Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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We should learn the art of helping ... unconditionally. Otherwise is almost ... useless
Seeing people coming from Ukraine to my country, i saw lots of people trying to help, but i also saw kind of a weird balance in their decision for doing that.
I saw how they started to ask themselves ... what if those persons are bad people or people that are trying to take advantage of us ... or even worst ... people that would do bad things to us.
This balance of contradictory emotions ... of helping, but also paying a huge attention before we do that ... to make sure we help the right person ... is just silly.
In my belief ... 2 souls are meeting on the scene of the real life ... for a reason.
Sometimes we don’t even understand why we really met ... sometimes we almost dislike that we met, but we should just remember that ... everything happens for a reason ... even if we have absolutely no idea what that reason is.
And even if i believe so much that for a better life ... we should always analyze, define and redefine all what we do not like ... i should say to all the people trying to help those refugees ... to stop analyzing and defining them.
We should help .... unconditionally.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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Helping someone ... but judging that person ... we really start acting as idiots.
Seeing this balance of contradictory emotions and actions, that i saw at myself also in the past ... i should just say we are not ready ... at least not yet ... to help the others. Maybe we should analyze and define ... why we act as
that ... and try to redefine a little bit the way we act ... while trying to help.
I should say to all the ones that have this ugly emotional balance ... which i repeat ... i also had it ... but hope to not have it again ... to remember that everything we see in life is just the reflection of the inner self.
So ... we should stop judging ... and learn ... little by little ...
the art of helping ... unconditionally.
Just try it!
... at least as an experiment!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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Money can’t save us all the time ... even if we might believe so
It was midnight.
Ivanna and her 2 boys came to my place.
They were from Kiev and where looking to go to Toronto, Canada.
The taxi driver that helped them to find me ... was doing the presentations.
I take all of them to the place that we prepared ... but it was obvious that Ivanna was not so happy to stay in there.
It was a bar, from a residential complex, which we reconverted to a kind of studio.
We actually arranged everything ... just in one day ... but even if everything was new ... it was not the 5 stars hotel Ivanna was looking for.
I’ve been working with lots of ladies like her over the years ... so i just smiled.
I show them the beds ... and suddenly i see that a dog was
sleeping in one of them.
I could not believe it.
Now i saw why that lady was annoyed.
A little girl, that was staying in there also, let the dog inside and thought that it can sleep in a bed same as a refugee. I smile to them ... present them to the others and then left
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the place ... cause it was much too late.
In the morning i’m called by someone from there to be asked why don’t i come to bring Ivanna to the embassy.
But i was drinking my coffee ... and i need to have 3-4,
before i leave home.
For me is like a ... drug.
I arrive and i see Ivanna annoyed again.
Seeing my old dirty car ... she could not believe that this was the car they will stay in the whole day. ... but i keep smiling.
We go to few embassies ... and we solve ... nothing.
They all .... were overloaded.
The ukrainian one ... was renewing only 50 passports a day, which was nothing comparing with the numbers of people that were coming to my country.
Ivanna insists to give me money for being their driver ... but explain to her in an ironic way that it was not legal to take her money because i did not had a taxi license.
I was doing this just to .... help.
Nothing more.
Seeing that i am a friendly person, even if she was a real annoying lady ... she explains to me that they want to go to Montreal, Canada and never come back to Ukraine.
She also explains to me that she has cash at her ... and just wants to hurry things, but the problem was that no one was interested about her money.
Everyone was volunteering ... helping them for free. But after a whole day ... we could not do anything at all. There were too many people in here trying to find a way to
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go to Western Europe, somehow still believing we need to follow the procedures ... but nobody was really announcing that they could leave Romania ... even without ids.
The official answer was that they need passports ... even biometrical ones, but i start asking other volunteers and also people from police or from the airport ... and they all advice me to tell them ... just to risk and leave ... cause nobody will send them back if they don’t have passports.
I was watching Ivanna ... and realized she is from a wealthy family.
... the way she was dressed, the way she was acting ...
reminding me all the time that ... she has ... the cash ...
made me smile all the time.
Maybe she was a millionaire, maybe just a person that had a little bit more than the others ... but money could not help her with anything at all.
She was treated like all the others ... and no one was carrying about ... her money.
I was meditating a lot while driving ... my old dirty car.
I was chasing for success all my life.
I chased for money many, many years in a row.
I read tens of books about money.
I could not sleep in the nights ... while thinking about how i could make more money .... and now i was just laughing seeing Ivanna.
But i was not laughing of her, behind her back.
I was laughing of me ... cause i realized after 20 years that money can’t help us in all the situations.
But on the way back to home ... a brilliant idea came to me.
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I call my brother and take them to his house.
Well ... comparing to my brother ... i could say that i was showing to Ivanna the movie ... “The prince and the pauper”. We park the car in front of the house.
Ivanna sees the Audi A8, the Land Rover and the new S Class Mercedes.
The house was looking like the mansion of a rich drug dealer.
And guess what?!
Ivanna started to smile.
Everything she was seeing was ... her style.
I present her to my sister in law, which knows russian and they started to chat.
She became a little bit more relaxed ... and she explains that she is taking pills for calming her.
Explains to us ... and my sister in law was translating from russian ... about the bombs, the terror they were living ... and that all we see on tv was for real.
But she also beg us to help her go somewhere ... where not the others ukrainians are.
I could not believe it ... while hearing that ... but i try to help her in the way she wanted and i find the solution in the end. I call a friend in Vienna, i find an apartment to rent in there, buy tickets for them ... and let them at the train ... wishing them luck.
They were so confused that could not realize that can stay in a hotel for a while, in Western Europe ... and then just leave to their relatives to Canada.
So ... even with the big cash in our pockets ... that can’t help us think at the best solutions and also readapt ourselves to
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any scenario that might be ok in that situation.
I was analyzing Ivanna and was asking myself how all the wealthy persons i know by such a long time ... will react in similar condition with the ones from Ukraine ... cause the war is at the border.
... and i continue smiling understanding the other side of the story.
The war is also about us ... and it reflects quite easy our characters.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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Having a good connection
... 2 brains are always acting greater together
It happens that i have a friend that i chat a lot with about life ... about the nonsense from our reality ... and also about this philosophical path which we name ... the journey on a
pathless path.
I recently read in a spiritual book about karma a weird idea ... that someone that is killed in this life by someone else ... is actually a soul that killed someone in another life time.
So ... i spoke a lot with Paul about this idea ... and we asked ourselves what is the karmic meaning of the war from Ukraine?!
... why is this happening?!
I was trying to help somehow the people came Ukraine to Bucharest, but Paul thought something totally different In his opinion ... even if does not sounds so nice ... those people were somehow forced to start a new life. The Universe was reseting ... their lives.
All those people had a life before ... maybe a beautiful one ...
many of them.
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And ... i met people from Odesa ... and told me that they had an amazing life in there at the seaside.
But everything stopped one day ... because of the bombs. Paul ... strongly believed that we need to follow this journey ... the way it happens.
And indeed ... the refugees simple needs to reset their thinking and ... move on.
He was explaining to me: “What we see today as a disaster ... maybe it’s a great opportunity for a better tomorrow.
They might leave to Germany, Spain, France, Italy ... and start a new life in there.
It sounds totally weird today ... but few years later maybe they will see everything like the best opportunity they ever had.
We all disregard that everything happens today was allowed by the Infinite Intelligence ... and we should not judge any circumstances at all.”
I was listening to Paul and still was not agreeing to him, cause he did not wanted to somehow help the ukrainians came to Bucharest.
Me and few other people hosted more ladies with kids ...
brought them food, cakes, fruits, juices ... everything.
A lady even said ... “let’s treat them like in a hotel and make them feel like they are in vacation”.
And is funny ... cause they told us that they feel like is ...
vacation.
Everyone was helping us ... except Paul ... of course.
He calls me again ... this time ... laughing:
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“So ... how is it with the refugees?!
How is everything at the new hotel you just opened?!”
He was indeed ironic ... but continued:
“Listen ... i am not laughing of what you are doing, but even if you all have good intentions ... you miss the message the Universe is sending to us.
You hosted those people, you give them good food, cakes, chocolate and candies to the kids ... and you switched their reality from war to ... a vacation.
But you can’t see the karmic meaning of everything. Those people have no chance in a country as Romania to start a new beautiful life.
They need to go in the rich countries from Western Europe ...
and just start a totally new life.
Help them to continue the journey.
The idiots from Russia treated them with bombs and you treated them with love ... but now you need to help them continue their karmic journey. Few days of relaxation is enough.
Look ... i know you won’t find air flights for them ... but take them now to the train to leave to the West and start a new life.”
Hearing all these .... i realized we missed the whole point.
And indeed ... we can not afford to ... adopt those people from Ukraine ... but we can help them on this ... karmic journey.
So i go to the place where we hosted them ... tell them to prepare their luggage and go to the railroad station.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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Volunteers told us we won’t find places, but ... we succeeded to buy them tickets to Vienna.
They all thank us one million times and could not believe we treated them so nice ... cause even if we have border with Ukraine we never had a friendship with the ukrainians.
We just told them ... that we helped them with joy. Paul was right ... we needed to help them continue the journey and maybe he helped them more than us ... cause he made us realize how we should really act in this moment.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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Any soul has a ... beautiful side.
Just ... learn the art of
finding that side.
While trying to help a little bit those nice people came to Bucharest from Odesa, as refugees.... i realized i need the help of the people from the timeline of my life.
So i called Melinda ... cause i also needed her help.
She is the mistress of a very wealthy guy and i already know them quite well cause i rented an apartment to the 2 of them, by a long time.
And to be honest with you i made good money with those illicit love stories in the last few years, cause there are lots of people nowadays that are doing that.
Of course ... my wife does not agree that i rent houses to those people, but i learnt that i have the duty to not not judge anyone ... no matter who that person is. She knew the guy ... but did not knew Melinda.
I was polite all the time with her when i saw them ... and she was the same with me.
My wife just knew her name ... and really hated her.
Told me many times that she is a bitch ... a whore etc etc ...
cause she is actually ruining the family of that guy.
But i never ... listened to what my wife had to say.
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Melinda came to the place where we had Maria from Odesa and her 3 daughters ... and they become friends.
She called me saying ... “ Maria is an amazing woman. I will see how i can also help her.”
And i knew she will take care of everything ... in the best way she can do it.
Then my wife appears ... and the 3 of them ... looks like the best friends.
I could not believe it.
My wife was talking to Melinda and they were laughing together.
