And … i could give them so, so many advices about what they should do … to redefine their lives …
Hmmm … but even if i also analyze myself all the time … and i know theory well … i don’t even see any other new scenario for myself.
Redefining my life … looks like an impossible plan.
Sounds so sad … and pessimistic… but maybe it’s better … to be honest in front of myself … than hide the truth with optimistic scenarios … without any sense at all.
Coming back to all those people that i observe all the time … i smile again … having such a weird clarity of observing life … Yes … indeed … that beautiful energy of the beginning … is disappearing … and … we forget that maybe the meaning of life is to simple enjoy it …. in the present moment … whatever that moment means.
Being in a couple … not letting ourselves be dominated by the world from outside our homes … focusing all the time on the joy of being where we are … could be a good scenario to follow.
Redefining … could be simple.
Talk more about … the couple.
Smile together.
And why not … dance … on a beautiful music.
Enjoy the relationship … and realize … there is no need of anything … to be happy.
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Open your eyes … and try to
understand the signs.
It’s so, so damn simple.
I write my books from home.
from the sofa from my living room. This is where i also meditate a lot.
I simple stay there … as a statue. And write.
Then meditate.
then write again.
And all i do … is not writing books … but actually have therapy lessons with myself.
I am the therapist … but also the patient.
It almost looks ridiculous… but what it is much more funnier is that even if i look today as a full time writer, cause i already published more than 30 books … in fact i am just having my therapy sessions … in the morning and in the night … defining all what is going on … on the stage of my life.
And to make you laugh … my only conclusion after writing so many books is that … my own life is dominated by … the nonsense.
But people started to read my books … cause as my friend Paul use to say … i am actually a reflection of the ordinary people …. and they find themselves into my stories.
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In my writings …. I use to even define me as … idiot … but
reading my analyzes …. not really admitting that i am a
reflection … they start ask themselves … “what if this guy is right?! What if i am … just as him?!”
It’s probably the first step for really starting the self therapy
to actually start asking yourselves … questions … more and more and more.
Going deeper … and deeper.
And most important …. look for the signs the Universe is whispering us.
Coming back to my own case …. at mt my sofa …. my kid let some artistic creations from his school … and asked no one to remove them from there.
It’s in my right side … where i stay on the sofa … but … i never saw the message behind that.
I was fucking my brain for so, so many years in a row …. but
could not find any answer about life … that could satisfy me.
And the answer was near me. Hearts … hearts … hearts …
Many, many hearts …. but i was blind and could not see the message from my little kid.
Maybe it was to damn abstract for my stupid brain of adult … and …
The message was there …
Probably … at the right time … i’ll open my eyes.
and my heart.
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Connecting on bad vibes … it’s many times .. a trap.
But … staying there … it’s just stupid.
Many times in my life … i let myself dominated by the outside world.
Today … as a writer … i even think of writing a book with the title … “Influencing and being influenced” … cause the subject itself … it’s huge … and extremely important.
But … truth be told … we live into an interconnected world … and influences can’t be denied … or avoid.
I analyze my life all the time … and started to pay attention to all the details … and i realized … somehow understanding the statistics about my life … that every time things go wrong
i am on the wrong vibe … and i should do something right away to change the vibrational frequency where i am.
You see … sometimes ….the persons around us … have a tremendous influence … but we can’t change our parents, brothers or sisters … or the spouse … simple because we don’t like anymore their energy.
Of course … we could ignore everything … at least for a while
till they change their attitude and everything related with the interactions we have with them … but what if that takes an eternity?!
Well … most probably everyone around us influences us … more or less ….
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The only decision we should take … is that …. the moment
when we see that things go bad … while we spend a long time in the company of the people that have ugly vibes … we should just avoid those interactions.
…. at least for a while.
And think about spending more time with people that carry
beautiful vibes in their souls.
People that empower us.
People that prove us … that life is also full filled with beautiful moments and vibes.
I know we don’t live into … a perfect world … but … still … we should become conscious about the influences of the outside world.
And no matter what happens … the second we realize we are not into a beautiful scene …. we should just ask ourselves … why the hell we accepted the wrong influences?!
Why should we remain on that energy?!
Being influenced … it’s ok.
… but … we should accept only beautiful influences.
Look around ourselves … analyze the world that surrounds us
and … take the decision to remain only and only … on beautiful vibrations.
So …. spending a life … near the right persons … becomes …. A MUST!!
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Special connections … between souls.
We like each other … but we pretend … it’s not like that … even if it is so damn obvious
Over the years i observed that sometimes ….with some of the
people from the timeline of my life … i really have special connections.
Both men and women.
But … many, many times i avoided showing that i really liked
those connections.
As many … others.
Looking … and analyzing the others …. I also try to
understand myself … but … in one point i simple can’t understand the …. non sense.
Why if 2 people … are having a special connection … why they don’t explore it … in all the ways?!
What if a man and a woman … both married … with someone
else … discover this special connection between them?!
What should they do?!
But what should i do?!
I remember that once i met a lady … that i would marry with … after 15 minutes.
I spent with her 2-3 hours into my office discussing about a project …. pretending that we really talked about that .. even
if in fact … we were enjoying the fact that we’ve met and … But …. never saw her again … after.
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Talked few times on the phone after … and never heard of her anymore.
The connection itself made me understand the meaning of a … special connection …
Maybe i knew that person from another life time … or … Today … i came to a point when i chase for … such connections … but unfortunately i am in a point of my life when i have to deal more with … karmic connections.
So … i just dream for that …. even if when life offers me that
opportunity … i always miss the chance of … enjoying that.
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Beyond the fear … you will always discover the joy of being alive
I speak with my dear friend Clara … all the time.
She’s married … and i am married too.
But the funny thing is that … she is too afraid to start an … experience with me.
We always speak so open …. but all it’s at a theoretical level.
She not even gave me … her phone number.
…. and i smile.
We actually have … kind of a virtual experience … which could be defined as a reality that we like, we dream about it
but we don’t allow ourselves to experience it. But why the hell not?!
Why is Clara afraid of?!
Why i can’t convince her for … 100%?!
But why we actually have a good connection and can’t take the decision to experience it for real?!
I meant … to taste it.
Well … maybe inside of myself … it’s even a bigger fear … than on Clara’s soul.
And i try to understand myself … but … i simple can’t. The way Clara is acting … is a nonsense … and i do act the same.
What are we afraid of?! Hmm ….
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Time will pass … and maybe this non sense fear will disappear.
And maybe me and Clara …
But who the hell knows if we will ever understand that beyond the fear … we will always discover the joy of being alive.
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Pay attention how you define the others … and listen to your words carefully.
All those analyzes define actually …. your
dark side.
I had the chance to meet and interact with thousands of people during my life time, but statistically speaking …. I did
not met so many people that know to define the people from the stage of their lives into a beautiful way. But i can tell you one thing … for sure.
We live in a world with philosophers and psychologists … that learnt the art of defining … most probably from the time when they were at the kindergarten. And i am not making jokes with you.
I met lots, lots of people that know to analyze and define ….
everything exists into this world.
This are simple … ordinary persons ….
But the question is …. do they practice the art of defining …
or they just love gossiping?!
Do those people know what gossip really is?!
Are they conscious that this is actually an energetic attack?! Do they know about the theory that all we see into this world is simple a reflection of the inner soul?!
Should we spend so much time defining the others?!
What is the purpose of all that?!
Does it make any sense to practice this habit?!
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What do we really hide doing that?!
Should we change the purpose of this need of analyzing and defining?!
Well … so many questions … but i can’t hear those persons telling anything about that.
I somehow practiced this habit also.
And maybe even worst … i even enjoyed doing that … but the good part is that later on … i became conscious about … the nonsense.
Did not stoped doing it … but instead of analyzing into a microscopically way the outer world … and all the people from around myself … i started to study …. my own soul.
I started to define all what i was seeing … while meditating with my eyes closed …. looking at myself … on the stage of the real life.
Soon …. I finally understood that all my other analyses
regarding the others … were actually about my dark side … which i avoided to explore.
It was all about … my reflection … but i was living the illusion of the self … on and on and on.
But … the journey of exploring my dark side started … and i was happy about it.
I stoped disliking things about the others … cause i knew it was about myself … and it was all related with all those stupid fears from my soul.
Fears … which i had to understand, accept … and actually treat them … so that my inner soul could be healed.
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Keep yourself on the right … vibe.
It’s one of the most important things in life.
I had moments when i felt i entered on some vibrational frequencies that were so damn ugly … but i could not change anything at all.
Everything collapsed around myself.
Well … everything except … myself.
I was in a horror movie … but someone else wrote the script … not me.
And i was meditating …. how the hell could i stop being there
… and have such a horrible life.
Most probably … the only thing left to do was to … go to the church and pray.
I even met one religiously guy that told me one day … “ Just pray to God! It’s your only chance … to survive and get rid of all that!”.
But i was more spiritual … and less religious.
Meditating on and on and on .. . I realized in the end that it’s not that i am an unlucky person … but i actually the one that decided to be like that.
I did not paid attention to my vibe.
I simple forgot that my vibe is the symbol that tells on which vibrational energy field i’ve connected.
I ignored that … and now i just payed the price for that
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mistake.
I looked again around myself.
I observed that chaotic world where i’ve been … and understood it’s the time to become either religious … or more spiritual.
I had no other chance to survive … otherwise i’d be all the time … into those karmic storms that were ruining me emotionally on and on and on.
I knew the tricks i had to do … but … i was still delaying everything.
And … the paid price for that was huge … cause everything
absolutely everything collapsed around myself. Changing my vibe … became … a must.
It was all part of my spiritual evolution … and even if i knew it … i was not doing the right things i had to do.
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Always listen to your intuition
and simple ignore the voices around yourself
I all the time hear people giving me advices.
On and on and on.
I even smile hearing all those details that they are telling me about … and wonder why they bother to do that … when they know so damn well that i never do what others wants me to do.
But what is funny is that i also realize that i’ve asked for those advices …. even if i did it into an unconscious way. I told them my life … and asked … “what shall i do?!”.
I did the same mistake as the others 99,99%.
I knew the real path … but i ignored it.
I knew all the time that all i need to do is to simple disconnect from the whole outside world … then connect deeper to my inner self … as in the end to find the path to the Infinite … and ask for guidance. I knew what intuition was.
