Adrian G Dumitru
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THE MUSE. A NON SENSE MUSE OF ILLUSIONS
A collection of love essays
The person that helps you jump from a toxic relationship to a beautiful life ... is just an angel that needs to disappear when the transition ends?!
Do we really need someone to give us the power to believe in ourselves ... and start a new life that we desire so much?
I mean ... is it really really necessary to have this kind of a muse .. so that we just see again from time to time that life is beautiful?!
The muse might look like a medicine ... but when you are healed ...
what do you do with the relationship you have with that person?!
Is the muse just a chapter ... or she can become your life?!
Well ... we all need good people to inspire us ... and a person that we are in love with, can inspire us in a much easier way.
Truth be told, not so many people like the life that they have ... and the good vibe from a beautiful muse ... is welcomed. So ... is the muse an angel?!
Does she needs to disappear one day just because you’ve done the jump from the toxic relationship to the beautiful life?! ... or maybe she is that beautiful life?!
However we should define a muse ... their presence is amazing.
They give us power to believe in us.
You know ... in the fairy tales ... the angel disappears after completes the role ... but i believe we should always keep the muse in our lives. Whatever gives you a good vibe ... is amazing. Don’t lose that person!
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE MUSE. A NON SENSE MUSE OF ILLUSIONS
A collection of love essays
Daring to test and taste a relationship
for a very short time
... or what your heart is asking
... please be wise and try to hide from your mind
... at least for a while
In the real life i am not a writer ... but i rent houses and i already do this by many years so that i have an idea about what the renting market means.
In the last years i noticed the appearance of a new kind of customer ... and that is renting a house for a love story.
Few days ago a guy called me that he needed the location of one of the houses i wanted to rent.
Just wanted to rent the house right away, but only for a short time and i was renting only on long terms.
He was married, but deep in love of another lady ... a very, very beautiful one, and you could see on his face everything he felt for her. I did not wanted to rent the house for only a week, but in the end he made me such a good offer that i could not refuse him.
His desire was to make a test for few days to see if the path with that woman ... was a good one.
I wanted to tell him about my book “The beautiful illusion of being in love” ... but how could i explain to him that a guy that is renting houses is a writer that writes about love and illusions?!
I was smiling listening his story and watching the pictures with the 2 of them.
It was an illicit love story ... but still a love story.
And i was wondering myself if it is ok to listen what your heart is
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE MUSE. A NON SENSE MUSE OF ILLUSIONS
A collection of love essays
asking ... and just try to hide of your mind, at least for a while ... till the moment you understand what the story is about.
Daring to test and taste a relationship, even for a very short time, just like my new friend wanted to do ... being also a little bit forced of the fact that he was in love ... i don’t think is wrong. So ... test and taste life!
I am sure you can make a trick to fool your mind ... but always keep the right balance between the heart and the mind.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE MUSE. A NON SENSE MUSE OF ILLUSIONS
A collection of love essays
Is love an illusion?! ... hope that your answear is not that ... it is a beautiful one
Years ago i’ve been working with a lady for some institutes from a canadian university.
In the beginning i did not realised that an institute was in fact 2-3-4 professors searching for answears for certain weird ideas.
When i heard the name institute i was always thinking for a huge building with hundreds of scientists.
Today i was searching to find out if there is any institute that is studying the illusions or the love stories ... but i could not find anyone.
You know, the term “illusion” is not an ugly one ... as it might look like.
It was very often used even in the Bible.
It actually represent what we could also name tests from the Universe
... or life lessons.
And i wonder why no one thought, after the disappointment of a love story, to create an institute of studying the illusion of being in love. But is love an illusion or we name it as that only after the disappointment that comes when the story ends?!
As long as the love story is a beautiful story ... we like it a lot ... but after everything is gone ... we see the things in a totally different way.
So ... how should we define everything?!
Too bad no one thinks to open an institute to study the love stories, cause lots of people from all around the world would appreciate an answear regarding this subject.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE MUSE. A NON SENSE MUSE OF ILLUSIONS
A collection of love essays
But ... till then we should decide ... everyone of us ... what love is really about.
And maybe we should learn more about the art of defining ...
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE MUSE. A NON SENSE MUSE OF ILLUSIONS
A collection of love essays
The perfect love story is only the one that gives you a good vibe all the time
Everybody is falling in love at one time.
... and can’t see anything else except that person.
It’s like an obsession ... but a beautiful one ... or at least this is what we believe.
But how can we define the perfect love story?!
Is any love story a good one?!
You know, usually when you fall in love ... you get lost and you transform in a way in how almost no one will recognize you. You change in the way you act ... and even in the way you look. You radiate ... and everyone can see that.
It says that you can see at the woman that she is in love in her smile and at a man ... in his eyes.
And you feel the change too, but also that you lost control on yourself.
But is any kind of such episode of falling in love a positive one?! I mean, what are the signs that can define a love story like a something good in your life?!
Is it enough that it is love on both sides and that you can see everything as love?!
Unfortunately ... i believe today that this is not enough.
Real, real love is the one that does not make you feel hurt, or have also negative feelings, in total contradiction with the infinite feelings of love.
A real connection is one that brings you good vibes all the time ... and everything you dream ... you feel that can become real with no doubt. If you are wise enough, but also honest with yourself, and keep a mental diary of your love story, but also of the daily vibes ... and then
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE MUSE. A NON SENSE MUSE OF ILLUSIONS
A collection of love essays
you analyze the statistics ... you will then understand if this is a positive or a negative episode from your life.
But whatever it happens, it usually happens for a reason ... and the reason itself, even if we find it positive or negative ... it just happens so that we become better human being with much beautiful souls.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE MUSE. A NON SENSE MUSE OF ILLUSIONS
A collection of love essays
A muse or a shrew?!
I was recently reading the thoughts of a very wise anonymous philosopher.
And i was smiling while i was reading ...
“I would be curious to see the muse living near someone for about 1 year.
Would that someone consider her still a...muse or a shrew? Just one little year near her...
Is it possible that a love story to become a toxic relationship?”
I am sure it was a question available for men, but also for women. So is it posible as an amazing love story to become a toxic relationship?!
Can someone that inspires you an excellent vibe ... a muse for a beautiful life to become one year later ... a shrew?!
I know the anonymous philosopher by many years ... and the bad news is that i saw during the years ... that his theories are right all the time.
But how could be posible as this to be a true theory?!
Well ... if we analyze 100 love stories for example ... after 6 months ... we already see 99 couples that have fights very often. After one year ... the love story is not a love story anymore, even if they are still togheter ... and it’s just a simple relationship.
I even believe that if we see a couple from 100 that is still acting like in a love story ... that should be an amazing example. So was the philosopher right?!
Is the muse always becomes a shrew?! ... or he was only overreacting?!
Well ... the truth is that we don’t know to continue the love story ...
just to be forever a love story.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE MUSE. A NON SENSE MUSE OF ILLUSIONS
A collection of love essays
I love someone …
“I love someone ... and i want always, always to stay with him ...
Am i wrong?!”
(Arij Emaan)
You want something ... and then you have the decency of asking the Universe ... “Am i wrong?!”.
You almost have an obsession for him ... and you can’t do anything to stop the obsession ... and you have the “always” in your mind. It is the desire of being ... forever ... with that person.
And the obsession itself is only the expression of the infinite love.
It says that every time we have a huge desire ... we should detached of that desire and let everything come by itself ... and the wrong part of the obsession is that is forcing the reality.
Being in love means ... a total change of how you see life, but the whole universe totally change cause you start seeing only the couple ... or only the partner ... and nothing more.
Love becomes everything ... and the obsession is your main reason of being alive.
So ... is it an obsession to say ... “i want always, always to stay with him ..?!”
Does it exists positive and negative obsessions in a love story?!
Should we allow ourselves to live with the obsession in the heart?!
Well ... maybe yes.
The infinite itself could be represented in the real life like an obsession
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE MUSE. A NON SENSE MUSE OF ILLUSIONS
A collection of love essays
... and love ... real love ... makes the meaning of everything be a positive path.
And if you really love someone ... wanting everything ... always ... is just part of the script.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE MUSE. A NON SENSE MUSE OF ILLUSIONS
A collection of love essays
“I only want the love story.
Nothing more ...”
If you would be in the position of choosing just the love story ... and nothing more ... i mean nothing, nothing else except love ... would you do it?!
Like not being needed to go to work, go to the supermarket, prepare food, clean your house, wash your clothes etc etc etc. ... just the love story ... and nothing else.
How would a love story look like if we should invest all our time ...
only in the love story?!
Should that be posible ... or it’s just an illusory scenario?!
Well .. i believe ... that in general, in life, everything is posible ... but we should allow ourselves to have the liberty of doing only what we love to do ... not what we need to do. And i think is probably just a choise.
The problem ... in fact ... the huge problem with the love stories ... is that after a while they are metamorphosed into relationships ... that are more a partnership and the idea of love is totally forgotten.
Being in love is seen then as ... just being an illusory way of living togheter ... even if not so long time ago everything was looking amazing.
Imagine now ... that you could say ... STOP ... to the passing of time ... and you could remain in the story.
Imagine you could say ... “I only want the love story. Nothing more ...”
Why we chose to have an ordinary life ... when in fact we could have an amazing one?!
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE MUSE. A NON SENSE MUSE OF ILLUSIONS
A collection of love essays
Difficult to understand the human mind and the behavior related with the subject ... but it’s silly to see that we could have fantastic moments ... great lives ... and we chose insignificant ways of spending life in couple.
Maybe it’s time ... at least to think about the subject.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE MUSE. A NON SENSE MUSE OF ILLUSIONS
A collection of love essays
... she said ... “Listen .... it’s all about sex!”
“Well ... is it?! ... weird ... i am a man and i did no realised it!”
I was chatting with an old friend in her beautiful office.
We had a project togheter, but all the time we meet, we also speak about life ... love and the meaning of everything.
Her husband was in the other room ... but i don’t think he was bothering to listen to us.
I mentioned her that i like them as a couple ... and she really did not took this as a compliment ... even if her husband was looking for me as the perfect husband for her.
And when she said .... “Listen ... it’s all about sex!” ... i almost lost
my words.
I could not believe that my friend could not stand her husband, which look like the perfect guy .... which by the way, i will never be ... but
they stayed togheter cause sex was amazing ... and nothing more. So ... can be sex such a great force that keeps 2 people in a relationship for a long time?!
Well ... i even heard people that decided to break up, but still continue as soul mates ... which i also found weird at that time. But reality is the way it is.
We can define it in any ways ... but facts are facts ... and the decisions we take today will influence in a big way the future. Probably our addictions run our lives.
A person that have a great appetite for sex ... will not let go a partner that represent a great sexual connection.
The partner might not fulfill all the other needs ... but the fact that they are happy in bed ... means everything.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE MUSE. A NON SENSE MUSE OF ILLUSIONS
A collection of love essays
And then ... the other part of reality must be accepted just as it is ...
