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We become …. what we focus on
I was making a joke with a friend … telling him about my theory about analyzing, defining and … redefining … and told him that after looking on our whatsapp discussions i came to the conclusion that he is obsessed about … women.
He smiled … agreed and said that he was analyzing one day our discussions also and he realized … i am obsessed about … money.
And guess what?!
I totally disagreed with him … and i even became annoyed. Few hours later … i was already asking myself … what if he is right?!
What if all i do … and chase are …. still things related with
money … success and all the others blablabla related to that?!
I knew that this were my values into the past, but?!
Did i not really changed?!
Was i the same person?!
Did i had the same values … even if i was also following the path of spirituality by such a long, long time?! Hmm … my friend … was maybe … right.
The only difference between me and him was that … i was not admitting the fact that i was still following a pathless path.
His reaction was much, much better when i was analyzing and defining the truth about him …. but me … hmm …
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Well … i was not even admitting the truth … so …
In fact … i was not accepting … my addiction…. the one that
was defining me by such a long, long time.
I did not realized… or pretending i was not realizing the fact that i was actually defined by the things i was focused on … and my theory about analyzing, defining and redefining could not work for me … cause i was not allowing the real truth … to be revealed.
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I do believe that we have the right at … a parallel life
I know so, so many people that have … an unhappy life.
It’s almost like a virus … but still … i can’t understand what is really going on … that i see them having that bad vibe all the time.
It’s like they are trapped in a prison with invisible walls … and
…
Hmm …
Still … difficult to understand.
But one day i’ve met a guy that recently came out of jail … and i chatted with him for more than an hour … explaining me the way things are in there.
It looks like they are prisoners that are not allowed to get out of their cell … and also prisoners that during the day they can do whatever they want inside the prison.
They can go to work, to read books, to stay in the yard, to play football etc etc.
It’s like they are free … prisoners.
And suddenly i realized that some of the unhappy persons that i used to know by such a long, long time … are somehow the same as those people from prison.
They looked like what my friend that just got back from prison defined as … free prisoners.
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All those people … were living in the same time a happy-unhappy life.
Quite contradictory … but realistic.
So … what was the trick?!
Well … most probably even if they were prisoners in this prison with invisible walls … during the day … they allowed themselves to be … free.
Some decided to dedicate their lives to … arts.
Some were going to fishing … all the time.
Some as me … started to write.
And some … simple decided to have a parallel life with … another partner.
Not being happy at home … any kind of escape … was amazing.
And the parallel life … helps a lot … to survive and continue life.
So … should we judge those people that they live in 2 worlds?!
Analyzing myself … trying to understand the contradictory thoughts from my writings … but also the fact that i am accused by close family members that i have this weird parallel life too … i simple don’t reply anything … anymore. I just continue life …. ignoring that i am a prisoner in a prisoner with invisible walls.
And … i allow myself to be free … whatever that means in my perceptions … that change so, so often.
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Dealing with horrible people
sometimes a must for our … evolution
I had many moments in life when i had to deal with people that somehow … were ruining my life. And not only few … but many …
And it happened in the past, happens even today and i am sure it will happen in the future also.
Recently a dear friend told me that she goes throw a very difficult time … and can’t understand why the hell so horrible things can happen to good people.
She did not told me the whole story … but felt it was something really seriously… cause she is not the kind of person to complain very easily.
Smiling i realized that her words carries a strong message to … me.
What was the connection between her story and mine?! Why the Universe sent this soul to whisper me those messages from time to time?!
And it was so damn funny … cause i was seeing so clearly the story of this amazing lady … but when it came about myself … i was totally blind.
I could not see anything … clear … cause i felt the victim of circumstances … and …
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My mind got back to the story of my friend … which in fact she did not told me so much about … but still … i was feeling … the whole script …
I knew that 100% for her … is something karmic … for the benefit of her spiritual evolution … but when my mind got back at analyzing my own case … i was still seeing those horrible people from the stage of my life … somehow … as daemons … that want to destroy me.
It was really funny comparing my 2 contradictory perceptions … about her case … and mine.
I could not realize we live in the same Universe and the same rules are applied for me, but also for her.
I saw her as a very strong person, but maybe deep inside herself she was feeling … a victim too … same as i felt so, so many times.
Somehow i knew i have to redefine my … perceptions and seeing my friend … i finally decided to change a little bit my thoughts.
I realized it was a strong message for myself also … but coming back to her … i asked … if she is seeing the fact that this karmic scenario living now … it’s for her spiritual evolution?!
Hmm …. maybe same as me … she suffered of the same
blindness.
But if i would tell her about my stories … she would see everything … very, very clear … So?!
Well … i somehow conclude that it’s all about the illusion of the self …
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I know it’s not easy to accept karmic stories … but … on the other hand … not realizing the meaning of everything is going on … the ugly facts will be repeated on and on and on …
So … horrible people are somehow … teachers for our spiritual evolution?!
Hmm … it all becomes too abstract.
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She was so beautiful … but needed someone to induce her a beautiful vibe
I was looking at Paula’s vibe all the time.
For an unknown reason i was analyzing her, but she did probably the same with me.
And one day … i’ve asked myself … why i was doing that so often?!
My wife … reading my books … being totally annoyed … asked
who the hell is this bitch … and why the hell you talk so much about her?!
Well … replying … as always … i just said it’s all … just an essays … having fictive ideas that care an illusory philosophical content.
But … as always … i lied.
In fact even my readers can say that i lie a lot, cause today i write something and the next day i just say something totally contradictory.
Hmm ….
And Paula … which i pretend is my imaginary friend ….. is doing the same.
But her vibe … is not anymore what it used to be.
And i look again at Paula … analyzing and defining her on and on and on.
We don’t talk so much anymore how we used to talk … but i feel her so damn well …
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Her vibe … is …
Well … not what it should be …. but …
Paula was so beautiful …. but not happy.
The Universe created her as a beautiful soul … but it looked like the happiness was not destined to her.
Or maybe … she needed someone to induce her … beautiful vibes … and be that Paula … that she once used to be …. Maybe a love story.
… a new one …
And maybe we all need that.
But … maybe … the happiness is not part of the actual scenario that is destined to us in this life time.
And Paula … remained sad … but hoping my philosophical theories are right.
Extremely beautiful … and sad … How the hell …. can that happen?! Hmm …
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Sending beautiful vibes
with a simple smile. Or maybe it’s just illusory?!
I saw her … again.
And admired her smile on and on and on … while i was drinking my coffee.
I could not believe that she was sending such a great vibe ….
just with a smile.
Any man would fall in love with such a lady … including myself.
But the only real problem was that she was the lady from … the painting … from that amazing place where i usually go to drink coffee and write.
She inspired me all the time.
I was connecting to her vibe … and felt many times the feminine spirit … just by watching her.
It was all so damn … illusory … and i knew it.
But ….my mind could not stop thinking of that amazing vibe.
It was like i was connecting to the perfect case scenario …. of
a love story.
The funny thing was that one day … when i was again into that place … i saw a lady arguing with the owner. She looked a lot with … Sheila.
Yes … not knowing her real name … i named her Sheila. But in that day … she was not having that great vibe from
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the painting.
It was like she was … totally changed.
Arguing again and again …. in the end she left totally
annoyed …
And i ask a guy … “Who is that amazing lady that just left?!” “Hmm … You don’t know?!
She is … his mistress… but she usually never comes here… “ Damn it …
She looked like a person carrying an amazing vibe all the time … but … in reality … that perfect woman … was different …
Or at least today ….
I dreamed so much about that amazing smile …. to see one
day … that the perfect scenario from my mind … was … so illusory.
As many, many other … scenarios … that i was thinking about so, so many times …
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Hmm …. Sometimes we just have
to live karmic scenarios.
It looks like we are in the perfect story … but it’s all karmic … and it’s so damn annoying
Dan had what his therapist could define as the perfect life. And Clara … the therapist …. told me about him all the time
not understanding how a wealthy guy as Dan … having few businesses that were running quite well … an amazing house with a sea view, 2 beautiful daughters and a nice lady by his side … was not happy with his life.
You see … usually Clara is not talking about her patients … but with Dan … everything looked like a total nonsense and knowing that i write so much about nonsense … she decided to tell me his case.
I smiled … listening to her.
You see …. Clara knew more things than me about … psychology …and the way the humans were behaving… but … she was not accepting so well … the spiritual side of life.
She knew a lot about it … but focused too much on the psychological mechanisms which she thought that can describe everything.
And seeing the nonsense … she was totally annoyed … but i was just smiling.
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She believed a lot in the concept of therapy and that a specialist can help you better … but i believed in a weird concept which i define as … self therapy …
It’s a way of connecting to the inner soul and understand the real meaning why even if we have everything life can offer to us … we actually … are not happy.
I remember i once used in a title of one of my books …. “Had
everything, but i actually had nothing … Had nothing, but i actually have everything.” … and showing the book to my friend …. she finally understood the message.
Dan had indeed a karmic scenario to live … and it was not that he was suffering of depression or something similar … but … he did not felt comfortable into that energetic field induced by that story.
Maybe his vision about happiness … was different … than the standard ideas ….
And still … Clara did not understood what to recommend to Dan … as him to be ok.
The theory itself was too long to start explaining to her … so i
just said …
“Listen my dear!
I know u believe in therapy … but i believe a lot in self therapy.
Just guide Dan to connect to his inner self and accept all what is going on as karmic story … and see the message behind the message.
Understand why the Universe is whispering him things into a repetitive way … and why even if he has everything a human can desire … he fells that he has nothing …. not liking that story he was living … like many, many other humans.
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And i believe that analyzing the nonsense … but also accepting it as part of life … we can become wiser and … with little efforts learn to connect to the present moment … no matter how it looks like.”
My life scenario … was somehow similar with Dan’s story … so I understood and felt everything he was living … but i already took the decision of accepting the karmic lessons as part of my life.
So … any improvements for myself?!
Or a better recommendation for Dan?!
Well … maybe just smile … and embrace the present moment with …. love.
cause … most probably … the scenario we are living today is the best scenario we could live … even if karma is sometimes so damn annoying.
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The self therapy should be a … non ending process
