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David or Goliat?!
But does it make any sense who you are?!
.... or who you believe you are?!
The nightmare will remain still ... a nightmare.
... something is funny ... no matter of what is going on the stage of life ... and that is the fact that what you define as a nightmare is actually ... just an interpretation from your mind.
Nothing much ... nothing less.
The only way of ending up everything ... becomes ... connecting on other vibes and totally ignore that episode. You became the prisoner of that story ... only and only because you stayed connected to it ... by analyzing and defining everything too much.
The whole focus ... after understanding the meaning of all what is going on is actually ... redefine the situation.
That could even mean the fact that the nightmare might be been as a life lesson ... get the message and then ... leave the story.
Sometimes we need to understand powerful lessons ... by force ... to pay more attention to all the important details ...
but once we realize what is the story about ... we are released as prisoners of that nightmare.
Then ... we will simple need to ignore that so called nightmare .... by letting life continue and expect other new
things to happen ... and maybe why not ... experience beautiful stories also.
It all becomes a decision ... you stay stuck in the
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nightmare ... or you understand the meaning of that life lesson ... and then move on ... by ignoring the whole negative side ... cause it was all metamorphosed into a positive meaning.
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Dealing with people that are having mental problems might be ... challenging ... and might reveal a big ... secret about life
I’ve recently read a book about a russian philosopher that was writing his life in a beautiful novel.
He understood the concept of philosophy from the early age, asking himself all kinds of existential questions ... but he’d been also asking what is ... mental health ... seeing his mother acting weird in certain situations.
Later on ... he started to see lots of other people from the scene of his life ... that were actually having this kind of problem.
He marries with a lady ... that was the same as all those people ... and worse than his mother.
Time was passing ... and philosopher was blaming all the people that showed him their dark side ... until one day when he falls in love with a lady that even stayed for a while in a mental health hospital.
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He knew that ... but for the first time he totally ignored that information.
He was blinded by the connection he had with her ... and was so happy that he never saw her dark side.
Everything looked like the most amazing love story ... and they were enjoying all day long being together in the coffee shops and restaurants from Moscow.
He could not see ... not even for a second anything that would say that she had mental problems .... but 3 months before meeting him ... she’d been in serious problems.
At that time ... no one from her family thought that she could be cured, but the effects of the love story were magical. She started to look much younger.
Started to sing and dance all day long.
She started to be a ... a happy person.
... she was in love.
But you see ... the russian philosopher ... as any russian guy loved to drink and ... when he was drunk he was acting in a way that she did not agreed.
And little by little she started to show him her dark side ...
that part that was revealing her mental problems.
... but still ... as long as the connection between them was good ... everything was hided so well that no one would notice anything at all.
As the philosopher ... the guy knew by a long time that everything he sees is just a reflection of his inner world. His mother had mental problems ... his friends and all the other people he was dealing with ... but the new lady from
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his life was revealing ... the secret.
Love could cure ... mental problems.
But not any kind of love.
Infinite love ... combined with infinite understanding ... same as we should treat little children.
I know ... we grew up and we are adults now ... but we still dream to get the same treatment as a child ... a lucky child i mean ... the one that is treated with the whole love from the world.
So ... keep in mind ... this trick.
Might help you a lot dealing with all the people from your life ... especially the ones that are having serious mental problems.
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Chop wood ... carry water
... or hire someone to do it for you ... but do it with joy
There is an old Zen proverb that is applicable to whatever we do in life: “Before enlightenment, chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment, chop wood, carry water.”
I’ve been thinking a lot about this proverb, as in the end to understand that whatever i do in life i need to do it with joy. Spending lots of time analyzing and defining my life ... i’ve found a new trick to redefine a little bit the zen saying. I was smiling.
I somehow realized that i can hire someone to do for me ... whatever i would have to do ... but there is only one condition as everything to run perfect ... to do it with joy. In one point ... because of the energy crisis .... i hired
someone to chop wood for my tenants ... to use them in their fireplace.
At the end ... i was caring everything the boy did with my car ... for all my clients.
2 years ago i was staying in my office ... asking to a beautiful young lady to bring me the coffee ... and now i was caring
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chop wood to all my tenants just to help them not to pay huge bills to electricity or gas.
It was ridiculous ... but i was feeling great doing that and at the end of the day ... i was paying the boy that helped
me .... with joy.
I felt different ... than i used to feel.
I changed my vibe ... according myself on a beautiful frequency ... because i was doing the whole process with joy. I was serving my clients ... and i was doing it with an incredible joy ... which was in fact something that i was not capable of doing in the past.
I could chop wood myself ... but the boy that was doing that was much better as myself ... he also needed money ... and all i had to do was to pay him ... with joy ... for helping me and my tenants.
So ... i am happy seeing redefined a little bit the concept ... of the zen proverb ... chop wood, carry water ... and even if maybe only a philosopher could understand it ... it’s quite easy to see the main idea ... any process in life ... must be done with joy ... even if you also have the option of hiring someone to do it for you.
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You can have in life ... whatever you want ... but you need to believe ... with naivety
... same as a kid
I wanted so many things in life ... and if i would write about my big dreams i would tell a story that will take a week, or 2. And i sometimes had the naivety of a kid to believe in those ideas, but when i come back in time .... i am smiling seeing indeed in myself ... the image of a little kid.
The funny thing is that if i analyze and define those
events .... i am actually laughing while defining myself as a
silly kid ... cause later on i understood that many of all those big dreams ... were in fact only silly desires ... the ones of a kid.
And i am laughing even from my desires from today. Now ... i want for example a special model of Rolls-Royce from 1970 ... and also a person out of my life. The Rolls ... i just love it.
The person i am talking about .... i just hate her and don’t
want to see her anymore on the scene of my life.
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But if i would meet the Holly Spirit ... and ask me to choose between the Rolls and helping me get rid of that person ....
that is driving me crazy so much ... i would choose the second desire.
So .... basically between a beautiful and a silly issue ... i
choose to remove the ugly elements from my life. But why i don’t ask for the Rolls?!
Well ... i am not wise enough to just ignore the negative side of life ... and focus my mind on what i defined as the beautiful side.
I am still the prisoner of the illusion of negativity ... as many of you ... and somehow i am having a weird balance of contradictory emotions ... that does not let me see and enjoy the beauty of life.
My new dream ... became ... to not be a prisoner anymore ...
but had no idea how i could do that.
Most probably ... i have to redefine my thoughts ... and when i would really meet the Holly Spirit ... i’ll think twice and hope i will be able to focus myself on beautiful things ... and ignore the ugly ones.
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Dying is not ... an option. We should pay more attention to
the time left in this world
My godfather died today.
He was a little bit more of 70 ... and was a very powerful guy.
He was kind an example for me ... and i liked more his dark side.
The guy had been ... a Casanova profile ... and i loved his love stories.
First ... before knowing him well ... i heard the stories from the others from our family .... but later on ... i heard them directly from himself.
... and even at his age ... he had 3-4 mistresses .
I had times when i was analyzing him ... asking myself ... what is the secret as a guy of 70 ... to still have an amazing success to ladies.
But hearing that he died .... and then seeing him dead ... i
suddenly realized that death is not an option .... and we are
not immortals.
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We met with the family members .... people were crying and
we prepared the things to go him to the chapel.
Then ... i parked the car near the church ... and i suddenly hear a lady of about 40 which was screaming and crying ... like it was the end of the world ... and Messiah had died.
I started to wonder myself if i am at the wrong church ...
cause that lady was not the godmother.
It was a total nonsense.
Why the hell was that lady acting like that?!
I was trying to ask myself if maybe ... there is also another
dead person in there ... but ... my godfather was the only
one from the chapel.
Then ... i smiled.
That lady was the mistress ... one of them.
The guy succeeded to redefine one more time an unhappy moment from our family ... making us smile.
I bet the lady was loving him ... a lot ... cause she was a married person ... but not cared so much that it was so obvious about what is really going on.
A guy ... came to me ... and whispered ... “Hey ... didn’t you know?! I saw how you changed your face”.
But still ... my dear godfather died ... remembering to all of us that one day we all die even if we look immortal.
The accident from the chapel ... made us see death funny for a second .... and think about his model of not wasting any moment ... not even the last few hours from this world.
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It’s a new day!
Let’s enjoy the show!
Might be ... funny .... and we might
feel alive ... one more time
I’ve just been to a trial.
It was funny being accused by a weird lady ... by all sorts of silly things.
It was actually the trial of the ... non sense.
I smiled before entering into the court room ... talking with a dear friend, that was asking me ... “what if you redefine your perception about this event?!”
He was keep asking me questions ...
“What if you go there and enjoy the show same as you should be on Broadway?!
What it is the worst it could happen?!
You just lose 400 dollars.
If you would go to Broadway ... it would cost between 30 to 200 dollars ... but this time you are also allowed to be on the stage.
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So ... just think about this ... and enjoy the show”
I enter into the court room ... where the lawyer of that crazy lady ... defines me in front of the judge ... as a criminal. Indeed ... i was a criminal ... the criminal of the non sense. Being alone ... without a lawyer near me ... i realized i need to act ... as a human being.
Everything was an over reaction of the other side ... and it was indeed a show.
I was analyzing her ... the lady that was accusing me of all sorts of silly things ... but also her lawyer.
The lady was feeding herself with this fight against me ...
and the lawyer, which was a beautiful woman of about 34 ...
at the beginning of her career ... liked a lot to be on the
stage in the court room.
You see ... i had to be there.
In one point of the trial i was becoming .... an observer ...
then i had to be an actor again.
It was a court room from the country side ... and this was the only trial of the day.
It took almost an hour ... but the show was great.
It actually made me the impression of an american trial ...
live on CNN or NBC.
But this was ... the trial .... of the nonsense.
There was nothing else to do ... than enjoy the show ... how i am defined in all sorts of silly ways. My friend was right.
But i believe it was better than on ... Broadway.
I am expecting the results of the trial ... and am really
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curious ... how a judge from the country side will analyze and define that.
The show ... ended ... but i liked it.
I enjoyed the experience ... but if i should be honest ... i did it only after my friend asked me ... what if i redefine my perspective about the trial ... and see it as a show ... on Broadway.
I am asking now .... what if i should do that with every weird
experience from my life?!
