…
Today i look into my past … and i have the dignity of not regretting anything.
I see all … as an … experience.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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... philosophical essays
I also enjoyed many of those episodes of my life.
And indeed … many were … stupid things … which i’ve done.
But i finally realized that …. It’s time to … wake up.
Stop following … the nonsense.
Stop letting myself be dominated by … stupid things …
And most important … stop following … pathless paths.
Paths … which i followed for such a long … long time.
Paths … which i know that are illusions.
Paths … which i know that will … ruin me.
Paths … that steal my focus … from the real values of life. But even if i say … i’ll stop doing that … i continue … the nonsense ….
On and on and on …
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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DOING STUPID THINGS … AN AMAZING JOURNEY
... philosophical essays
It’s useless trying to change the partner. Just enjoy the positive side of the relationship … and don’t bother to make any projection for the future
Many people write me about their relationships …. seeing me
as psychologist …. but the simple truth is that i am only a
thinker …. a person that is probably thinking a little bit more
than the others.
I like the connection with all those people involved into those love stories.
They are somehow my teachers about … relationships and ….
love.
For example Charlie is always writing me about his relationships.
Businessman, a guy that chased success all his life ….
realized into the end … that all was useless … cause he was never really happy.
But the funny thing is that Charlie …. mastering the law of
attraction succeeded one day to finally attract into his life … an amazing lazy.
She was beautiful, intelligent … a warm soul … and amazing in bed.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
19
DOING STUPID THINGS … AN AMAZING JOURNEY
... philosophical essays
Lily offered him … the best a woman can offer to a man … There was nothing … she would change at her.
And it was all real … cause before Lily … Charlie wrote me about other ladies also … but there are was always something that he disagreed with.
This time … my friend was writing me … only and only about the beautiful side of the story.
Well … until one day … when i felt that Charlie is worrying about something.
“Gabriel! I’ve learned from you the art of defining … and i always try to honest in front of myself … and analyze all what is going on into my life.
Today i’ve somehow realized that Lily loves the masculine energy … and has this inner desire of staying in those energies.
She loves to be surrounded by men.
She enjoys a lot the masculine energies.
I don’t believe she can be … just with me.
She’s the perfect lady … but i can’t project anything with her into the future … cause i would not accept to share her … with other men.
And today i simple don’t know what to do …”
I was smiling … realizing that even if we are in front of a best case scenario … we still find something which is not ok. “Charlie! My dear friend! Stop being idiot! You finally met the perfect woman.
You had so, so many plans with your life … but … you failed all the time.
On and on and on.
Lily is a divorced lady.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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... philosophical essays
She comes from a world … that is not so related with the borders of a relationship.
She loves being surrounded by men … yes.
She loves the masculine energies.
What can you do?!
Try to change her way of acting on the scene of life?! She comes from a free universe.
She was a free woman …. divorced.
Before … she could do absolutely anything she wanted.
Now you appeared into her life … and you want as her to
stop acting like that.
Stop being a free soul.
Stay connected … just to your soul.
Be your own … property.
Be yours 100%.
You want as this lady be your prisoner.
Stay disconnected from any other type of energy.
She makes you happy.
She offers you everything a woman can offer to a man. And now … with other words … you expect her to accept being your … prisoner.
It’s really stupid what you ask.
Really … really stupid of you to think like that.
But you might still have a chance.
And that is to love and treat her in the way she loves and treats you.
There is only one way as her to be yours and only yours.
You want exclusivity.
But …
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
21
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... philosophical essays
Only if your love will create an amazing connection for her soul …. her unconscious need of connecting to any masculine energy will become … fade.”
I saw Charlie … a little bit annoyed.
“So … you are telling me …. that i still have to work … to get
what i want.
She’s mine … but not 100% mine.
I dislike her unconscious need of being surrounded by masculine energies … but …
All you’re telling me is that if i’ll succeed to me a great actor on the stage of life … then maybe she can re soft herself. It’s funny …
The Universe sent me the perfect lady … but she can be mine for 100% … only and only … if i can be the perfect partner also.
I hate all what you say to me … “
“Well … Charlie … just try to be that perfect partner … you were chasing for …
And all will be as you want.”
I was meditating a lot about Charlie and Lily.
And i was smiling realizing that Charlie adored the fact that the Universe sent him the perfect lady … but he did not realized that he needs to become for her ….that perfect partner also.
He wanted her … just for him.
Wanted as Lily to become his prisoner … but forgot that only an amazing connection can make the partner be blind at anything around.
In fact … i was laughing of my friend.
Same as the Universe was laughing of him.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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... philosophical essays
He was acting indeed as any other idiot … that is having one million expectations … not understanding that to amazing things … we need to reply into an amazing way also. And it’s true …
A love story can be an amazing.
It can also be a prison … as Charlie wanted that into an unconscious way … but … my friend forgot about the theory that says that in life ….it’s all a … reflection.
And the psychological question was … for me but also for the
2 of them … was Charlie ready also to become the prisoner of
that love story?!
Hmmm …
Or maybe it’s time … for my dear friend … to not bother to change anything at all … in this story … and simple live and enjoy it.
Abandoning … all thoughts … all stupid desires of domination … might be … probably for both of them …. the best plan … they could have in mind.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
23
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... philosophical essays
Stoping the emotional balance … most probably a must
I see at many people … what i used to define looking at me … as an emotional dance.
Today … i’ve started to be more honest … and redefined for myself the concept …. as emotional balance of … contradictory emotions.
And i see that … so, so often.
I see it in businesses.
I see it at many people …. when it comes about change …
and even very simple changes.
But even worst …. I see it even in … love stories.
And i can understand the fears of a businessman … i can understand the fears of any simple person … in front of simple changes … but when it comes about love … my brain can’t understand the meaning of the emotional balance. Sometimes i see love and hate into the same day … at 2 people which have amazing connection … and ask myself why?!
I look deeper … and?!
Almost … no clue … about what is really going on … but i continue analyzing all around myself … and also my own life.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
24
DOING STUPID THINGS … AN AMAZING JOURNEY
... philosophical essays
The emotional balance … which many times is dominated by such a large spectrum of emotions … redefined as an emotional dance … becomes a total nonsense … but an accepted fact … as part of anyone’s life.
A stupid truth about us … but … a real fact.
Repeated on and on and on.
Until?!
Well … maybe till we will understand that we’ll not live forever … and we should be more decided …. but also stop balancing so much.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
25
DOING STUPID THINGS … AN AMAZING JOURNEY
... philosophical essays
Understanding the dance of energies
beyond reality … we finally realize why it exists this huge gap between what we defined as the perfect life … and how the present moment looks like
I see lots of unhappy people around myself.
If i would ask them to define me why this huge difference between what they would define as the perfect life and … how reality looks like … they simple can’t say anything at all … about the subject.
So … i ask a simple question to many of them … why this contradictory actions on the stage of your life?!
Why … if you really want to be happy into the relationship you have … never act as the perfect partner?! How you can’t stop acting stupid?!
How you can ignore all your fantasies that might involve other partners also?!
How can you play on the stage of reality .. as a great actor?! How can you suppress your unconscious actions … and let just the conscious part of yourself dominate reality?!
How can you stop and control the dance of energies beyond reality?!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
26
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... philosophical essays
Well … too many questions … and i don’t hear anything at all … from all those people i am talking with.
And while trying to find the answers by myself … looking
again and again … at some people dancing … i finally
understand it’s all a game of energies … that we are
incapable of controlling.
We simple … can’t do it.
Or maybe … our only chance is just to synchronize our energies … and keep remaining connected as long as we want into that connection.
Listen to the music of that story … and dance and dance and dance … as long as we enjoy the story itself.
And yes … it is possible as one day … the music to simple stop … or the connection to be broken … by one million unknown factors … but till then …. Well …
Maybe … just ignore any idea of negative influences … stop dreaming about anything else except the connection … and stop being and acting stupid.
And maybe also … dare to dream … at the eternity of the moment.
Anything else … should be useless to let dominate … our lives.
Also … again … maybe … forget about the fears … of any kind.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
27
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... philosophical essays
“I want to do the dirtiest things with you on the most romantic way … “
Hundreds of millions of people are married.
… or maybe even billions.
But if we’d ask them to tell us if they really are in an amazing connection with the partner … and if they could honestly answer to us …. most probably only few would say … yes. And i’ve wondered why?!
And also … what really means a real connection?!
How could we define this … into a proper way?!
Oh … maybe i should say … how can we explore the boundaries of a connection so that we can declare that we are into what we could say it’s … an amazing connection?! Well … recently Sheila told me that she began a new experiment with her lover.
They started to do in bed the dirtiest things from the human history … into the most romantic way.
I was listening to her … and could not believe what she was saying to me.
The same Sheila …. I was looking at … and looked like a real
lady … acted with her lover as a porno star.
And … she loved it.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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... philosophical essays
… her lover also.
She was explaining to me … so many details about exploring the boundaries of their relationship … and i could not believe it.
I was listening … and kept being amazed.
But what i could easily realize … was that she was doing all those things … 100% … with joy.
the joy of being together.
the joy of exploring the limits of their relationship … but …. Everything was … fine.
just fine.
The experiment itself … revealed that they could share any dirty fantasy that they had in mind … and still enjoy being together.
Actually … they were not afraid of anything … anymore.
They were not afraid of … their dark sides.
I know … it all look so stupid to do all those things … but exploring all meant … the connection itself … was great. And continued sharing their thoughts … all their fantasies … and all related with them … as a couple.
with no regret at all … but only … enjoying the fact that they were together.
I was amazed of the discussion.
in fact .. shocked … but …
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
29
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... philosophical essays
We should do all the stupid things
in the world … with absolutely no regret in the soul
Truth be told … life it’s beautiful.
And it can also be amazing … but we simple need to dare … to experience it.
Well … maybe same as a kid is doing.
Most probably we will do … lots of stupid things … but in the end … life itself it will be revealed to us.
I look into my past … and indeed i see lots of experiences … many of them … weird experiences …. but i see them with no regret at all.
I was walking on so, so many … pathless paths.
I smile … remembering all that.
I am smiling … and am glad i have absolutely … no regret at all.
If i would count all those stupid things … i’ve done … i would be amazed of the number.
And i’m really sorry i did not kept a diary with all of them … but maybe one day i’ll write a book only and only … with those episodes.
Somehow i realize that today … i am defined as a human being by those experiences.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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... philosophical essays
… and also redefined.
I would conclude that doing stupid things … it’s most
probably a … must.
… for all of us.
Of course … unless you are kind of a Buddha … and you can exile yourself in the forest …. for years and meditate on the
meaning of life on and on … and on … without being needed to experience anything.
But Buddha was Buddha … and the rest of us … we are destined to follow all those stupid … pathless paths. I smile …
And i remember i’ve decided … in fact … to experience all that … with joy.
… cause doing stupid things … it’s not so bad as it looks like.
Today i look into my past … and i have the dignity of not regretting anything.
I see all … as an … experience.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
17
DOING STUPID THINGS … AN AMAZING JOURNEY
... philosophical essays
I also enjoyed many of those episodes of my life.
And indeed … many were … stupid things … which i’ve done.
But i finally realized that …. It’s time to … wake up.
Stop following … the nonsense.
Stop letting myself be dominated by … stupid things …
And most important … stop following … pathless paths.
Paths … which i followed for such a long … long time.
Paths … which i know that are illusions.
Paths … which i know that will … ruin me.
Paths … that steal my focus … from the real values of life. But even if i say … i’ll stop doing that … i continue … the nonsense ….
On and on and on …
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
18
DOING STUPID THINGS … AN AMAZING JOURNEY
... philosophical essays
It’s useless trying to change the partner. Just enjoy the positive side of the relationship … and don’t bother to make any projection for the future
Many people write me about their relationships …. seeing me
as psychologist …. but the simple truth is that i am only a
thinker …. a person that is probably thinking a little bit more
than the others.
I like the connection with all those people involved into those love stories.
They are somehow my teachers about … relationships and ….
love.
For example Charlie is always writing me about his relationships.
Businessman, a guy that chased success all his life ….
realized into the end … that all was useless … cause he was never really happy.
But the funny thing is that Charlie …. mastering the law of
attraction succeeded one day to finally attract into his life … an amazing lazy.
She was beautiful, intelligent … a warm soul … and amazing in bed.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
19
DOING STUPID THINGS … AN AMAZING JOURNEY
... philosophical essays
Lily offered him … the best a woman can offer to a man … There was nothing … she would change at her.
And it was all real … cause before Lily … Charlie wrote me about other ladies also … but there are was always something that he disagreed with.
This time … my friend was writing me … only and only about the beautiful side of the story.
Well … until one day … when i felt that Charlie is worrying about something.
“Gabriel! I’ve learned from you the art of defining … and i always try to honest in front of myself … and analyze all what is going on into my life.
Today i’ve somehow realized that Lily loves the masculine energy … and has this inner desire of staying in those energies.
She loves to be surrounded by men.
She enjoys a lot the masculine energies.
I don’t believe she can be … just with me.
She’s the perfect lady … but i can’t project anything with her into the future … cause i would not accept to share her … with other men.
And today i simple don’t know what to do …”
I was smiling … realizing that even if we are in front of a best case scenario … we still find something which is not ok. “Charlie! My dear friend! Stop being idiot! You finally met the perfect woman.
You had so, so many plans with your life … but … you failed all the time.
On and on and on.
Lily is a divorced lady.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
20
DOING STUPID THINGS … AN AMAZING JOURNEY
... philosophical essays
She comes from a world … that is not so related with the borders of a relationship.
She loves being surrounded by men … yes.
She loves the masculine energies.
What can you do?!
Try to change her way of acting on the scene of life?! She comes from a free universe.
She was a free woman …. divorced.
Before … she could do absolutely anything she wanted.
Now you appeared into her life … and you want as her to
stop acting like that.
Stop being a free soul.
Stay connected … just to your soul.
Be your own … property.
Be yours 100%.
You want as this lady be your prisoner.
Stay disconnected from any other type of energy.
She makes you happy.
She offers you everything a woman can offer to a man. And now … with other words … you expect her to accept being your … prisoner.
It’s really stupid what you ask.
Really … really stupid of you to think like that.
But you might still have a chance.
And that is to love and treat her in the way she loves and treats you.
There is only one way as her to be yours and only yours.
You want exclusivity.
But …
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
21
DOING STUPID THINGS … AN AMAZING JOURNEY
... philosophical essays
Only if your love will create an amazing connection for her soul …. her unconscious need of connecting to any masculine energy will become … fade.”
I saw Charlie … a little bit annoyed.
“So … you are telling me …. that i still have to work … to get
what i want.
She’s mine … but not 100% mine.
I dislike her unconscious need of being surrounded by masculine energies … but …
All you’re telling me is that if i’ll succeed to me a great actor on the stage of life … then maybe she can re soft herself. It’s funny …
The Universe sent me the perfect lady … but she can be mine for 100% … only and only … if i can be the perfect partner also.
I hate all what you say to me … “
“Well … Charlie … just try to be that perfect partner … you were chasing for …
And all will be as you want.”
I was meditating a lot about Charlie and Lily.
And i was smiling realizing that Charlie adored the fact that the Universe sent him the perfect lady … but he did not realized that he needs to become for her ….that perfect partner also.
He wanted her … just for him.
Wanted as Lily to become his prisoner … but forgot that only an amazing connection can make the partner be blind at anything around.
In fact … i was laughing of my friend.
Same as the Universe was laughing of him.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
22
DOING STUPID THINGS … AN AMAZING JOURNEY
... philosophical essays
He was acting indeed as any other idiot … that is having one million expectations … not understanding that to amazing things … we need to reply into an amazing way also. And it’s true …
A love story can be an amazing.
It can also be a prison … as Charlie wanted that into an unconscious way … but … my friend forgot about the theory that says that in life ….it’s all a … reflection.
And the psychological question was … for me but also for the
2 of them … was Charlie ready also to become the prisoner of
that love story?!
Hmmm …
Or maybe it’s time … for my dear friend … to not bother to change anything at all … in this story … and simple live and enjoy it.
Abandoning … all thoughts … all stupid desires of domination … might be … probably for both of them …. the best plan … they could have in mind.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
23
DOING STUPID THINGS … AN AMAZING JOURNEY
... philosophical essays
Stoping the emotional balance … most probably a must
I see at many people … what i used to define looking at me … as an emotional dance.
Today … i’ve started to be more honest … and redefined for myself the concept …. as emotional balance of … contradictory emotions.
And i see that … so, so often.
I see it in businesses.
I see it at many people …. when it comes about change …
and even very simple changes.
But even worst …. I see it even in … love stories.
And i can understand the fears of a businessman … i can understand the fears of any simple person … in front of simple changes … but when it comes about love … my brain can’t understand the meaning of the emotional balance. Sometimes i see love and hate into the same day … at 2 people which have amazing connection … and ask myself why?!
I look deeper … and?!
Almost … no clue … about what is really going on … but i continue analyzing all around myself … and also my own life.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
24
DOING STUPID THINGS … AN AMAZING JOURNEY
... philosophical essays
The emotional balance … which many times is dominated by such a large spectrum of emotions … redefined as an emotional dance … becomes a total nonsense … but an accepted fact … as part of anyone’s life.
A stupid truth about us … but … a real fact.
Repeated on and on and on.
Until?!
Well … maybe till we will understand that we’ll not live forever … and we should be more decided …. but also stop balancing so much.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
25
DOING STUPID THINGS … AN AMAZING JOURNEY
... philosophical essays
Understanding the dance of energies
beyond reality … we finally realize why it exists this huge gap between what we defined as the perfect life … and how the present moment looks like
I see lots of unhappy people around myself.
If i would ask them to define me why this huge difference between what they would define as the perfect life and … how reality looks like … they simple can’t say anything at all … about the subject.
So … i ask a simple question to many of them … why this contradictory actions on the stage of your life?!
Why … if you really want to be happy into the relationship you have … never act as the perfect partner?! How you can’t stop acting stupid?!
How you can ignore all your fantasies that might involve other partners also?!
How can you play on the stage of reality .. as a great actor?! How can you suppress your unconscious actions … and let just the conscious part of yourself dominate reality?!
How can you stop and control the dance of energies beyond reality?!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
26
DOING STUPID THINGS … AN AMAZING JOURNEY
... philosophical essays
Well … too many questions … and i don’t hear anything at all … from all those people i am talking with.
And while trying to find the answers by myself … looking
again and again … at some people dancing … i finally
understand it’s all a game of energies … that we are
incapable of controlling.
We simple … can’t do it.
Or maybe … our only chance is just to synchronize our energies … and keep remaining connected as long as we want into that connection.
Listen to the music of that story … and dance and dance and dance … as long as we enjoy the story itself.
And yes … it is possible as one day … the music to simple stop … or the connection to be broken … by one million unknown factors … but till then …. Well …
Maybe … just ignore any idea of negative influences … stop dreaming about anything else except the connection … and stop being and acting stupid.
And maybe also … dare to dream … at the eternity of the moment.
Anything else … should be useless to let dominate … our lives.
Also … again … maybe … forget about the fears … of any kind.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
27
DOING STUPID THINGS … AN AMAZING JOURNEY
... philosophical essays
“I want to do the dirtiest things with you on the most romantic way … “
Hundreds of millions of people are married.
… or maybe even billions.
But if we’d ask them to tell us if they really are in an amazing connection with the partner … and if they could honestly answer to us …. most probably only few would say … yes. And i’ve wondered why?!
And also … what really means a real connection?!
How could we define this … into a proper way?!
Oh … maybe i should say … how can we explore the boundaries of a connection so that we can declare that we are into what we could say it’s … an amazing connection?! Well … recently Sheila told me that she began a new experiment with her lover.
They started to do in bed the dirtiest things from the human history … into the most romantic way.
I was listening to her … and could not believe what she was saying to me.
The same Sheila …. I was looking at … and looked like a real
lady … acted with her lover as a porno star.
And … she loved it.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
28
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... philosophical essays
… her lover also.
She was explaining to me … so many details about exploring the boundaries of their relationship … and i could not believe it.
I was listening … and kept being amazed.
But what i could easily realize … was that she was doing all those things … 100% … with joy.
the joy of being together.
the joy of exploring the limits of their relationship … but …. Everything was … fine.
just fine.
The experiment itself … revealed that they could share any dirty fantasy that they had in mind … and still enjoy being together.
Actually … they were not afraid of anything … anymore.
They were not afraid of … their dark sides.
I know … it all look so stupid to do all those things … but exploring all meant … the connection itself … was great. And continued sharing their thoughts … all their fantasies … and all related with them … as a couple.
with no regret at all … but only … enjoying the fact that they were together.
I was amazed of the discussion.
in fact .. shocked … but …
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
29
DOING STUPID THINGS … AN AMAZING JOURNEY
... philosophical essays
We should do all the stupid things
in the world … with absolutely no regret in the soul
Truth be told … life it’s beautiful.
And it can also be amazing … but we simple need to dare … to experience it.
Well … maybe same as a kid is doing.
Most probably we will do … lots of stupid things … but in the end … life itself it will be revealed to us.
I look into my past … and indeed i see lots of experiences … many of them … weird experiences …. but i see them with no regret at all.
I was walking on so, so many … pathless paths.
I smile … remembering all that.
I am smiling … and am glad i have absolutely … no regret at all.
If i would count all those stupid things … i’ve done … i would be amazed of the number.
And i’m really sorry i did not kept a diary with all of them … but maybe one day i’ll write a book only and only … with those episodes.
Somehow i realize that today … i am defined as a human being by those experiences.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
30
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... philosophical essays
… and also redefined.
I would conclude that doing stupid things … it’s most
probably a … must.
… for all of us.
Of course … unless you are kind of a Buddha … and you can exile yourself in the forest …. for years and meditate on the
meaning of life on and on … and on … without being needed to experience anything.
But Buddha was Buddha … and the rest of us … we are destined to follow all those stupid … pathless paths. I smile …
And i remember i’ve decided … in fact … to experience all that … with joy.
… cause doing stupid things … it’s not so bad as it looks like.
