I analyzed so many times that ... and defining it almost meant that i understood what i have to do for a better life, but i never had the power to redefine my behavior. It was so easy ... but i was acting as an idiot.
Damm it!
Hope that one day soon ... on my journey on life, i will be able to see better the importance of this connection with the beautiful vibes that we can find in the nature.
A decision ... that will not cost me anything ... refilling my energy with positivity ... just by admiring the Infinite.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
102
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
Some desires
make us ... shine
Years ago ... somehow because of a silly mistake i’ve done ... i was offering to a young lady ... the latest model of iphone from that time.
Bribe is such a dirty word ... but this is what actually was the gift to her.
Costed about 1000 euros .... but even if i knew i was wasting
the money ... seeing the lady being so happy ... and actually shining while keeping in her hands her new phone ... i was glad i was doing it.
Today i was on the street with my son.
We saw an old Mercedes ... and he is so obsessed about those cars.
We start to make a tik tok movie and suddenly some boys arrives and open the car.
2 of them were laughing that someone was filming that old car ... not believing that we admire it ... because it was not in such a great technical condition.
But my son loved so much those old Mercedes, not really caring of all those details.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
103
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
The guys were workers in constructions and this was their car used to go to work.
I look at them and ask ... “Do you sell this car?!”
One of them replies ... “No sir. This is not for sale!. I am sorry!”
They started the engine and wanted to leave ... but suddenly they stopped the car.
The drivers comes to me ... and says “Give me 2000 euros and the car is yours”.
My son was looking at me as the lady that received the iphone as bribe ... but now the bribe was for my son ... cause i promised to him that i will buy him an old Mercedes if he will have good grades in school.
“Tell me ... we are buying it! Is an excellent price and looks ok. Is going to be our first vintage car and i will be the most happiest kid of 11 years old”.
I was smiling seeing how a desire can make us ... shine as a diamont.
Years ago i was analyzing a lot that event with the beautiful
lady ... and the wasted 1000 euros ... and now i was
analyzing if it worth to waste the money for 2 iphones ... just
to make my so ... shine.
And i said ... yes.
The owner of the Mercedes ... a young guy of about 25 years old was quite happy ... my son was extremely happy ... and my wife and my other son said ... defined me as a person that lost his minds.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
104
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
But you see ... even defining ... is just a perspective.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
105
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
Sometimes the new year’s
resolutions work.
Just try it ... you’ve got nothing to lose and maybe your life will be somehow totally redefined in the new year.
On the 1st of January 2021 i told to myself that i will not drink alcohol anymore.
I was not exactly a real alcoholic, but i was drinking often.
I was loving to taste every night a bottle of Cricova, which is an amazing moldavian wine, but i had in the last years some people in my life that always kept remembering me the importance of not drinking alcohol.
I knew how it is to have a clear mind all the time ... and even if i had short periods of not drinking and understanding how good i could feel ... i was not making the step to totally ignore that habit.
And is funny coming back in time and realizing that half of my books were written after drinking a bottle of red wine.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
106
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
Probably helped me as inspiration, but i am sure my mind was not 100% under my control.
One day i’ve read in a newspaper ... that an alcoholic is a person that is drinking alcohol everyday.
I was mad reading this definition, but few seconds after i was sad ... realizing that it was a truth.
On the 1 of January 2021 ... in the morning i decided to totally remove alcohol from my life.
It was a new year’s resolution, but it really worked.
And i know that i was doing it, because i wanted full control on myself ... on my soul, my mind, my thoughts ... and everything that was defining me as a human being. Alcohol helped me ... or i thought it helped me dealing with reality and calming in the night the pain i was feeling because of all what was going on in my life. I replaced this habit with the one of writing.
I was not trying to get rid of my thoughts anymore, but i started to deal with them.
I was analyzing my daily life ... defining everything ... and i also tried a process of redefining the scenario of what i called reality.
I realized that i need to stop running away from my thought ... but deal with them.
Alcohol was an illusory therapy that i was using every night before going to bed, but the thoughts were keep appearing on and on and on.
It was a non ending story that could probably just increase one day the dose of alcohol from 1 bottle to 2 or 3 bottles …
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
107
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
like i am sure that it happened to many, many people from all around the world.
Today i see alcohol as a way of running away of
depression ... or in fact of the collection of negative thoughts from our minds.
It’s kind of a stupid therapy used by thousands of years ... but no one bothered to really tell us about what is behind the need of daily tasting alcohol.
The new therapy that i am following now ... the one of writing ... is probably the greatest.
An amazing thing that happened to me after forgetting of alcoholism was ... that i became honest with myself.
And it all started with a new year’s resolution that in my case really worked.
Most probably ... if you want to try it, might be surprised to see also that it can work for you too.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
108
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
All i want is a ... change ... a real one. I mean ... the right one.
I’ve been reading a lot about change over the years ... but i somehow wanted kind of a quantum jump ... which actually meant in my vision to totally eliminate the huge distance between me and my dreamed life ... in a second.
I’ve been chasing the overnight success ... which i consider today a totally non sense.
Might sound weird to discredit such an amazing concept ...
especially after analyzing so much the subject.
So ... first i wanted so much a ... collection of dreams ... that were actually defining my vision about success ... then i’ve been expecting a miracle ... just cause i’ve been reading and meditating a lot about them .... but unfortunately i ended up feeling myself on a pathless path.
So ... after analyzing and defining so much what i wanted in life .... the concept of change, which meant to totally
redefine my reality ... everything became illusory. But why?!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
109
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
I invested a lot of time and energy ... and i felt lost ... but i did not knew ... why?!
... and i still wanted the change .... in the quantum jump
format, ignoring the fact that life is a journey ... not a destination.
Later on ... after following lots of pathless paths ... i finally understood that i need a change inside of me so that the real path to reveal to myself.
The change had to be made in inner world ... and soon after the result could be seen in my reality.
I knew the theory ... but when it came about practice ... i was acting too silly.
Time was passing and i was still dreaming of a new reality ... the right one ... but maybe the best reality that i needed to live ... was the actual one.
So ... my journey was kind of a ... circle.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
110
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
Spontaneity makes the process of overthinking ... to stop
My son loves old cars and is always watching over the internet to find one at a good price, hoping that will convince me to buy it.
Without letting him know, i gave few phone calls ... then i decided to go 500 km away by train to buy one.
I knew from my lifetime experience that if i will think too much i will probably do nothing.
It was the first time when i actually admitted the fact that analyzing too much a subject will create me a strong feeling of indecision.
I knew nothing about cars ... but i knew one thing for clear ... overthinking is not good.
It created a weird balance of contradictory emotions ... which i disliked for years.
And i also knew that my son will be extremely happy. I suddenly saw spontaneity as the key of forgetting my indecisions ... and realized that gambling a little bit in life should be much, much better than waiting and waiting on and on ... being in fact afraid that i will take a bad decision.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
111
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
4:30 am ... the train arrives to the north of the country where i had to see the car.
Only few people in the Railroad Station ... and i started to ask myself ... “What am i doing at this hour in here?! I could be in my bed and enjoy sleeping”.
The balance of emotions started again, but even if i would decide to go back not even seeing the car .... it will take me 5-6 hours minimum.
But that thought appeared ... not even seeing the car ... and that was the reason i came in here.
So ... i closed my eyes and said ... “Damm it! Stop it! You can’t do that! You don’t even let the guy present you the car! Just ... stop it”.
I opened my eyes and realized i need to let spontaneity to
continue guiding me.
I was quite simple.
I could simple stop my overthinking process by letting the vibe of that beautiful spontaneity to dominate my life ... and everything should be perfect.
And i succeeded to stop this weird indecision that i had all my life.
For the first time i let spontaneity to run my life.
I bought the car ... and my son was the most happiest kid in the world.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
112
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
The dialogue of the deaf is a
... daily practice
Have you ever thought why we can’t close the conflicts we have with the others?!
And i mean ... not with our enemies ... but even with friends or different family members.
Have you ever analyzed those conflicts ... or the simplest ones you ever had?!
How could you define the whole episode ... and the reason why most of the times we don’t find the power to close the conflict?!
Well ... too many questions and even if we might believe we have the answers ... that comes only at a theoretical level ...
but on the stage of life we simple can’t find a way to not be dominated by our emotions.
They are too powerful ... and the Ego makes us become blinds and deaf.
There is no dialogue between the people involved in the conflict, or if there is one ... that is a dialogue of the deaf. No one is hearing the other side.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
113
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
We just hear our silly story ... and each time the story is the same ... we are the victims of a life and different circumstances.
I smile ... seeing myself in this position for so many, many times ... but i can only define myself as a naive person.
I’ve been practicing the dialogue of deaf ... almost as a daily practice ... for many, many years in a row.
Today ... even if i know what is the real path i should follow ... i still don’t find the wisdom to act in a decent way on the scene of my life.
I just act as a ... silly actor.
It’s like i know the script ... but when i am on the scene ...
being overwhelmed by emotions ... i fail ... almost each time ... and it all becomes ... the dialogue of deaf.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
114
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
THE WITNESS
He was watching the show .... but
the show itself was not what it
looked like .... it was an ... illusion.
There is nice story with a philosopher that was spending lots of time with a friend ... studying together the concept of illusion.
They both believed that life was a weird collection of illusory episodes.
They were even laughing ... by saying to each other that one day they will open a shop called ... “The Depot with Amazing Illusions”.
But until that day ... the friend of the philosopher had all types of experiences ... that were actually a reflection of that concept that life is illusory.
And they were discussing for hours a day ... then for weeks ... then months ... then years.
One day ... a very powerful question came in the mind of the philosopher ... “But what if all we analyze and define everyday is actually the illusion of the illusion?!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
115
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
We went so deep down on each event from your life ... that we came to a point when we wonder ... does it make sense to wonder ourselves everyday ... or just live and enjoy the experiences?!”
So ... bottomline ... after spending so much time trying to understand what is behind reality ... which basically means to understand what is behind the illusion ... they started to consider an option ... the simple fact that we should stop asking question ... but just experience ... the experiences. ... without questions.
... without the need of answers.
Just look at all the events ... as a simple witness ... not carrying about the illusory mean of everything is happening. A child ... goes behind the illusion. Enjoy life not carrying what it is.
The child experiences in an unconscious way the meaning of the illusion of illusion ... and connects if likes the energy of that moment ... or simple say ... pass ... and moves at the next experience ... when he does not like a certain type of energy.
Damm it!
Hope that one day soon ... on my journey on life, i will be able to see better the importance of this connection with the beautiful vibes that we can find in the nature.
A decision ... that will not cost me anything ... refilling my energy with positivity ... just by admiring the Infinite.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
102
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
Some desires
make us ... shine
Years ago ... somehow because of a silly mistake i’ve done ... i was offering to a young lady ... the latest model of iphone from that time.
Bribe is such a dirty word ... but this is what actually was the gift to her.
Costed about 1000 euros .... but even if i knew i was wasting
the money ... seeing the lady being so happy ... and actually shining while keeping in her hands her new phone ... i was glad i was doing it.
Today i was on the street with my son.
We saw an old Mercedes ... and he is so obsessed about those cars.
We start to make a tik tok movie and suddenly some boys arrives and open the car.
2 of them were laughing that someone was filming that old car ... not believing that we admire it ... because it was not in such a great technical condition.
But my son loved so much those old Mercedes, not really caring of all those details.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
103
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
The guys were workers in constructions and this was their car used to go to work.
I look at them and ask ... “Do you sell this car?!”
One of them replies ... “No sir. This is not for sale!. I am sorry!”
They started the engine and wanted to leave ... but suddenly they stopped the car.
The drivers comes to me ... and says “Give me 2000 euros and the car is yours”.
My son was looking at me as the lady that received the iphone as bribe ... but now the bribe was for my son ... cause i promised to him that i will buy him an old Mercedes if he will have good grades in school.
“Tell me ... we are buying it! Is an excellent price and looks ok. Is going to be our first vintage car and i will be the most happiest kid of 11 years old”.
I was smiling seeing how a desire can make us ... shine as a diamont.
Years ago i was analyzing a lot that event with the beautiful
lady ... and the wasted 1000 euros ... and now i was
analyzing if it worth to waste the money for 2 iphones ... just
to make my so ... shine.
And i said ... yes.
The owner of the Mercedes ... a young guy of about 25 years old was quite happy ... my son was extremely happy ... and my wife and my other son said ... defined me as a person that lost his minds.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
104
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
But you see ... even defining ... is just a perspective.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
105
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
Sometimes the new year’s
resolutions work.
Just try it ... you’ve got nothing to lose and maybe your life will be somehow totally redefined in the new year.
On the 1st of January 2021 i told to myself that i will not drink alcohol anymore.
I was not exactly a real alcoholic, but i was drinking often.
I was loving to taste every night a bottle of Cricova, which is an amazing moldavian wine, but i had in the last years some people in my life that always kept remembering me the importance of not drinking alcohol.
I knew how it is to have a clear mind all the time ... and even if i had short periods of not drinking and understanding how good i could feel ... i was not making the step to totally ignore that habit.
And is funny coming back in time and realizing that half of my books were written after drinking a bottle of red wine.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
106
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
Probably helped me as inspiration, but i am sure my mind was not 100% under my control.
One day i’ve read in a newspaper ... that an alcoholic is a person that is drinking alcohol everyday.
I was mad reading this definition, but few seconds after i was sad ... realizing that it was a truth.
On the 1 of January 2021 ... in the morning i decided to totally remove alcohol from my life.
It was a new year’s resolution, but it really worked.
And i know that i was doing it, because i wanted full control on myself ... on my soul, my mind, my thoughts ... and everything that was defining me as a human being. Alcohol helped me ... or i thought it helped me dealing with reality and calming in the night the pain i was feeling because of all what was going on in my life. I replaced this habit with the one of writing.
I was not trying to get rid of my thoughts anymore, but i started to deal with them.
I was analyzing my daily life ... defining everything ... and i also tried a process of redefining the scenario of what i called reality.
I realized that i need to stop running away from my thought ... but deal with them.
Alcohol was an illusory therapy that i was using every night before going to bed, but the thoughts were keep appearing on and on and on.
It was a non ending story that could probably just increase one day the dose of alcohol from 1 bottle to 2 or 3 bottles …
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
107
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
like i am sure that it happened to many, many people from all around the world.
Today i see alcohol as a way of running away of
depression ... or in fact of the collection of negative thoughts from our minds.
It’s kind of a stupid therapy used by thousands of years ... but no one bothered to really tell us about what is behind the need of daily tasting alcohol.
The new therapy that i am following now ... the one of writing ... is probably the greatest.
An amazing thing that happened to me after forgetting of alcoholism was ... that i became honest with myself.
And it all started with a new year’s resolution that in my case really worked.
Most probably ... if you want to try it, might be surprised to see also that it can work for you too.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
108
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
All i want is a ... change ... a real one. I mean ... the right one.
I’ve been reading a lot about change over the years ... but i somehow wanted kind of a quantum jump ... which actually meant in my vision to totally eliminate the huge distance between me and my dreamed life ... in a second.
I’ve been chasing the overnight success ... which i consider today a totally non sense.
Might sound weird to discredit such an amazing concept ...
especially after analyzing so much the subject.
So ... first i wanted so much a ... collection of dreams ... that were actually defining my vision about success ... then i’ve been expecting a miracle ... just cause i’ve been reading and meditating a lot about them .... but unfortunately i ended up feeling myself on a pathless path.
So ... after analyzing and defining so much what i wanted in life .... the concept of change, which meant to totally
redefine my reality ... everything became illusory. But why?!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
109
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
I invested a lot of time and energy ... and i felt lost ... but i did not knew ... why?!
... and i still wanted the change .... in the quantum jump
format, ignoring the fact that life is a journey ... not a destination.
Later on ... after following lots of pathless paths ... i finally understood that i need a change inside of me so that the real path to reveal to myself.
The change had to be made in inner world ... and soon after the result could be seen in my reality.
I knew the theory ... but when it came about practice ... i was acting too silly.
Time was passing and i was still dreaming of a new reality ... the right one ... but maybe the best reality that i needed to live ... was the actual one.
So ... my journey was kind of a ... circle.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
110
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
Spontaneity makes the process of overthinking ... to stop
My son loves old cars and is always watching over the internet to find one at a good price, hoping that will convince me to buy it.
Without letting him know, i gave few phone calls ... then i decided to go 500 km away by train to buy one.
I knew from my lifetime experience that if i will think too much i will probably do nothing.
It was the first time when i actually admitted the fact that analyzing too much a subject will create me a strong feeling of indecision.
I knew nothing about cars ... but i knew one thing for clear ... overthinking is not good.
It created a weird balance of contradictory emotions ... which i disliked for years.
And i also knew that my son will be extremely happy. I suddenly saw spontaneity as the key of forgetting my indecisions ... and realized that gambling a little bit in life should be much, much better than waiting and waiting on and on ... being in fact afraid that i will take a bad decision.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
111
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
4:30 am ... the train arrives to the north of the country where i had to see the car.
Only few people in the Railroad Station ... and i started to ask myself ... “What am i doing at this hour in here?! I could be in my bed and enjoy sleeping”.
The balance of emotions started again, but even if i would decide to go back not even seeing the car .... it will take me 5-6 hours minimum.
But that thought appeared ... not even seeing the car ... and that was the reason i came in here.
So ... i closed my eyes and said ... “Damm it! Stop it! You can’t do that! You don’t even let the guy present you the car! Just ... stop it”.
I opened my eyes and realized i need to let spontaneity to
continue guiding me.
I was quite simple.
I could simple stop my overthinking process by letting the vibe of that beautiful spontaneity to dominate my life ... and everything should be perfect.
And i succeeded to stop this weird indecision that i had all my life.
For the first time i let spontaneity to run my life.
I bought the car ... and my son was the most happiest kid in the world.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
112
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
The dialogue of the deaf is a
... daily practice
Have you ever thought why we can’t close the conflicts we have with the others?!
And i mean ... not with our enemies ... but even with friends or different family members.
Have you ever analyzed those conflicts ... or the simplest ones you ever had?!
How could you define the whole episode ... and the reason why most of the times we don’t find the power to close the conflict?!
Well ... too many questions and even if we might believe we have the answers ... that comes only at a theoretical level ...
but on the stage of life we simple can’t find a way to not be dominated by our emotions.
They are too powerful ... and the Ego makes us become blinds and deaf.
There is no dialogue between the people involved in the conflict, or if there is one ... that is a dialogue of the deaf. No one is hearing the other side.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
113
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
We just hear our silly story ... and each time the story is the same ... we are the victims of a life and different circumstances.
I smile ... seeing myself in this position for so many, many times ... but i can only define myself as a naive person.
I’ve been practicing the dialogue of deaf ... almost as a daily practice ... for many, many years in a row.
Today ... even if i know what is the real path i should follow ... i still don’t find the wisdom to act in a decent way on the scene of my life.
I just act as a ... silly actor.
It’s like i know the script ... but when i am on the scene ...
being overwhelmed by emotions ... i fail ... almost each time ... and it all becomes ... the dialogue of deaf.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
114
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
THE WITNESS
He was watching the show .... but
the show itself was not what it
looked like .... it was an ... illusion.
There is nice story with a philosopher that was spending lots of time with a friend ... studying together the concept of illusion.
They both believed that life was a weird collection of illusory episodes.
They were even laughing ... by saying to each other that one day they will open a shop called ... “The Depot with Amazing Illusions”.
But until that day ... the friend of the philosopher had all types of experiences ... that were actually a reflection of that concept that life is illusory.
And they were discussing for hours a day ... then for weeks ... then months ... then years.
One day ... a very powerful question came in the mind of the philosopher ... “But what if all we analyze and define everyday is actually the illusion of the illusion?!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
115
ANALYZE. DEFINE. REDEFINE.
... tips and tricks for a better life
We went so deep down on each event from your life ... that we came to a point when we wonder ... does it make sense to wonder ourselves everyday ... or just live and enjoy the experiences?!”
So ... bottomline ... after spending so much time trying to understand what is behind reality ... which basically means to understand what is behind the illusion ... they started to consider an option ... the simple fact that we should stop asking question ... but just experience ... the experiences. ... without questions.
... without the need of answers.
Just look at all the events ... as a simple witness ... not carrying about the illusory mean of everything is happening. A child ... goes behind the illusion. Enjoy life not carrying what it is.
The child experiences in an unconscious way the meaning of the illusion of illusion ... and connects if likes the energy of that moment ... or simple say ... pass ... and moves at the next experience ... when he does not like a certain type of energy.
