Saint ….becomes the Devil itself?!
Are all those people i am telling about …so tricky?! … and they succeed to create so powerful false images about themselves?!
How should we define the moment when the truth is revealed?!
The awaking moment?!
Or just a simple day … with totally new perspective?!
I am certain today that even a cashier from a supermarket … has advantages also … same as a mayor of a capital … when everybody sees him as a positive character … but why this balance between the positive and the negative side of the
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human being?!
Does the absolute truth really exists?!
Are our perceptions … illusory?! …. same as life itself?!
Well … who the hell knows … but watching so many scenarios that i see in the press, television or real life … i simple smile
and then i can’t stop myself from laughing. I see the human mind … so damn tricky.
The mind … with all its thoughts … is playing around with us. So … so … many times.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
62
A MARRIED MAN … PERCEPTIONS ABOUT … LOVE
philosophical essays
The dance of energies
is so damn attractive
… but also dangerous
Mahima wrote me today.
We are friends by years and i believe we had been friends in another lifetime also.
We talk about lots of things … but mostly about spirituality … the subject being so important for both of us.
She lives in New Delhi, but now she was in village close to the city, visiting her relatives for few days.
Analyzing everything around is like an obsession for her … and not having what to do in this short vacation … Mahima started to look at that small universe from the country side. She started to compare the life from New Delhi … with the life from there … believing in the beginning that living in a village is something quite boring … like it used to be many, many years ago.
But going out at the swimming pool with some other girls … she observed that all of them were chatting or speaking on the phone all the time.
And she asks herself what was going on?!
Days were passing … and little by little the informations were coming to her.
She starts to understand that those ladies …. some of them
married, some of them not married … were chatting with
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other men.
All of them.
Everyone from the village has been involved into that.
the priest, the director of the school, the mayor, the chief of police … and of course all the beautiful ladies from that area.
Everyone was speaking and flirting with everyone … believing in the unicity of that story.
Some were … even in love, but the problem was that there were so many temptations around …. that they keep wondering if it’s real love.
The final question became …. It is love or lust?!
Or even something more difficult to be understood … the desire of not having a boring life anymore.
In Mahima’s mind were lots of questions and not so many answers … so she calls me telling the story and also asking …. what is really going on?!
How should we define this?!
My friend became the observer of an universe … which she found … abstract.
Telling me the story … i try to become an observer of more than her perspectives about that story.
And i smile … seeing that it’s all a dance of … energies.
men and women …. chasing for a different life … a much beautiful one.
But i also see their weak side ….of not being able to totally connect to those energies that they liked so much.
It was all about … flirting … and maybe about … love affairs. Virtual … and real … love stories … dominated by the desire of connecting to beautiful energies.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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philosophical essays
But it was all … just a dance … and nothing more.
My friend also finds out about happy people … living parallel lives … but also about people that destroyed their marriages because of this dance.
But they continued … dancing … in the chase for beautiful vibes.
The meaning of a dance looks useless … but it’s a process that might help connect our souls to high vibrations.
but in the desire for happiness, blinded by the unhappiness from inside of us … we don’t really understand who the partner is.
And people were connecting to beautiful, but also ugly energies.
They lived beautiful stories … but also stories with an unhappy end.
I was laughing with Mahima …. defining this life in the country side …. cause we believed for such a long time that life is much interesting in the city … ignoring the advantages of an environment where everyone is knowing everyone. Playing this immoral game … the dance of energies is so damn attractive … but also so dangerous … but maybe we should not judge those people … as we do now … defining them.
We should respect the right of the human being of hoping that this Universe can get them the so wanted … happiness. Immoral or not … we have the fundamental right to be happy.
No judging. Analyzing …. maybe yes.
And maybe me and Mahima … should copy that model also … to have a much interesting life.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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A MARRIED MAN … PERCEPTIONS ABOUT … LOVE
philosophical essays
“I see so, so many
signs … but i just can’t focus on love anymore”
Few days ago … i’ve met Anna on the streets.
She almost did not noticed me.
Was walking …. thinking …
Certainly …. She was not in this world.
“Anna! Anna!” … i call her.
Smiles seeing me … forgetting for a second about … her thoughts that made her look so unhappy.
“How are you …. my dear friend?!”
We hug each other … so happy of seeing each other.
“Listen … Anna …. you don’t look so happy. What is going on
with you?!”
“I am not happy anymore by a long, long time … yes … but i an happy now cause i see you.”
I knew Anna for more than 20-25 years.
We used to be close friends … but … the time did not let us anymore to see each other how we used to do in the past. “Listen … Gabriel … i somehow lost myself.
And is not that i can’t see any reason to be happy … but … i simple had enough waiting and waiting and waiting …as a change to appear in my life.”
she was repeating that on and on and on.
But … he was only defining into a honest way the present moment … not running away anymore by so called … ugly energies of life.
She was mad … but he was … honest.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
54
A MARRIED MAN … PERCEPTIONS ABOUT … LOVE
philosophical essays
He was … defining … the unhappiness itself … but she was still convinced that she needs to hide the real truth … cause happiness might … still re appear one day.
So … i was chatting with my friend … why do we run away … by the truth?!
What if the unhappiness is just a secondary effect of the fact
that we hide ourselves by the real situations from life?!
Unhappiness itself becomes a barrier in front of happiness …
but only understanding its causes … like my friend, the writer
was trying to do in his books … we can probably end this
journey on a … pathless path.
My friend … is a shy guy.
He did not even had to guts to define the real truth … with his life partner.
But he found in the end … the courage… to write his books. And the question is … what about u?!
Do you have the courage to define the truth?!
Can you do that with your life partner?!
Are you afraid of telling to that person … what you really feel?!
that you like and dislike that person … in the same time?!
that you love and hate that person … in the same time?! Should we have the guts of telling the truth?!
Should the life partner be mad on us?!
on what we think or feel?!
Is honesty good … but also welcomed into a relationship?! Well … we might also consider that truth hurts … but running away by what it really means … becomes the equivalent… of running away … maybe forever …. by the soul of that life partner.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
55
A MARRIED MAN … PERCEPTIONS ABOUT … LOVE philosophical essays
It’s hard to choose the right path … i know … but honesty … whatever it means … is not wrong.
It’s a difficult path … indeed … but ….
So … ask yourself why … to be unhappy forever?!
Why not start the cure process?!
and maybe we should also keep in mind that if you can’t say what you really think in front of the life partner …. you are certainly in the wrong story.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
56
A MARRIED MAN … PERCEPTIONS ABOUT … LOVE
philosophical essays
Synchronizing energies
a very important thing to do when you are in
a story … and chase for happiness
I was in the train … on the way to Budapest.
Not having what to do … cause i was alone on that trip … i started to talk with the guy that was standing in front of me. He presented me his wife … but also his friends.
They were going in a trip to Tunisia and at that time the plane to Tunis could be taken only from Budapest. Everyone of them … had been so enthusiastic that … i could compare them with some school kids.
It was a very long way to Budapest … so Daniel started to tell me his life …but i was totally surprised that for him … his life meant his marriage.
Working in a bank … Daniel explains to me that one day he woke up and asked his wife:
“My dear! Just tell me … what do you expect from this life together?! Should we chase for money … and have all the material goods we ever dreamed about … or … simple chase for happiness?!”
Carla .. smiled .. and said to him:
“You know that i actually dream about lots of things, but most probably the wisest decision is as the 2 of us to
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
57
A MARRIED MAN … PERCEPTIONS ABOUT … LOVE
philosophical essays
synchronize our energies and … have on the top list … the
desire to be happy together.
Will we do it?!
Don’t know it … but at least … let’s try it!” And … Daniel kept telling me his story. His wife … was his Universe.
The meaning of that vacation was … to be together 24 hours a day, for 10 days in a row and explore the connection they had together.
At that time … about 15 years ago … i was seeing in front of my eyes … just money.
I wanted to get rich .. and did not cared about anything else … at all.
I was listening to Daniel … but it was like i was speaking with a great painter about … abstract art … and its meaning in our lives.
Yes … i was just listening … not understanding anything at all
from what he was telling me about his marriage, but also the importance of synchronizing the energies in a relationship.
They both were following all the important directions of life … a good career, have the necessary material goods a modern family is dreaming about, have enough money so that they could travel few times a year … but the main focus remained
the chase for happiness.
They always discussed what they actually need to do to achieve this objective … treating the subject as the most important one.
And they were probably happy together.
Not even bothered to take his phone number to call him in
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
58
A MARRIED MAN … PERCEPTIONS ABOUT … LOVE philosophical essays
the future for asking advices about how could happiness be achieved into a couple.
I could not see at that time the importance of such a thing. I had only one purpose for my life … to get richer and richer, not really understanding at that time that the amount of money from my bank account is not in direct proportion with the happiness i would carry in my soul.
Even saw Daniel as naive … and a weak man in front of a woman that he was loving so much.
And i was so silly, that i treated the meeting with Daniel and Carla … as a simple meeting … not understanding the message the Universe was whispering to me.
I did not know at that time … the fact that there are moments in life when the Infinite Intelligence is speaking to us … using the people from the timeline of our lives.
So … 15 years ago … the message came to me… and I totally ignored it.
It was a secret revealed by an ordinary person, in love of his spouse … telling me about the tremendous power of synchronizing the energies.
Now … after failing in the relationship with my wife, i finally realize that getting rich was a nonsense objective.
But … once i understood the secret … i decided to start synchronizing energies with all the people from the timeline of my life.
And guess what?!
The trick … worked.
I could have listen that 15 years ago …. but i’ve been blinded
by the wish of getting rich … not realizing that simple asking for happiness is a wisest decision.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
59
A MARRIED MAN … PERCEPTIONS ABOUT … LOVE
philosophical essays
The false imagine built just to impress the world … will simple disappear one day and the real truth will be revealed … so why should we bother so much about it?!
The mayor of the capital of my country had been arrested.
Of course … for bribe.
This is usually what all the mayors from all around the country .. and maybe other countries also … are doing for getting rich.
Basically…. If one person is mayor … or vice mayor …. you
can see that they steal a lot.
And when i say a lot … i mean … millions of dollars.
But this guy .. i am telling you about was totally different. He was a surgery doctor, director of an important hospital … and had the image of a … saint.
I was laughing reading the articles in the newspapers … describing the mayor that built for himself over the years the false image of a saint.
I was laughing cause the same media that defined him as an amazing person … wrote after being arrested that the guy is a thief, a person with a horrible character etc etc.
And it is so damn funny seeing … that this saint which meanwhile became a devil …. was the mayor of the capital for more than 10 years.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
60
A MARRIED MAN … PERCEPTIONS ABOUT … LOVE philosophical essays
So who is lying?!
The mayor?!
The press?!
The judge that arrested him?!
What is the meaning of the false image in this equation?! Then i remember that i heard so many times … at so many people that were in a couple …. that the partner became … a devil.
The same person defined in the beginning as a saint … ends up having the image of Satan. But why?!
Is it just a perspective?!
If you would ask the persons that say that about their
partners … they will certainly give you one million reasons for
explaining their affirmations.
But what is the real truth?!
Why our perceptions about the people we like … or even love are metamorphosing in such a dramatic way?!
Why the Saint ….becomes the Devil itself?!
Are all those people i am telling about …so tricky?! … and they succeed to create so powerful false images about themselves?!
How should we define the moment when the truth is revealed?!
The awaking moment?!
Or just a simple day … with totally new perspective?!
I am certain today that even a cashier from a supermarket … has advantages also … same as a mayor of a capital … when everybody sees him as a positive character … but why this balance between the positive and the negative side of the
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
61
A MARRIED MAN … PERCEPTIONS ABOUT … LOVE philosophical essays
human being?!
Does the absolute truth really exists?!
Are our perceptions … illusory?! …. same as life itself?!
Well … who the hell knows … but watching so many scenarios that i see in the press, television or real life … i simple smile
and then i can’t stop myself from laughing. I see the human mind … so damn tricky.
The mind … with all its thoughts … is playing around with us. So … so … many times.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
62
A MARRIED MAN … PERCEPTIONS ABOUT … LOVE
philosophical essays
The dance of energies
is so damn attractive
… but also dangerous
Mahima wrote me today.
We are friends by years and i believe we had been friends in another lifetime also.
We talk about lots of things … but mostly about spirituality … the subject being so important for both of us.
She lives in New Delhi, but now she was in village close to the city, visiting her relatives for few days.
Analyzing everything around is like an obsession for her … and not having what to do in this short vacation … Mahima started to look at that small universe from the country side. She started to compare the life from New Delhi … with the life from there … believing in the beginning that living in a village is something quite boring … like it used to be many, many years ago.
But going out at the swimming pool with some other girls … she observed that all of them were chatting or speaking on the phone all the time.
And she asks herself what was going on?!
Days were passing … and little by little the informations were coming to her.
She starts to understand that those ladies …. some of them
married, some of them not married … were chatting with
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
63
A MARRIED MAN … PERCEPTIONS ABOUT … LOVE
philosophical essays
other men.
All of them.
Everyone from the village has been involved into that.
the priest, the director of the school, the mayor, the chief of police … and of course all the beautiful ladies from that area.
Everyone was speaking and flirting with everyone … believing in the unicity of that story.
Some were … even in love, but the problem was that there were so many temptations around …. that they keep wondering if it’s real love.
The final question became …. It is love or lust?!
Or even something more difficult to be understood … the desire of not having a boring life anymore.
In Mahima’s mind were lots of questions and not so many answers … so she calls me telling the story and also asking …. what is really going on?!
How should we define this?!
My friend became the observer of an universe … which she found … abstract.
Telling me the story … i try to become an observer of more than her perspectives about that story.
And i smile … seeing that it’s all a dance of … energies.
men and women …. chasing for a different life … a much beautiful one.
But i also see their weak side ….of not being able to totally connect to those energies that they liked so much.
It was all about … flirting … and maybe about … love affairs. Virtual … and real … love stories … dominated by the desire of connecting to beautiful energies.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
64
A MARRIED MAN … PERCEPTIONS ABOUT … LOVE
philosophical essays
But it was all … just a dance … and nothing more.
My friend also finds out about happy people … living parallel lives … but also about people that destroyed their marriages because of this dance.
But they continued … dancing … in the chase for beautiful vibes.
The meaning of a dance looks useless … but it’s a process that might help connect our souls to high vibrations.
but in the desire for happiness, blinded by the unhappiness from inside of us … we don’t really understand who the partner is.
And people were connecting to beautiful, but also ugly energies.
They lived beautiful stories … but also stories with an unhappy end.
I was laughing with Mahima …. defining this life in the country side …. cause we believed for such a long time that life is much interesting in the city … ignoring the advantages of an environment where everyone is knowing everyone. Playing this immoral game … the dance of energies is so damn attractive … but also so dangerous … but maybe we should not judge those people … as we do now … defining them.
We should respect the right of the human being of hoping that this Universe can get them the so wanted … happiness. Immoral or not … we have the fundamental right to be happy.
No judging. Analyzing …. maybe yes.
And maybe me and Mahima … should copy that model also … to have a much interesting life.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
65
A MARRIED MAN … PERCEPTIONS ABOUT … LOVE
philosophical essays
“I see so, so many
signs … but i just can’t focus on love anymore”
Few days ago … i’ve met Anna on the streets.
She almost did not noticed me.
Was walking …. thinking …
Certainly …. She was not in this world.
“Anna! Anna!” … i call her.
Smiles seeing me … forgetting for a second about … her thoughts that made her look so unhappy.
“How are you …. my dear friend?!”
We hug each other … so happy of seeing each other.
“Listen … Anna …. you don’t look so happy. What is going on
with you?!”
“I am not happy anymore by a long, long time … yes … but i an happy now cause i see you.”
I knew Anna for more than 20-25 years.
We used to be close friends … but … the time did not let us anymore to see each other how we used to do in the past. “Listen … Gabriel … i somehow lost myself.
And is not that i can’t see any reason to be happy … but … i simple had enough waiting and waiting and waiting …as a change to appear in my life.”
