A white man from Europe can marry an african girl, a lesbian can present her love to her friends ... not completing the standards does not mean you are not a human being anymore.
We are the victims of our own thoughts and feelings.
Once you will understand that you have the freedom to define your life in any way you want ... then life might appear as beautiful.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
CANT STAND IT ANYMORE
Depression is the huge gap between how your life would like to look like and how your actually reality looks like.
There are so, so many things that we dont like ... but somehow we accept all of them, without doing anything at all.
Is like living in 2 parallel universes ... the real one and the dreamed one ... but dont have the power to jump from one into another.
And that feeling makes your days suck ... and you dont even know why and will most likelly never accept to define it as depression. Its just an ugly ... unacceptable word.
How can we change something?
Do we have any chance againt this idiot virus that is ruining our lifes?
Well ... in the moment you will not stand it anymore ... the moment you will feel that your soul cannot breath anymore ... that is the moment you will find a huge power inside of you to change everything you dislike and do only the things you love to do.
Nobody can force you live a certain kind of life, as i am sure you are not living into a nazi concentration camp ... the only one that keeps you into the depression is you.
Ironically the prison itself is you.
So ... just give you the freedom to live into the dream world that you defined so, so many times.
You are the king of your destiny!
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
CHATTING
We certainlly have a phone addiction ... most of us.
We wake up in the morning, looking for our phones, checking email, whatsapp, instagram, facebook ... and all the other apps, paying a huge attention to any kind of interaction we had into the virtual world.
Instead of going out at a coffee shop we prefer to stay for hours on chat with so, so many people, speaking and analyzing unimportant things.
Why did we lost the pleasure of socializing face to face like in the old times?! Because we have empty souls ... and we cant show up like this into a meeting. On chat is very easy to hide behind the screen of the phone, but also much easier to tell things that in real life ... seeing the eyes of the other person ... we cant have the courage to say those things.
Spending your life on chat is an addiction and as in any other addictions it will make you pay a huge price.
Real life is beautiful, as long as we know and have the courage to enjoy it. Live your life ... means to feel and experience the emotion that the joy of being alive can bring you.
Living your life behind the mask offered by your phone is illogical and makes no real sense if you are brave enough to define this addiction.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
SPECTRUM OF PEOPLE
If you stay in the car, on a boulevard, waiting for people to pass though the zebra ... make an exercise for 1 minute and watch all the souls passing in front of your eyes.
Look at their clothes, hair, eyes and everything that can define them as individuals.
Make a simple statistic ... just count the happy and the unhappy faces.
You will see a large spectrum of people and think which ones are the souls that looked the same with you from the near past and the ones that look the same with you today.
What you see is a representative part of the society from that area.
Analyzing those people ... you will actually see you into the mirror.
Think of this spectrum ... and then let your mind define the one you going to be into the near future.
Who will you become?!
Or should i ask ... what is the mask you are wearing today and the one you are going to wear tomorrow?
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
TO DO LIST AND NOT TO DO LIST
I ve been into business for many, many years but never had a to do list on my desk.
I never defined the day before started it ... i just let it be ... the day.
As a funny thing, i recentlly read a book about how to be a great manager into 100 days.
A crap ... i said in the begining.
But short story is ... to be a great manager you need to have a to do list and a not to do list. Thats all.
What you sometimes forget is that you are your own manager in life, but nobody ever teached you about life management.
There are lots of things to dailly add into the to do and not to do lists, but probably, most important should be as following. TO DO LIST:
Learn to fly
Fly away
NOT TO DO LIST:
1. Let other people convince you cannot fly
I wonder if there is any book with the title “Being your own life manager in 100 days”?!
I should buy it ... and i should read it as the bible.
But if this book is not existing ...we should just learn to define and redefine better our lifes.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
SILENCE PLEASE
We focus so much on the problems ... and we end up seeing life as a list of difficulties ... with no meaning at all.
Is there a manual for living your life?!
I was searching, but could not find one ... but only illusory ideas defining life itself.
Life is not about completing your desires.
Or about being mad cause you have so many problems on your path in time...
and those desires canot become real.
But what if you change your focus?!
What if you put your mind into the silent mode ... redefine everything you see ...
and have a new picture in front of your eyes.
Bellow it writes “live your life with joy”.
Easy to say .... easy to write ...but difficult to change this direction into the real
life.
I have moments when i believe that there is one way for that ... let the time do its duty and meanwhile play the dance of emotions.
Let your heart decide everything wants ... the heart is taking most of the time better decisions that your brain.
A free mind is one ruled by love.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
EVERYTHING YOU LOVE
About 100 years ago, Franz Kafka (one of the greatest novelist the world had), was walking throw a park in Berlin, and met a girl that was crying cause she lost her doll.
They went togheter trying to find it, but with no succes.
Later they decided to meet again in the next day to find the so loved doll. Knowing that there is a small chance to find it, Kafka came with a letter from the doll to the girl, saying “I went to travel the world. I will write you about my adventures.”
They keep meeting till Kafka died one year later.
He was reading letters to her all the time, and the girl just adored all those stories.
One day Kafka came with the doll (bought a new one) .. and the girl just loved it, but replyed that is not looking like the doll she had.
The next day, they meet again and Kafka reads a new letter saying: “I look different, cause the world had chanced me”.
After years, when the girl became an adult, she finds inside the doll a message signed by Kafka, saying “Everything you love probably will be lost, but in the end, love will return to you into a different way”.
But what if you just refuse to loose the magic love?!
You maybe know that everything goes to nowhere, but the love is so strong and you just dont want to let it fly away.
You try to forget, find a new “doll” ... but everything is useless.
You want your “doll” ... which is the pure love, the one that appears only once in a lifetime.
Do we have the right to do this?!
In the fairy tale, you are alllowed to do whatever you want to do, but only if inside your soul lives a heart that is defined by magic.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
WHY WE CARE SO MUCH ABOUT OTHERS?!
Caring about other people is a beautil thing to do in life ... but the problem is that many people instead of taking care of their problems, spend a huge time and attention caring why other people do this and that and that.
There is a saying ... energy flows where attention goes ... but we dont realise this.
So instead of acting in life, instead of being the main characters of our lifes ... we try to spend our lifes analyzing others people life ... just like some silly idiots. Why we do this?!
Well ... cause we dont really have a life and if we have a life we dont really care about it.
Maybe we should pay more attention to us, to define us and our life.
Life is too short for spending it with gossip.
Dont loose it with silly things.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
HAPPINESS CAN BE DEFINED
IN MANY, MANY WAYS
We have so complicated minds, that it takes years to fully undestand ... or maybe even a lifetime ... that true happiness can come from very, very simple things. We can read hundreds or even thousands of books and look for the secret ... and maybe one day, a pauper, at the corner of the street ... might tell you this secret ... just by looking at him.
A pauper .... is one person that probably lost everything a human being has, but
still if he wants to feel joy inside of him ... he will find a way for that.
The biggest virus from the world is the unhappiness. You find it everywhere ... and is very, very easy to take this virus ... even if you try to protect yourself. On the other hand happiness has indeed many, many ways in how it can be defined ... you just need to be a very open mind person. If you love fishing ... just do it.
You love traveling ... just do it ... dont need to travel with a private jet ... you ca take the train or go into the mountains, feel the nature and dont spend any money at all.
You want to feel real love inside your soul ... just allow your heart to fall in love ...
no matter of who you fall in love with.
Nowadays to do things you love to do is defined as a luxurious idea.
But maybe you should learn the lesson the pauper from the corner of the street is sending you.
Follow your heart ... allow it to be alive ... the heart thinks better than your brain.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
LIFE IN THE COUNTRYSIDE
There is a nice saying about the living your life as ...”a small fish into a big pond,
or a big fish into a small pond”.
So what do you prefer?!
Be someone important into a small community or nobody in a huge community? Life in the countryside has its advantages.
Apparently you can live a quite life, be more relaxed ... and most important you are not forced to live into an alert rithm. But this is only apparently.
In small communities everybody knows everything about everybody, or at least they have this idea that they know ... and end up spending lots of time defining other people they know.
In small commuities you can be very often in the light of the scene ... but in larger communities you have this fundamental right to hide youself and your whole life from others.
Without knowing people are practicing the game of defining others all the time.
Lots of people feel the need of attension.
In a world in which we are practicing the cult of personality ... being a big fish in a small pond might be what you would love to be. You get the attention right away.
But what if you decide to be nobody?! ... a small fish into a big pond?! Wise people knows that being nobody ... gives them time to focus more on themself and not on what other people are trying to define them.
In life you will need to choose the role you can play on scene of reality. Maybe ... you can think to be ... just you and not the one defined by the community.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
BEING A STRANGE PERSON
OR A STRANGER?!
You have the right to be whoever you want to be, as long as you dont harm other people.
You even have the right to be or act as a strange person.
What means to be or act as a strange person?! Who is the one that defines that?! Society ... the dogmatic way of seeig the world just as it is ... with certain rules of behavior to follow.
Are you allowed to be vegetarian?! What about being in love with a married person?!
What about resigning from a big company and start a new life into the countryside?!
And so on and on ....
Do we all the time need to follow only the dogmatic way of living our life?!
Otherwise what?!
Yes .... hell yes ... you will be defined as a strange person.
How can someone define you if they dont really know you ... never looked into your eyes or never interacted with you in any circumstances at all?!
If i would repreat the sentence “the things are just the way they are” ... so just follow the software that this world had implemented you since an early age ... otherwise you will be called a “strage” person.
Do this and from a strange person, you will become a stranger to your soul.
Which is a huge loss ....
We cant live in any moment with rules in front of us.
Let yourself be the one you want to be ... and you will feel great about you ... is just a decision.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
MOUTH OF THE WORLD
Instead of seeing of their life, or thinking about their problems ... lots of
