If you want to become a wise person, you should spend time with wise persons, even if there is nothing you could tell them.
Just being in that energy field will help you a lot to go in the direction you want to be.
Fake it, is the start ... means preparing and it helps a lot the start of the process, but when you want a big change in your life, you need to know that quantum jump means forget about where you are and jump in a world that is far, far away from where you are today.
That means ... you are fat and want to become slim, you need to totally forget about the pleasure of eating.
If you are poor and want to become rich, you will probably need to work 3-4-5 times more.
The main idea ... everything has a price.
You pay the price, you are making the jump into that parallel world where you want to be.
But the truth about the truth is that people are dreaming a lot, but they are not ready yet to pay the price for that dream. ... and dreaming is not enough.
A dear friend of mine, married with a successful businessman, tried to divorce about 10 times, since i know her.
In the beginning, even if she changed her mind at the end of the process of divorcing, i even encourage her that next time she will be ready for that, even if she failed.
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
And every time she was extremely unhappy ... she started again the process of divorce, but without asking herself if she is ready of forgetting about the luxury life that she had with the successful businessman.
Today, laughing a little bit of her, i just call her the queen of faking.
It does not mean that she will not be happy one day ... but be aware not to just pretend ... but act with all your heart.
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
The absence of hope
“Do u still believe in us?!
I mean ... 1%?!”
On the path of life ... i mean the real one, not the one from our head ... we just live all kinds of disappointments ... that ruins everything means hope.
The optimism is the illusion of a better reality ... or even of a great reality ... but how should exists hope in the soul, without the illusion that we can live in a beautiful reality?!
It says that the secret of life is enjoying the present moment... but just as it is. It basically can be translated as ... you can be in a beautiful restaurant with your partner ... that person that you dislike and hate so much ... and see how unhappy you are ... even if the atmosphere from that place is fantastic.
The food is great, the waiter is a very nice person, the lady from the bar smiles
you ... but the person in front of you, while staying on the table ... is driving you
crazy with that look.
And you do what?!
You just feel miserable again.
One more time, you went out to change your vibe ... and you just ruined even more the vibe you had.
Maybe no one ever told you about ... “Enjoy the present moment!” ... or you just don’t know what Carpe Diem means ... but no matter where you are, on the timeline of your life ... in a luxury restaurant or in the prison canteen, staying with other prisoners on the table ... you should just enjoy that you are alive and try to see the beautiful side of what you have in the real life. You see, in a love story, you can be the prisoner of that story.
There will be many moments of disappointments between the 2 of you.
You can feel like being in a beautiful restaurant, but only staying in the kitchen of an ugly rented apartment ... or staying in the most expensive restaurant from Monte Carlo and feel like you are eating in the prison canteen, staying near the other “prisoner” ... which is your partner.
Maybe you should try to find the 1% ... of believing in the 2 of you ... as a couple.
Wayne Dyer used to say ... “change the way you look at things and the things you look at change”.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
Misunderstanding everything it happened.
Was it love or lust?!
Jumping from the status of soul mates to ... sex mates.
The mind is tricky.
It defines everything according to the desires we have inside of us and let us believe that what we think is what reality actually is.
I recently read a book about a couple that thought they are living the love story of their life, but after almost 2 years they realised that they went out to drink a coffee togheter only 3, or maximum 5 times.
2 years ... 3 coffees.
So they drunk togheter one coffee and a half a year.
I thought for the moment, that this is irrelevant after all, because i usually don’t pay so much attention to the details, but in the book was written also that he loved coffee and he used to drink 5-6-7 coffees a day.
So the book was about a fantastic love story, telling all the details happened at that time, but the main philosophical question the author was asking was ... “what is this about ... love or lust?!”.
But what are the details that defines the real story?!
How can the character from the book can be defined ... if he loves coffee, drinks 7 coffees a day, but he drunk only one and a half coffee in a year with the love of his life?!
Was it a love story ... or just lust?!
Or maybe the whole meaning of the story was to enjoy the passion between the two of them and nothing more.
We like it or not ... analyzing the statistic details of any story ... we might see the truth that we don’t want to talk about.
Or maybe the 2 characters from that story needed too much love ... and they forgot to go out and enjoy also the pleasure of spending time togheter in a coffee shop.
So ... love or lust?!
Maybe today is lust ... tomorrow is love ... but in the end the statistics data will define the real truth ... even if you accept it or not.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
But whatever it is, if you feel that the story as a blessing in your life ... it’s all what you need at that moment from the timeline of your life.
Soul mates or sex mates ... or the cocktail between the 2 of them ... no matter what it is ... just enjoy the story.
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Defining the undefined
The One
“The one in your life
Is the one for you
No one else will do
Smiles and laughter
Make the day lighter and brighter
Seeing the sparkle in your eyes
Makes life all that much better
When your together
When the night comes and hold on tight
Makes life alright, because of the one in your life” What does it means ... “the one”?!
“The one” ... means someone special?! ... or someone the Universe “reserved” for you?!
The question is quite a philosophical one, especially today when is so easy to find a partner, but not “the one” ... the soul mate.
But is not a matter of choosing and more of connecting to the right person that is
in this world ... especially for you.
How do you recognize that person?!
Well ... will “make your days lighter and brighter” ... and you will just become a
new, but also better version of yourself.
Yes ... that is the secret.
Not more than 100 years ago, marriages were arranged, usually by parents, and you could not choose your partner.
Today ... i think that because of internet and social media especially ... it’s extremely easy to arrange a date ... or even start a new relationship.
But “the one” ... usually does not live on the same street with you, to find him / her so easy.
“The one for you” is the person teaching you the lesson that life means also magic...and appears at the right time, even if you might think is not the right time.
Letting the Universe make the connection between the 2 of you ... is the wisest decision.
Wait ... and feel it.
“The one” will come.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
Is love a fantasy?!
“Wrap me in your wings
Take me with you,
Let’s soar to new heights
Being in love with you
Wrap me in your wings
Take me with you
Let’s begin a new story”
I wonder myself what appears first ... the love story?! ... or the fantasy?!
Or is the love story itself ... a simple story seen as a fantasy?!
Or maybe the love story is a mix between love and fantasy.
Whatever it is, love or fantasy is clear that we lose our minds when it comes to those 2 subjects.
And you start dreaming about “being in love with you”.
But the funny thing is that sometimes reality can be much greater than the fantasy and you will be amazed of what is going to happen.
At the right time, with the right person ... being in love ... living the fantasy ... is
daring to risk losing your soul.
But the price ... is the infinite love.
So ... does it worth to “take me with you”.
Well ... if you understand that life is not about money, properties or any other kinds of succes stories ... you will see that everything you gain in life are ... the memories ... the beautiful ones.
Love or simple fantasy ... in the end we can define those moments as great ones.
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
When I met you
“When I met you,
You changed my world
Different days, different
paths came our way
That lead us astray.
Who would have guessed
We’d meet again by some chance
It was fate that day
I fell so in love with you
I never want to let you go
Different days, different paths
Made us who we are today
Different Day, Different Path
Let’s take it day by day”
What is the meaning of a love story?! ... why it happens?! ... and when it happens?!
I believe that the whole meaning is about redefining the way you see life ... and it happens usually when you are ready.
Sometimes it happens at 20, or 30, or 40 ... or even 65 ... why not?!
It’s not a certain age you need to start the love story.
It’s only the perfect moment.
Love can change your world and the paths you follow ... if you are lucky enough
to meet your soul mate.
When?! ... is a good question.
And he / she is the answear.
If you are ready ... don’t let it go ... when it happens.
And even if love looks like leads you astray ... just enjoy it.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
Mr Selfishness and Mrs Vanity
The perfect love story
It happens that i know 2 lovely people.
They are the perfect couple and when i say it, i say it from all my heart.
I see them as soulmates.
The only problem with the 2 of them is that they have very strong personalities and they brake up even twice a week.
I even name them Mr Selfishness and Mrs Vanity, cause they really represent the supreme vanity and selfishness.
But can love resists in the same story with the 2 problems?
What is vanity?!
What is selfishness?!
What has love to do with them?!
I believe vanity is good sometimes, cause it helps you develop a strong personality.
Selfishness helps you see always your interest.
So ... strong personality ... which means caring a lot about your thoughts and ideas and on the other hand ... selfishness, which means arranging the things in a way as things to be ok mainly or especially for you ... and on the other hand the love story.
My friends are 100% soulmates.
Anyone could understand that if would meet with them.
Just seeing how they look one at another ... you see the infinite love.
But the cocktail vanity, selfishness and love is ruining everything ... and they have lots of headaches with their personalities. Braking up 100 times a year is just part of the script.
I believe the Universe, laughing a little bit of them ... especially of their personalities ... arranged the things as they could meet.
A love story is about a couple, not about 2 persons ... but the 2 of them being togheter.
Everything has to do with your own Ego ... will destroy the beauty of the story. Redefining the way you see the story ... saying “us” instead of “i” ... is the key of practicing love in a beautiful way.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
You think ... the love feelings have an expiration date?! Well .. in many cases ... yes.
You see them happy for such a long time and later on you see that they don’t even say “hello” one to another ... and you don’t understand anything at all.
It was the perfect love story ... but today it’s not a love story anymore ... but a
story ... an ended love story.
But why?!
Why a fantastic love story is starting and later on you see the end?!
Well ... when everything starts is the connections between the 2 of them ... that hides the real characters.
It’s a blindness ... from both sides.
But later on, when different situations appear ... the real character of each partner is revealed.
The way life is seen, the interests of each of them, the desires, the needs, the
expectations ... everything is revealed.
The Universe connects 2 souls.
As Tinder is saying ... it’s “Perfect Match” ... but the Universe made this match only according to the souls, not to the characters of those persons.
The differences of opinions appears ... and the thought of building a future togheter looks like something uncertain.
Instead of seeing and continuing the love story in a beautiful way, an unseen war of domination starts between the 2 of them. And this is the begining of the end.
Each of them wants as the way things are happening to be in a certain way, having the values of the own vision.
Not having the wisdom to find the middle way, a path that includes both scenarios from the 2 sides ... the story goes to an useless negotiation that just ruins everything.
Not understanding that being in a couple means to care about your partners, his / her dreams and desires ... and not about negotiation ... or even worst ... domination ... this is the path of going to the end of the story.
Deciding to be in a love story for real means forget about who you are as an individual and care .. about the 2 of you ... as a couple.
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
Being in a story ... is about redefining a little bit about who you are ... and if is real love ... you will accept everything from the other side. Don’t let you love story ... have an “expiration date”!
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Defining the undefined
“Let’s agree to just love one another without expectation”
How can we define love without expectation?!
