Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
HEAL YOURSELF
Waking up with no joy into your soul, means you are on the way to nowhere.
Days are passing and nothing is changing.
One day ... becomes one month ... and one month is becoming one year. The whole meaning of life is to enjoy it, just as you enjoyed life into your childhood, cause ... yeah ... life is beautiful.
You need to understand that when you wake up in the morning with no joy inside ... it basiclly means ...your soul is sick. How do we heal our souls?!
We go to the doctor?!
Hahaha ... you re loosing your time.
You have the right to do whatever you have in mind to do ... but souls cannot be healed by doctors.
To heal your soul, you need to define very clear what you dont like into your life and redefine life with a different scenario.
Is like filming a movies. Things where not ok and you just take another double.
That could be a solution ... you like it or no.
Imagine you are in a prison ... you are not allowed to leave the prison ... how can you redefine your life to start enjoying it?
I had reading lots of books about people staying in prison .... but 2 nice friends i
have ... had been for one year in jail.
First .... started to read all kinds of books, as Kant, Goethe, Schopenhauer and
many, many others. He explained me that he was living a year of intensive studies ... in jail.
The other one, more luckier, spent one year in jail in France.
First week was a disaster, and then came one year of full vacation. He was playing cards, especially poker, remy, basketball and many other things. Everything was a lovelly vacation for one year with very dear friends. So ... what can i say about my 2 friends?!
They probably are very pragmatic persons .. and knew how to use their time properly.
Enjoy life, no matter where you are ... dont play the scene of a victim.
Heal yourself quicklly. We dont have so much time for silly things.
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
THE MACROSCOPIC WAY OF SEEING LIFE
How should you define yourself?!
Age X, this name, from Y country, being married or not, having children or not, being rich or poor ... or rich and modest etc etc.
Some people have a special power of defining them very, very well ... some people have a lack of talent when it comes about defining themself, especially into the public.
Seeing the life in a macroscopic way will create a clear picture with the level where you are.
If has no importance where your friends, relatives or other people you know ...
are.
You have your own timeline, with specific episodes, depending on what life needs to show you.
Sometimes God ... or the Universe ... or however you want to call this Holly Entity ... knows better than us where we should be in life.
The macroscopic way of seeing things, helps us define on which stage we are and how we should be better souls.
So ... playing the game of defining, will help you understand how you should redefine different aspects that you dislike.
Are you a business man and you are always in lack of money?!
Define your mistakes and remember that you had decided to be a businessman cause you want money.
Are you unhappy in your marriage and in the same time you are having a wonderful love affair?!
Seeing things macroscopically it really means you are not in the right position. Maybe you should just restart your life and live a love story in the real life, even if you become a divorced person.
There are all kinds of samples. We could have a list with tens of pages, but remember that only your list is important.
Start defining your life on a macroscopic scale ... define what you want in life and just jump on that direction.
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
IGNORE MODE
Most of us have toxic people in our lifes.
Having enemies is ok. A real enemy will tell you how he sees things throw the attitude againts you.
But with toxic people ... yeah ... i know ... you cannot have a honest conversation with them ... telling them ... they are toxic to you.
Dalai Lama says that your biggest enemy is your best teacher ... so i ask myself what are the toxic people for us.
I met, during time, all kinds of toxic people: at school, in my familly, in my office etc.
Probably the only real way of dealing with toxic people is to pass them on ignore mode, even if they are a life partner, a parent, a brother or sister ... or whoever they might be.
Life is too short and beautiful to spend it with them.
Define the things, people and situations you dislike and get rid of them.
Applying the ignore mode might be the wisest attitude.
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
WHAT IF ITS JUST A TEST
All things are going wrong?!
But what could be defined as excellent, good, ok, bad or worst ever?!
How should our lifes look like if everything should be excellent?!
Boring probably ... yeah ... this might be the real answear.
But what if things are going wrong?!
What if instead of thinking that the Universe have something with you, you realise that you need to pass different tests to become a better self. Is all about how you see the world.
When you get furious?! Why you do this?
You dont control the scene .... yeah?! ... and what you do?! .... become angry?!
Relax.
Is too much to talk about the meaning of life, but probably the whole story is about becoming better souls.
How can we do this?!
Just by enjoying life and living into the present mome
nt.
Sometimes is really difficult to understand why things are happening in the way they are happening, but just live life ... just as it is ... with good and bad things.
Let everything pass and you will see the whole meaning later on.
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
THE MICROSCOPIC WAY OF SEEING LIFE
Defining your life means start analizing yourself in a microscopic way.
You need to be honest with you, never think of lieing yourself, and ask questions on and on, again and again.
For example you drink everyday and this is having bad influece on your life. One of the definition of an alchoholic person is that this person is driking everyday.
But this is only one definition ....
What is the need of drinking?! What is doing alchohol with our lifes?
If you will speak with any person that is drinking or have an addiction with any kind of drugs, the main answears will be that it helps them “forget”.
It helps forgetting that you are not happy in your relationship, that you have money problem ... on and on ... basiclly hells you forget that your life just sucks. There are many ways you can have an life fulfilled with different kind of addictions.
For example there are people, men and women, also married persons, from all around the world, that are using different kinds of dating apps for meeting all the time new partners.
They have an addiction for love and end up with multiple sexual relationships ...
just that.
Is this good or bad?!
What it is... you need to decide yourself ... not me .... not your close friends, but
you.
Asking yourself questions on and on, trying to define why you are having a specific behavior will help you understand where you are in life.
Have the power of seeing life in a microscopic way, and embrace the things just as they are.
Is your life, your timeline, and you are allowed to do whatever you want, but between a good thing and a bad thing .... go on the way that brings you joy in everyday life.
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
Life is a miracle.
Even if today you are doing silly things, that might destroy you .... defining what
is happening might take you to a better position.
Defining microscopiclly, not everyday ... but ... still from time to time ... with courage of saying the truth about everything ... is a way of redefining life.
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
WAKING UP IN THE MORNING
There is a nice theory, called the 5 second rule theory.
You will enjoy the book if you start reading it.
Main idea is that you only have 5 seconds to really decide something.
Pushing the snooze button right away and deciding to wake up or sleep again ...
which is the best direction?!
It can be 5 am and you could be happy just cause you start a new day ... or it can be 8 am and hate you need to wake up.
These feelings you have in these very few seconds are the ones that will define your day.
A new day means a new chance.
A new chance means you can restart your life right in the next second you realised that you can redefine your life just as you want to do this.
Starting your day with positivity .... enjoying the fact that you woke up is the best
way to start a new day.
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN
Allways behind your bills, problems with your kids, delays at work, start drinking again and again and again etc etc.
The list is so long, that i will just stop now, cause we all have specific episodes in our lifes that reappears all the time.
Everything is so illusory that we dont even have the power to say ...ENOUGH. How do you fight with an illusion?!
You just smile ... and say ... i want a diffent life for me ...right from this moment. Playing the game of defining life ... seeing the different kinds of patterns that are repeating all the time ... will help you change your life.
You cannot fight with an illusion, but you are allowed to follow a different direction.
Can you quit smoking?!
Can you quit drinking?!
Can you stop the love affair that is going to nowhere from such a long time?! The answear is inside your heart.
Decide to do only the things that you know are positive things for you.
Is just a decision ... but dont see the process of decisions a “decision roulette”.
You are the master of your life.
Accepting things you dislike again and again and not following your intuition is the
worst case scenario.
Life is beautiful.
Allow yourself to do whatever you want.
If you feel a pleasure in smoking, just smoke one cigar and enjoy it ... but dont end up in a hospital for smoking too much.
If you like drinking wine with your friends just do it, but dont drink all the time or drink till you loose the control on yourself.
Samples can go on and on, but the main idea is that when you see an negative episode day by day ... and you know is not a good road for you, just stop. Remember is very easy to define, but you need to not lie yourself.
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
JUST DO NOTHING
What if one day you decide to do ... nothing?!
You decide to do nothing in the relationship with your familly, with the person you love, with your job, with everything it basiclly means your life. You are what you live ... in the end.
Deciding to start doing nothing brings you in the position of observing where you are and what you are.
Just going in one direction or another ... just walking throw life all the time ... it means nothing in the end.
We used to live our lifes on automatic pilot, doing something all the time, no matter is good or bad for us.
Deciding one day to just stop and watch ... start defining where you are and understanding in which direction you go, is probably the best decision you can ever do.
You can stop for one minute, one day or one year.
We all have our private rithm, and it does not mean that you need to follow the way the other people from your life are following.
If all your friends had decided to buy a fancy car, you can buy a horse and ride throw a forest.
Allow yourself to do this.
It might look that you are on the road to nowhere, but in the end you will see that this road to nowhere is ending up with you. You will start seeing the whole painting.
Is very difficult to undestand a painting, as a regular person having no interests into arts, but the main idea is understanding and defining the symbols ... the main attributes from your life.
We are complex beings ... always in a hurry ... going to nowhere ... and we forget to ask ourself what we actually want to do with us.
Give yourself the freedom to do ... nothing.
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
THE PATHLESS PATH
We live in a world full with choices and changing one path with another ... is just a modern way of living.
We want the perfect partner, a lovelly car, a huge house with 2 cars carrage ....
and usually ... we want what might look imposible to have.
And ... we get them one by one ... everything what we had dreamed for.
Time is passing ... and again ... we have new desires.
The idea of happiness always depends of getting that dream we did not lived yet.
And this is how our life starts going to the pathless path.
Enjoying the present moment is the best way to live our lifes.
Life is beautiful.
Enjoy it .... just as it is
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
THE DOUBLE GAME
We are always afraid that we will loose what we like or love most.
As a silly way of living our lifes we sometimes start to play a double game.
And there is a nice saying “If you play a double game this will be your fate”.
