I started to write first, because i’ve been involved into a illusory love story.
And i wrote a lot.
About 9 books.
I published all of them on Amazon and on Google Books, but even if i started to write quite ok, in fact better and better, somehow that was not a path for me. During the years i read lots of books about philosophy, history, personal growth, sociology and many other subjects and never about love.
But, you see, i found the inspiration to write about that for about 2 years.
And i published a lot on instagram and facebook, but still, something was wrong. Facebook deleted some of my posts (tens of posts) and one day they even deleted my private account.
There was nothing illegal behind my actions and the facebook page, even if it was about love, it was written in very polite words. I could not believe all of these were happening.
2 years of work ... and everything was ruined, even if i started to write interesting stories.
It was like the Universe was telling me ... “My dear! It’s time for a new chapter of your life! That’s it!”.
And i suddenly remembered that i disliked many, many years ago that i finished kindergarten and went to school, then i was not pleased that i finished the primary school and went to the high school ... and in the end it was the same story with the university.
Every time i had to start a new chapter, i was not pleased to abandon the past ...
and could not admit i need to see other things in life.
The love story i had been involved it was an illusory one ... and had to admit i need to abandon the page, the name, the books about love ... everything. Basically ... start everything from scratch.
I had lots of people that read my stories and i could not even say good bye to them, because i did not had any facebook account anymore.
So ... started a new page, with my other name, Gabriel ... and understood it’s time to write about ... change.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
Or maybe the way we should embrace the change.
The illusory love story changed something in me cause i started to write and then on the path of the big change ... i had to change even the path with a new path. But i learned that life goes on ... no matter what’s happening.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
Change the story or the love story?!
A philosophical or an existential question?!
So ... one day you see that the love story is not working anymore how it worked not so long time ago.
Everything looks changed ... but in a negative way ... and the real problem is that you still love that person.
Don’t know what to do and whatever you decide ... so that you could save the
relationship ... nothing works.
And you still remain in the story.
You don’t have the courage to stop and restart the life in a different way.
I believe today that if you are unhappy, you should just leave the story, at least for a while ... and think about the power of solitude. But we dislike being alone.
It’s hard to spend time ... only with us.
And then you start wondering if you should think to change the story ... or the love story itself.
You don’t even know if this is a philosophical or an existential question ... but you just continue life ... without being able to chose anything in fact.
I wondered myself many, many times in life ... what is the right path to follow ... try to save the relationship or think about redefining my life completely ... and the funny thing is that all the times ... i found out that the solitude is a good path to have in mind, because the best partner you could have in life, the one that will never leave or disappoint you ... is your soul.
And at the right time, the right person will appear ... and your soul will allow you to connect through intuition to all the answers.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
Which one is the real change of the soul
... the you from the love story ... or the
you after the love story?!
Being in love is easy, but staying in love is quite difficult.
One day, you fall in love and you realize that over night you change completely.
You become a new you.
You dress in a different way, you act differently on the stage of life ... you smile all the time ... it’s indeed a new person and only the ones that were in love understand the power of that change.
And then ... you are disappointed and you change again.
Love succeeded to make you understand how you could open your soul and then suddenly you change again.
But you don’t become anymore the one that you used to be before you realized what love is about.
You become kind of a mix between the old you and the one that was in love, not so long time again ... but still ... it’s a different you. You are more mature.
The only problem is that today you don’t want to hear the word ... LOVE anymore.
You liked the story, but don’t dream anymore to have another story.
And you wonder which one is the real you, the one from the love story, that could conquer the world ... or the one after the love story ... that prefers silence for everything important that happens in life.
The one that sees life as something amazing ... or the one that sees life as a lesson?!
Probably ... both are interesting experiences that you need to accept just as they come on the timeline if your life.
And there is no real you ... because we can probably be defined in many contrary ways ... but we should keep in mind that a diamond is not so beautiful before the process done by the jeweler ... but looks amazing when it is presented into a jewelry store.
And same can happen with us ... but only if we have the power to see the change as a beautiful thing ... no matter what it really happens.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
Want a change for a huge success?! Maybe it’s time to understand the meaning of the russsian roulette concept
We all have dreams.
Some of us lots of dreams and some ... very big dreams.
Usually a dream ... have a price to pay.
And a big dream ... a very big price to pay.
But when you start to act, you see that life can be risky ... and sometimes for a big success you will need to play a little bit harder and ignore the risks that might appear.
The concept of russian roulette is quite an interesting one and you should think about it.
It is a lethal game of chance in which a player places a single round in a revolver, spins the cylinder, places the muzzle against his or her head, and pulls the trigger in hopes that the loaded chamber does not align with the primer percussion mechanism and the barrel, causing the weapon to discharge.
But can we do this when it comes about risking everything for a big dream ... and comparing with the concept of russian roulette when you actually risk your life ... which basically means everything ... do we really play all in?!
And also ... with the open heart?!
Can you take the decision of acting this way?!
Of course ... you can be lucky enough and play to the lottery and win the big prize ... but maybe 1 person at one million have this chance.
But usually for a big change in your life, you must understand that taking risks is an important thing to keep in mind.
And i usually believe in defining everything ... but not on defining the risks.
It might look scary to think of worst case scenarios, but taking risks in the end will mean only to act without fear on getting that huge success you dream about.
... just play russian roulette it in the real life ... or let your boring life continue just as it is.
Is only your choise!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
The change is not a desire ... or an option.
The change is a ... must
It happened many times in my life ... as the change to come as an unannounced tsunami.
Everytime ... i had the chance to make the change myself in my rhythm i wanted ... but i always delayed everything.
And then the change came ... in the tsunami style.
It took me years to understand that behind everything happens there is a message ... but it’s kind of a message behind the message.
And i could not see the root of the problems ... till the day when i understood that the lessons will be repeated if i don’t find the answers.
I hided so many times everything from myself even if i knew that i don’t follow the right path.
I lied myself in so, so many occasions ... hiding the truth and avoiding the change.
And then ... the tsunami came again.
Today i see that the change is not a simple desire, or an option ... but a must. You must have in mind that you cannot stop the time ... and is better to plan the change than expect it ... so that it could not happen in a brutal way.
Change is one of the most important component of our active life ... but can be the one that helps us feel the joy that comes from energy of the beginning. And becomes a ... must ... because a new beginning gives us good vibes all the time ... and we need good vibes ... but only if we are ready to embrace everything happens ... in the way it happens.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
Hiding the need of change
... or the illusion that you can avoid it
Deep inside us there is a huge potential, but we are afraid of showing it on the stage of the real life.
We even know that with very simple steps, the change can become real .. but we delay everything.
We have the illusory belief that the change can be avoided ... and the need of
change is hided ... so well.
But why we do this?!
Can we define this silly process?!
Well ... everything is mainly because we don’t believe in ourselves ... in our huge potential.
I wrote few books about love ... 9 in fact ... till this moment ... and then i decided to stop.
To write about love ... i needed to be involved into a love story ... but being married with the wrong person ... but also realizing that having a love affair is just an illusion ... i stoped.
I stoped the love story ... but also writing about love ... and decided as never in my life to write any other book about this.
But ... i was writing so well about love ... and i was losing a huge potential.
I had a facebook page and an instagram page and i abandoned them also.
And still ... i could not heal my need of love.
I wrote about love ... because in fact i wanted to define for me ... my need for love.
I even said to myself that i will not use the word love anymore.
And then ... a beautiful girl appeared in my life.
Is like she appeared from nowhere ... but i liked her a lot.
The Universe was laughing of me.
I stoped an illusory love story that appeared from my need of love ... stoped
everything related to my writings about the subject ... even my daily
conversations with people from all around the world ... and then this girl
appeared in my life.
And ... i liked her a lot.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
My real problem was in fact that i was in the wrong marriage by such a long time ... and i was hiding the need of a change ... having this illusory idea that i can avoid a new beginning or an inevitable end.
But ... i probably don’t know yet that an end is actually a new beginning ... and i promised myself that i will become wiser. And i forget this promise also.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
Sometimes we just change an illusion
... with another illusion ... and we
call this ... a change
Have you ever dreamed of a new job and then you got it ... as in the end to realize that you just changed your job with something that looked like a dream job, but was nothing than a similar job with the one you already had?! You know ... Steve Jobs used a huge trick when he was hiring people.
He was not offering huge salaries, or interesting bonuses or other advantages for the new employes.
He was always telling them at the interview that he was offering a job where the new hired person can participate at ... changing the world. This is how he convinced the Pepsi CEO to come to Apple.
He actually asked him ... “Do you want to spend all your life selling water with sugar?!”
Nothing more ... and the guy came to his company.
But you see, a job at Apple was a very interesting job and many of the employes came to work over the weekends ... not being paid extra hours.
Now ... let me ask you something else ... what if we change the actual partner with a new one that we believe is not better ... but the best?!
Later on ... we see that everything was only an illusion and that person is not even close with the partner we just left.
So ... how can we define the illusion of change?!
But can the change be defined as an illusion?!
I believe that if we can first connect to our inner soul, listen to the intuition ... the illusion might not appear at all.
I recently met a beautiful lady that was recently involved in an amazing love story ... but with a married man.
Had a good connection with her ... and decided to tell her the truth ... “i am looking a lot with him ... and i am married too”.
And she was also looking like my last muse that inspired me for so, so many books.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
I was a new illusion for her and even if i wanted her as my new muse, cause you can’t be a writer without a muse ... she was also an illusion for me. But we need illusions.
And sometimes is quite difficult to make the difference between illusions and the concept of optimism ... but life continues anyway ... and at the right time, the right change ... will just happen.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
The key of a great success for a mature man
... is just ... have the right muse ... at the right time
