PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES
philosophical essays
PARALLEL LIVES
... a way of
enjoying our fantasies
philosophical essays
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
1
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES philosophical essays
ADRIAN GABRIEL DUMITRU
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES
philosophical essays
Year: 2023
Author: Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
2
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES
philosophical essays
A book for all the ones that
dare to… feel alive
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
3
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES
philosophical essays
All those fantasies we dream
about are actually the
parallel universes …. we live in
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
4
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES
philosophical essays
INTRODUCTION
In psychology there is an amazing exercise that we could do every night.
And actually ... we could start to practice it even from today. The short story is that you could apply the trick i am talking about … analyzing the whole day … defining it very clearly … and then visualize one more time everything … into the way you really wanted it to happen. Change all the details … you dislike.
Add new elements … or do things that could make the whole day be defined into the end … as an amazing one.
I had into my mind all the time this method of … analyzing, defining … as into the end to redefine our lives.
I’ve tried to practice it for long, long time … visualizing my life into perfect case scenarios … but … still a little piece was missing from the puzzle.
Somehow … i was doing the things into … a theoretical way … and that did not really allowed me to give such a good value to my real life.
But one day … i’ve met a lady … which allowed me to see the real way of practicing this method. Her name was Sheila.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES philosophical essays
Beautiful, smart … and an amazing soul.
33 years old.
Blonde … with a gorgeous body … and actually …. a lady that
could be defined as the perfect partner.
But Sheila was …. already married.
3 kids, a good husband … and a wealthy life.
All looked as perfect … while i was trying to define her … except the fact that she was never smiling.
Sheila had what i could name …. a profound … unhappiness.
One year later after i’ve met her … finding out that i was a writer … and i’ve wrote a lot of books with love essays, especially about extramarital love stories … she told me something that i could never guess.
“My dear Gabriel! I’ve read your book - Analyze. Define. Redefine. I believe it’s a very good exercise … don’t get me wrong … but we need to add some real ingredients to those fantasies.
To redefine a story … you must indeed re visualize it … but in one point you need to live that story again.
With the actual people from the timeline of your life … or with others.
It ‘s like in karmic stories.
You can do something and get rid of the karmic characters from your life … but if you did not understood the message that the Universe was whispering you … you will live the same story again and again with other … karmic characters. You already know that i am married … and with kids at home. And you also know that i’m not happy by a long, long time.
I have a type of … perfect life … which i totally dislike, but by 2-3 years i’ve started to get involved into lots of extramarital
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
6
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES philosophical essays
love stories.
I live the beginning of the love story with my husband … on and on and on … not with him …. but with other men.
I know it all sounds as an immoral fact, but it’s just … a trick of trying to redefine my life.
A trick that could make me revitalize …. my marriage.
And i live again and again … that energy from the beginning of a love story …. and i try to understand it …. and apply it again into the life with my husband.
Sounds probably as a nonsense … but in fact … it’s a way of experiencing the fantasies from my mind … and live them … for real.”
I was listening to Sheila … and i did not know what to really reply to her.
But … i was sure … i was not judging her.
Somehow … she was … right.
She was using the psychological method of visualizing her relationship … and tried to live into a parallel universe …. the same story … but with someone else.
She used the tremendous power of that energy from the beginning … that gives us the power to have a certain type of blindness … that is not letting us to see the imperfections of the loved partner.
And i’ve started to ask myself … what if i would actually pretend we have that type of blindness?!
We could visualize… the perfect case scenario for our lives. Then … live this scenario … in the company of … anyone. Imagine for example … you are a person that lose the temper very easy, but you try as an experiment to act totally different with people that don’t know you.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES philosophical essays
And you do this …. on and on and on … with all the strangers.
Later on … the effect of the exercise will show you that you could act like that … so you could probably do the same with all the people from your life.
And for any scenario … visualizing … but also trying it as an experiment … in whatever form you could try it … might be an amazing exercise that could redefine you … but also your whole life.
We somehow realize that what we defined as fantasies ….
and are looking so, so real into our minds … can become real stories … from parallel universes that no one knows about …. except us.
And experiencing … parallel realities …. like my friend Sheila
was doing … forgetting about any kind of moral aspects … at least for a while … could be a nice trick to … redefine our real lives … which many times … we totally dislike.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
8
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES
philosophical essays
Unexpressed fantasies
might … ruin everything one day
Truth be told … people love fantasies.
And even if … most of the times people not even talk about them …. creating the impression they have nothing to do with such thoughts … all those fantasies … exist.
They are somehow … real … in our minds.
And we continue our lives … but also with an unconscious desire of living a parallel life …. totally different than reality.
That might be … living near a totally different partner, or having certain sexual fantasies that can’t be expressed with the actual partner … or … or … or.
The fantasy itself is actually …. a total different version … of
reality.
And … time is passing … but nothing really changes. Fantasy can’t be expressed …
It starts to be metamorphosed … more into an unconscious desire.
We even forget about it … but sometimes we dare to express it … without even realizing.
We say something inappropriate to the wife of a very close friend … a lady that we like in secret by years. We dare to smoke … marihuana … and we like it.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES philosophical essays
We kiss a colleague from work … in the elevator for … 12 seconds … not even believing we had the guts to do it.
We whisper nice words to the closest friends … of our wives.
We ….
Lots of things … that looks inappropriate.
And maybe … it’s ok.
Maybe we should allow ourselves to express all those fantasies … whatever they really mean.
Or at least accept them … as part of our being.
We are not defined only by reality.
The fantasies define also … our other unconscious sides. Unfortunately … maybe of those desires … ruin our lives one day.
Being in total contradiction with the real life … once expressed … they simple destroy the image we’ve created about ourselves.
Not even us … could say … who we really are.
We realize we have so contradictory personalities … but ….
Maybe … even if everything is ruining … the so called reality … we understand that it’s ok … We’ve become more … wild.
But it’s ok …. cause we feel a freedom … which we just …
love.
Yes …. expressing fantasies … fucks reality … whatever that
used to be …. but allow us to be more … the real one we
need to be on the stage of life.
We could say … that this ruins reality …. or that it makes us
act …. much closer to the real way we should be.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
10
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES
philosophical essays
Living in parallel universes …
enjoying all the beautiful sides from each of it … maybe the best idea we could have for this life.
I heard many times … “I like it, but … “.
And i’ve personally said it many times also.
Probably … on and on and on.
Yes … i had moments when i liked my life … but there was always a … but.
So … i liked it … and also disliked it.
I continue living like that for so, so many years … having the thought of changing something all the time.
In fact it was an obsession…. living the perfect scenario for
my life …. but i was living just part of it.
And i started to want changing that and that and that … trying even to dominate the whole scene of life.
Until … losing all my energy … i’ve realized it’s useless, cause i can’t control the whole world.
But the world …. the whole universe was playing around with
me … with my emotions and all the other feelings i’ve had into my soul.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES
philosophical essays
I was trying to dominate the world … but all those interactions i’ve had into the real life … were in fact dominating my … mind.
Later on … realizing i am wrong … I’ve metamorphosed the desire of domination with the one of … influencing.
I thought … it’s a huge difference between those 2 concepts
not really understanding that influencing is not related with any stupid desire of seeing an immediate change on the scene of life.
And again … i’ve failed.
But … i’ve started to be honest enough with myself and … i’ve accepted that.
Somehow i even started to meditate … what’s wrong with me
and how i could change this situation.
Suddenly… i’ve started to … laugh … which was indeed … good.
I finally understood that all those actions of mine … where illusory.
In fact … the real truth was that i was living in the same time in more parallel universes.
I had my business, my family … my books … my … my … and somehow they were not interconnected.
And in a second of awakening … i’ve realized that life … in fact my own life … could be amazing …. if i could have the
ability of enjoying the best of each of those parallel worlds … and simple leave when there’re things that i don’t like.
Act as a ghost that is appearing and disappear … whenever likes or dislikes … something.
I could probably say that i finally understood that all i need to do is to enjoy the beautiful side of everything from my life
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
12
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES philosophical essays
and if something is not the way i dreamed about … just jump into another parallel universe.
And do this game … on and on and on.
So …. why bother to change the world … if already exist all
those amazing worlds from our fantasies?!
Life is short … and most probably we won’t succeed to change all the details of the real life … but we could decide …. to live more scenarios into the same time.
And just enjoy … la creme de la creme ….
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES
philosophical essays
Choose very wise your parallel lives
and if you start to dislike something … simple leave.
There is always a new reality waiting for you … most probably with a much better scenario.
Carla came to me … complaining.
And she could not stop talking and talking and talking about her husband … but also about her lover.
They both wanted from her lots of things … having huge frustrations … by a long, long time.
But …. today i saw my friend … disconnected from the both of
them … not carrying anymore about the relationship from home …. or the relationship with her lover … which not so long time ago … she adored.
It was like i saw … a new Carla.
More determined to restart her life … in a totally different way.
Many of our friends were judging her … but she remained connected to me over the years … cause i’ve never said anything against all what she was doing.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
14
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES philosophical essays
I’ve accepted her … as a friend …. never telling to Carla … do
that or that or that.
And very important …. never judged her … for cheating her
husband.
I realized it’s all about the need of a parallel reality … but … Well … in the present moment … Carla also disliked all about her parallel universes.
Nothing was the way she wanted.
The beautiful energy she was chasing for … just disappeared… and she could not see it anywhere. Smiling … i tell to my friend …
“What if you simple disconnect from everything you live now?!
What if you dare to search for another universe?!
… of another reality?!
People are judging us anyway … but i believe we have the right to do whatever we think is ok for a better reality. You are still young … Carla.
Life is too short to waste it … living scenarios that we simple dislike.”
I was looking at my friend … and she was sad.
She wanted back the beauty of the relationship with the husband …. but that was not possible anymore.
And maybe she wanted back the beauty of the relationship with her lover … but probably that was impossible also.
So … maybe it was the time for a deep change into the life of
my friend?!
Maybe …
Maybe not ….
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
15
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES philosophical essays
Things were not clear for her anymore …. but i certainly
could not define the right thing for her.
But anyway … Carla knew more about parallel universes … so … at the right time … things will look better for her ….
philosophical essays
PARALLEL LIVES
... a way of
enjoying our fantasies
philosophical essays
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
1
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES philosophical essays
ADRIAN GABRIEL DUMITRU
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES
philosophical essays
Year: 2023
Author: Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
2
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES
philosophical essays
A book for all the ones that
dare to… feel alive
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
3
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES
philosophical essays
All those fantasies we dream
about are actually the
parallel universes …. we live in
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
4
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES
philosophical essays
INTRODUCTION
In psychology there is an amazing exercise that we could do every night.
And actually ... we could start to practice it even from today. The short story is that you could apply the trick i am talking about … analyzing the whole day … defining it very clearly … and then visualize one more time everything … into the way you really wanted it to happen. Change all the details … you dislike.
Add new elements … or do things that could make the whole day be defined into the end … as an amazing one.
I had into my mind all the time this method of … analyzing, defining … as into the end to redefine our lives.
I’ve tried to practice it for long, long time … visualizing my life into perfect case scenarios … but … still a little piece was missing from the puzzle.
Somehow … i was doing the things into … a theoretical way … and that did not really allowed me to give such a good value to my real life.
But one day … i’ve met a lady … which allowed me to see the real way of practicing this method. Her name was Sheila.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
5
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES philosophical essays
Beautiful, smart … and an amazing soul.
33 years old.
Blonde … with a gorgeous body … and actually …. a lady that
could be defined as the perfect partner.
But Sheila was …. already married.
3 kids, a good husband … and a wealthy life.
All looked as perfect … while i was trying to define her … except the fact that she was never smiling.
Sheila had what i could name …. a profound … unhappiness.
One year later after i’ve met her … finding out that i was a writer … and i’ve wrote a lot of books with love essays, especially about extramarital love stories … she told me something that i could never guess.
“My dear Gabriel! I’ve read your book - Analyze. Define. Redefine. I believe it’s a very good exercise … don’t get me wrong … but we need to add some real ingredients to those fantasies.
To redefine a story … you must indeed re visualize it … but in one point you need to live that story again.
With the actual people from the timeline of your life … or with others.
It ‘s like in karmic stories.
You can do something and get rid of the karmic characters from your life … but if you did not understood the message that the Universe was whispering you … you will live the same story again and again with other … karmic characters. You already know that i am married … and with kids at home. And you also know that i’m not happy by a long, long time.
I have a type of … perfect life … which i totally dislike, but by 2-3 years i’ve started to get involved into lots of extramarital
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
6
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES philosophical essays
love stories.
I live the beginning of the love story with my husband … on and on and on … not with him …. but with other men.
I know it all sounds as an immoral fact, but it’s just … a trick of trying to redefine my life.
A trick that could make me revitalize …. my marriage.
And i live again and again … that energy from the beginning of a love story …. and i try to understand it …. and apply it again into the life with my husband.
Sounds probably as a nonsense … but in fact … it’s a way of experiencing the fantasies from my mind … and live them … for real.”
I was listening to Sheila … and i did not know what to really reply to her.
But … i was sure … i was not judging her.
Somehow … she was … right.
She was using the psychological method of visualizing her relationship … and tried to live into a parallel universe …. the same story … but with someone else.
She used the tremendous power of that energy from the beginning … that gives us the power to have a certain type of blindness … that is not letting us to see the imperfections of the loved partner.
And i’ve started to ask myself … what if i would actually pretend we have that type of blindness?!
We could visualize… the perfect case scenario for our lives. Then … live this scenario … in the company of … anyone. Imagine for example … you are a person that lose the temper very easy, but you try as an experiment to act totally different with people that don’t know you.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
7
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES philosophical essays
And you do this …. on and on and on … with all the strangers.
Later on … the effect of the exercise will show you that you could act like that … so you could probably do the same with all the people from your life.
And for any scenario … visualizing … but also trying it as an experiment … in whatever form you could try it … might be an amazing exercise that could redefine you … but also your whole life.
We somehow realize that what we defined as fantasies ….
and are looking so, so real into our minds … can become real stories … from parallel universes that no one knows about …. except us.
And experiencing … parallel realities …. like my friend Sheila
was doing … forgetting about any kind of moral aspects … at least for a while … could be a nice trick to … redefine our real lives … which many times … we totally dislike.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
8
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES
philosophical essays
Unexpressed fantasies
might … ruin everything one day
Truth be told … people love fantasies.
And even if … most of the times people not even talk about them …. creating the impression they have nothing to do with such thoughts … all those fantasies … exist.
They are somehow … real … in our minds.
And we continue our lives … but also with an unconscious desire of living a parallel life …. totally different than reality.
That might be … living near a totally different partner, or having certain sexual fantasies that can’t be expressed with the actual partner … or … or … or.
The fantasy itself is actually …. a total different version … of
reality.
And … time is passing … but nothing really changes. Fantasy can’t be expressed …
It starts to be metamorphosed … more into an unconscious desire.
We even forget about it … but sometimes we dare to express it … without even realizing.
We say something inappropriate to the wife of a very close friend … a lady that we like in secret by years. We dare to smoke … marihuana … and we like it.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
9
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES philosophical essays
We kiss a colleague from work … in the elevator for … 12 seconds … not even believing we had the guts to do it.
We whisper nice words to the closest friends … of our wives.
We ….
Lots of things … that looks inappropriate.
And maybe … it’s ok.
Maybe we should allow ourselves to express all those fantasies … whatever they really mean.
Or at least accept them … as part of our being.
We are not defined only by reality.
The fantasies define also … our other unconscious sides. Unfortunately … maybe of those desires … ruin our lives one day.
Being in total contradiction with the real life … once expressed … they simple destroy the image we’ve created about ourselves.
Not even us … could say … who we really are.
We realize we have so contradictory personalities … but ….
Maybe … even if everything is ruining … the so called reality … we understand that it’s ok … We’ve become more … wild.
But it’s ok …. cause we feel a freedom … which we just …
love.
Yes …. expressing fantasies … fucks reality … whatever that
used to be …. but allow us to be more … the real one we
need to be on the stage of life.
We could say … that this ruins reality …. or that it makes us
act …. much closer to the real way we should be.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
10
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES
philosophical essays
Living in parallel universes …
enjoying all the beautiful sides from each of it … maybe the best idea we could have for this life.
I heard many times … “I like it, but … “.
And i’ve personally said it many times also.
Probably … on and on and on.
Yes … i had moments when i liked my life … but there was always a … but.
So … i liked it … and also disliked it.
I continue living like that for so, so many years … having the thought of changing something all the time.
In fact it was an obsession…. living the perfect scenario for
my life …. but i was living just part of it.
And i started to want changing that and that and that … trying even to dominate the whole scene of life.
Until … losing all my energy … i’ve realized it’s useless, cause i can’t control the whole world.
But the world …. the whole universe was playing around with
me … with my emotions and all the other feelings i’ve had into my soul.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
11
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES
philosophical essays
I was trying to dominate the world … but all those interactions i’ve had into the real life … were in fact dominating my … mind.
Later on … realizing i am wrong … I’ve metamorphosed the desire of domination with the one of … influencing.
I thought … it’s a huge difference between those 2 concepts
not really understanding that influencing is not related with any stupid desire of seeing an immediate change on the scene of life.
And again … i’ve failed.
But … i’ve started to be honest enough with myself and … i’ve accepted that.
Somehow i even started to meditate … what’s wrong with me
and how i could change this situation.
Suddenly… i’ve started to … laugh … which was indeed … good.
I finally understood that all those actions of mine … where illusory.
In fact … the real truth was that i was living in the same time in more parallel universes.
I had my business, my family … my books … my … my … and somehow they were not interconnected.
And in a second of awakening … i’ve realized that life … in fact my own life … could be amazing …. if i could have the
ability of enjoying the best of each of those parallel worlds … and simple leave when there’re things that i don’t like.
Act as a ghost that is appearing and disappear … whenever likes or dislikes … something.
I could probably say that i finally understood that all i need to do is to enjoy the beautiful side of everything from my life
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
12
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES philosophical essays
and if something is not the way i dreamed about … just jump into another parallel universe.
And do this game … on and on and on.
So …. why bother to change the world … if already exist all
those amazing worlds from our fantasies?!
Life is short … and most probably we won’t succeed to change all the details of the real life … but we could decide …. to live more scenarios into the same time.
And just enjoy … la creme de la creme ….
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
13
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES
philosophical essays
Choose very wise your parallel lives
and if you start to dislike something … simple leave.
There is always a new reality waiting for you … most probably with a much better scenario.
Carla came to me … complaining.
And she could not stop talking and talking and talking about her husband … but also about her lover.
They both wanted from her lots of things … having huge frustrations … by a long, long time.
But …. today i saw my friend … disconnected from the both of
them … not carrying anymore about the relationship from home …. or the relationship with her lover … which not so long time ago … she adored.
It was like i saw … a new Carla.
More determined to restart her life … in a totally different way.
Many of our friends were judging her … but she remained connected to me over the years … cause i’ve never said anything against all what she was doing.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
14
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES philosophical essays
I’ve accepted her … as a friend …. never telling to Carla … do
that or that or that.
And very important …. never judged her … for cheating her
husband.
I realized it’s all about the need of a parallel reality … but … Well … in the present moment … Carla also disliked all about her parallel universes.
Nothing was the way she wanted.
The beautiful energy she was chasing for … just disappeared… and she could not see it anywhere. Smiling … i tell to my friend …
“What if you simple disconnect from everything you live now?!
What if you dare to search for another universe?!
… of another reality?!
People are judging us anyway … but i believe we have the right to do whatever we think is ok for a better reality. You are still young … Carla.
Life is too short to waste it … living scenarios that we simple dislike.”
I was looking at my friend … and she was sad.
She wanted back the beauty of the relationship with the husband …. but that was not possible anymore.
And maybe she wanted back the beauty of the relationship with her lover … but probably that was impossible also.
So … maybe it was the time for a deep change into the life of
my friend?!
Maybe …
Maybe not ….
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
15
PARALLEL LIVES … A WAY OF ENJOYING OUR FANTASIES philosophical essays
Things were not clear for her anymore …. but i certainly
could not define the right thing for her.
But anyway … Carla knew more about parallel universes … so … at the right time … things will look better for her ….
