There will never be another you and maybe another chance ... so SAY YES!! Lots of people will define you ... just ignore them ... nobody has the right to tell you what to do with the things you feel in your soul.
Adrian G Dumitru
27
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
THERE ARE 2 KINDS OF UNHAPPY MARRIED PEOPLE:
THE OPTIMISTICS AND THE REALISTICS
There are 2 kinds of unhappy married people:
the optimistics and the realistics.
Marriage is very beautiful in the begining.
So beautiful that we just forget that during the years we saw so many unhappy couples.
The optimistic persons, even if somehow, they lost control over situation, still believe in marriage. They ignore all the bad signs and just continue on and on. The realistic persons ... they realise they might have no escape ... but in the end their life belongs only to them and during the marriage they try to see the happiness, at least for a while, somewhere else also. This is how the love affairs start.
It is moral?! It might not be ok but ... everything happens just to get some air ...
at least for a while.
How can we define this?!
In the end we can also see some of those people ... as divorced people.
They are the brave ones ... and the ones that at least are not unhappy anymore. So defining marriage as a dogmatic way of living life should not be so wierd after all.
Dare to define where you are and if you have the power to rebuild your life, in a happy way, that should be fantastic ... no matter of the path you should follow.
Remember that life must be fullfilled with joy.
Adrian G Dumitru
28
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
DEFINE AND REDEFINE
Instead of reading hundreds or books and articles, going to personal development seminars ... loose your life studying the thoughts of other people, maybe you should think about studying your soul.
Think of what you see inside you.
How you define this person ... YOU?!
What about ... how you should redefine your life if you would be GOD and could
do everything just in one second?
You like your life ... or you dislike it?!
The art of defining is a new way of seeing life and transform your reality from what you dislike to see into something that you should love to see. Just ask your soul what wants ... thats it.
As long as you can be honest with you ... you already started to undestard everything about defining and redefining.
Adrian G Dumitru
29
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
LIFE DEFINED AS A CAGE
Time is passing, but we still feel trapped in a cage.
The cage has so many form ... sometime can be even a palace ... but still ... a cage is a cage.
We are living as a bird ... in a cage.
Too ugly and powerfull this term.
One day ... someone comes and opens the door.
For a short time we become free again, but then we come back to the cage and close the door again.
We feel safe in there, but outside we can fly and feel the joy of being alive. Somehow we need to define what is more important ... to be safe or to be free and happy.
Ther is a saying ... “A ship in harbor is safe but that’s not what ships are built for” The same ... a soul must decide not to live in a cage.
If you are brave enough... just fly with the person that opened the door of the cage ... and never get back.
Is just a choice .... but the problem is that ... THE PRISON IS YOU.
Adrian G Dumitru
30
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
WE ALWAYS WANT WHAT WE CANT HAVE
A very little child understands that with different signs to the parents can make them understand that wants this or that.
Goes to the park and always wants something that another kid has. Starts to speak ... and start saying “i want this ... i want that ...”
I saw a documentary with Michael Jackson going to an antique shop, seeing some paintings and saying to the guy from the shop ... “i want this, this ... and this ...
and this”. He was not in a good financial position anymore and his stuff was amazed of what he was doing. The prices of the paintings were between 300-600k dollars.
At our level, we do the same thing over and over again.
I want that car that my sister has, i want that trip to the Grand Canion, cause my cousin was there.
One day, we make a huge mistake.
It appears a confusion between things and people.
We start wanting a love with a person that dont belongs to someone else... a love that we cannot have in real life.
The script of our life becomes a movie script.
And we go to ... nowhere.
There is a wonderfull saying:
“Love that we cannot have is the one that last the longest, hurts the deepest and feels the strongest”.
LEARN TO DEFINE YOUR DESIRES!
Adrian G Dumitru
31
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
THINK AS A SURFER
We spend our lifes in a dogmatic way most of the time.
We go to school, then we get a job, then we get marry and then we stay inside a prison and forget that there are so many ways in how we can find doors that will open new worlds for us ... where we can feel free spirits again. We ve been learned to be defined by others.
The rules of the society ... are the ones that runs everything happens in our lifes. Time is passing ... sometimes strange things are happening and we still apply the dogmatic way of thinking.
If you learn the art of redefining yourself ... which means you just connect directlly your soul to The Universe and use your intuition to do only what your soul tells you to do ... you will be in a much better position.
A surfer is not trying to master the wave, but to as John Kabat says “You cant stop the waves, but you can learn to suft”.
Learning the laws of the Universe and living with joy any moment from your life ... is the right path to continue life.
Think as a surfer!
Adrian G Dumitru
32
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
WE ARE IN LOVE WITH IMPOSSIBLE
THINGS AND SITUATIONS
Life is easy ... we certainlly make it complicated.
We just love imposible things and situations.
There is no limit where we can decide to say is enough and stop.
The human mind is enjoying the game of more and ... more becomes NO LIMIT ... and here we are on the way to nowhere.
On this road we think we are on an important mission ... an impossible one.
The only 2 things in life that can make us stop are: A TRAGEDY or A LOVE STORY. In that point, our vision is changed completly but probably just the luckiest ones receive the chance of real love story.
Life should be enjoyed with everything it has to offer us. The joy of living should be part of our life scenario everyday ... but is not ... we really have a very big empty whole inside of us ... which only love can fullfill.
But what if try to understand better your life, define very clear where you are and where you want to be and the road to “that happy point” should be just a lovelly journey.
So ... start to forget complicated impossible things ... life is easy and too beautifull to be lived as a struggle.
Adrian G Dumitru
33
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
SHOOT ANOTHER DOUBLE
Your life is not looking as you wanted to look like?!
In psyhology there is a nice theory explaining that at the end of the day you should review the whole day, analyze what you dont like and rescript everything just as you wanted as things to happen.
Well ... theory is very easy to understand ... now lets practice!!
So lets beging ... you dislike being married?! ... taking care if the things and all
the other things that familly needs?!
Have you ever thought of shooting another double?!
Imagine you are then movie director and also the scenarist of you life story ...
just for a second.... so ... how should you redefine everything?!
Everything you need to do is just to understand the concept of timeline... that there is a time to go to the kindergarten ... there is a time to going to schoool ...
a time for getting a job ... and the time of being a familist etc etc. Is it a difficult task?!
Well ... was school easy?! Would you go to school again?! ... Of course NOT.
But you still have a chance.
Life is beatiful and every moment from our life should make us feel happy.
So ... bottom line you ve got 2 choices: you shoot another double and try to be happy at home or start a love affair.
Meaning of life is to feel the joy of being alive.
Adrian G Dumitru
34
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
FROM READING TO WRITING … LEARNING TO
DEFINE YOURT THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS
So many people, from all around the world, are reading things that have to do with personal development, in different forms ... some are reading books, some are reading blogs and some only quotes.
You will be amazed, but i met persons that only read quotes and made me the impression that they know everything about the whole story with personal growth.
And you know why?!
Cause they just have a strong ability to understand everything just from one line and implement it in their life right away.
But i also met persons that read thousands of books and everything i saw looking at them, was that their life just sucks.
Why?! ... just because they dont know how to implement those life principle into the real life.
Sometimes reading is not enough and writing should help a lot.
There is for example a theory, in the philosophy of success, that says is extremely important as you write your goals, if your goals are really important to you ... and read them all the time.
So ... the short story .. read ... write ... and read again.
Writing is a way of connecting to our thoughts and feelings and is actually a way of defining us, understanding who we really and where we are in life. Reading will help develop yourself a lot.
Will learn about the world you are living in ... but writing will help you learn about who you really are.
Just dare ... just one time ... to write your story ... the story of your soul.
Adrian G Dumitru
35
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
NEVER SAY … NEVER
So many times in life we say ... NEVER.
I will never do this ... i will never say this ... i will never come back etc etc ... and so, so many examples, but in the end we forget about what we said, we reevaluate and do it again.
In the love story, probably is the case when we use this expression most of the times, forgeting about the saying “Never say never!”.
Yes, sometimes, feeling that we dont go in the right direction, that we lost control over our love feelings, we want to say stop ... i will never want to see her
again ... i will never, ever come back in her arms... i will never write him again and many, many others bla, bla, bla.
We are so determined that ... we only see the word NEVER in front our our eyes. Then we wake up from this state ... and realise that without that person, that drived us crazy so many times, our lives should be empty.
“Never” was so strong ... so powerful defining our attitude and then few hours later ... worst case scenario, few days later ... we totally forget we said “never”. We actually realise that love is stronger than our determination. Going to a pathless path into a love story, might be an illusion.
The simple fact that we love so much, and so many times we forget about “never ever” ... defines the case itself as a path to our soul.
The meaning of life might not be that we go to the left or to the right, doing that or that with a clear direction, but to find our lost souls.
The person that makes you alive is the perfect one ... and deserves everything from you, cause feeling alive is the first sign that you found your soul. So ... never say never ... into a real love story.
Adrian G Dumitru
36
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
BASIC INSTICT SUPPRESSION
In one point in life, we need to lie ourselves a lot ... just to change a path we are following.
The mind is telling us that the path is the pathless path, cause even if we have a huge addiction to that subject, the situation hurts a lot.
Any addiction creates you pleasure, being a dependency, but also gives you a huge pain to your soul.
So lying yourself might be saving you for a while, but only as long as the Universe is not laughing of you, arranging a meeting again ... face to face with that person or situation.
Starting the process of defining where you are and redefining ... lying yourself might be a part of the healing process.
But the question is ... can we control our basic instincts? Can we do a suppression to our basic instinct?
Lets say you are falling in love with someone else, but you realise in one position that the love story is an imposible one and that you just need to find a way to run away from that situation.
You start to convince yourself that the story itself hurts a lot, even if you actually, deep inside you, feel that the person you are in love with is the love of your life. Only seeing that person for 2 seconds, or chatting 2-3 words togheter makes you feel again the soul inside of you.
The connection between is huge and you cannot control it, cause in most of the cases we cannot control our basic instincts.
Suppression of our basic instinct is like thinking you can fight againts the power of an ocean, having the illusion that you will be winning.
I think we dont need to control life, dont need to be afraid of our emotions or try to control them all the time.
Most probably if you have such connection with a person ... you just realise that is useless to control your feelings.
Adrian G Dumitru
27
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
THERE ARE 2 KINDS OF UNHAPPY MARRIED PEOPLE:
THE OPTIMISTICS AND THE REALISTICS
There are 2 kinds of unhappy married people:
the optimistics and the realistics.
Marriage is very beautiful in the begining.
So beautiful that we just forget that during the years we saw so many unhappy couples.
The optimistic persons, even if somehow, they lost control over situation, still believe in marriage. They ignore all the bad signs and just continue on and on. The realistic persons ... they realise they might have no escape ... but in the end their life belongs only to them and during the marriage they try to see the happiness, at least for a while, somewhere else also. This is how the love affairs start.
It is moral?! It might not be ok but ... everything happens just to get some air ...
at least for a while.
How can we define this?!
In the end we can also see some of those people ... as divorced people.
They are the brave ones ... and the ones that at least are not unhappy anymore. So defining marriage as a dogmatic way of living life should not be so wierd after all.
Dare to define where you are and if you have the power to rebuild your life, in a happy way, that should be fantastic ... no matter of the path you should follow.
Remember that life must be fullfilled with joy.
Adrian G Dumitru
28
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
DEFINE AND REDEFINE
Instead of reading hundreds or books and articles, going to personal development seminars ... loose your life studying the thoughts of other people, maybe you should think about studying your soul.
Think of what you see inside you.
How you define this person ... YOU?!
What about ... how you should redefine your life if you would be GOD and could
do everything just in one second?
You like your life ... or you dislike it?!
The art of defining is a new way of seeing life and transform your reality from what you dislike to see into something that you should love to see. Just ask your soul what wants ... thats it.
As long as you can be honest with you ... you already started to undestard everything about defining and redefining.
Adrian G Dumitru
29
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
LIFE DEFINED AS A CAGE
Time is passing, but we still feel trapped in a cage.
The cage has so many form ... sometime can be even a palace ... but still ... a cage is a cage.
We are living as a bird ... in a cage.
Too ugly and powerfull this term.
One day ... someone comes and opens the door.
For a short time we become free again, but then we come back to the cage and close the door again.
We feel safe in there, but outside we can fly and feel the joy of being alive. Somehow we need to define what is more important ... to be safe or to be free and happy.
Ther is a saying ... “A ship in harbor is safe but that’s not what ships are built for” The same ... a soul must decide not to live in a cage.
If you are brave enough... just fly with the person that opened the door of the cage ... and never get back.
Is just a choice .... but the problem is that ... THE PRISON IS YOU.
Adrian G Dumitru
30
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
WE ALWAYS WANT WHAT WE CANT HAVE
A very little child understands that with different signs to the parents can make them understand that wants this or that.
Goes to the park and always wants something that another kid has. Starts to speak ... and start saying “i want this ... i want that ...”
I saw a documentary with Michael Jackson going to an antique shop, seeing some paintings and saying to the guy from the shop ... “i want this, this ... and this ...
and this”. He was not in a good financial position anymore and his stuff was amazed of what he was doing. The prices of the paintings were between 300-600k dollars.
At our level, we do the same thing over and over again.
I want that car that my sister has, i want that trip to the Grand Canion, cause my cousin was there.
One day, we make a huge mistake.
It appears a confusion between things and people.
We start wanting a love with a person that dont belongs to someone else... a love that we cannot have in real life.
The script of our life becomes a movie script.
And we go to ... nowhere.
There is a wonderfull saying:
“Love that we cannot have is the one that last the longest, hurts the deepest and feels the strongest”.
LEARN TO DEFINE YOUR DESIRES!
Adrian G Dumitru
31
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
THINK AS A SURFER
We spend our lifes in a dogmatic way most of the time.
We go to school, then we get a job, then we get marry and then we stay inside a prison and forget that there are so many ways in how we can find doors that will open new worlds for us ... where we can feel free spirits again. We ve been learned to be defined by others.
The rules of the society ... are the ones that runs everything happens in our lifes. Time is passing ... sometimes strange things are happening and we still apply the dogmatic way of thinking.
If you learn the art of redefining yourself ... which means you just connect directlly your soul to The Universe and use your intuition to do only what your soul tells you to do ... you will be in a much better position.
A surfer is not trying to master the wave, but to as John Kabat says “You cant stop the waves, but you can learn to suft”.
Learning the laws of the Universe and living with joy any moment from your life ... is the right path to continue life.
Think as a surfer!
Adrian G Dumitru
32
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
WE ARE IN LOVE WITH IMPOSSIBLE
THINGS AND SITUATIONS
Life is easy ... we certainlly make it complicated.
We just love imposible things and situations.
There is no limit where we can decide to say is enough and stop.
The human mind is enjoying the game of more and ... more becomes NO LIMIT ... and here we are on the way to nowhere.
On this road we think we are on an important mission ... an impossible one.
The only 2 things in life that can make us stop are: A TRAGEDY or A LOVE STORY. In that point, our vision is changed completly but probably just the luckiest ones receive the chance of real love story.
Life should be enjoyed with everything it has to offer us. The joy of living should be part of our life scenario everyday ... but is not ... we really have a very big empty whole inside of us ... which only love can fullfill.
But what if try to understand better your life, define very clear where you are and where you want to be and the road to “that happy point” should be just a lovelly journey.
So ... start to forget complicated impossible things ... life is easy and too beautifull to be lived as a struggle.
Adrian G Dumitru
33
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
SHOOT ANOTHER DOUBLE
Your life is not looking as you wanted to look like?!
In psyhology there is a nice theory explaining that at the end of the day you should review the whole day, analyze what you dont like and rescript everything just as you wanted as things to happen.
Well ... theory is very easy to understand ... now lets practice!!
So lets beging ... you dislike being married?! ... taking care if the things and all
the other things that familly needs?!
Have you ever thought of shooting another double?!
Imagine you are then movie director and also the scenarist of you life story ...
just for a second.... so ... how should you redefine everything?!
Everything you need to do is just to understand the concept of timeline... that there is a time to go to the kindergarten ... there is a time to going to schoool ...
a time for getting a job ... and the time of being a familist etc etc. Is it a difficult task?!
Well ... was school easy?! Would you go to school again?! ... Of course NOT.
But you still have a chance.
Life is beatiful and every moment from our life should make us feel happy.
So ... bottom line you ve got 2 choices: you shoot another double and try to be happy at home or start a love affair.
Meaning of life is to feel the joy of being alive.
Adrian G Dumitru
34
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
FROM READING TO WRITING … LEARNING TO
DEFINE YOURT THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS
So many people, from all around the world, are reading things that have to do with personal development, in different forms ... some are reading books, some are reading blogs and some only quotes.
You will be amazed, but i met persons that only read quotes and made me the impression that they know everything about the whole story with personal growth.
And you know why?!
Cause they just have a strong ability to understand everything just from one line and implement it in their life right away.
But i also met persons that read thousands of books and everything i saw looking at them, was that their life just sucks.
Why?! ... just because they dont know how to implement those life principle into the real life.
Sometimes reading is not enough and writing should help a lot.
There is for example a theory, in the philosophy of success, that says is extremely important as you write your goals, if your goals are really important to you ... and read them all the time.
So ... the short story .. read ... write ... and read again.
Writing is a way of connecting to our thoughts and feelings and is actually a way of defining us, understanding who we really and where we are in life. Reading will help develop yourself a lot.
Will learn about the world you are living in ... but writing will help you learn about who you really are.
Just dare ... just one time ... to write your story ... the story of your soul.
Adrian G Dumitru
35
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
NEVER SAY … NEVER
So many times in life we say ... NEVER.
I will never do this ... i will never say this ... i will never come back etc etc ... and so, so many examples, but in the end we forget about what we said, we reevaluate and do it again.
In the love story, probably is the case when we use this expression most of the times, forgeting about the saying “Never say never!”.
Yes, sometimes, feeling that we dont go in the right direction, that we lost control over our love feelings, we want to say stop ... i will never want to see her
again ... i will never, ever come back in her arms... i will never write him again and many, many others bla, bla, bla.
We are so determined that ... we only see the word NEVER in front our our eyes. Then we wake up from this state ... and realise that without that person, that drived us crazy so many times, our lives should be empty.
“Never” was so strong ... so powerful defining our attitude and then few hours later ... worst case scenario, few days later ... we totally forget we said “never”. We actually realise that love is stronger than our determination. Going to a pathless path into a love story, might be an illusion.
The simple fact that we love so much, and so many times we forget about “never ever” ... defines the case itself as a path to our soul.
The meaning of life might not be that we go to the left or to the right, doing that or that with a clear direction, but to find our lost souls.
The person that makes you alive is the perfect one ... and deserves everything from you, cause feeling alive is the first sign that you found your soul. So ... never say never ... into a real love story.
Adrian G Dumitru
36
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
BASIC INSTICT SUPPRESSION
In one point in life, we need to lie ourselves a lot ... just to change a path we are following.
The mind is telling us that the path is the pathless path, cause even if we have a huge addiction to that subject, the situation hurts a lot.
Any addiction creates you pleasure, being a dependency, but also gives you a huge pain to your soul.
So lying yourself might be saving you for a while, but only as long as the Universe is not laughing of you, arranging a meeting again ... face to face with that person or situation.
Starting the process of defining where you are and redefining ... lying yourself might be a part of the healing process.
But the question is ... can we control our basic instincts? Can we do a suppression to our basic instinct?
Lets say you are falling in love with someone else, but you realise in one position that the love story is an imposible one and that you just need to find a way to run away from that situation.
You start to convince yourself that the story itself hurts a lot, even if you actually, deep inside you, feel that the person you are in love with is the love of your life. Only seeing that person for 2 seconds, or chatting 2-3 words togheter makes you feel again the soul inside of you.
The connection between is huge and you cannot control it, cause in most of the cases we cannot control our basic instincts.
Suppression of our basic instinct is like thinking you can fight againts the power of an ocean, having the illusion that you will be winning.
I think we dont need to control life, dont need to be afraid of our emotions or try to control them all the time.
Most probably if you have such connection with a person ... you just realise that is useless to control your feelings.
