But one day she woke up … took her bag with clothes, went to the train station … and left to the seaside.
On the train … watching the window … she started to have a new perspective over all what was going on.
And … on the beach, hearing the waves of the sea … totally disconnected from what she defined as her curent life … realized that what she has was not the real life that she wants to have.
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Started to feel calm and totally forget about the silly desire of controlling a reality that is never the way she dreamed about.
She abandoned … all her feelings and emotions …. and
suddenly felt silence in her soul.
Asked someone to create that amazing reel that inspired … inner and outer silence … and posted it on social media. She hoped that her lover will see the second glass of champagne and will move his ass and come and join her right away.
Closing her eyes … she connects to the Universe and the secret was revealed to her.
And suddenly… she realized how silly she was believing that those problems from the timeline of her life … were real. But in a totally different environment… feeling that the silence was dominating her soul … her perspectives were totally redefined.
She felt great again … disconnected of the reality from home. In fact … it was only one thing missing … that she wanted from the scene from home … and that was her lover. She loved him … and he loved her also.
In fact … they adored each other.
And to enjoy the beauty of life …. they simple needed
another environment for that.
You see … the beach, the sea, the champagne … were creating the perfect environment … for their love story … and she made the mistake of connecting and remained connected to her reality from home … for such a long, long time.
She totally forgot about this trick of switching environments … and in the end of switching realities … but … she was
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happy now.
And everything started to be the way she dreamed about … in the moment when the silence overwhelmed her new scene of life.
So … just connect to the silence … and embrace it.
It will induce the … perfect scenario … right away.
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Many times in life we act so silly that we lose our main purpose
I saw over the years so, so many people in love.
But … unfortunately i also saw them failing to act in the proper way into that love story.
And even if it all looked like they lived in another Universe ….
a place totally different than my Universe … things changed. To make you smile … i can tell you that … even after so many years of analyzing and defining those people … i still have in my mind their stories.
It happened like that … cause i admired them … a lot, but only until one day when i started to laugh seeing how they act in that story …. knowing actually the end of that scenario.
And maybe i should say that i know all about those kind or stories … first … because i made the same mistakes also. On and on and on.
Later on … i discovered it … after analyzing and defining all those people, but also myself … that the main problem is that we don’t know how to act on the scene of life. We simple act.
… and we act so, so silly.
And unfortunately…. we somehow lose our main purpose … to
be ok in a beautiful connection.
Probably we forgot … what we actually wanted from that relationship, cause usually the normal way we are acting … in
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most of the cases … is simple ruining the connection.
No one ever bothered to teach us … how we should act in a love story.
Even if in the beginning … something from inside of us is dominating our behavior, our words … our everything … and the story itself looks like the perfect case scenario … the balance between the 2 worlds starts to appear. Today we act … nice.
Tomorrow … we look as negative characters.
Then this game continues as that on and on and on.
And … indeed we lose the main purpose … to be happy … and protect the beauty of the connections with those special people from our lives.
Acting silly … is the best definition of all what we can do. The result?!
Unfortunately… not a beautiful one … but maybe it’s all a lesson that keep repeating on and on and on … till we understand the difference between how we act in the real life and the universe from the love story.
And as long as we know to keep separate those stories …. life
will remain beautiful.
Otherwise …
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Just …. one more time.
truth be told some connections we love so much that no matter what is going on … we want to
come back there on and on and on.
I wrote many books with love essays.
And i loved writing them.
Maybe it was the same story defined from one million perspectives … or the love concept itself.
But you see … it’s a little bit funny … cause today i started to believe that maybe it was just about the connection. I use to talk a lot about this concept.
With my readers, but especially with my dear friend Carla … which pretends that she does not know what a connection is. She is in an unhappily marriage, but still remembers the beautiful moments that she spent with her ex lover.
She’s always repeating to me … “We lost so, so much…” “You lost what, Carla?!”
“Well … we lost so many beautiful moments …” I love when i have the chance to talk with her.
Like that, i start to understand the meaning of the feminine perspective about life itself.
And she is so abstract … while describing me her thoughts
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and … feelings.
Sometimes i cannot understand her …. but helps me a lot the
fact that i feel connected to her soul … and somehow i feel what she tries to explain to me … not from her words … but from the vibes that she is sending to me. Yes … i have to admit it.
It’s too difficult to understand a woman and probably the only chance to understand something it’s by connecting to … her soul.
And i was watching Carla …. while she was explaining me her
theories … but i suddenly realize that she was in a weird balance between karma and dharma.
But still … even if no word was saying it … i felt that she really wants to taste …. at least one more time from the
connection with that weird guy that she used to love so much.
So was it love?!
Was she still in love with him?!
Disappointed by the husband, but also about her lover … she was still chasing about … the connection. You see … things are again … so abstract.
I try to understand Carla … and again … i just can’t.
The real question is … why should she come back in the arms of that lover … if she was disappointed so, so many times by him?!
Maybe he is not capable of understanding what … she wants. Carla smiles to me … “Gabriel! You will never understand us
the women. You just can’t.
Like that idiot that i loved so, so much.
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You see …. I felt the connection in his arms.
But it was the connection with … the Infinite.
He made me have feelings that i will never have in my real life … and i never had with my husband.
That jerk … my dear lover … even if he disappointed me one million times … let me see the gateway to another universe … the one of love.
So … that is the reason i always want … just one more time to be with him.
I want the connection again.
And when i can’t stand reality anymore … i just say … damn it … and i go and meet him again. He makes me feel alive.
So i ask you … what if the meaning of our lives …. if we can’t
feel alive?!”
I smiled listening to her … balancing between understanding and not understanding … my dear Carla.
And then … I kept wondering myself …. what the hell is this
weird connection about?!
Why there are days when i understand it … and days when i just can’t understand the concept?!
Or maybe i should say … that i have days when i am connected and days when i am not connected … to the Universe.
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He only wanted her from time to time … but why?!
I was at the coffee shop with Paul and Brian.
But i was so absent …
I was with … my thoughts.
As always they were talking about … ladies.
Brian was showing us a pictures of an amazing lady from instagram … asking rhetorically … “How would my life look like … if i would meet this amazing soul from time to time?” Paul smiles … asking … “How would my life look like if i would wake up every morning near such a lady?!” Well … such a different perspective.
Brian wants to eat a cake from time to time …. but Paul ….
Or maybe Paul … loves cookies more than Brian.
So … i continue meditating, drinking my lovely coffee …. and
asking myself … should we taste life everyday … or just from time to time?!
Are we allowed to connect to the power of pleasures all the time ... or the whole meaning of this illusory concept … is just to taste it occasionally?!
I look again at the picture Brian showed us.
The lady was looking like … an angel.
But maybe she was just disguised into an angel … being in fact … a devil.
Maybe Brian wanted to taste only that beautiful side the 3 of
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us saw at her.
He was not really believing that her beauty was …. real.
And maybe Paul … was more optimistic … or simple loved … the illusions.
I started to laugh realizing how silly we are.
Being at a little bit more than 40 … all we talk about … is … about ladies.
5 years ago … it was the same.
10 years ago … also.
15 years ago … the same.
Maybe the time did not changed us.
But the truth is that we have 2 subjects we talk about … one being …. the ladies … and the second one … is the illusion of life.
We actually were always in love with this concept … which we define as … illusion.
And knowing that it’s all an illusion … we divided the world of illusions in 2 scenarios … the beautiful and the ugly one.
You see … me, Paul and Brian … have studied for example …
the lives of the people that lived in nazi concentration camps.
The ones that survived … most probably understood this
weird concept of … illusions.
But it was … so damn ugly.
And maybe me, Paul and Brian … have a better karma as them.
We live the illusion … by admiring the beauty of the feminine spirit.
Most probably … our talks … could be a good material for a
best seller about the subject.
So … we are lucky guys.
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Our karma is not so bad … cause we live … beautiful illusions
not having the destiny of those people from world war II. But i smile … cause an illusion … is just an illusion.
It might appear in a beautiful or an ugly way in our lives … but … still … it’s all … an illusion.
And truth be told … we love illusions.
We want to taste them … cause they make us … feel alive … at least for a short moment.
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It’s Monday and my garden looks the same. Does not care about … the standards …. so
why should i care?!
I am analyzing my garden all the time.
I used to have a gardener years ago, but not anymore.
It looked perfect at that time … but now i should define it … as a little bit … wild.
On the other hand i believe that wild means … natural … so maybe it looks more natural now.
I used to feel great in this garden, until i fucked the connection with my wife.
Now the only moments when i can connect to the vibration of the garden is when i am actually alone at home … or i am so tired that i can’t run anywhere else. I analyzed a lot its vibration.
It’s somehow funny realizing for example … Monday morning … that my garden is not caring of the standards.
It has the same vibration like it had 2 or 3 days ago. Yes … indeed my garden was not caring about … how we define those days in a standard way Monday, Tuesday etc. But us … the humans … need to care for it.
We had been taught to respect and pay lots of attention to the days of week.
We can live with the hope in the soul that we are allowed to
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have a good vibration cause it’s Friday … then Saturday we can totally relax and forget about anything else … but Sunday we are again stressed that a new week will start soon.
So … Monday morning … staying in my garden … admiring its beauty, hearing the birds … analyzing in fact the vibration of the place … i realize how stupids we are … creating a schedule for allowing ourselves to have beautiful vibes. Maybe something is missing from my life that i allow this … to happen.
Or maybe … someone is missing.
Someone that could whisper me … about beautiful vibes … from Monday to Sunday … that life is beautiful and all we need to do is to enjoy it.
But until then … i connect to my wild garden, listening to its vibe … living with the hope that i am still young and that … someone … will appear one day …
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“Same as in the times of Inquisition
i’ve been accused that i live in a parallel world.
But why?!”
Not being happy in his marriage … David decides to come to me …. and talk a little bit.
But instead of wanting to detail all what was going on with
him … he asks me to reveal the secrets of … self therapy.
Usually Nolene is naming that … self coaching … but i prefer
the term … therapy.
Sounds more … realistic.
So … i started to talk with him … explaining the fact that for
beginning such a process … being very honest with himself is
extremely important.
And i tell him …
“Listen to me …. David!
Would be amazing to know the whole story.
That could let me tell you … the first steps you must follow.” David smiles…
“Gabriel! I am in this marriage by such a long time.
It was just ruining me emotionally, but i decided to not divorce … because of the kids.
