The pleasure of meeting again disappeared and i understood that unfortunately life changed her a lot ... and not in a positive way.
But you know ... today you block someone on whatsapp and they write you on messanger or instagram ... and the same happened with her.
And seeing that i am still a “war criminal” ... i saw no way out than say:
“Listen my dear!
15 years ago i met a very beautiful soul, but i don’t recognize that person anymore!
You were such an amazing person!
Please ... just try to remember who you’ve been at the time i first met you! It will help you a lot if you try to meditate over this subject for a short while!”
I could be rude ... same as she’ve been with me, but she was not in a good shape anyway so that i should do this.
You see .... sometimes there is no real need of saying too much ... but only
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remember them that you used to know that they were amazing in the past ... and
can’t understand the change.
That’s it! Nothing more!
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On the path of change ... feeling that you are losing your mind is just part of the script
Afraid of change?!
... but you actually dream at the big change of your life.
Well .. it’s actually like you like the idea of surfing, but you are afraid of waves, especially of big ones.
And you keep dreaming ... and nothing is really happening.
Well ... let me tell you something.
During time i met lots of people that were in the process of divorce.
I saw all of them ruined emotionally and some of them i could bet that they almost lost their minds.
It was the end of the world.
You know, i have quite a busy life and i missed them for a while ... and somehow when i met them again i was amazed.
The end of life was metamorphosed into the beginning of a new life.
All of them ... not only 1 or 2 were looking totally different ... changed in a very beautiful way.
They were looking better, speaking better, acting better ...
In fact i could say that they became the best version of themselves.
So ... how is it possible as such a difficult process to redefine them in such a beautiful way?!
Well ... sometimes change is a process you plan and sometimes is a forced
process, induced by the Universe.
But the final result is a beautiful one.
The meaning of change is connecting to our portential, explore it ... and become the best version we could be.
But we need to accept following ... the new path ... the change.
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Things running out of control with the partner?!
Start a new EXPERIMENT ... don’t try to CHANGE the loved person ... CHANGE yourself and become the dreamed partner you are looking for ... You will not fail this time.
Wayne Dyer used to say ... “change the way you look at things and things you look at change”.
Would be a lie to say that when things don’t go right ... we don’t have in our minds the idea that all the circumstances, events and people should change?!
Everything in the Universe should change ... but not us.
Yes ... i think i am not over reacting ... but the real problem is that we don’t understand the spiritual concept that the outer world is just a reflexion of the inner world from inside of us.
Some of us know the concept ... but can’t believe it is a true one.
And we just continue life wondering why things don’t go in the direction we want to.
We believe in plans, in harmony ... in the idea of the positive change ... but still life is not the way we thought it should be. The solution?!
Well ... if you have the statistics with the real facts ... and you see that nothing really change in the relationship, at least not in a good way, why you don’t try as an experiment to act as the dreamed partner you are looking for?! Just .. as a final solution.
You see ... we look for perfection all around us, but we never believe that trying to be that perfect person ... we can inspire all the others, including the loved ones.
It says ... that we must be the change we want to see in the world.
And we should always have that in our minds ... but only with honesty.
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A new beginning?!
Do you believe that restarting your life is an option?!
Unhappy, bored of life, feeling you have no meaning, waking up with no pleasure of life ... ?!
And still ... even if you don’t feel alive ... you are afraid of change ... of a new beginning.
But how should we start a plan for changing life?!
I believe is quite simple.
Anyone knows to define what doesn’t like in life and how the dreamed life would look like.
At least ... in theory.
But we are afraid of a new beginning.
You know a wise man used to say: “Don’t be afraid to start over again. This time, you’re not starting from scratch, you’re starting from experience”.
And still ... even if we have so many years of experience behind us, redefining everything is a script we can follow only theoretically.
But what is the difference between a person that has a toxic life and does not feel well because of that ... and a person that is taking drugs and wants to get rid of this addiction?!
Is it easy to start the change?!
Well ... starting is probably not too complicated ... but continuing to follow this path is the difficult part.
In fact is only a decision ... to not come back at a life you dislike and think only of the beauty of life ... that you deserve it.
And we always forget that new beginnings are beautiful ... and gives us good vibes.
So ... it’s quite simple ... define where you are ... redefine everything with the values you want to have ... and start to enjoy the process. There is nothing you have to lose.
... and remember what the wise man used to say.
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On the path of change ... Tsunami is just part of the script.
So ... enjoy the waves!
There are many kinds of changes that you can do ... but usually we prefer the easy things.
We talk about big issues ... but when we talk about real facts ... we just prove that we are experts in defining in beautiful, motivational words ... and nothing more.
But you see ... the change comes anyway.
It’s just part of life ... of our evolution as spirits.
And more you wait for the change ... in a much aggressive way it will happen. So the question is ... should we define and plan the change or just wait as the Universe to do it in a brutal way?!
But everything happens for a reason ... and seeing the change we should just smile and embrace everything happens, knowing and trusting that the Universe knows better what path we should follow.
The funny thing is that one day ... kind of tsunami is coming in our lives. Everything change over night and we see it as a nightmare but it’s only a brutal way of jumping from one reality to another.
The one you planned to have or the one you just need to live for the evolution of your soul.
You ask yourself why the car crashed, why the parent died, why the lover left you ... why, why, why.
An obsessive list of “why” questions and you even wonder why the Universe in treating you in such a way.
Losing the confidence in everything around is the next thing is happening ... and the nightmare goes on.
You just can’t understand why this tsunami became your actual reality and can’t see its meaning.
You are overwhelmed ... and can’t believe that this can’t be true.
You lose all your powers ... both physical and spiritual ones ... till the second
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when you understand that your only option is to ... believe in the Universe ... God ... Allah ... or however you name divinity.
Years later ... what you see today as a tsunami is just the beginning of a new beautiful life ... that you saw as a nightmare.
So .... probably ... embracing and accepting the change ... just as is happens ...
is a wise decision.
Smile ... and enjoy the waves!
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The statistics showing the unhappiness
... require the change ... and even a big one.
Have you ever thought of keeping a diary with what you mostly feel everyday?!
What do you think the statistics show?!
Well ... if you are not satisfied of how it sounds the results of this statistic ... a change needs to be done.
I was once in a toxic relationship and because of the fact that i was blind at everything was going on ... a dear friend, seeing that he will lose his time to convince me of everything is going on ... he asked me to think at the statistic of my feelings with that person.
He was not telling me that the relationship itself is toxic and nothing wrong about that lady ... but after a while i was meditating and realized .... my friend was right.
I only had moments when i was happy and i could almost define as an accident that fact.
I was amazed ... just by simple analyzing the last 2-3 weeks ... then the whole period of being togheter.
I had to admit that i was unhappy ... and in fact ... i had no chance to have a happy life with that person.
It was hard to admit ... but this was the truth.
Statistics showed i was unhappy.
Continuing life in that way .. was illogical.
And i really tried to change things in a way so that the statistics would change ...
but everything was useless.
You see ... when things don’t go right ... we need to have in mind the concept and the meaning of ... CHANGE.
Starting from the belief that we deserve a better life and in fact ... that we deserve to be happy all the time, refusing to accept such a high probability to be unhappy ... embracing the change is ... an interesting idea that we should have in mind.
And sometimes, the best time for change is now.
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Can you become a new you ... when everybody
knowing the “you that you hate” .... is behind your back?!
One day ... you decide to have make a change with your life.
Even a big one.
And you dare to start acting in the new direction.
For example you decide to stop smoking and your close friends are telling you, laughing in the same time:
“Hey! You think to stoped smoking just because you haven’t smoke in the
morning?!
Haha!
I did the same many times.
2 hours from now you will beg me to give you a cigarette”
It’s like you hear “You have zero chance to stop smoking! Don’t even bother to play this game!”
And the funny things is that “encouragements” comes from very close friends ...
not from strangers.
But imagine a different scenario.
You move to a different city, you start working in a new company ... and no one knows you in there.
You decide to stop smoking in the first day you start working in that company. Guess what?!
No one will ever mention that you smoke or you don’t smoke.
The new people know nothing about your habits and don’t really care ... so at least you will not be forced to deal with their negativity.
The change ... has better chances to start, but also continue in the way you want to happen.
Truth be told ... people around us influence a lot our lives.
Is quite difficult to create a change ... when family or close friends tell you about your old way of being ... and that a different you is imposible to appear.
The problem is that we can’t just move to another city or change the job ... just because we want to quit smoking or make another personal change.
But you see ... is just a decision to stop interacting with all those people that
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have a negative impact on your life.
And even the path of solitude is a better one ... and sometimes the best.
Also remember ... if you want to be a loser, spend your time with losers ... if you want to be a better person ... spend more time with positive people.
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Change can be amazing!
So ... dare to change the script of your life.
A good friend of mine told me a story about her and her closest friend.
You see .. my friend is a little bit crazy ... but crazy in a beautiful way.
If you have a problem she is going to give you the craziest solution ever, but the funny thing is that it really works all the time.
I usually don’t listen to anyone, but when she tells me something ... i learnt to pay attention to her thoughts.
One day, years ago her friend started to have a boring life.
She was married, with kids ... having everything ... but still feeling unhappy. She could not define why she was unhappy ... but she had this feeling by a long time already.
So ... when she asked my dear crazy friend what to do to change her life ... to redefine everything ... she replied ... “Listen, i know you are married .... but you need a lover ... at least for a while”.
The lady was shocked.
She was with the kids all the time and she was not having an active social life, being busy with the family issues.
But, you know, sometimes things change over night.
And one day, being with her husband, she was driving and suddenly she had made a car accident.
They started to have a fight with the gentleman that was in the other car ... but also with his wife.
They could not agree on anything about who is responsible for the accident and in the end they decided to go at the Police Station.
And while waiting in there, this time it was only him and her ... they started to chat and smile to each other.
He invited her to a coffee and ended at a hotel across the street ... and she could not believe it.
Because of a car accident ... she started a love affair ... but she was feeling amazing.
