IF IT'S NO LOVE IT'S KARMIC
philosophical essays
IF IT'S NOT LOVE … IT'S KARMIC
philosophical essays
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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IF IT'S NO LOVE IT'S KARMIC
philosophical essays
ADRIAN GABRIEL DUMITRU
IF IT'S NOT LOVE … IT'S KARMIC
philosophical essays
Year: 2022
Author: Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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IF IT'S NO LOVE IT'S KARMIC
philosophical essays
Karma means you
are the maker of
your life.
Sadhguru
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TO MY DEAR FRIEND PAUL
THAT CAME UP WITH THE IDEA OF THIS BOOK
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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INTRODUCTION
If it’s not love … it’s karmic
We always try to understand our thoughts and emotions regarding the relationships we are involved in.
And so many times … we fail in interpreting the meaning
behind all what is going on.
We simple don’t understand it.
We believe it’s a love story … or even the love story of our lives …. or a very good friendship … but it always has an ugly end.
And damn it … it was the perfect case scenario of a connection between 2 souls.
The meaning of all what happened …. becomes a nonsense.
Someone that used to be a good friend … or a soul mate if it’s about a love story … becomes the worst enemy you ever had.
No one around … is understanding the meaning of all that. What looked like love between 2 souls … ended as a weird life lesson.
So … should we say … it’s karmic?!
It looked a story about love … but all became … a lesson
offered by the karma.
But why?!
Why this life lesson?!
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Why couldn’t that love story or friendship continue?!
Why such a beautiful connection … ended with a betrayal?!
What is the message behind that nonsense?!
Love and karma … somehow 2 contradictory directions that we could follow … but maybe having the same final destination.
So … is it love?!
Is it karmic?!
Should we ask this question from the early beginning … or simple explore and enjoy that relationship till life will reveal us the real meaning?!
Asking ourselves about the fact that it could look as great connection, but might be … just karmic … or be a karmic relationship looking as an amazing connection … should induce too many paranoia ideas from the early beginning and we will not let us follow the right steps for the story. So?!
Should we let everything … just happen?!
Too many questions … and maybe contradictory answers. Would help a lot to know the real meaning … and maybe we should explore all the connections we have with the people from the timeline of our lives.
And the final question which comes in our mind is … if it is karmic …. how do we break this karmic chain?!
Well … it starts with love … has a karmic end …. but …. It
always needs to end … with love.
It all becomes a cycle … the love-karmic cycle.
The meaning?!
Maybe … to understand the connections between everything it exists in this world … and the world itself.
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Love?!
Karmic?!
Or love-karmic?!
I invite you in a journey of finding those answers.
And i will not be so naive to tell you that we’ll come up with
the absolute truth … but …
Let’s do it …
Let’s analyze … define all what is going on … and if it’s karmic … there is only one thing to do … metamorphose it into … into love again.
I believe that karma is not a bitch … but a teacher, but also that love is everything … and the key to the Infinity.
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We should not judge anyone around us
And maybe …understanding the course of their actions and thoughts … is the real key for a beautiful relationship … no matter who that person is.
Emma wrote me yesterday.
I know her by such a long time … and she wanted to understand a guy that she likes … which same as me is a writer.
I know him also and he’s even much weird than myself.
Reading her letter to him …. I started to smile….
“Judging by your stories published till now, you had several young ladies with whom you opened up, like with me.
You tried to catch this subtle connection with them … as with me.
You wanted more than just communication … like with me. Why?!
Why do you keep repeating the same stories and you just
can't stop at one?
Do you like to play?
Do you like feeling that you are still young and asserting yourself at the expense of girls?
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I want to understand the course of your actions and thoughts.
Do you know what I feel?
That you are confused in life, and everything is going wrong for you.
You don't know what you want and where you will truly be happy, and if you can, where you should be now. What to take and where to go.
Like a boat … lost in the middle of the ocean.
I won't judge you, and you shouldn't care about my opinion if you're confident in what you're doing. Right?
I don’t have the habit of judging people, this makes no sense, this is a psychological dead end, each person is individual and a priori cannot be similar to another, everyone has different hobbies, and approaches to this. This is fine. Sometimes, when reading your stories, I need some time to understand what you write about. Considering that there is also fantasy, it is difficult for me to understand where is the truth and where is not. As a result, sometimes there are misunderstandings”
Emma wanted something impossible from me.
To tell her the truth about …. writers, philosophers, thinkers
or however you would want to name this category of people.
She wanted to … understand the course of our actions and thoughts.
And i started to laugh.
cause not even us know the paths we are following.
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We are lost souls …
I was reading few times what she wrote to the guy she likes so much.
Probably the guy is even … worst than me … but still … I consider today that the philosophical path is just a theoretical journey … which probably must not be judged. Yes … getting in contact with such people as me or him … and all the others … is risky.
But maybe … we just open forbidden doors.
I usually have answers …. but this time i lost the chance to
calm down my dear friend Emma.
I have the same disease as the guy she likes … so what could i say … that he is incurable?!
Well …. or maybe that we simple need infinite love and
understanding.
That’s the only … real … cure.
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She was so mad
… looking at him
They both stayed on the couch … but he was not there.
He was in another world.
Only his body was in there.
And the jerk … was doing this by years.
Today i believe that the key for understanding the world where we live in is to … analyze and define the nonsense that we see in the curent reality.
And we see around us so many people that have absolutely everything they ever dreamed … except happiness.
The human being of today … lives in much better conditions and has more options as a king from hundreds of years ago had.
But it’s weird seeing so many … lost souls.
I recently saw a movie with the life of a writer, which lived in the south of France.
He was so unhappy in his marriage …. but still too coward to
divorce and start a new life.
So … somehow in a need of becoming neutral … he started to live more inside of him.
The only expression of his thoughts and feelings was … to write books.
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It became the only way in how he proved his courage …. but
in the same time hoping that his wife will not find out what he was doing.
After a while … seeing that something was wrong, they decided to go to the therapist together.
The wife starts to detail their story …. saying in the same
time that her intuition says that her husband is cheating on her … having also a parallel life.
“Listen … if you allow me to speak. I am 60 years old … and i am retired.
I stay mainly in the village … and actually don’t even leave our house.
In fact … i spend all my day on the couch.
All what she just said … is illusory.
I believe she is suffering of paranoia.”
The counselor … smiled … but the wife started to be angry. “You are lying. You stay indeed on the couch … but you are not in there anymore by years.
I am 100% that you cheat on me.
I observe your absence … by years.”
“How can you say i am absent …. If i stay at 50-60 cm by
you … on the same couch”.
Now the counselor became annoyed.
“Listen … let’s simple discuss.
Is not necessary to act like this.
David …. I believe what you are saying is true …. but also
what your wife is saying to me … is true.
Most probably … disliking your life together … you’ve created an inner world … and you live in there … like a refugee. Your wife sees you … but also sees your absence.
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You stay on the same couch … but you are not there.
It’s a weird paradox … i know ….cause both of you are right
and the only real thing you can do it to …. become present in
your marriage.”
David becomes angry.
“There is no law to force me to become present into my marriage.
I know the concepts of Carpe Diem and others blablablas … but i prefer my fox whole.”
The therapist realized it’s all useless to analyze and define what is going on … cause they both knew the truth about their story.
A story that he heard so, so many times.
The therapist could even consider to write a book … about all those cases … but again found it as a nonsense … cause … no body is listening to his advices anyway.
So … he smiled …. and left his office …. letting the husband
and wife to argue … cause most probably it was all a karmic matter between the 2 of them.
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Sometimes they just can’t …. hear us.
It’s like you are a ghost
… and can’t stand it anymore
Does it ever happened to you speak with the people from the timeline of your life … but feel that they can’t hear you?! And you say what you have to say … once … twice … and then on and on and on … and they just can’t hear your voice. They don’t even feel your presence. It is unbelievable … but why?!
Why you look …. like a ghost?!
I look into my past, even in the near past … and i had this weird feeling so, so many times. And again i wonder myself … why?!
I close my eyes … i try to meditate … and suddenly the answer comes.
My god … i’ve been such an idiot.
The answer was so damn simple.
In fact it’s maybe a life lesson .
Something … almost karmic.
I did not know to connect to them … and the lesson was repeated to me on and on and on.
And i felt so ridiculous …. being a ghost.
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I analyzed myself …. and i was not acting like an illusory
volatile entity … but still … they had this “ghost” perspective over my thoughts, desires, actions and all what i was doing on the timeline of life.
But the huge problem i had … was that i still had no idea how i could change the situation.
Sometimes … it all became a horrible experience … and i could not stand it anymore.
And then i remembered about my handicap … that i was not able to connect to all those people.
I called them annoying … but the problem was on my side. So … maybe i could not accept it … but … i continued being a ghost.
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And the philosophical question is … should we experience also the pathless paths or just ignore them?
Sheila liked him in the beginning.
He was weird … but in a beautiful way.
Same … as her.
Difficult to be … understood.
In fact … too abstract to be …. understood.
So, after meeting him the 3rd time … she writes him in the morning:
“I don't think it's worth continuing. I can't, I'm serious. You got what you wanted, you saw me, you spent some time with me, and let's stop there. This is stupid, and very wrong, I'm sorry, but I really can't.”
He was laughing reading her message.
He wanted to just smile … but ended laughing, cause it all became a tacit understanding that it was a pathless paths for both of them.
The only difference between him and her … was maybe that she was afraid of such paths, but he loved exploring them. The nonsense was defining the whole situation. So … she was annoyed … and he was laughing.
Could they continue?!
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Should it make any sense?
Maybe yes …. maybe no.
I found it weird that he wanted to continue such a story … of connecting and disconnecting all the time. Then i understood what he had the mind.
He actually believe in such an abstract therapy, similar with the therapy in couple, but the only difference was that the 2 of them are 2 strangers one with another.
But he insisted as he will become her therapist and she will become the same for him.
She disliked again … everything.
It started as a possible love story … but refusing to connect to him …. or maybe to accept his tendencies just a little bit … everything was fucked up.
She desired a connection.
A real one.
He only wanted to explore the connection … no matter if it was or not a pathless path.
Those weird feelings of connecting and disconnecting to each other … started to dominate again and again … the story. And it became so obvious it’s not a love story …. but a karmic … idiotic story.
The way they acted … ruined a possible beautiful experience
which was metamorphosed in the end … into a cocktail of banality … and nonsense.
It was so funny reading on their faces the 2 perspectives about what was going on.
philosophical essays
IF IT'S NOT LOVE … IT'S KARMIC
philosophical essays
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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IF IT'S NO LOVE IT'S KARMIC
philosophical essays
ADRIAN GABRIEL DUMITRU
IF IT'S NOT LOVE … IT'S KARMIC
philosophical essays
Year: 2022
Author: Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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IF IT'S NO LOVE IT'S KARMIC
philosophical essays
Karma means you
are the maker of
your life.
Sadhguru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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IF IT'S NO LOVE IT'S KARMIC
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TO MY DEAR FRIEND PAUL
THAT CAME UP WITH THE IDEA OF THIS BOOK
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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IF IT'S NO LOVE IT'S KARMIC
philosophical essays
INTRODUCTION
If it’s not love … it’s karmic
We always try to understand our thoughts and emotions regarding the relationships we are involved in.
And so many times … we fail in interpreting the meaning
behind all what is going on.
We simple don’t understand it.
We believe it’s a love story … or even the love story of our lives …. or a very good friendship … but it always has an ugly end.
And damn it … it was the perfect case scenario of a connection between 2 souls.
The meaning of all what happened …. becomes a nonsense.
Someone that used to be a good friend … or a soul mate if it’s about a love story … becomes the worst enemy you ever had.
No one around … is understanding the meaning of all that. What looked like love between 2 souls … ended as a weird life lesson.
So … should we say … it’s karmic?!
It looked a story about love … but all became … a lesson
offered by the karma.
But why?!
Why this life lesson?!
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IF IT'S NO LOVE IT'S KARMIC
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Why couldn’t that love story or friendship continue?!
Why such a beautiful connection … ended with a betrayal?!
What is the message behind that nonsense?!
Love and karma … somehow 2 contradictory directions that we could follow … but maybe having the same final destination.
So … is it love?!
Is it karmic?!
Should we ask this question from the early beginning … or simple explore and enjoy that relationship till life will reveal us the real meaning?!
Asking ourselves about the fact that it could look as great connection, but might be … just karmic … or be a karmic relationship looking as an amazing connection … should induce too many paranoia ideas from the early beginning and we will not let us follow the right steps for the story. So?!
Should we let everything … just happen?!
Too many questions … and maybe contradictory answers. Would help a lot to know the real meaning … and maybe we should explore all the connections we have with the people from the timeline of our lives.
And the final question which comes in our mind is … if it is karmic …. how do we break this karmic chain?!
Well … it starts with love … has a karmic end …. but …. It
always needs to end … with love.
It all becomes a cycle … the love-karmic cycle.
The meaning?!
Maybe … to understand the connections between everything it exists in this world … and the world itself.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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IF IT'S NO LOVE IT'S KARMIC
philosophical essays
Love?!
Karmic?!
Or love-karmic?!
I invite you in a journey of finding those answers.
And i will not be so naive to tell you that we’ll come up with
the absolute truth … but …
Let’s do it …
Let’s analyze … define all what is going on … and if it’s karmic … there is only one thing to do … metamorphose it into … into love again.
I believe that karma is not a bitch … but a teacher, but also that love is everything … and the key to the Infinity.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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IF IT'S NO LOVE IT'S KARMIC
philosophical essays
We should not judge anyone around us
And maybe …understanding the course of their actions and thoughts … is the real key for a beautiful relationship … no matter who that person is.
Emma wrote me yesterday.
I know her by such a long time … and she wanted to understand a guy that she likes … which same as me is a writer.
I know him also and he’s even much weird than myself.
Reading her letter to him …. I started to smile….
“Judging by your stories published till now, you had several young ladies with whom you opened up, like with me.
You tried to catch this subtle connection with them … as with me.
You wanted more than just communication … like with me. Why?!
Why do you keep repeating the same stories and you just
can't stop at one?
Do you like to play?
Do you like feeling that you are still young and asserting yourself at the expense of girls?
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
8
IF IT'S NO LOVE IT'S KARMIC
philosophical essays
I want to understand the course of your actions and thoughts.
Do you know what I feel?
That you are confused in life, and everything is going wrong for you.
You don't know what you want and where you will truly be happy, and if you can, where you should be now. What to take and where to go.
Like a boat … lost in the middle of the ocean.
I won't judge you, and you shouldn't care about my opinion if you're confident in what you're doing. Right?
I don’t have the habit of judging people, this makes no sense, this is a psychological dead end, each person is individual and a priori cannot be similar to another, everyone has different hobbies, and approaches to this. This is fine. Sometimes, when reading your stories, I need some time to understand what you write about. Considering that there is also fantasy, it is difficult for me to understand where is the truth and where is not. As a result, sometimes there are misunderstandings”
Emma wanted something impossible from me.
To tell her the truth about …. writers, philosophers, thinkers
or however you would want to name this category of people.
She wanted to … understand the course of our actions and thoughts.
And i started to laugh.
cause not even us know the paths we are following.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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IF IT'S NO LOVE IT'S KARMIC
philosophical essays
We are lost souls …
I was reading few times what she wrote to the guy she likes so much.
Probably the guy is even … worst than me … but still … I consider today that the philosophical path is just a theoretical journey … which probably must not be judged. Yes … getting in contact with such people as me or him … and all the others … is risky.
But maybe … we just open forbidden doors.
I usually have answers …. but this time i lost the chance to
calm down my dear friend Emma.
I have the same disease as the guy she likes … so what could i say … that he is incurable?!
Well …. or maybe that we simple need infinite love and
understanding.
That’s the only … real … cure.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
10
IF IT'S NO LOVE IT'S KARMIC
philosophical essays
She was so mad
… looking at him
They both stayed on the couch … but he was not there.
He was in another world.
Only his body was in there.
And the jerk … was doing this by years.
Today i believe that the key for understanding the world where we live in is to … analyze and define the nonsense that we see in the curent reality.
And we see around us so many people that have absolutely everything they ever dreamed … except happiness.
The human being of today … lives in much better conditions and has more options as a king from hundreds of years ago had.
But it’s weird seeing so many … lost souls.
I recently saw a movie with the life of a writer, which lived in the south of France.
He was so unhappy in his marriage …. but still too coward to
divorce and start a new life.
So … somehow in a need of becoming neutral … he started to live more inside of him.
The only expression of his thoughts and feelings was … to write books.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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IF IT'S NO LOVE IT'S KARMIC
philosophical essays
It became the only way in how he proved his courage …. but
in the same time hoping that his wife will not find out what he was doing.
After a while … seeing that something was wrong, they decided to go to the therapist together.
The wife starts to detail their story …. saying in the same
time that her intuition says that her husband is cheating on her … having also a parallel life.
“Listen … if you allow me to speak. I am 60 years old … and i am retired.
I stay mainly in the village … and actually don’t even leave our house.
In fact … i spend all my day on the couch.
All what she just said … is illusory.
I believe she is suffering of paranoia.”
The counselor … smiled … but the wife started to be angry. “You are lying. You stay indeed on the couch … but you are not in there anymore by years.
I am 100% that you cheat on me.
I observe your absence … by years.”
“How can you say i am absent …. If i stay at 50-60 cm by
you … on the same couch”.
Now the counselor became annoyed.
“Listen … let’s simple discuss.
Is not necessary to act like this.
David …. I believe what you are saying is true …. but also
what your wife is saying to me … is true.
Most probably … disliking your life together … you’ve created an inner world … and you live in there … like a refugee. Your wife sees you … but also sees your absence.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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You stay on the same couch … but you are not there.
It’s a weird paradox … i know ….cause both of you are right
and the only real thing you can do it to …. become present in
your marriage.”
David becomes angry.
“There is no law to force me to become present into my marriage.
I know the concepts of Carpe Diem and others blablablas … but i prefer my fox whole.”
The therapist realized it’s all useless to analyze and define what is going on … cause they both knew the truth about their story.
A story that he heard so, so many times.
The therapist could even consider to write a book … about all those cases … but again found it as a nonsense … cause … no body is listening to his advices anyway.
So … he smiled …. and left his office …. letting the husband
and wife to argue … cause most probably it was all a karmic matter between the 2 of them.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
13
IF IT'S NO LOVE IT'S KARMIC
philosophical essays
Sometimes they just can’t …. hear us.
It’s like you are a ghost
… and can’t stand it anymore
Does it ever happened to you speak with the people from the timeline of your life … but feel that they can’t hear you?! And you say what you have to say … once … twice … and then on and on and on … and they just can’t hear your voice. They don’t even feel your presence. It is unbelievable … but why?!
Why you look …. like a ghost?!
I look into my past, even in the near past … and i had this weird feeling so, so many times. And again i wonder myself … why?!
I close my eyes … i try to meditate … and suddenly the answer comes.
My god … i’ve been such an idiot.
The answer was so damn simple.
In fact it’s maybe a life lesson .
Something … almost karmic.
I did not know to connect to them … and the lesson was repeated to me on and on and on.
And i felt so ridiculous …. being a ghost.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
14
IF IT'S NO LOVE IT'S KARMIC
philosophical essays
I analyzed myself …. and i was not acting like an illusory
volatile entity … but still … they had this “ghost” perspective over my thoughts, desires, actions and all what i was doing on the timeline of life.
But the huge problem i had … was that i still had no idea how i could change the situation.
Sometimes … it all became a horrible experience … and i could not stand it anymore.
And then i remembered about my handicap … that i was not able to connect to all those people.
I called them annoying … but the problem was on my side. So … maybe i could not accept it … but … i continued being a ghost.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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And the philosophical question is … should we experience also the pathless paths or just ignore them?
Sheila liked him in the beginning.
He was weird … but in a beautiful way.
Same … as her.
Difficult to be … understood.
In fact … too abstract to be …. understood.
So, after meeting him the 3rd time … she writes him in the morning:
“I don't think it's worth continuing. I can't, I'm serious. You got what you wanted, you saw me, you spent some time with me, and let's stop there. This is stupid, and very wrong, I'm sorry, but I really can't.”
He was laughing reading her message.
He wanted to just smile … but ended laughing, cause it all became a tacit understanding that it was a pathless paths for both of them.
The only difference between him and her … was maybe that she was afraid of such paths, but he loved exploring them. The nonsense was defining the whole situation. So … she was annoyed … and he was laughing.
Could they continue?!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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philosophical essays
Should it make any sense?
Maybe yes …. maybe no.
I found it weird that he wanted to continue such a story … of connecting and disconnecting all the time. Then i understood what he had the mind.
He actually believe in such an abstract therapy, similar with the therapy in couple, but the only difference was that the 2 of them are 2 strangers one with another.
But he insisted as he will become her therapist and she will become the same for him.
She disliked again … everything.
It started as a possible love story … but refusing to connect to him …. or maybe to accept his tendencies just a little bit … everything was fucked up.
She desired a connection.
A real one.
He only wanted to explore the connection … no matter if it was or not a pathless path.
Those weird feelings of connecting and disconnecting to each other … started to dominate again and again … the story. And it became so obvious it’s not a love story …. but a karmic … idiotic story.
The way they acted … ruined a possible beautiful experience
which was metamorphosed in the end … into a cocktail of banality … and nonsense.
It was so funny reading on their faces the 2 perspectives about what was going on.
