The decision ... is ours.
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The real values of life ... we will never see them in society
The concept of values ... is quite abstract.
We understand its importance, but at the same time we see it as exclusively theoretical.
But we perceive the true meaning when we see around us people who do not have the power to treat us at least ... decently in certain delicate situations of life.
Relationships that I thought were stable and I even saw them as friendships ... they are suddenly erased with a sponge. We even see a price in the relationship.
In simple situations ... for a small amount of money the relationship is not compromised ... but the same relationship is completely forgotten ... as soon as the amount or interest itself is higher.
We end up disappointed.
We look at the scene of life and notice the etiquette with the price of a relationship.
All we have to do is smile ... like over a certain amount ... even fixed sometimes ... everything is forgotten ... no matter how much we would have believed in that friendship. But often even we react the same way.
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We have the power to observe this process exclusively when we happen to be the victims of an event in which the values of life are excluded.
Wounded ... we analyze and define everything indefinitely ...
thinking in a loop obsessively .... so that in the end we
understand that redefining that event can be done exclusively when we understand the integration of the concept of supreme values of life in any event I lived it. Both in what we expect to happen to us and in how we behave on the stage of life.
But how do we understand what this set of values is ?!
How do we understand it in depth ?!
From books ?!
From religion ?!
From life experience ?!
Personally ... I tried to understand it from books ... but I did the deepening itself only when the reality was cruel to me. We analyzed everything ... and somehow we thought we didn't deserve that to happen to us.
And many of those negative experiences were actually the opposite of what we wanted from life and actually the opposite of values.
So ... somehow the Universe details our set of values by a counter example ... often very painful.
We smile ... realizing that everything is a lesson, and real life ... we will never see them in society except camouflaged by a painful example of .... "not so".
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Only by analyzing, defining ... that in the end we have the power to understand that through redefinition everything can be ... "so yes".
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Satisfying the mind's obsession ... the only way to get rid of the obsession ?!
I have experienced many obsessive events.
The event itself may have been just an event, but my perception ... followed by obsessive thinking, was the one that ruined my life for days on end. We analyze.
Reanalyzes.
I defined everything in millions of ways.
But ... I didn't have the strength to redefine the scene. That was until one day when I found out about a very interesting trick, which simply said that ... the night before bed, at least for 5 minutes .... analyze your day, review
everything ... and try to rewrite the story of that day in the way you would have liked everything to happen.
And I started practicing this exercise, especially in the case of events that upset me ... and there were many.
I was trying to rewrite the script for that day and it was funny that some scenes were repeated to me indefinitely. My questions and upset ... were becoming obsessive, but I already knew that at that moment of realizing this
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obsession ... I had to stop and completely ... redefine my perception of the stage in the first place.
For a long time I made the mistake of believing that reacting to certain events was the right way ... but I was wrong.
I later realized that I had the right not to identify with the scene and ... that I could be disconnected from events ...
even if I was in their midst ... and that they could greatly influence my life.
Stopping the obsession of the mind could only be done by realizing that I am not necessarily what I am experiencing ...
and a negative event can only be a life lesson ... and not necessarily something that absolutely defines me as an individual.
The moment I really realized that I could get rid of my obsession with my mind just by changing my perception was when I got rid of this torturous habit.
Satisfying the obsession ... it was stupid ... but unfortunately it took me a million years to understand this.
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All it takes is a spark to light the fire ... even for a huge fire
We live with the false impression that in order to make a change ... especially for big changes ... we have to meet certain conditions in order to have a perfect framework. We do not realize that everything can come along ... and everything can be perfected in time ... with our evolution as individuals.
All you need is a spark of mind ... to be aware of the need for change, and then just follow the path to what you really want.
But the mind creates scenarios upon scenarios. Everything becomes complicated seeing so many paths we can take ... so that in the end the change really redefines the scenario of the life we live.
The concept of change ... real ... is not entirely related to certain conditions that are actually related to perfection, but can lead us to a reality that we perceive as related to perfection.
I write ... and I smile ... realizing that everything is exclusively a perception ... a creation of our ego. But many times ... we just go around in circles.
We don't understand that a simple spark can ignite a fire …
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even a very big fire ... but everything happens progressively.
We seek to attain perfection ... before we begin our journey.
And many times we end up ... disappointed.
We stop from that path to the desired change ... exclusively from the inability to understand that we cannot reach the horizon.
But ... the horizon can't be reached ... but we can dream of meeting him.
The horizon ... represents for the human mind ... the achievement of perfection.
But we continue to be obsessive.
We even change our obsessions, not realizing that many times our ideals towards perfection ... are in fact just illusory obsessions.
Analyzing and defining our lives ... but we understand all this.
The spark ... can help us redefine everything exactly as we dreamed ... but we just have to be completely detached and not forget that the scenario itself can be defined as perfect ... by following the very path in which we see the evolution .
That's it.
No more.
Or maybe all we have to do is enjoy this journey ... toward our dreams and ideals.
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Redefining is sometimes more about chance ... than willpower
There are people in my life ... who have changed my life. There are a lot of people whose lives I've changed ... but it's funny that it all happened somehow without our exclusive will.
I turn my head ... looking back and wondering what forces controlled reality then?!
But I still wonder ... why didn't I have the strength to voluntarily help those people in my life.
Or why wasn't I helped intentionally ... but conjuncturally ?! Why didn't that intention exist ... as something intentional ... but it was something purely conjunctural ?!
I smile ... and realize how the Universe uses us in the desire to redefine destinies.
We are simple actors ... who somehow unconsciously play a role that is hard to understand at the moment ... but clearly visible in the future.
I realize how weak we are as spirits ... because we don't have the strength to do this whole conscious process ... through the will and the proficient planning.
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Everything is left exclusively to chance ... but often exactly what needs to happen happens.
And many times I go back to the past and realize that life could have done something consciously.
I could have been more involved and really helped a lot more people in my life.
Is it too late to define this?!
But to redefine myself ... in a soul that has the desire to change for the better and for others ?!
Can I get over the station to leave everything to chance ?! These are difficult questions to answer ... but maybe we live in a world where we live for others ... not just for ourselves.
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You have the right to refuse to enter someone else's frequency, regardless of the nature of that frequency
I had in my life few people i worked with ... which i considered unbearable.
I didn't like meeting them again ... but it happened every day ... and it's funny that everything was reciprocal.
Time passed ... and they didn't disappear from my life, and all I wanted was to never meet them again.
Something about the interaction with them ... I didn't like it ... but I didn't know what.
I started to wonder ... to analyze and define ... but I still didn't understand.
As individuals ... I may have nothing to blame them for ...
but the interaction between us was horrible all the time.
I wasted a lot of time wondering what was going on ... until one day when I realized that the negative nuance of the interaction between us still says it all.
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We should not be in each other's lives ... but we were still in a relationship.
I didn't like it ... and the explanatory questions were obsessive.
One day I burst out laughing ... realizing that I just didn't feel like going on their frequency ... and especially ... that I had the right to refuse.
They were already doing it ... but I was avoiding the negativity of the interaction between us.
Those people ... they just had nothing to do in my life ... and I was hanging out with them in the frame.
I analyzed myself enormously ... and I analyzed them too ... I defined every little detail ... and in the end I realized that there is nothing to redefine.
We were parallel lines that would clearly never intersect ...
and we weren't even interested in that.
In the end ... one by one they disappeared from my life.
I was very happy about that.
I knew clearly that other people would appear and that I had the right to choose whether or not I wanted certain interactions ... regardless of the nature of my interests.
And life continued ... but I clearly understood that the people I have bad interactions with ... simply ... I don't have to keep in my life under any circumstances. It's my choice on how I live my life ...
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It should be the perfect scenario if everything could be perfect
... but many, many times the real cases are not perfect
I've failed in so many things in life ... that I burst out laughing when I hypothetically discuss about perfect scenarios.
And not a few times I have been and still am taken to the blackboard ... by people who want to be teachers on the stage of my life.
But I look at them ... and laugh again.
I realize how stupid I am and I can't explain why instead of having free discussions on topics of common interest ... they have the illusory idea that they can give to myself life lessons.
But what strikes me ... analyzing all these topics ... is that beyond the fact that many of these people did not know each other ... but had the same behavior.
It's like someone is blowing in their ear ... what to do and what to say.
They were ... remote controlled.
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Someone was using them somehow ... to send me a very strong message ... but was that someone ... the Universe ?! These ... so-called teachers ... continue their role in my life ... and I honestly can't stand them anymore.
I analyze everything that happens and I am obsessed with the real reason why they did not disappear yet.
But somehow all these "teachers" ... were talking to me about perfection ... even though perfection was so far away from them.
They severely drew my attention to everything ... but I refused to listen to them.
I was trying to find a magic formula to make them disappear from my life ... forever, but somehow they didn't accept that it would be perfect if everything could be perfect ... but often the real cases are not perfect.
They were all obsessively leading me to perfection ... but I was already bored listening to them.
In the end, I realized that it was just a way to stop this stupid movie ... and to say ... "Thank you for everything!" ... and fuck them.
I hate teachers.
I had hated them for a long time ... and I kept seeing them again on the stage of life ... but I had found the magic trick. I thanked them ... and they disappeared.
I haven't believed in the perfect case scenarios for a long time.
I've tried thousands of times to redefine life itself ... for the perfect script, but the perfect script ... doesn't exist.
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It was illusory ... and these "teachers" kept leading me to ...
perfection.
Today, however, I am waiting for those who want to accept my imperfection ... and tell me about the real case and less about ... "lessons".
To the others ... i say thank you and I wish them to ...
disappear.
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