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Be selective in all the aspects
of your life ... and do only
what you love to do ... nothing more. Life is too short for compromises!
Bobby had a new date ... with a lady he considered great ...
into the Central Park, New York.
He succeeds to park his car and then calls her ... and almost could not wait to ... meet her.
Olivia ... was a simple girl, working as a cashier in a grocery store ... but even if he was a successful lawyer ... he did not cared at all of those social differences.
Close to his 50s ... Bobby started to realize that just the soul is important ... and he dreamed a lot to meet a lady with a big soul, that will treat him with ... infinite love.
Bobby was reading long time ago a book about how to treat people that have drug addiction ... because he had in the past a love story with a young student that was taking drugs ... and wanted to save her.
In the book ... he finds out that all those people that have this ugly addiction had to be treated with ... infinite love and understanding.
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Bobby was never taking drugs ... but realized that he needed the same treatment.
His lost soul ... that mix of positive and negative energies ...
was totally fucked up.
Someone needed to come ... and fix it.
Going to a therapist ... could be useless ... so he was not even trying ... but he was dreaming that a beautiful soul will appear in his life and heal his lost soul. But guess what?!
Even if Olivia was looking like an extraordinary person ... her inner self was also fucked up.
They both were suffering of a kind of spiritual sickness ... impossible to be cured by the doctors ... and were pretending they were looking for a partner, but all they searching was a magical healing.
Olivia ... which was a little bit shy ... was not treating him in the way he wanted to be treated.
In fact ... she was just treating him ... as a stranger ... and he was a stranger ... from a strange place ... New York City. Not getting the treatment what was looking for ... just like a 5 years old kid ... Bobby ends the date with Olivia ...
explaining that not seeing the connection ... is just useless to continue the walk.
He leaves ... and Olivia is feeling so offended ... like never before in her life.
But what is funny ... is that Bobby ... who was actually a great lawyer that was mastering the art of having ... and in fact creating compromises ... realized for the first time in his life ... that life is too short to continue it with so many damm compromises.
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But he did not leave because did not liked her ... or of the absence of connection ... but because the compromises were just part of his whole story of life.
Bobby needed a ... change ... and the first step was to not pretend anymore that he is not fucked up. And maybe Olivia ... the same.
Maybe on their description on the dating sites ... should be better to write .... “I am searching for an amazing human
being ... that will help me in a magical way ... to find myself again”.
That could be ... correct attitude.
The Universe was laughing of the 2 of them ... for their absence of honesty ... when they went to those dates ...
where they were searching more ... a therapist, than a partner.
They both had to change .... forget about compromises ...
and be more selective ... but all those actions needed to be taken inside of them ... not in the outside world.
Being broken inside of the soul ... is ok, but pretending and acting like a possible great partner ... was just a ugly lie ...
meant to attract other people ... just hoping they will actually heal that ugly part of the self.
And indeed was funny ... meeting a person that is doing the same thing behind your back ... acting into a negative way, with unbelievable expectation that will get a positive result. The story with Bobby and Olivia ended in a silly way .... just
like all the real stories from the real life ... but both of them understood that life is too short for compromises ... and that is almost too late to continue that scenario ... of pretending ... just to get the healing.
And truth be told compromises will never help us for real!
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Welcome to my dark side.
You’re gonna love it
Autumn is amazing.
Is teaching us to appreciate all the sunny days ... waking up with the hope that a new day with the sun shining beautifully on the sky ... will make us the day ... brighter.
But in the summer ... we never appreciate for real ... the beauty of a sunny day.
We just consider it being ... normal.
Today i trend to believe that autumn is defining the soul of the human being ... in a amazing way. Is raining.
Is windy.
But from time to time you also see a sunny day that is remembering us of the days we enjoyed ... not so long time ago.
And still ... is raining too much.
In the autumn ... i always remember of the dark side of my soul ... and it really makes me identify myself with this season.
7-8 days in a row ... is rainy weather ... then even when the rain stops ... the sun is hided into the sky.
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But one day ... after reading the quote ... some people dance in the rain ... some are just getting wet ... i realized ... i should enjoy every day ... just as it is.
Is basically the only way ... i could appreciate for real .. my life.
And i started to explore my dark zone ... smiling ... seeing the analogy with autumn ... and loving for the first time ...
for real ... everything i represent as a soul in this world. Suddenly i realized that ... the dark zone is just an unexplored side of myself ... the same as i never thought to go out and dance in the rain ... in a regular day of autumn. I could decide ... just to explore that experience ... but i never had the idea.
You see ... dark ... ugly ... are just 2 words that describes experiences we never had in our minds .... and we really don’t know so much about.
The autumn itself ... becomes a lesson of life that is teaching us about ... the things that we avoided ... or had no idea about.
But you see ... same as we cannot avoid the autumn ... in the same way ... should make no sense to avoid ... the dark side.
Sounds weird ... i know ... but is part of ourself .... and can’t
be ignored forever.
Allow yourself to explore it and don’t be afraid to show to the world ... everything you really are!
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The art of being offended ... but not feeling offended
I wanted to rent a house, which was in a residential complex ... where they had also a swimming pool and a bar ... so i placed an ad over the internet.
It was quite a nice house ... with a correct price ... and of course i rented it, but i accidentally forgot to delete the ad. The second day, a guy was contacted me offering a price ...
similar to the price of a studio from the basement ... but instead of feeling offended by his offer ... as i usually do ... i remembered that i already rented the house and that i should have some fun chatting with this annoying person.
I looked on his own ads from that site and i found out that he was selling a piano with 10.000 euros ... so i wrote him back: “I’m sorry sir! I already rented the house.
But listen ... i don’t know almost anything about music and i am looking for a piano similar with the one you are selling. The only problem is that i just have a budget of 500 euros. It does not need to work ... cause i don’t know to play piano anyway .... so should make no relevance if is a good piano or not.
I just buy it for the design.
Nothing more.”
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Being visible annoyed ... the guy totally forgot about the renting and replied to me:
“Listen that is an unique piano ... that you can’t find in our country ... and neither in the whole Europe. It’s a special object.
I don’t think you know what you are talking about ... offering me 500 euros on it”.
I smile ... being happy cause i annoyed him ... and reply again:
“Well ... i told you i don’t know anything about music ... when i made the offer, but i don’t remember you said to me that you are a real estate expert and you can consider that my house ... that has a swimming pool 20 meters from it ...
worth the smallest price for rent from this country. But anyway ... since we had the chance to meet and i already rented the house, but you still have the piano ... and i want it ... in case you re evaluate my offer .... you can call me anytime”.
So ... was i acting in an ugly way?!
Or i replied in a nice way to a ... jerk?!
I’m smiling ... cause i know that if you’d have the chance to talk with the guy ... would tell you that i am a jerk that i offended him and his unique piano ... and i would tell you the same about him ... cause he offended me offering a very low price for my house.
Maybe a wise person ... should define both of us as ... 2 funny jerks ... but at least, even if i am not considering myself wise .... i learnt from my interactions with so many
people from my timeline of life ... the art of being offended and not feeling offended.
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The art of
understanding influences
A negative event had a positive impact on myself. Should i be happy?!
A positive event had a negative impact on myself. Should be unhappy?!
A real estate investor, from Australia ... wrote me ... asking about how we should react on the negative, but also positive influences that have opposite impact on us.
She explained me that in the last 2 years ... lots of people that separated from the partner, came and rent an apartment from her.
20% of her income comes now from this direction ... but this is a type of client which is very volatile.
They come, sign the contract and might stay 1-2 days ... or few months.
You can’t be sure of the dynamic of their relationship ... or make any real prediction ... and even if they sign a contract ... might be irrelevant, cause they might leave anyway if they end up the fight with the partner.
But i am sure that what my friend from Australia is telling me
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... is happening all around the world ... but what is really the answer to the question ... how should we see those influences?!
Do we have the right to be happy if a negative event have a positive influences on us ... same as the lady is making money with this type of client?!
Well ... first of all ... the lady does not know those people, so she is not responsible of anything regarding the dynamic of their relationships.
She is just renting houses for those people that are running away from the toxic environment from their own homes. She is actually offering them support for a shorter or longer period of time ... and as long as new clients are coming to her all the time, there is no need as she to be unhappy cause those people are also leaving when their emotional problems with their partner is solved.
There is a joke regarding the impact theory ... saying that if someone form UK, for example, is making a new business in Singapore ... that certainly will have an impact on a dog or a cat from London or Manchester.
But behind the joke ... there is the whole concept about influences and it’s not that we need to be happy or unhappy about the impact of those energies on us ... but maybe it’s time we understand that life itself is about yin and yang ...
the concept of dualism, describing how obviously opposite or contrary forces may actually be complementary, interconnected, and interdependent in the natural world, and how they may give rise to each other as they interrelate to one another.
The real estate investor might actually be happy when a new client is coming to her, without knowing how unhappy is that
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person ... because probably left home, the spouse .... the
kids ... but also becomes unhappy when the client just leaves because the problems from the couple disappeared.
Most probably we should accept in life all what is going on ....
and even the fact that we are happy or unhappy ... because of some influences that we might not even understand.
We have the right to feel ... whatever the soul is telling us ...
and considering that influences will always exists ... we should not be so worry anyway.
Tre truth about life is that negative is metamorphosed into positive and ... positive is metamorphosed into negative ... but we should embrace all what is going on in life.
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Many considered them Devils ... but they both thought they are ... Messiah
An interesting historical question is ... who was the worst ... Hitler or Stalin?!
But coming back in time ... we see that both of them came to power believing that they can build a new type of society. They had great oratorical abilities ... and we could define them as one of the best motivational speakers ... from all times.
They saw themselves as super heroes ... thinking that everything around in their empire will be totally redefined from scratch.
And ... indeed the whole world was in the end redefined.
I recently read a book about what actually defines the twenty century ... and the main definition was ... a society too much involved in wars, like all the others societies that existed before.
The need of domination ... was the main plan in all those stories, including the last century?! Have we learnt anything from that?!
Did the wars finished?!
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Well ... they will probably never end ... cause little Messiahs, same as Hitler and Stalin are keep appearing on and on ... from nowhere.
They are just a reflection of the conscience of our society and the need of domination ... in different form ... will never end.
