even if the smile cannot be seen so often on their face.
So ... is sex important?!
Can the addiction for sex run our lives?!
I know people that have multiple relationships for that ... but it looks like .. there are people that prefer to stop searching for someone else if they found the partner that offers them the best sexual connection. But what if all is a confusion between the concept of soul mates and sex mates?!
So ... think about ... the concept of sexual muse ... and remember the lyrics:
“Let's talk about sex, baby
Let's talk about you and me”
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She …
“She desired ...
Romance of life ...
Devastation of love ...
Healing of spirit ...
Tending to a soul ...”
(Arij Emaan)
I’ve never met a person with such a talent to define what a woman in love wants ... as my dear friend Arij.
She is young and i think she still has the power to believe that a love story can be a fairy tale.
I believe also that the woman wants the romance of life, devastation of love and also the healing of spirit.
It’s a good definition ... and it’s good if you know to define what she wants.
You can guess ... but when you are sure of what a woman wants ... and if you care about those desires ... she is yours forever. Understanding and feeling the woman is the only key to her heart. And even if love exists ... you will need to decide if you care more about you ... as a person ... or you 2 ... as a couple.
Tending to become one soul ... is only a decision ... if it is the right love story you need to live in this life.
But tending to become one soul only ... means also to mix your energies ... and totally forget about the old you ... and care only about “us”.
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Any woman will be thrilled if you will whisper her ... about her desires ... cause in many cases she knows more about “us”.
So it’s up to you if you wish to become the muse ... of the muse.
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Don’t know why
“I don't know why I'm holding on to you ...
There is nothing to hold on you ...
Maybe it’s because i love each and every piece of you ... “
(Arij Emaan)
What if you are in love with someone ... that looks like nothing, but an illusion?!
... and the huge problem is that you love every piece of that person. There is no real explanation of what holds you near that person ... but you can’t leave the story no matter what happens.
Many love stories are difficult to be defined and have no logical explanations .. but the magic is there all the time. Or maybe the magic itself is the explanation.
But why we should need an explanation of what keeps us in the story?!
Why we can’t just enjoy the story and that’s it?!
Does it make sense to bother about those details ... or focus only on enjoying the story?!
Imagine that one day you are in love, you feel happy and you can’t stop ask yourself what is going on.
You know ... the reason might be the connection itself between the 2 souls ... but you still can’t really see what holds you in there ... because you have no idea of what connection means.
No one ever told you about this ... and now you need to find the answear alone.
But maybe it will be fun to find out what magic means.
Adrian G Dumitru
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The writer that pretends he
is only a spectator …
Can you write about the sensations offered by drogs if you never took drogs?!
I mean ... you can speak with people that are addicted to different kind of narcotics, but if you don’t taste yourself ... you will never understand what is really going on.
So ... writing about drogs and the addiction of that should be just something very naive ... and also useless.
So ... i wonder myself if a writer about love could write about the subject if he is not in love ... or was not recently in love.
A dear friend of mine, also writer, told me few days ago that he has big problems with his wife, cause he writes about love.
Between the 2 of them it is not a love story, it never was and it will never be ... and it makes no sense that he writes about love.
And she started to keep asking him .. who is the muse behind those writings.
In the beginning he argued that he only writes in an illusory style ... and the writings have no real connection with his real life, but later on they both accepted that obviously ... behind all those beautiful words there is a muse.
You see ... when real love is in there ... you can’t hide it.
You can’t come with the story that you are a writer that in fact was only a spectator of his life.
Real love can be seen on your face, on the way you speak and act. Unfortunately for my friend that is a writer ... most probably the only option i see for him ... is writing kind of abstract philosophy about love ... so that no one could acusse him of anything ... except maybe that he is just crazy ...but even as that .. still ... the subject is strange
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for a married person that was never in love with his wife. So ... can you hide the muse?! Can you hide that you are in love?!
Well ... maybe you are lucky enough and you can hide the muse ...
but i am sure is quite imposible to hide the fact that you are in love.
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The lovely letter of an amazing muse
... that had enough of being just a muse
“Good morning!
I woke up this morning with a big question in my mind ...
Why don't I write to you anymore?!
Why don't I have this pleasure anymore?!
And I answered to myself ... that I inhibited myself.
I kept writing you how I feel, what I want ...... etc ... and I always
heard the word “paranoia”.
That's where took us this word.
Maybe disappointment, too much confidence in us.
They all contributed to where we are today.
What I thought in the past was possible and strong, today seems to have ruined everything, but I know that's the way it is and they all go somewhere ... cause they have a purpose.
I stopped analyzing for a long time, to resist ... and to understand that it's just a story and it doesn't have to be more than that. Somehow I had to figure it out from the beginning because we wanted different things ... on each one lacking. That was all.
I prayed and noticed that I was beginning to receive the answears.
That's all I can do.
Someone has to take pity on us and help us find the way out.
It's not that we don't find a common path ... like you said yesterday. It's about everyone wanting something different ... ever since the beginning.
Most of the time I can't even find my words and I have nothing to write to you.
And that pleasure of seeing or writing messages slowly began to fade.
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But that's the way it is and I'm not looking for culprits anymore. It's just an episode like many others in our lives ... a beautiful one, which lasted as long as it could last.
We probably have a lot more to do in the future as we did in the past.
So .... let’s wait for the next episodes.
I'm sorry I can't be the mistress you want, but it's just not to be.
Not in this life.
I lied nicely when I said ... honey, it wasn't like that.
We've always been lovers, but that's how it was ... because of too much love.
That was the only real thing between us, although there were times when we doubted that as well.
I know and I've always felt that you make an effort to get along with her.
I don't condemn you.
But being with me, you won't be able to.
You are not made to thank 2 people like me.
You probably need to analyze more and focus on it, maybe it's worth
it and she wants it too.
It's just friendly advice.
In the end, you decide what you want ... and what you do. I wish you a beautiful day!”
Adrian G Dumitru
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“Distance means nothing,
if someone means everything”
(Antoaneta Bunea)
I have a question ... can long distance relationships work?!
Can you have a love story with someone that is far away from you?!
Can this work for a long time?!
A dear friend of mine, that lives in Malaysia, asked me about this ... and i even wanted to tell her ... “Hell no ... Why do you ask?! ... You are too smart to ask me something as that.”
... then after seeing the quote bellow, i understood that my answear was a silly one.
My friend from Malaysia has a long distance relationship and she still believes in that “us”.
She cannot disconnect from the story ... and continue the life in the real world.
At that time i even wanted to tell her that real love means also physical touch and you can’t have it when you are not near that person.
You know ... in Asia ... lots of families are living far away one from another, because people need to go to work in other places.
Long distance relationships can be seem very often ... and today, because of the phone, messenger or whatsapp is much easier to stay connected with the partner that is far away.
But ... as Antoaneta Bunea was saying .. in fact ... distance means nothing if the souls are connected.
The distance makes the 2 of you go on a spiritual journey togheter ... and this is how you will explore the spiritual side of the relationship. There are actually 2 reasons for that ... as a friend of mine used to
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say.
The first one is that a spiritual relationship is when the couple experiences harmony, understanding, and peace. Emotions come deep from within the core or the heart, physically and mentally. This relationship can be compared to having a soul mate.
Second ... if you feel like you were drawn towards certain individuals for some reason, then you may have developed a spiritual connection ... When you meet someone you are spiritually aligned with, you develop an instant and deep connection with them that is not necessarily romantic.
In this situation the connection ... will never separate you ... no matter how long you have no communication . You will always be connected.
So ... i believe that a long distance relationship is a test .... a big
one ... just to understand if you are really connected to your partner.
Adrian G Dumitru
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Killing every version of herself …
“ She will kill every version of herself ...
Which disregard for being her ...
Now she doesn't belive in settling ...
Once she settle down ...
Thats why no longer flashes as her ...” (Arij Emaan)
Being in love does it mean to lose yourself?! Just forget about your real personality?!
Is it kind of a brainwash?!
Does it have the same effect on women, but also on men?!
Will you agree to accept this “killing” of every version of yourself ... in exchange for infinite love?!
I think it is all an expression of what you expect from life, but also of what the Universe prepared you.
Killing every version is in fact the break up of the past and ... the change according with the new atmosphere of the love story. But it’s a new path ... the one of love.
And we should also say ... maybe is time as a new version of her to be born.
Life changes us.
But love changes us a lot.
In the end you will see a change ... and maybe a big one ... but you will just love everything.
Cause love itself acts as a muse ... that will totally change the vibe of your life ... if you accept it, in the right way.
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A strange philosophy about our partners ...
All women are crazy ... all men are jerks.
Few days ago i’ve staying about 30 minutes ... chatting with a beautiful lady.
She is a little bit more of 30, blonde, divorced, very intelligent ... and i believe that she read at least 1000 books in her life. And i also believe she is crazy ... even if i like her a lot.
I’ve been speaking with her ... about the perfect relationship ... and even if she listened to me by the end .... she concluded ... “you speak
very nice ... with very interesting theories ... but i still define you are a real jerk”.
Well ... everything i tried to explain to my dear ... beautiful ... crazy ... friend ... was that the perfect love story can only happen in certain conditions.
I was asking what should happen if we could avoid reality ... and only enjoy the love story?!
And i was also saying that in the real life ... in a normal relationship, mixed with everything reality means ... we lose the feelings of happiness ... just fighting to get other silly things.
So do we need a perfect scene as the relationship to be perfect?! Like ... the best restaurant ... the best coffeeshop ... the best hotel ... etc etc?!
Or the connection between the souls is enough?!
To understand the real truth ... we always need to define the undefined ... and the truth is that in the real life, because of too many interferences with other things and situations but also people ... we lose the perfect connection from the couple.
We just miss the chance of staying connected all the time, at the infinite intensity.
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And we start to feel strange ... and have a strange philosophy about our partners ... that all women are crazy and all men are jerks ... but we just see things differently ... just as me and my friend that defined me a nice jerk.
But probably we are not either crazy or jerks ... but lost on a path difficult to be defined.
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The importance and the meaning of beautiful presents into a love story
Are presents important?!
Does a woman love to be surprised with beautiful presents?!
... and i don’t mean flowers.
So ... is sex important?!
Can the addiction for sex run our lives?!
I know people that have multiple relationships for that ... but it looks like .. there are people that prefer to stop searching for someone else if they found the partner that offers them the best sexual connection. But what if all is a confusion between the concept of soul mates and sex mates?!
So ... think about ... the concept of sexual muse ... and remember the lyrics:
“Let's talk about sex, baby
Let's talk about you and me”
Adrian G Dumitru
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A collection of love essays
She …
“She desired ...
Romance of life ...
Devastation of love ...
Healing of spirit ...
Tending to a soul ...”
(Arij Emaan)
I’ve never met a person with such a talent to define what a woman in love wants ... as my dear friend Arij.
She is young and i think she still has the power to believe that a love story can be a fairy tale.
I believe also that the woman wants the romance of life, devastation of love and also the healing of spirit.
It’s a good definition ... and it’s good if you know to define what she wants.
You can guess ... but when you are sure of what a woman wants ... and if you care about those desires ... she is yours forever. Understanding and feeling the woman is the only key to her heart. And even if love exists ... you will need to decide if you care more about you ... as a person ... or you 2 ... as a couple.
Tending to become one soul ... is only a decision ... if it is the right love story you need to live in this life.
But tending to become one soul only ... means also to mix your energies ... and totally forget about the old you ... and care only about “us”.
Adrian G Dumitru
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Any woman will be thrilled if you will whisper her ... about her desires ... cause in many cases she knows more about “us”.
So it’s up to you if you wish to become the muse ... of the muse.
Adrian G Dumitru
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Don’t know why
“I don't know why I'm holding on to you ...
There is nothing to hold on you ...
Maybe it’s because i love each and every piece of you ... “
(Arij Emaan)
What if you are in love with someone ... that looks like nothing, but an illusion?!
... and the huge problem is that you love every piece of that person. There is no real explanation of what holds you near that person ... but you can’t leave the story no matter what happens.
Many love stories are difficult to be defined and have no logical explanations .. but the magic is there all the time. Or maybe the magic itself is the explanation.
But why we should need an explanation of what keeps us in the story?!
Why we can’t just enjoy the story and that’s it?!
Does it make sense to bother about those details ... or focus only on enjoying the story?!
Imagine that one day you are in love, you feel happy and you can’t stop ask yourself what is going on.
You know ... the reason might be the connection itself between the 2 souls ... but you still can’t really see what holds you in there ... because you have no idea of what connection means.
No one ever told you about this ... and now you need to find the answear alone.
But maybe it will be fun to find out what magic means.
Adrian G Dumitru
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The writer that pretends he
is only a spectator …
Can you write about the sensations offered by drogs if you never took drogs?!
I mean ... you can speak with people that are addicted to different kind of narcotics, but if you don’t taste yourself ... you will never understand what is really going on.
So ... writing about drogs and the addiction of that should be just something very naive ... and also useless.
So ... i wonder myself if a writer about love could write about the subject if he is not in love ... or was not recently in love.
A dear friend of mine, also writer, told me few days ago that he has big problems with his wife, cause he writes about love.
Between the 2 of them it is not a love story, it never was and it will never be ... and it makes no sense that he writes about love.
And she started to keep asking him .. who is the muse behind those writings.
In the beginning he argued that he only writes in an illusory style ... and the writings have no real connection with his real life, but later on they both accepted that obviously ... behind all those beautiful words there is a muse.
You see ... when real love is in there ... you can’t hide it.
You can’t come with the story that you are a writer that in fact was only a spectator of his life.
Real love can be seen on your face, on the way you speak and act. Unfortunately for my friend that is a writer ... most probably the only option i see for him ... is writing kind of abstract philosophy about love ... so that no one could acusse him of anything ... except maybe that he is just crazy ...but even as that .. still ... the subject is strange
Adrian G Dumitru
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for a married person that was never in love with his wife. So ... can you hide the muse?! Can you hide that you are in love?!
Well ... maybe you are lucky enough and you can hide the muse ...
but i am sure is quite imposible to hide the fact that you are in love.
Adrian G Dumitru
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The lovely letter of an amazing muse
... that had enough of being just a muse
“Good morning!
I woke up this morning with a big question in my mind ...
Why don't I write to you anymore?!
Why don't I have this pleasure anymore?!
And I answered to myself ... that I inhibited myself.
I kept writing you how I feel, what I want ...... etc ... and I always
heard the word “paranoia”.
That's where took us this word.
Maybe disappointment, too much confidence in us.
They all contributed to where we are today.
What I thought in the past was possible and strong, today seems to have ruined everything, but I know that's the way it is and they all go somewhere ... cause they have a purpose.
I stopped analyzing for a long time, to resist ... and to understand that it's just a story and it doesn't have to be more than that. Somehow I had to figure it out from the beginning because we wanted different things ... on each one lacking. That was all.
I prayed and noticed that I was beginning to receive the answears.
That's all I can do.
Someone has to take pity on us and help us find the way out.
It's not that we don't find a common path ... like you said yesterday. It's about everyone wanting something different ... ever since the beginning.
Most of the time I can't even find my words and I have nothing to write to you.
And that pleasure of seeing or writing messages slowly began to fade.
Adrian G Dumitru
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But that's the way it is and I'm not looking for culprits anymore. It's just an episode like many others in our lives ... a beautiful one, which lasted as long as it could last.
We probably have a lot more to do in the future as we did in the past.
So .... let’s wait for the next episodes.
I'm sorry I can't be the mistress you want, but it's just not to be.
Not in this life.
I lied nicely when I said ... honey, it wasn't like that.
We've always been lovers, but that's how it was ... because of too much love.
That was the only real thing between us, although there were times when we doubted that as well.
I know and I've always felt that you make an effort to get along with her.
I don't condemn you.
But being with me, you won't be able to.
You are not made to thank 2 people like me.
You probably need to analyze more and focus on it, maybe it's worth
it and she wants it too.
It's just friendly advice.
In the end, you decide what you want ... and what you do. I wish you a beautiful day!”
Adrian G Dumitru
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“Distance means nothing,
if someone means everything”
(Antoaneta Bunea)
I have a question ... can long distance relationships work?!
Can you have a love story with someone that is far away from you?!
Can this work for a long time?!
A dear friend of mine, that lives in Malaysia, asked me about this ... and i even wanted to tell her ... “Hell no ... Why do you ask?! ... You are too smart to ask me something as that.”
... then after seeing the quote bellow, i understood that my answear was a silly one.
My friend from Malaysia has a long distance relationship and she still believes in that “us”.
She cannot disconnect from the story ... and continue the life in the real world.
At that time i even wanted to tell her that real love means also physical touch and you can’t have it when you are not near that person.
You know ... in Asia ... lots of families are living far away one from another, because people need to go to work in other places.
Long distance relationships can be seem very often ... and today, because of the phone, messenger or whatsapp is much easier to stay connected with the partner that is far away.
But ... as Antoaneta Bunea was saying .. in fact ... distance means nothing if the souls are connected.
The distance makes the 2 of you go on a spiritual journey togheter ... and this is how you will explore the spiritual side of the relationship. There are actually 2 reasons for that ... as a friend of mine used to
Adrian G Dumitru
38
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say.
The first one is that a spiritual relationship is when the couple experiences harmony, understanding, and peace. Emotions come deep from within the core or the heart, physically and mentally. This relationship can be compared to having a soul mate.
Second ... if you feel like you were drawn towards certain individuals for some reason, then you may have developed a spiritual connection ... When you meet someone you are spiritually aligned with, you develop an instant and deep connection with them that is not necessarily romantic.
In this situation the connection ... will never separate you ... no matter how long you have no communication . You will always be connected.
So ... i believe that a long distance relationship is a test .... a big
one ... just to understand if you are really connected to your partner.
Adrian G Dumitru
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A collection of love essays
Killing every version of herself …
“ She will kill every version of herself ...
Which disregard for being her ...
Now she doesn't belive in settling ...
Once she settle down ...
Thats why no longer flashes as her ...” (Arij Emaan)
Being in love does it mean to lose yourself?! Just forget about your real personality?!
Is it kind of a brainwash?!
Does it have the same effect on women, but also on men?!
Will you agree to accept this “killing” of every version of yourself ... in exchange for infinite love?!
I think it is all an expression of what you expect from life, but also of what the Universe prepared you.
Killing every version is in fact the break up of the past and ... the change according with the new atmosphere of the love story. But it’s a new path ... the one of love.
And we should also say ... maybe is time as a new version of her to be born.
Life changes us.
But love changes us a lot.
In the end you will see a change ... and maybe a big one ... but you will just love everything.
Cause love itself acts as a muse ... that will totally change the vibe of your life ... if you accept it, in the right way.
Adrian G Dumitru
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A strange philosophy about our partners ...
All women are crazy ... all men are jerks.
Few days ago i’ve staying about 30 minutes ... chatting with a beautiful lady.
She is a little bit more of 30, blonde, divorced, very intelligent ... and i believe that she read at least 1000 books in her life. And i also believe she is crazy ... even if i like her a lot.
I’ve been speaking with her ... about the perfect relationship ... and even if she listened to me by the end .... she concluded ... “you speak
very nice ... with very interesting theories ... but i still define you are a real jerk”.
Well ... everything i tried to explain to my dear ... beautiful ... crazy ... friend ... was that the perfect love story can only happen in certain conditions.
I was asking what should happen if we could avoid reality ... and only enjoy the love story?!
And i was also saying that in the real life ... in a normal relationship, mixed with everything reality means ... we lose the feelings of happiness ... just fighting to get other silly things.
So do we need a perfect scene as the relationship to be perfect?! Like ... the best restaurant ... the best coffeeshop ... the best hotel ... etc etc?!
Or the connection between the souls is enough?!
To understand the real truth ... we always need to define the undefined ... and the truth is that in the real life, because of too many interferences with other things and situations but also people ... we lose the perfect connection from the couple.
We just miss the chance of staying connected all the time, at the infinite intensity.
Adrian G Dumitru
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And we start to feel strange ... and have a strange philosophy about our partners ... that all women are crazy and all men are jerks ... but we just see things differently ... just as me and my friend that defined me a nice jerk.
But probably we are not either crazy or jerks ... but lost on a path difficult to be defined.
Adrian G Dumitru
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The importance and the meaning of beautiful presents into a love story
Are presents important?!
Does a woman love to be surprised with beautiful presents?!
... and i don’t mean flowers.
