people ... not only women, but also men .... are paying a lots of attention to the
life of other people, starting a non sense gossip.
But if you ask them to answear you honestlly why they do that ... you will understand that they just love gossip ... is just a huge part of their lifes. But what is gossip?!
Is a bad behavior that people are practicing by thousands of years.
Seneca explains very well the power of the mouth of the world into the society.
And he lived 2000 years ago.
We have this silly believe that society and the human being developed so much not from Jesus till now ... but in the last 100-200 years ago, but in the same time we have the same bad habbit of running our lifes throw the ideas of what we think other people think of us.
What many dont understand is that gossip is an energetic attack ... and also a psihological attack, that can unfortunatlly have huge influeces on the people’s life you are reffered to.
Why we gossip?!
But lets think of why people drink or take narcotics?!
Reality is strange and most of the time we live a life that is not what we dreamed... or even worst ... we totally dislike it.
People are taking different kind of drogs just to help them get out of reality ...
forget for a short time what is really happening.
What they know ... but somehow try to hide from them all the time, is that coming back into reality from the dream world of narcotics is again unmannageable.
You follow the pathless path .. as in the end to come back into the same point where you started from .... which is you.
But what is the link between narcotics and gossip?!
Welll ... gossip is doing the same thing ... allows you to focus on others people’s lifes and actually forget about your problems.
When you see other friends of yours having bigger financial problems as you Adrian G Dumitru
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Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
do ... you start feeling better ... and you start analizing, comparing and defining any small element.
We start defining into a microscopic way, making different interpretations but also scenarios about the situation.
The music of gossip is playing all the time into the minds of small minds.
Adrian G Dumitru
82
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
I AM WHAT I LIVE?!
How you should define your life in this moment?!
Bad, worst ever, ok, better than other times, superb?!
Do you wake up with joy inside of you in the morning?!
I would define today ... after meeting thousands of people during the last 20-22 years ... i would define a rich person, that individual that wakes up with joy and expect to get out of bed in the next 5 seconds after openning his eyes ... just cant waiting to start a new day.
For many ... a new day ... is just a way of living again and again the same robotic actions and seeing the same scene on and on.
For few ...a new day means the joy of doing what they just love to do.
A new day can be a new chance ... even if yesterday could be defined as an ugly day.
Is a chace to restart your life ... just now ... today ... in this second.
Is only a decision.
We certainlly are what we live.
If you dont like what you see in your dailly life ...100% you cant see joy inside you.
Try to define ... those boring and what you would call ugly days ... then think how the perfect life scenario would look like ... then replace the scene into your reality ... and you will remeet the joy of living.
Dont live your days as an individual defined by the scene ... cause you are the one that can define the scene.
Adrian G Dumitru
83
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
THE CULTURE OF OPULENCE
We live some strange times when opulence started to be the most important philosophy.
We can even say that there is a culture of opulence, and many people embrace this new trend.
First recorded in 1500–10, opulence is from the Latin word opulentia, which means wealth.
So practicing an opulent life means to show to the world that we are in a wealth position.
The opposite of the word opulence is simplicity, but i think this term is not anymore in our area of interest.
The modern human being pays lots of attention to the clothes, the cars, the restaurants they go to, places they visit ... so everything must be an interconection with something that might present us in the eyes of others as diamonds.
Our image, the way other sees us, is our main focus.
This image we want to show to the world defines us ... our behavior, our interconections with other people ... everything.
Somehow ... in this point you cant practice a friendship with an old friend from school ... who now is not at the same level as you are.
Your image with that person image are too opossite to stay in the same picture.
You will not see anymore the pauper and the prince in the same scene.
Defing your life throw the month of the world is probably the most idiotic way of living your life ... but in the end ... its just a choice.
2000 years ago, on Seneca’s time, the mouth of the world, was so, so important that this was also the main real autority that ruled peoples life. After 2000 years ... we are in the same position, maybe worst.
We just compare ourself throw what we own, how we dress and where we spend our vacations ... showing we live in a society defined only by silly things.
In the last 2000 years, we could not start a philosophical or spiritual revolution, that could take us to the edge where we should feel what life is about and what the real values are.
Adrian G Dumitru
84
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
We actually lost 2000 years.
So what we actually are?!
We are a society ... with so, so many unhappy people pretenting they live the perfect life scenario ... but deep inside ... just empty souls.
Adrian G Dumitru
85
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
BEING PART OF STATISTICS
We certainlly live our lifes on automatic pilot.
Most of us.
We go to work monday to friday, 9 to 5, we follow our friends, relatives or people we know ... in everything they do.
Instead of creating new models of living, we live our lifes in a dogmatic way, just as the others.
And this is how ... basiclly, we become part of statistics.
20% of people from Paraguay do this.
57% of the american students do this and that ... etc, etc.
We are a tiny piece into a huge mechanism ... which is called society.
Using the internet, is much easier nowaday to create statistics.
They know what places we like to visit, what pizza we eat and what kind of movies we prefer to look at.
What if one day you decide to get rid of this dogmatic way of living and start a new way in life?! ... something outside the statistics.
Dont live a scenario made by people you dont even know ... because you ve been told that the things are the way they are! Dont be trapped in the world of statistics!
Have the power to define the life you dream for and enjoy it!
Adrian G Dumitru
86
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
THE DECISIONS ROULETTE
Go to the right or to the left?!
Maybe you should just come back ...
So many options we have nowadays that started to be very difficult to think which is the best direction to follow.
And most of the time we could speak about the decisions roulette.
We stay at the mercy of the destiny.
Once you understand that you need to have a plan with your life, that you need to know very clearlly in which direction you need to go, you will be in a better position.
Its all about defining.
Playing the game of defining things, situations, directions is the best option. You want money ... probably you should think of becoming a business man or business woman.
Looking for having an harmonic life?!
You will need to define the desire to live the kind of harmonic life in which work and family are perfectly balanced.
If important at least to know the main direction. The rest are just details.
This is why this story with defining is so important.
You dont need to read hundreds of books or stay all day long on social media studying personal development.
Most of those theories are not for your particular case from your timeline.
You are the only one that can define the best scenario for your life.
Adrian G Dumitru
87
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
DEFINE THE UNDEFINED
Unclear situations let us think more than we should think.
When things are unclear ... you feel that you lost control on what is happening on your life.
So .... what is the story of defining the undefined?!
Is very simple ... describe the things both in a macroscopic but also microscopic way ... and think of what you dont like amd how should rhe perfect version for your life should look like.
Speaking about the things you are not allowed to speak, or you dont like to speak
...or are just afraid to speak .... is the first step.
Then going deep inside you will understand more and more.
The undefined is sometimes just a mistery from your life ... and the answear might change your life.
Adrian G Dumitru
88
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
CHECKMATE
We are stressed all the time with different things from our lifes.
This is actually the usual way of living in the modern society, which is ridiculus, considering we live in a time when we have everything we ever could dream for. But still ... even if we dont understand clearlly what is happening, we go on automatic pilot and feel stressed on and on and on.
Today is one reason for that, tomorrow another, and the list of events continue without stopping.
But what is actually happening is that we see all kinds of worst case scenario all the time. Every little thing is a reason as a new movie to start playing in our head.
We end up seeing the situations even as checkmate.
But if you analize everything after 1-2 weeks, you will start laughing.
Checkmate is only an illusion playing on the scene from our silly minds.
In any situation life should bring you, ask yourself with questions after
questions ... ok ... this is happening ... so what?! Do i have another option after?!
Yeah .... always there is a way to solve any problem you could have.
You can choose to be the scenarist of your life, but dont choose to create a horror movie script.
Sometimes all those difficult situations are just ways in how we can become better persons ... and not checkmate for our lifes. Be aware when you define situations.
Life can also be beautiful!
Adrian G Dumitru
89
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
ILLUSIONS
Fata Morgana is a complex form of superior mirage that is seen in a narrow band right above the horizon. It is an Italian term named after the Arthurian sorceress Morgan le Fay, from a belief that these mirages, often seen in the Strait of Messina, were fairy castles in the air or false land created by her witchcraft to lure sailors to their deaths.
What if in our modern life we see those mirages?!
Succes might be defined in the modern society as fata morgana, but only few people have the power to admit that.
We have this concept of succes ... with Lamborghini, a hot girl near, money ...
gold rings, fancy vacations on yatchts etc etc.
All personal development pages on social media defines succes in images as that.
But its ok. Its a way of seeing things.
The meaning of life cannot be to have a Lamborghini ... and dont need to be a philosopher to understand that, but what you need to understand is that the concept of Fata Morgana, that can ruin your life. Our destiny can be fulfilled with illusions.
Try to understand the meaning of your life and dont allow illusions to destroy you.
Ilusions have different forms.
Sometimes is about money, sometimes about how we spend our time ...
sometimes about love, but in the end an illusion is just an illusion.
Letting them define us ... hhmmm ... is a silly way of acting.
Adrian G Dumitru
90
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
LIVE AS A PAUPER, THINK AS A PRINCE
Can one person be rich and live as a pauper?
Are you allowed to be rich and live a modest life?!
Probably yes, but not on this plannet.
First thing you need to do when you become rich is to show to the society that you are rich.
When the succes is start showing into your life, the image of the rich person you will become soon must be more and more clear.
The mouth of the world is the one that actually defines us.
We live in a society ruled by a dogmatic thinking.
People live their lifes, thinking of what people are thinking about them.
If other people are thinking about me that i am rich it means that i am rich ... if not i am probably just a pauper.
But what if, being rich, you decide to live a life of a pauper.
How should we define this way of living?!
Can a rich person be allowed by society live as a pauper?!
I am writing and i am laughing.
We are allowed to do whatever we want to do.
You can be a poor person and decide to act as a prince and be a rich person and decide to act as a pauper.
Is only important how you define yourself, not the society.
You can live as a pauper, which nowadays could even mean to live a modest life even if you are poor or rich ... but think as a prince.
You define things just as you want ... dont allow others to define you.
Adrian G Dumitru
91
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life of other people, starting a non sense gossip.
But if you ask them to answear you honestlly why they do that ... you will understand that they just love gossip ... is just a huge part of their lifes. But what is gossip?!
Is a bad behavior that people are practicing by thousands of years.
Seneca explains very well the power of the mouth of the world into the society.
And he lived 2000 years ago.
We have this silly believe that society and the human being developed so much not from Jesus till now ... but in the last 100-200 years ago, but in the same time we have the same bad habbit of running our lifes throw the ideas of what we think other people think of us.
What many dont understand is that gossip is an energetic attack ... and also a psihological attack, that can unfortunatlly have huge influeces on the people’s life you are reffered to.
Why we gossip?!
But lets think of why people drink or take narcotics?!
Reality is strange and most of the time we live a life that is not what we dreamed... or even worst ... we totally dislike it.
People are taking different kind of drogs just to help them get out of reality ...
forget for a short time what is really happening.
What they know ... but somehow try to hide from them all the time, is that coming back into reality from the dream world of narcotics is again unmannageable.
You follow the pathless path .. as in the end to come back into the same point where you started from .... which is you.
But what is the link between narcotics and gossip?!
Welll ... gossip is doing the same thing ... allows you to focus on others people’s lifes and actually forget about your problems.
When you see other friends of yours having bigger financial problems as you Adrian G Dumitru
81
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
do ... you start feeling better ... and you start analizing, comparing and defining any small element.
We start defining into a microscopic way, making different interpretations but also scenarios about the situation.
The music of gossip is playing all the time into the minds of small minds.
Adrian G Dumitru
82
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
I AM WHAT I LIVE?!
How you should define your life in this moment?!
Bad, worst ever, ok, better than other times, superb?!
Do you wake up with joy inside of you in the morning?!
I would define today ... after meeting thousands of people during the last 20-22 years ... i would define a rich person, that individual that wakes up with joy and expect to get out of bed in the next 5 seconds after openning his eyes ... just cant waiting to start a new day.
For many ... a new day ... is just a way of living again and again the same robotic actions and seeing the same scene on and on.
For few ...a new day means the joy of doing what they just love to do.
A new day can be a new chance ... even if yesterday could be defined as an ugly day.
Is a chace to restart your life ... just now ... today ... in this second.
Is only a decision.
We certainlly are what we live.
If you dont like what you see in your dailly life ...100% you cant see joy inside you.
Try to define ... those boring and what you would call ugly days ... then think how the perfect life scenario would look like ... then replace the scene into your reality ... and you will remeet the joy of living.
Dont live your days as an individual defined by the scene ... cause you are the one that can define the scene.
Adrian G Dumitru
83
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
THE CULTURE OF OPULENCE
We live some strange times when opulence started to be the most important philosophy.
We can even say that there is a culture of opulence, and many people embrace this new trend.
First recorded in 1500–10, opulence is from the Latin word opulentia, which means wealth.
So practicing an opulent life means to show to the world that we are in a wealth position.
The opposite of the word opulence is simplicity, but i think this term is not anymore in our area of interest.
The modern human being pays lots of attention to the clothes, the cars, the restaurants they go to, places they visit ... so everything must be an interconection with something that might present us in the eyes of others as diamonds.
Our image, the way other sees us, is our main focus.
This image we want to show to the world defines us ... our behavior, our interconections with other people ... everything.
Somehow ... in this point you cant practice a friendship with an old friend from school ... who now is not at the same level as you are.
Your image with that person image are too opossite to stay in the same picture.
You will not see anymore the pauper and the prince in the same scene.
Defing your life throw the month of the world is probably the most idiotic way of living your life ... but in the end ... its just a choice.
2000 years ago, on Seneca’s time, the mouth of the world, was so, so important that this was also the main real autority that ruled peoples life. After 2000 years ... we are in the same position, maybe worst.
We just compare ourself throw what we own, how we dress and where we spend our vacations ... showing we live in a society defined only by silly things.
In the last 2000 years, we could not start a philosophical or spiritual revolution, that could take us to the edge where we should feel what life is about and what the real values are.
Adrian G Dumitru
84
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
We actually lost 2000 years.
So what we actually are?!
We are a society ... with so, so many unhappy people pretenting they live the perfect life scenario ... but deep inside ... just empty souls.
Adrian G Dumitru
85
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
BEING PART OF STATISTICS
We certainlly live our lifes on automatic pilot.
Most of us.
We go to work monday to friday, 9 to 5, we follow our friends, relatives or people we know ... in everything they do.
Instead of creating new models of living, we live our lifes in a dogmatic way, just as the others.
And this is how ... basiclly, we become part of statistics.
20% of people from Paraguay do this.
57% of the american students do this and that ... etc, etc.
We are a tiny piece into a huge mechanism ... which is called society.
Using the internet, is much easier nowaday to create statistics.
They know what places we like to visit, what pizza we eat and what kind of movies we prefer to look at.
What if one day you decide to get rid of this dogmatic way of living and start a new way in life?! ... something outside the statistics.
Dont live a scenario made by people you dont even know ... because you ve been told that the things are the way they are! Dont be trapped in the world of statistics!
Have the power to define the life you dream for and enjoy it!
Adrian G Dumitru
86
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
THE DECISIONS ROULETTE
Go to the right or to the left?!
Maybe you should just come back ...
So many options we have nowadays that started to be very difficult to think which is the best direction to follow.
And most of the time we could speak about the decisions roulette.
We stay at the mercy of the destiny.
Once you understand that you need to have a plan with your life, that you need to know very clearlly in which direction you need to go, you will be in a better position.
Its all about defining.
Playing the game of defining things, situations, directions is the best option. You want money ... probably you should think of becoming a business man or business woman.
Looking for having an harmonic life?!
You will need to define the desire to live the kind of harmonic life in which work and family are perfectly balanced.
If important at least to know the main direction. The rest are just details.
This is why this story with defining is so important.
You dont need to read hundreds of books or stay all day long on social media studying personal development.
Most of those theories are not for your particular case from your timeline.
You are the only one that can define the best scenario for your life.
Adrian G Dumitru
87
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
DEFINE THE UNDEFINED
Unclear situations let us think more than we should think.
When things are unclear ... you feel that you lost control on what is happening on your life.
So .... what is the story of defining the undefined?!
Is very simple ... describe the things both in a macroscopic but also microscopic way ... and think of what you dont like amd how should rhe perfect version for your life should look like.
Speaking about the things you are not allowed to speak, or you dont like to speak
...or are just afraid to speak .... is the first step.
Then going deep inside you will understand more and more.
The undefined is sometimes just a mistery from your life ... and the answear might change your life.
Adrian G Dumitru
88
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
CHECKMATE
We are stressed all the time with different things from our lifes.
This is actually the usual way of living in the modern society, which is ridiculus, considering we live in a time when we have everything we ever could dream for. But still ... even if we dont understand clearlly what is happening, we go on automatic pilot and feel stressed on and on and on.
Today is one reason for that, tomorrow another, and the list of events continue without stopping.
But what is actually happening is that we see all kinds of worst case scenario all the time. Every little thing is a reason as a new movie to start playing in our head.
We end up seeing the situations even as checkmate.
But if you analize everything after 1-2 weeks, you will start laughing.
Checkmate is only an illusion playing on the scene from our silly minds.
In any situation life should bring you, ask yourself with questions after
questions ... ok ... this is happening ... so what?! Do i have another option after?!
Yeah .... always there is a way to solve any problem you could have.
You can choose to be the scenarist of your life, but dont choose to create a horror movie script.
Sometimes all those difficult situations are just ways in how we can become better persons ... and not checkmate for our lifes. Be aware when you define situations.
Life can also be beautiful!
Adrian G Dumitru
89
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
ILLUSIONS
Fata Morgana is a complex form of superior mirage that is seen in a narrow band right above the horizon. It is an Italian term named after the Arthurian sorceress Morgan le Fay, from a belief that these mirages, often seen in the Strait of Messina, were fairy castles in the air or false land created by her witchcraft to lure sailors to their deaths.
What if in our modern life we see those mirages?!
Succes might be defined in the modern society as fata morgana, but only few people have the power to admit that.
We have this concept of succes ... with Lamborghini, a hot girl near, money ...
gold rings, fancy vacations on yatchts etc etc.
All personal development pages on social media defines succes in images as that.
But its ok. Its a way of seeing things.
The meaning of life cannot be to have a Lamborghini ... and dont need to be a philosopher to understand that, but what you need to understand is that the concept of Fata Morgana, that can ruin your life. Our destiny can be fulfilled with illusions.
Try to understand the meaning of your life and dont allow illusions to destroy you.
Ilusions have different forms.
Sometimes is about money, sometimes about how we spend our time ...
sometimes about love, but in the end an illusion is just an illusion.
Letting them define us ... hhmmm ... is a silly way of acting.
Adrian G Dumitru
90
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
LIVE AS A PAUPER, THINK AS A PRINCE
Can one person be rich and live as a pauper?
Are you allowed to be rich and live a modest life?!
Probably yes, but not on this plannet.
First thing you need to do when you become rich is to show to the society that you are rich.
When the succes is start showing into your life, the image of the rich person you will become soon must be more and more clear.
The mouth of the world is the one that actually defines us.
We live in a society ruled by a dogmatic thinking.
People live their lifes, thinking of what people are thinking about them.
If other people are thinking about me that i am rich it means that i am rich ... if not i am probably just a pauper.
But what if, being rich, you decide to live a life of a pauper.
How should we define this way of living?!
Can a rich person be allowed by society live as a pauper?!
I am writing and i am laughing.
We are allowed to do whatever we want to do.
You can be a poor person and decide to act as a prince and be a rich person and decide to act as a pauper.
Is only important how you define yourself, not the society.
You can live as a pauper, which nowadays could even mean to live a modest life even if you are poor or rich ... but think as a prince.
You define things just as you want ... dont allow others to define you.
Adrian G Dumitru
91
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