God’s will ... versus ... your will
I spoke with a dear friend few days ago ... about my house that had a fire at the roof ... and the whole meaning of the story.
We both believe in the concept ... the message behind the message and started to had a philosophical discussion about God’s will ... versus ... our will.
And then my friend wrote me a long letter in reply ....
“I too have lost a house to a fire. I was in the process of buying the house but was renting it while the papers were being processed. I will never forget the words that I had spoken aloud 3 days before signing those papers. My mom said to me, "are you sure this is what God wants for you?" My answer was, "The only way I'm not going to sign these papers is if God himself burns the place down." I was determined to do things MY way. God said "really now." (not out loud mind you). Well lo and behold, that house burned down. I learned a few powerful lessons that day. The first one is a big one. NEVER challenge God. Never think you can do some things alone and some things with God. He's got your back ALL the time not just some of the time. Another valuable lesson is, I had family in the house at the time, and they were spared, except one dog. As sad as it was losing my pup, it could have been my daughter or grandson. I am thankful they all made it out alive. I did lose a lot of valued possessions including my dads jacket that smelled like him. (he had just passed away 6 months prior). But I lost nothing more valued than my children's and grandchildren's lives.
Other lessons I learned: Family is wonderful. My family pulled together to get money, clothes, food, shelter and anything else needed for a few days.
The community I live in pulled together and sent money, clothes, furniture, and everything else I could use.
I’m not preaching you ... but ... God has a plan for you just as He did me. Look to God for the answers. Find peace in knowing God is in control. He knows what you need at the right time it’s in his Devine plan : As in the saying, Let go and let God.
If you pray always face the east wall in silence, never stand to pray.”
My friend writes much better as i do ... but in the end we should all ask ourselves what is God’s will for our lives ... no matter what really happens.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
Do the CHANGE with an open heart
... not only with an open mind
The problem is that most of the times we understand the meaning and also the necessity of change ... but we don’t really feel it.
We say “yes” ... we start doing things ... but we just pretend we really do the change.
As an example ... you have an addiction for alcohol ... you decide to stop drinking, but when you see someone drinking ... you think again about the pleasure of your addiction.
And the chance to come back where your’ve been for such a long time is quite big.
But why?!
Why you can’t really make the change?!
Well ... it’s quite simple ... there is no connection between your mind and your soul.
I know that personal development tells us that “Fake it till you make it!” ...and is kind of a trick to start the process of change ... but real connection with the concept of change comes when you actually connect with the present moment and you feel that you can’t continue anymore in the old way ... that brought you to emotional bankruptcy.
An individual that drunk for years ... if he understands that his life is ruined because of the alcohol and feeling the need of change as something beautiful for his life ... will make the change.
The whole process ... is not a mental process ... but a mix between thoughts and feelings.
I’ve been also drinking for many years.
One day i read on a blog the definition of an alcoholic ... and i was shocked ..
cause i was thinking differently.
The guy with the blog wrote ... “An alcoholic is a person that drinks everyday ...
no matter how much he drinks” ... and i was drinking everyday.
One day i decided to stop ... totally stop drinking alcohol.
I realized that the alcohol changes me and my thoughts.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
Even if i was drinking only in the night .. it was stealing my energy of the next day ... but it took me years to do it.
I was not a ... let’s say a professional alcoholic ... but still i was an alcoholic. And the change came only when i felt i want to be in control of myself everyday ... in any of the moments of the day.
All our decision should be a union between mind and soul ... and in fact decision of change should follow beautiful paths.
Think of the change ... plan the change ... but also feel deep inside you the must of that change.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
There will be 1000 reasons to stop, but you need to continue no matter what happens if you really want the change.
I do believe that people can change but i also understand that the process itself is really complicated and sometimes the chances to really have the change... are one at a million.
And in the end, everything is only a decision if you what to stay where you are ...
or you expect to also have the chance to start a beautiful chapter of your life.
It will probably look very easy when you will start ... but soon ... you will start to see in front of your eyes the list with the 1000 reasons to stop. Reason 1, 2, 3 ... 78 ... 124 etc etc.
You will be amazed to see so many, many reasons ... but the list itself .. is only a test and the chance as you to see the list as a real barrier ... is huge. But you see ... determined people become blinds.
They just can’t read all those reasons.
They only see in front of their eyes ... the need for the change.
There is nothing else.
Is like the need for air ... there is no reason to ask why we need the air. Determined people ... live with this need of change deep inside their soul. The list with reasons to stop ... is just an illusion ... no matter what really happens.
Probably you will need to be in front of decision that you only want the change for you ... and nothing more.
The need of beautiful things in the present moment ... becomes a must.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
Cheating ... a need of temporary change
... but also revealing the fear of having
the change for real
Lots of people cheat today.
Is not like it was 100 years ago and not even 50 years ago.
Truth be told ... cheating is today kind of a sport for all the ones that don’t
practice any kind of sports.
And they love doing it.
It makes them feel alive.
I did this too ... i’ve cheated and l’ve been cheated, but i am still wondering why i did this, cause both situations are not a beautiful path to follow.
But i also believe that people that cheat ... do it for a good reason and the fact that someone becomes cheated, makes that person remain in an obsessive state of mind, without understanding the need of change.
Today i have the power to see things with an opened mind.
Hiding the fact that an individual is cheating or ... is cheated by the partner is like hiding that you start to feel very sick and expect as everything to pass by itself.
... till one day when you see that you need to go to the doctor if you want to be ok again.
You see ... if we really want to define in an honest way what cheating means ... we will find the courage to say that cheating reveals the need of change, but also the fear of having the change for real.
If you started to cheat ... it means you are not seeing in your partner everything you expect from that person.
You feel the need of something else in your life, but still half of your soul feels ok with that person and the other half wants a change ...and is starting this process by tasting a temporary change.
On the other hand, when people are cheated, they hurt a lot, but they prefer to stay in the victim stage and not meditate why they were cheated.
They never think at the idea that they are not anymore that “perfect” partner that they used to be.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
Defining why you cheated or why you were cheated ... is an important step in saving your relationship, or your own soul.
Cheating is not moral, but is real.
Is not something bad on the timeline of our lives.
Cheating only reveals the truth about were the 2 of you are.
There will be couples that will see cheating as a reason to break up, but also couples that will understand that cheating is the sign that they lost themselves. Cheating is the key for ... CHANGE ... no matter what the change means.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
When you see the signs for the change so,
so many times ... but you are still doing nothing
than waiting ... you are in trouble
I do believe in destiny, but i also believe that we have the right to choose in life what we really do.
The Universe set up the path for us, but in many cases the timing depends by us. We are the ones that decide the moment when it’s time for the change, but if the Universe loves us will remind all the time what we really have to do.
Let’s assume that a couple ... with 2 persons that used to be in love not so long time ago ... start having fights all the time.
It makes no sense, but the fights represent the need for change.
It could mean anything.
For some couples could mean to break up ... but for some maybe it means to think about stoping all those fights and be in love of each other again.
But when the signs for change appear all the time ... i believe we are in trouble if we are doing nothing, but waiting.
I recently had a problem with a sign that appeared again to me .... and still
wonder what it means.
Sometimes i believe that i know very clear what it means, but i just hide it ... by myself.
A heart appeared on the roof of my house that was in fire.
Few days later i called a priest to the house and after the candle burned completely ... a heart appeared again ... this time in the glass. So ... what is the meaning of the heart?!
There were moments where i thought i know what it really means and moments where i tried to forget that recently i said to myself that i will not listen to my heart anymore.
The same will happen to anyone that reached to the point when the change can’t be delayed anymore ... and ignoring the signs will just be silly.
Meditation over the new path of change is an important process to follow ... and when i say meditation i am not thinking of the meditation that a monk from Tibet is doing ... but even staying alone ... drinking of a good coffee ... smoke a
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
cigarette, if you love smoking ... and think at the importance of starting the change.
And we should also understand that sometimes ... waiting is not an option anymore.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
You can't fool the Universe, but on the path of change you might live with this illusion in your mind
At the right time, the success comes if you really want it, but on that path, trying to find the greatest success of your life ... you will have the illusion that you can fool the Universe.
And indeed for many people the change means success and will do anything to get it and unfortunately “everything” means breaking the laws of the Universe also.
I did the same also and not only one time and for many, many years.
I believed i can fool the Universe, get what i want, accomplish all my big dreams and then when i will have everything i wanted, i will change and respect all the universal laws.
And the Universe was laughing behind my back ... letting me to do and to get all what i really wanted.
But the funny thing was that after the dreams were accomplished i did not felt inside of my soul any joy at all.
In fact ... i did not felt anything at all.
I worked for years and at the end the only pleasure i probably felt was that i ended that chapter that took years.
Years ago i read in newspapers about millionaires that got suicided or hollywood stars that ended in hospital because of drugs, very successful politicians that did horrible things and ended their carriers and made no sense to me ... how to understand what they did.
The path of big dreams might look like in the end as a pathless path ... and the nonsense is not what they did at the end ... but the path itself, the one chosen by them long time ago.
And suddenly we see that the root of the problem is not that we had big dreams, but the fact that we broke all those universal laws.
We thought that we could make a big change with our lives and we did not care about anything on the path of accomplishing that dream.
In the end, the Universe, that was smiling all the time behind our back ... gave us anything we asked for ... except one thing ... the pleasure of enjoying that big accomplished dream.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
So ... don’t be silly ... you can’t fool the Universe!
You see ... we all have a meaning on the plannet ... the president of the country ... but also the simple cleaning lady from school.
We should better connect with the Universe and let him decide what is the great path we should follow in this life.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THE ILLUSION OF CHANGE
Statistic shows that we only replace a reality with a similar one
If you can’t connect
... the change will not happen
It says that CEOs, the important businessman, great politicians ... wakes up at 4-5 am in the morning to prepare the day.
They read, write or meditate over the day that will start when the sun will be on the sky again.
Imagine to be a successful person, to maybe have huge amounts of money into the bank accounts .... in fact to have enough money for the rest of your life .. but still wake up earlier than all the others.
