you ... but also for myself ... but that’s the only way I can act
... today”.
I was not judging Susan in any way.
She was a nice person ... but also a great writer.
Maybe her life was a total mess ... but this is how life is ... many, many times ... weird and we need to find a way to express ourselves.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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We are defined by
what we ... love
We define ourselves in one million ways ... and today i see more and more people that are mastering the art of personal marketing ... presenting themselves in an amazing way. But what does it mean to present yourself?!
What is the purpose?!
Does it make any sense to do it?
What if we should decide as one day ... just to be ... us ... without the obsession of telling to the others who we really are ... or why we are the way we are?!
“Be yourself!” ... sounds already as a cliche ... cause lots of people are saying it ... but not so many are applying the concept itself.
But the nonsense appears when ... we realize in the end the fact that ... nobody really cares about who we are.
Or if someone does it ... we are talking only about few people ... like parents, close friends ... the spouse ...
And is funny ... cause all those people would love and accept us ... anyway .... no matter who we really are.
We start to see ... that all that personal marketing is useless ... and does not make any sense. So ... we wonder ... who we really are?!
Today i believe that we are ... what we love ... not even what we think ... just what we love.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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I personally love ... socializing ( i somehow feeding myself with that), houses (i have an obsession for houses since i was a kid) , sex (yes ... i love it), coffee (i am drinking 7-8 coffees a day and i am even wondering what i love more ...
coffee or sex?) ... and of course ... money. ( money empowers me all the time).
On the other had ... by few years ... i write.
I realized that this is kind of a therapy for myself and i am my own therapist.
Helps me a lot ... to have control over myself ... much better as i had in the past.
Writing is like taking a pill ... in the morning, but also in the night and i am wondering ... why i haven’t done it long time before?!
I like it ... i love it ... and it also helps me a lot.
I also used to love ... red wine.
I was drinking a bottle ... every night.
I was writing about 10 books with love essays ... under the
influence of alcohol ... and i am wondering now if ... the
illusion of all those more than 1200 written pages ... was the
effect of the amazing wine i was consuming ... or i was
probably in love at that time?!
Who the hell knows ...
One thing is clear to me ... today .... when i don’t consume
alcohol anymore ... i am defined a lot ... by what i love.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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Tell him beautiful lies
and he will treat you
as ... a queen
In my book “THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE” ( ) ... which is in fact a collection of love essays ... i wrote a lot about illusory love stories.
I named that ... “the beautiful illusions”... and i smile today seeing so many people in love ... posting so much on social media about their love stories.
But i also have moments .... when i ask myself ... if desiring
a new love story ... is really a path ... one that i should follow.
On the other hand i also saw over the years lots of stories ...
ended into a silly way.
One day, the magic disappeared ... and also that amazing relationship.
... and i wonder ... why?!
Well ... somehow ... that blindness which made them see only the beautiful side of the partner ... ended ... or was maybe ... cured.
They started to see the dark side also ... which stopped them saying and writing so, so many beautiful words to each other. The love story became in the end .. a ruin. So?!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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Was i right ... when i named a love story ... “a beautiful illusion”?!
I remember that about 25 years ago i met an old couple ... they were between 70-75 years old ... and they were so in love ... that i wondered myself if they just smoked ... weed. It all looked as a nonsense.
We were staying on the table in the living room ... in an apartment, close to the city center.
It was me ... my girlfriend from that time, her grandma ....
and that couple.
The guy was kissing his wife.
I was saying into my mind ... “I can’t believe it! This is not real. This old man is kissing his wife as he should be 20. Seeing me staring at him ... he was saying to me ... “Young man! The secret of a long beautiful love story is telling from time to time ... little beautiful lies.
When we got married and she cooked me for the first time, the food was horrible ... but i told her that was an amazing meal.
Little by little ... the taste of the food became better, but our love story kept its beauty all this time since we are together. Keep that in mind ... and you will have a non ending happy marriage.”
But ... time passed and i forget about what that old gentleman told me ... cause i never had a beautiful marriage. And i smile again ... realizing that most probably she was telling him also beautiful lies ... cause he was treating her as a queen.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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The mind is always following all types of silly tricks ... just to delay the journey to a better path
I believe in a simple theory for a better life .... which is based
on a following steps ... analyze, define, redefine.
I actually wrote a book with the same title ... explaining how i became over the years ... my own therapist ... just by talking a lot with myself and then writing my thoughts. But let me be honest with you.
... it was not an easy journey.
It took months ... and maybe i could even say ... years ... to start being honest with myself. I was all the time lying.
I was lying a lot ... but not the people from my life .... but
myself.
Until one day when i understood that life is the way it is ...
and not how i should want it to be ... cause i was not honest ... in this process of healing. I was the therapist.
I was also the ... patient ... but the therapy was not having great results.
Somehow ... i was still trying to hide things ... to avoid the change ... and delay at maximum everything. I could give you a funny example.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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... and am still laughing reading again my conversations with a dear friend that saved my ass recently.
Was actually a nightmare situation .... and i wanted to
absolutely any price just to solve the issue ... until i actually solved it.
After the nightmare just stop, thanks to my friend ... i was calling him and asked ... “can’t we just negotiate a little bit with those persons that created me those terrible problems ... to a pay a little bit less to close the situation?!” My friend smiled.
He saw me jumping from the wish to pay any price just to get rid of the nightmare .... to the trick of negotiation.
I was actually in the situation of not being able to sleep in the night ... because of that problem ... but when it stoped for a short time ... i just thought i am saved and i can ignore one more time everything happened.
Totally forgot the ... the situation ... and i was starting to think of all kinds of silly tricks just to delay the real path to follow ... which was in fact just close the story ... not carrying at all about any negotiation.
... i was in fact negotiating ... my inner piece.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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28 cents ... the price of a
little chocolate ... but also the profit came after a huge work of few years
I’ve been involved close to 2 years into an important project ... which recently started to generate profit.
One day ....i’ve watched into my bank account and saw that
someone transferred me from the Bank of America ... 28 cents.
Thousands of hours and lots of energy invested ... and now the first results started to appear ... but it was ridiculous. You might wonder if that is kind of a silly joke ... or simple ... a total nonsense.
Well ... maybe i should define everything ... just as a real
case scenario.
Nothing more.
Nothing less.
I was laughing.
What the hell could i do with 28 cents?
I go in a supermarket ... and i search for more than 5 minutes to find ... a chocolate having that price. ... and i find it.
A little sweet chocolate ... which i remember from the time i was a little kid.
I start laughing again.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
49
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After investing so much fucking time and energy ... i got ... a little chocolate.
Quite funny ... isn’t it?!
Well ... maybe it was the perfect time for myself to understand the meaning of positivity ... or maybe the Universe was tasting my patience.
But whatever it was going on ... even if everything was indeed a total nonsense ... all what i can tell you ... is that the little chocolate ... had an amazing taste.
The sensation itself ... worth more than 28 cents ... so ... smiling and seeing positivity in everything ... might be the real key for a beautiful happy life ... no matter what is going on.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
50
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Sometimes ... it’s all about a war of ... perceptions
If i would define myself in front of you ... in an honest way ...
i would only say that l’m an experts into ... conflicts.
Don’t get me wrong ... i am not an expert into management of conflicts, but on .... having conflicts with other people ... cause i did this one million times.
I also know that ... defining myself this way might create you the wrong impression that i am the kind of person that has conflicts with ... everybody.
But no ... no ... i’m not that kind of profile.
I just have a long list of conflicts in my personal cv. Coming back in time ... and analyzing all what happened over the years ... i suddenly realize the nonsense of all those situations and actually ... the fact that it was all a war of perceptions ... my perceptions ... and their perceptions.
I fought for some silly ideas ... that in fact are not really so important .... not even for myself ... which is ridiculous ... but maybe this is just the perception from today.
So ... the me from today sees the same situation in a totally different way ... but the me i was in the days of those conflicts ... believed too much in the illusion of my view over the situation.
But still ... even if i see all that, even if i understand the subject quite well ... in the end i can’t believe i act in the
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same way ... in the present moment.
On the other hand i remember about a discussion i had with a guy that had a 2 stars hotel ... and had lots of ugly reviews on internet.
I told him what people are writing about the hotel and he smiled .... saying to me:
“You see ... it’s all a perception.
In here are coming hundreds of people weekly.
Some of them are happy cause they pay a cheap price ... one of a 2 stars hotel ... but expect that the conditions from here to be of 3 or 4 stars.
They perceptions create in their mind illusory expectations from us ... but in end we are ... a cheap hotel. I am not mad on them.
Only 1% of those people are unhappy with us. With the rest of the other 99% ... everything is ok”
The guy was not even bothering to answer to all those ugly reviews ... so i ask myself ... why should i bother when i see in my life a stupid war of perceptions ... between me and someone else?!
Why don’t i treat those situations like the owner of that hotel?!
Why don’t i find the power to practice ... the ignorance?!
I was reanalyzing again ... the case of that hotel ... and i also realized that in the same way i deal with hundreds of people and maybe ... only 1% of the people from my life are the real problem.
And is so damm funny to see how silly i act on the stage of life .... generating real gorilla wars ... just because i had
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
52
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different perceptions in a certain moment.
I say ... funny ... cause today we might both see the situation in the same way ...having the same perception. And all we could do is ... laugh of how idiots we’ve been ...
and maybe understand the concept of ... the nonsense. We’ve actually practiced it ... as a way of living , believing we practice ... kind of an art.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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We really have an addiction for ... weird things
I was searching over the internet for a vintage car ... and i was amazed that someone from UK was selling ... an army tank.
It had a Rolls-Royce engine ... and a price of ... 130.000 euros.
The tank was presented as an ideal investment for renting it to ... off road weddings.
I’ve been surprised of such a concept ... not really knowing something about it.
Why should someone rent a tank for a wedding?!
Why such a nonsense?!
Well ... maybe the seller was an ironic person ... considering that the moment of getting marry is the beginning of kind of a ... war.
I was laughing ... but then i was starting to think a little bit deeper about ... that.
And all it came into my mind was seeing everything as a human desire for ... weird things.
Yes ... we do have an unexplained search for ... nonsenses ... but still i want to know ... why?!
Well ... maybe is the search of doing ... unique things, that no one ... or not so many thought about.
But it’s not that we do search for such concepts ... but
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
54
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Philosophical essays
everything becomes in the end ... almost an addiction. I sent the pictures to a friend that knows that i write about ... nonsense ... and he just asked ... “Imagine you would buy it and then use it as a your car ... in your daily activities.
How it should be?!”
I smiled ... cause i suddenly realized i do have this addiction for ... weird things.
... today”.
I was not judging Susan in any way.
She was a nice person ... but also a great writer.
Maybe her life was a total mess ... but this is how life is ... many, many times ... weird and we need to find a way to express ourselves.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
42
PRACTICING … THE NON SENSE … AN AS ART
Philosophical essays
We are defined by
what we ... love
We define ourselves in one million ways ... and today i see more and more people that are mastering the art of personal marketing ... presenting themselves in an amazing way. But what does it mean to present yourself?!
What is the purpose?!
Does it make any sense to do it?
What if we should decide as one day ... just to be ... us ... without the obsession of telling to the others who we really are ... or why we are the way we are?!
“Be yourself!” ... sounds already as a cliche ... cause lots of people are saying it ... but not so many are applying the concept itself.
But the nonsense appears when ... we realize in the end the fact that ... nobody really cares about who we are.
Or if someone does it ... we are talking only about few people ... like parents, close friends ... the spouse ...
And is funny ... cause all those people would love and accept us ... anyway .... no matter who we really are.
We start to see ... that all that personal marketing is useless ... and does not make any sense. So ... we wonder ... who we really are?!
Today i believe that we are ... what we love ... not even what we think ... just what we love.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
43
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I personally love ... socializing ( i somehow feeding myself with that), houses (i have an obsession for houses since i was a kid) , sex (yes ... i love it), coffee (i am drinking 7-8 coffees a day and i am even wondering what i love more ...
coffee or sex?) ... and of course ... money. ( money empowers me all the time).
On the other had ... by few years ... i write.
I realized that this is kind of a therapy for myself and i am my own therapist.
Helps me a lot ... to have control over myself ... much better as i had in the past.
Writing is like taking a pill ... in the morning, but also in the night and i am wondering ... why i haven’t done it long time before?!
I like it ... i love it ... and it also helps me a lot.
I also used to love ... red wine.
I was drinking a bottle ... every night.
I was writing about 10 books with love essays ... under the
influence of alcohol ... and i am wondering now if ... the
illusion of all those more than 1200 written pages ... was the
effect of the amazing wine i was consuming ... or i was
probably in love at that time?!
Who the hell knows ...
One thing is clear to me ... today .... when i don’t consume
alcohol anymore ... i am defined a lot ... by what i love.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
44
PRACTICING … THE NON SENSE … AN AS ART
Philosophical essays
Tell him beautiful lies
and he will treat you
as ... a queen
In my book “THE BEAUTIFUL ILLUSION OF BEING IN LOVE” ( ) ... which is in fact a collection of love essays ... i wrote a lot about illusory love stories.
I named that ... “the beautiful illusions”... and i smile today seeing so many people in love ... posting so much on social media about their love stories.
But i also have moments .... when i ask myself ... if desiring
a new love story ... is really a path ... one that i should follow.
On the other hand i also saw over the years lots of stories ...
ended into a silly way.
One day, the magic disappeared ... and also that amazing relationship.
... and i wonder ... why?!
Well ... somehow ... that blindness which made them see only the beautiful side of the partner ... ended ... or was maybe ... cured.
They started to see the dark side also ... which stopped them saying and writing so, so many beautiful words to each other. The love story became in the end .. a ruin. So?!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
45
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Was i right ... when i named a love story ... “a beautiful illusion”?!
I remember that about 25 years ago i met an old couple ... they were between 70-75 years old ... and they were so in love ... that i wondered myself if they just smoked ... weed. It all looked as a nonsense.
We were staying on the table in the living room ... in an apartment, close to the city center.
It was me ... my girlfriend from that time, her grandma ....
and that couple.
The guy was kissing his wife.
I was saying into my mind ... “I can’t believe it! This is not real. This old man is kissing his wife as he should be 20. Seeing me staring at him ... he was saying to me ... “Young man! The secret of a long beautiful love story is telling from time to time ... little beautiful lies.
When we got married and she cooked me for the first time, the food was horrible ... but i told her that was an amazing meal.
Little by little ... the taste of the food became better, but our love story kept its beauty all this time since we are together. Keep that in mind ... and you will have a non ending happy marriage.”
But ... time passed and i forget about what that old gentleman told me ... cause i never had a beautiful marriage. And i smile again ... realizing that most probably she was telling him also beautiful lies ... cause he was treating her as a queen.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
46
PRACTICING … THE NON SENSE … AN AS ART
Philosophical essays
The mind is always following all types of silly tricks ... just to delay the journey to a better path
I believe in a simple theory for a better life .... which is based
on a following steps ... analyze, define, redefine.
I actually wrote a book with the same title ... explaining how i became over the years ... my own therapist ... just by talking a lot with myself and then writing my thoughts. But let me be honest with you.
... it was not an easy journey.
It took months ... and maybe i could even say ... years ... to start being honest with myself. I was all the time lying.
I was lying a lot ... but not the people from my life .... but
myself.
Until one day when i understood that life is the way it is ...
and not how i should want it to be ... cause i was not honest ... in this process of healing. I was the therapist.
I was also the ... patient ... but the therapy was not having great results.
Somehow ... i was still trying to hide things ... to avoid the change ... and delay at maximum everything. I could give you a funny example.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
47
PRACTICING … THE NON SENSE … AN AS ART Philosophical essays
... and am still laughing reading again my conversations with a dear friend that saved my ass recently.
Was actually a nightmare situation .... and i wanted to
absolutely any price just to solve the issue ... until i actually solved it.
After the nightmare just stop, thanks to my friend ... i was calling him and asked ... “can’t we just negotiate a little bit with those persons that created me those terrible problems ... to a pay a little bit less to close the situation?!” My friend smiled.
He saw me jumping from the wish to pay any price just to get rid of the nightmare .... to the trick of negotiation.
I was actually in the situation of not being able to sleep in the night ... because of that problem ... but when it stoped for a short time ... i just thought i am saved and i can ignore one more time everything happened.
Totally forgot the ... the situation ... and i was starting to think of all kinds of silly tricks just to delay the real path to follow ... which was in fact just close the story ... not carrying at all about any negotiation.
... i was in fact negotiating ... my inner piece.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
48
PRACTICING … THE NON SENSE … AN AS ART
Philosophical essays
28 cents ... the price of a
little chocolate ... but also the profit came after a huge work of few years
I’ve been involved close to 2 years into an important project ... which recently started to generate profit.
One day ....i’ve watched into my bank account and saw that
someone transferred me from the Bank of America ... 28 cents.
Thousands of hours and lots of energy invested ... and now the first results started to appear ... but it was ridiculous. You might wonder if that is kind of a silly joke ... or simple ... a total nonsense.
Well ... maybe i should define everything ... just as a real
case scenario.
Nothing more.
Nothing less.
I was laughing.
What the hell could i do with 28 cents?
I go in a supermarket ... and i search for more than 5 minutes to find ... a chocolate having that price. ... and i find it.
A little sweet chocolate ... which i remember from the time i was a little kid.
I start laughing again.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
49
PRACTICING … THE NON SENSE … AN AS ART
Philosophical essays
After investing so much fucking time and energy ... i got ... a little chocolate.
Quite funny ... isn’t it?!
Well ... maybe it was the perfect time for myself to understand the meaning of positivity ... or maybe the Universe was tasting my patience.
But whatever it was going on ... even if everything was indeed a total nonsense ... all what i can tell you ... is that the little chocolate ... had an amazing taste.
The sensation itself ... worth more than 28 cents ... so ... smiling and seeing positivity in everything ... might be the real key for a beautiful happy life ... no matter what is going on.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
50
PRACTICING … THE NON SENSE … AN AS ART
Philosophical essays
Sometimes ... it’s all about a war of ... perceptions
If i would define myself in front of you ... in an honest way ...
i would only say that l’m an experts into ... conflicts.
Don’t get me wrong ... i am not an expert into management of conflicts, but on .... having conflicts with other people ... cause i did this one million times.
I also know that ... defining myself this way might create you the wrong impression that i am the kind of person that has conflicts with ... everybody.
But no ... no ... i’m not that kind of profile.
I just have a long list of conflicts in my personal cv. Coming back in time ... and analyzing all what happened over the years ... i suddenly realize the nonsense of all those situations and actually ... the fact that it was all a war of perceptions ... my perceptions ... and their perceptions.
I fought for some silly ideas ... that in fact are not really so important .... not even for myself ... which is ridiculous ... but maybe this is just the perception from today.
So ... the me from today sees the same situation in a totally different way ... but the me i was in the days of those conflicts ... believed too much in the illusion of my view over the situation.
But still ... even if i see all that, even if i understand the subject quite well ... in the end i can’t believe i act in the
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
51
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same way ... in the present moment.
On the other hand i remember about a discussion i had with a guy that had a 2 stars hotel ... and had lots of ugly reviews on internet.
I told him what people are writing about the hotel and he smiled .... saying to me:
“You see ... it’s all a perception.
In here are coming hundreds of people weekly.
Some of them are happy cause they pay a cheap price ... one of a 2 stars hotel ... but expect that the conditions from here to be of 3 or 4 stars.
They perceptions create in their mind illusory expectations from us ... but in end we are ... a cheap hotel. I am not mad on them.
Only 1% of those people are unhappy with us. With the rest of the other 99% ... everything is ok”
The guy was not even bothering to answer to all those ugly reviews ... so i ask myself ... why should i bother when i see in my life a stupid war of perceptions ... between me and someone else?!
Why don’t i treat those situations like the owner of that hotel?!
Why don’t i find the power to practice ... the ignorance?!
I was reanalyzing again ... the case of that hotel ... and i also realized that in the same way i deal with hundreds of people and maybe ... only 1% of the people from my life are the real problem.
And is so damm funny to see how silly i act on the stage of life .... generating real gorilla wars ... just because i had
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
52
PRACTICING … THE NON SENSE … AN AS ART
Philosophical essays
different perceptions in a certain moment.
I say ... funny ... cause today we might both see the situation in the same way ...having the same perception. And all we could do is ... laugh of how idiots we’ve been ...
and maybe understand the concept of ... the nonsense. We’ve actually practiced it ... as a way of living , believing we practice ... kind of an art.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
53
PRACTICING … THE NON SENSE … AN AS ART
Philosophical essays
We really have an addiction for ... weird things
I was searching over the internet for a vintage car ... and i was amazed that someone from UK was selling ... an army tank.
It had a Rolls-Royce engine ... and a price of ... 130.000 euros.
The tank was presented as an ideal investment for renting it to ... off road weddings.
I’ve been surprised of such a concept ... not really knowing something about it.
Why should someone rent a tank for a wedding?!
Why such a nonsense?!
Well ... maybe the seller was an ironic person ... considering that the moment of getting marry is the beginning of kind of a ... war.
I was laughing ... but then i was starting to think a little bit deeper about ... that.
And all it came into my mind was seeing everything as a human desire for ... weird things.
Yes ... we do have an unexplained search for ... nonsenses ... but still i want to know ... why?!
Well ... maybe is the search of doing ... unique things, that no one ... or not so many thought about.
But it’s not that we do search for such concepts ... but
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
54
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Philosophical essays
everything becomes in the end ... almost an addiction. I sent the pictures to a friend that knows that i write about ... nonsense ... and he just asked ... “Imagine you would buy it and then use it as a your car ... in your daily activities.
How it should be?!”
I smiled ... cause i suddenly realized i do have this addiction for ... weird things.
