THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
THE ILLUSION
OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
1
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
ADRIAN G DUMITRU
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
Year: 2021
Author: Adrian G Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
2
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
CHANGE is an illusion because we're always at the place where any future can take us.
Allan Watts
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
3
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
INTRODUCTION
The real change will come only when
you will accept it inside your soul ...
There are so many books about change or success, that you will not have enough time to read them during this life time.
Sometimes looking for a huge success that could complete our lives ... the change is just part of the script.
And success indeed can’t come without the change.
But what is the change?!
Can you do it by yourself, or you just need special help from different people?! Or maybe the real change can come only from inside of us ... and the only real help as it to happen is to accept it ... not only want it. Accept it ... as part of your life.
Imagine that many years ago ... you had been poor, but you dreamed to be rich.
And one day you become rich.
But the funny question is ... do you accept the fact that you became rich?! There are so many people that they were poor and then they became millionaires ... but soon after they lost everything again. So ... they re became poor again.
They did not accepted the change.
Could not integrate it in their life.
When change comes in small steps ... is much easier to accept it as part of our new life.
When change comes suddenly ... we need to change our thinking right away ...
and dare to see the whole scene of life in different colors.
On the paths trough life ... we get lost.
We lose all our dreams, one by another ... and we also lose ourselves also. One day ... the idea of change looks illusory and we wonder why we can’t understand the fact that we are never happy anymore.
For a beautiful life, no matter if you are 20, 30, 40, 50 or even 60 or 70 ... you
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
just need a plan ... the plan for the change.
But the change needs to be a positive one ... and not a collection of silly desires.
And if your life is miserable today ... small changes will make almost no difference at all.
The change needs to be a process of ... dreaming big no matter what happens in your actual life.
But you need to visualize and accept the future ... cause the real change means the break up from your past.
You will lose yourself into this process and become a new you ... but if you really want a new you ... you will accept it.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
5
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
The secret of change is to focus all your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new” (Socrates)
Truth be told, most of us have boring lives, but have you ever made the connection between the concept of a “boring life” and the idea of change?!
Are you looking for a real change or just want to replace the “boring life” ... with anything different?!
In fact the secret of change, and the concept of change is inside of us.
We might only need some “fresh air” and nothing more ... and making few steps on the path of the change ... we do feel different.
Is just like you are very tired and you only need few days off to relax and then you will be fresh again.
So ... what change does it means for you?!
Are you only pretending that you want the change ... or it’s a real path you want to follow in life?!
How you focusing your energy?!
On fighting with the old ... or building the new?!
Lots of questions ...
The change not even started and you start to feel discomfort trying to answer all those questions, but without defining the real meaning of change for you ... you will not be sure if you fight against the past or only follow the dreamed future.
And when we speak about change ... i mean a real one ... you need to learn the art of managing your energies and first of all decide if you want to start a strange process ... where you are going to lose the old you ... and become a new person. If you want to become rich, for example, you will not only need to become rich ... own properties, money, etc etc ... but feel rich inside of you.
Being rich will become an emotion that you will have inside of you all the time. But not long not time ago, comparing with the new you ... you were a poor person.
So ... what you do with the old you?! ... the poor one?!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
6
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
Just forget about him ... and don’t let yourself be anchored into the past anymore.
You accept to live in the present, with the emotions of everything wealthy means. Let’s assume ... you want to be a writer ... so you do what?!
You focus on the fact that no one knows about you as a writer ... or that you want to become a great one?!
You see ... you only need to have in mind the final destination and enjoy the path till that destination, cause the path itself is the life ... your life. Understanding the art of focusing your energy ... is maybe the first step.
And the change ... is only a decision.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
If not now, when?!
I have a question for you ... when is a perfect time for a change?!
Well ... let me tell you a short real story.
Few years ago, i’ve been staying with someone that used to be very close to me. He did some illegal things and we already know that he could be arrested very soon.
Even if i’ve mentioned to stop what he was doing ... for so, so many times .... he
always ignored me.
And guess what?!
He started to explain to me that it is the worst time to be arrested ... cause all his things were not in order.
... and that was the moment i started to laugh.
I’ve asked ...
“When the hell it’s a good time to be arrested?!
Do you think at 20, 30, 40, 50, 60 or 70?!
Or maybe 80?!
You have nothing to lose at that age.
Do you think someone that has everything in order in his life ... is ready to be arrested?!”
I realized the guy was an idiot.
And guess what ... when i explained again that the moment when we were talking
... was the best moment for a change .. he ignored me again.
So i actually understood that for him, at that time as him to stop what he was doing ... all those illegal things ... the best thing that could happen was to be arrested.
I cared about the guy ... but i was losing my time with someone that did not understood the need of the change.
Now ... tell me ... imagine that someone dear to you ... has an addiction for drugs or alcohol ... what should be the best time to stop this addiction?! Next week?! Two weeks from now?! Next month?!
Nooo ... hell no.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
The best time for a change ... is now.
And if not now ... when?!
Today is the ideal day ... wake up ... define the change ... believe in its positivity ... and just do it!!
Don’t wait for better times ... cause all we have is only the present moment.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
9
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
Truth be told we want an
over night change in our lifes
There are many moments when the actual reality is very difficult to handle and looks like we have no escape at all.
We dream of a quatum jump, even if we dont understand the concept very well. In few words, the reality sucks and we dream of a life that we will never have, because deep inside us, we dont really believe we will ever meet this reality.
We have a fake attitude that we are looking for change, but this attitude is just a mask for our fears... as them not to be seen.
So we wonder today if there is a way of how our lifes can be changed in what we think that should be better for us.
Does it exists a system that we could follow and achieve our dream life?! But it must be a simple way ... otherwise we know that we will not follow the path.
Everything is happening is related to us, and everything could happen is also related to us.
The magic answear, because we are looking only for magic answears, is the art of defining life.
Yes ... this is an art.
We need to start be honest with ourself, and all the answears to simple questions as “why am i fat?! ... because i eat to much” , “why my partner is cheating on me?! ... because i did not knew to be that perfect partner that i had to be” and the list of questions will go on.
We need to start defining what we dont like. Once we undestand that the change is in our powers and if we really want a change, we will start the process of
achieving the new life we dream at.
We dont need to go to a therapist, we dont need to study motivational issues of social media and dont even need to read hundreds or thousands of books to start the change process.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
10
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
The art of defining our lifes, means that we have the courage to understand what we dont like and define very clear how our reality should look like.
The depression, or what we call depression, because many things are unclear in our minds, is this huge gap between where we are now and where we want to be. We are looking for a magic bridge that should help us go very easilly from one point to the other.
The process itself is a very simple one, as long as we decide to be honest to us.
The art of defining ... yes ... is an art.
And also to live ... is an art.
Once we decide that we are brave enough to live our lifes... the dream life... the magic will happen, cause all the magic is our powers.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
11
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
The real change is about
following your own path
We come to the world with what is called tabula rasa.
This is the theory that individuals are born without built-in mental content, and therefore all knowledge comes from experience or perception. And then the society is teaching us what life is about.
... and we believe it.
But the funny thing is that during our life time we have the chance to follow so many paths .... and we do follow some of them ... but almost no one makes us feel complete.
Why?!
Well ... because all those paths are not related 100% with what you really want to do in life.
It is the thinking of society that guided you in a certain direction that you thought is the right one for you.
And all is happening ... even if it looks like you changed your life ... is not giving you the infinite joy as you should have, just by being alive and having the desire of change completed.
The real change and the real path of change in fact ... comes only when you understand who you are and what is the whole meaning of your life.
You can read 1 million books about change, but if you can’t have a honest discussion with yourself, deciding what should satisfy you ... first as a soul ... you will never attract what needs to fulfill your life.
No one can show you the real path for you.
Maybe ... someone can create an idea of what should suit for you ... but defining the real direction is related only to the ability of listening your inner soul. And this is why real change ... is only about following your own path.
There will be times when all will look like a pathless path ... but if your intuition will say that this is the direction of your meaning in life ... you should just do it.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
12
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
And it’s ok if you followed other ideas that were not yours.
You did not lost your time.
You only exercised the concept of change and now you are ready for the real one. Try to understand the art of connecting to your own soul, learn to listen to your intuition ... and you will know all you have to do.
... and don’t forget ... get rid of everything means dogmatic thinking!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
13
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
When you see the negative change at the persons
that you used to like a lot ... just remember them who they used to be. Nothing more!
People change.
Yes ... we all change and it’s nothing wrong with that, but the only real problem is that sometimes we don’t react well at the lessons given by the Universe ... and the change becomes a negative one.
It happens i met not so long time ago a friend that i did not saw for 15 years.
She was a pretty girl, very intelligent and also a beautiful soul.
She was about 24 at that time and now she was close to 40.
It was a real pleasure to see her again and i was really happy because of that. Today she had the same beauty and maybe she was even more intelligent ... but soon after i realized i deal with a totally different person.
She was very negative, was afraid of people ... of absolutely everybody and even if she knew me by such a long time she treated me almost like a war criminal. Arguing with her for no reason, seeing that i am losing my time and still trying to be polite, i decided to block her and forget that we’ve met.
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
THE ILLUSION
OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
1
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
ADRIAN G DUMITRU
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
Year: 2021
Author: Adrian G Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
2
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
CHANGE is an illusion because we're always at the place where any future can take us.
Allan Watts
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
3
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
INTRODUCTION
The real change will come only when
you will accept it inside your soul ...
There are so many books about change or success, that you will not have enough time to read them during this life time.
Sometimes looking for a huge success that could complete our lives ... the change is just part of the script.
And success indeed can’t come without the change.
But what is the change?!
Can you do it by yourself, or you just need special help from different people?! Or maybe the real change can come only from inside of us ... and the only real help as it to happen is to accept it ... not only want it. Accept it ... as part of your life.
Imagine that many years ago ... you had been poor, but you dreamed to be rich.
And one day you become rich.
But the funny question is ... do you accept the fact that you became rich?! There are so many people that they were poor and then they became millionaires ... but soon after they lost everything again. So ... they re became poor again.
They did not accepted the change.
Could not integrate it in their life.
When change comes in small steps ... is much easier to accept it as part of our new life.
When change comes suddenly ... we need to change our thinking right away ...
and dare to see the whole scene of life in different colors.
On the paths trough life ... we get lost.
We lose all our dreams, one by another ... and we also lose ourselves also. One day ... the idea of change looks illusory and we wonder why we can’t understand the fact that we are never happy anymore.
For a beautiful life, no matter if you are 20, 30, 40, 50 or even 60 or 70 ... you
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
4
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
just need a plan ... the plan for the change.
But the change needs to be a positive one ... and not a collection of silly desires.
And if your life is miserable today ... small changes will make almost no difference at all.
The change needs to be a process of ... dreaming big no matter what happens in your actual life.
But you need to visualize and accept the future ... cause the real change means the break up from your past.
You will lose yourself into this process and become a new you ... but if you really want a new you ... you will accept it.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
5
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
The secret of change is to focus all your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new” (Socrates)
Truth be told, most of us have boring lives, but have you ever made the connection between the concept of a “boring life” and the idea of change?!
Are you looking for a real change or just want to replace the “boring life” ... with anything different?!
In fact the secret of change, and the concept of change is inside of us.
We might only need some “fresh air” and nothing more ... and making few steps on the path of the change ... we do feel different.
Is just like you are very tired and you only need few days off to relax and then you will be fresh again.
So ... what change does it means for you?!
Are you only pretending that you want the change ... or it’s a real path you want to follow in life?!
How you focusing your energy?!
On fighting with the old ... or building the new?!
Lots of questions ...
The change not even started and you start to feel discomfort trying to answer all those questions, but without defining the real meaning of change for you ... you will not be sure if you fight against the past or only follow the dreamed future.
And when we speak about change ... i mean a real one ... you need to learn the art of managing your energies and first of all decide if you want to start a strange process ... where you are going to lose the old you ... and become a new person. If you want to become rich, for example, you will not only need to become rich ... own properties, money, etc etc ... but feel rich inside of you.
Being rich will become an emotion that you will have inside of you all the time. But not long not time ago, comparing with the new you ... you were a poor person.
So ... what you do with the old you?! ... the poor one?!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
6
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
Just forget about him ... and don’t let yourself be anchored into the past anymore.
You accept to live in the present, with the emotions of everything wealthy means. Let’s assume ... you want to be a writer ... so you do what?!
You focus on the fact that no one knows about you as a writer ... or that you want to become a great one?!
You see ... you only need to have in mind the final destination and enjoy the path till that destination, cause the path itself is the life ... your life. Understanding the art of focusing your energy ... is maybe the first step.
And the change ... is only a decision.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
7
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
If not now, when?!
I have a question for you ... when is a perfect time for a change?!
Well ... let me tell you a short real story.
Few years ago, i’ve been staying with someone that used to be very close to me. He did some illegal things and we already know that he could be arrested very soon.
Even if i’ve mentioned to stop what he was doing ... for so, so many times .... he
always ignored me.
And guess what?!
He started to explain to me that it is the worst time to be arrested ... cause all his things were not in order.
... and that was the moment i started to laugh.
I’ve asked ...
“When the hell it’s a good time to be arrested?!
Do you think at 20, 30, 40, 50, 60 or 70?!
Or maybe 80?!
You have nothing to lose at that age.
Do you think someone that has everything in order in his life ... is ready to be arrested?!”
I realized the guy was an idiot.
And guess what ... when i explained again that the moment when we were talking
... was the best moment for a change .. he ignored me again.
So i actually understood that for him, at that time as him to stop what he was doing ... all those illegal things ... the best thing that could happen was to be arrested.
I cared about the guy ... but i was losing my time with someone that did not understood the need of the change.
Now ... tell me ... imagine that someone dear to you ... has an addiction for drugs or alcohol ... what should be the best time to stop this addiction?! Next week?! Two weeks from now?! Next month?!
Nooo ... hell no.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
8
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
The best time for a change ... is now.
And if not now ... when?!
Today is the ideal day ... wake up ... define the change ... believe in its positivity ... and just do it!!
Don’t wait for better times ... cause all we have is only the present moment.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
9
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
Truth be told we want an
over night change in our lifes
There are many moments when the actual reality is very difficult to handle and looks like we have no escape at all.
We dream of a quatum jump, even if we dont understand the concept very well. In few words, the reality sucks and we dream of a life that we will never have, because deep inside us, we dont really believe we will ever meet this reality.
We have a fake attitude that we are looking for change, but this attitude is just a mask for our fears... as them not to be seen.
So we wonder today if there is a way of how our lifes can be changed in what we think that should be better for us.
Does it exists a system that we could follow and achieve our dream life?! But it must be a simple way ... otherwise we know that we will not follow the path.
Everything is happening is related to us, and everything could happen is also related to us.
The magic answear, because we are looking only for magic answears, is the art of defining life.
Yes ... this is an art.
We need to start be honest with ourself, and all the answears to simple questions as “why am i fat?! ... because i eat to much” , “why my partner is cheating on me?! ... because i did not knew to be that perfect partner that i had to be” and the list of questions will go on.
We need to start defining what we dont like. Once we undestand that the change is in our powers and if we really want a change, we will start the process of
achieving the new life we dream at.
We dont need to go to a therapist, we dont need to study motivational issues of social media and dont even need to read hundreds or thousands of books to start the change process.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
10
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
The art of defining our lifes, means that we have the courage to understand what we dont like and define very clear how our reality should look like.
The depression, or what we call depression, because many things are unclear in our minds, is this huge gap between where we are now and where we want to be. We are looking for a magic bridge that should help us go very easilly from one point to the other.
The process itself is a very simple one, as long as we decide to be honest to us.
The art of defining ... yes ... is an art.
And also to live ... is an art.
Once we decide that we are brave enough to live our lifes... the dream life... the magic will happen, cause all the magic is our powers.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
11
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
The real change is about
following your own path
We come to the world with what is called tabula rasa.
This is the theory that individuals are born without built-in mental content, and therefore all knowledge comes from experience or perception. And then the society is teaching us what life is about.
... and we believe it.
But the funny thing is that during our life time we have the chance to follow so many paths .... and we do follow some of them ... but almost no one makes us feel complete.
Why?!
Well ... because all those paths are not related 100% with what you really want to do in life.
It is the thinking of society that guided you in a certain direction that you thought is the right one for you.
And all is happening ... even if it looks like you changed your life ... is not giving you the infinite joy as you should have, just by being alive and having the desire of change completed.
The real change and the real path of change in fact ... comes only when you understand who you are and what is the whole meaning of your life.
You can read 1 million books about change, but if you can’t have a honest discussion with yourself, deciding what should satisfy you ... first as a soul ... you will never attract what needs to fulfill your life.
No one can show you the real path for you.
Maybe ... someone can create an idea of what should suit for you ... but defining the real direction is related only to the ability of listening your inner soul. And this is why real change ... is only about following your own path.
There will be times when all will look like a pathless path ... but if your intuition will say that this is the direction of your meaning in life ... you should just do it.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
12
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
And it’s ok if you followed other ideas that were not yours.
You did not lost your time.
You only exercised the concept of change and now you are ready for the real one. Try to understand the art of connecting to your own soul, learn to listen to your intuition ... and you will know all you have to do.
... and don’t forget ... get rid of everything means dogmatic thinking!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
13
THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
When you see the negative change at the persons
that you used to like a lot ... just remember them who they used to be. Nothing more!
People change.
Yes ... we all change and it’s nothing wrong with that, but the only real problem is that sometimes we don’t react well at the lessons given by the Universe ... and the change becomes a negative one.
It happens i met not so long time ago a friend that i did not saw for 15 years.
She was a pretty girl, very intelligent and also a beautiful soul.
She was about 24 at that time and now she was close to 40.
It was a real pleasure to see her again and i was really happy because of that. Today she had the same beauty and maybe she was even more intelligent ... but soon after i realized i deal with a totally different person.
She was very negative, was afraid of people ... of absolutely everybody and even if she knew me by such a long time she treated me almost like a war criminal. Arguing with her for no reason, seeing that i am losing my time and still trying to be polite, i decided to block her and forget that we’ve met.
