“Gabriel! I’ve learned from you the art of defining … and i always try to honest in front of myself … and analyze all what is going on into my life.
Today i’ve somehow realized that Lily loves the masculine energy … and has this inner desire of staying in those energies.
She loves to be surrounded by men.
She enjoys a lot the masculine energies.
I don’t believe she can be … just with me.
She’s the perfect lady … but i can’t project anything with her into the future … cause i would not accept to share her … with other men.
And today i simple don’t know what to do …”
I was smiling … realizing that even if we are in front of a best case scenario … we still find something which is not ok. “Charlie! My dear friend! Stop being idiot! You finally met the perfect woman.
You had so, so many plans with your life … but … you failed all the time.
On and on and on.
Lily is a divorced lady.
She comes from a world … that is not so related with the borders of a relationship.
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She loves being surrounded by men … yes.
She loves the masculine energies.
What can you do?!
Try to change her way of acting on the scene of life?! She comes from a free universe.
She was a free woman …. divorced.
Before … she could do absolutely anything she wanted.
Now you appeared into her life … and you want as her to
stop acting like that.
Stop being a free soul.
Stay connected … just to your soul.
Be your own … property.
Be yours 100%.
You want as this lady be your prisoner.
Stay disconnected from any other type of energy.
She makes you happy.
She offers you everything a woman can offer to a man. And now … with other words … you expect her to accept being your … prisoner.
It’s really stupid what you ask.
Really … really stupid of you to think like that.
But you might still have a chance.
And that is to love and treat her in the way she loves and treats you.
There is only one way as her to be yours and only yours.
You want exclusivity.
But …
Only if your love will create an amazing connection for her soul …. her unconscious need of connecting to any masculine energy will become … fade.”
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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I saw Charlie … a little bit annoyed.
“So … you are telling me …. that i still have to work … to get
what i want.
She’s mine … but not 100% mine.
I dislike her unconscious need of being surrounded by masculine energies … but …
All you’re telling me is that if i’ll succeed to me a great actor on the stage of life … then maybe she can re soft herself. It’s funny …
The Universe sent me the perfect lady … but she can be mine for 100% … only and only … if i can be the perfect partner also.
I hate all what you say to me … “
“Well … Charlie … just try to be that perfect partner … you were chasing for …
And all will be as you want.”
I was meditating a lot about Charlie and Lily.
And i was smiling realizing that Charlie adored the fact that the Universe sent him the perfect lady … but he did not realized that he needs to become for her ….that perfect partner also.
He wanted her … just for him.
Wanted as Lily to become his prisoner … but forgot that only an amazing connection can make the partner be blind at anything around.
In fact … i was laughing of my friend.
Same as the Universe was laughing of him.
He was acting indeed as any other idiot … that is having one million expectations … not understanding that to amazing things … we need to reply into an amazing way also.
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And it’s true …
A love story can be an amazing.
It can also be a prison … as Charlie wanted that into an unconscious way … but … my friend forgot about the theory that says that in life ….it’s all a … reflection.
And the psychological question was … for me but also for the
2 of them … was Charlie ready also to become the prisoner of
that love story?!
Hmmm …
Or maybe it’s time … for my dear friend … to not bother to change anything at all … in this story … and simple live and enjoy it.
Abandoning … all thoughts … all stupid desires of domination … might be … probably for both of them …. the best plan … they could have in mind.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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Sometimes the present moment is so
amazing that … we can’t see the future anymore.
And we suddenly realize that having any new plan it’s useless.
Have you ever asked yourself why the human being started to have plans .. and goals … or dreams?!
What is making us projecting our happiness into the future?! And why we live so much into the future?
Why can’t we simple connect to the present moment … and enjoy it?!
Today i somehow believe that … the hope itself … is in the same time a positive, but also a negative thing for us. Seeing the unhappiness from the … now … but still having the hope of a better tomorrow … we start making … plans. On and on …. and on.
And it all becomes … a habit.
the one of planning a future …. with a perfect case scenario … that most probably will never happen. Life continues … and one day … guess what?!
The happiness … appears on the stage of our lives … but living so, so many times the stupid scenario of unhappiness
we can’t believe happiness is real.
We don’t know to stop … hoping and … dreaming … about the future.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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We … continue being unsatisfied.
Sometimes …. It happens that i see people … in love.
I see them suffering of the blindness of seeing … the unhappiness.
I see them … connected into the present moment.
And … i am … amazed.
I even see … impossible love stories.
with absolutely no future … and no hope of being … a real thing.
And … still …
I see the … happiness into their eyes.
I see them connected to the …. moment.
And i suddenly realize that having any new plan it’s … useless.
Reality it’s so amazing …. that continuing dreaming it’s just … stupid.
In the end … i finally conclude that the meaning of the love story is actually … to make us realize that we should stop making projections …. but simple stay connected to reality …. and enjoy it.
I analyze all the time …. all those stories.
I see those people in love … as my love teachers … and i keep wondering myself if i will ever have one more time the chance to experience … the love therapy .. so that i can heal my broken soul.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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Rule number 1 …. do your best
and make your partner happy. Everything else will become almost …. irrelevant.
We have this non sense idea of … becoming happy.
And … chase for this to happen … for such a long, long time. Until … one day … when we somehow realize that becoming happy it’s similar with the desire of touching … the horizontal line.
I did this …. for so many years into the row.
And .. of course …. I failed.
But during my lifetime … i had the chance to also meet … people that knew the art of having a great relationship with … the partner.
I was analyzing them … and trying to define how the hell they succeed that … and many others are not capable of being happy together … i finally understood that they somehow have a totally different mentality.
I saw both … men and women … focusing not on the obsession of being happy … but in making the partner … happy.
It s like … offering all … before … maybe not asking …. but
expecting to receive the same thing in return.
Living … without any expectation … but … only having the infinite desire of seeing the partner … happy.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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And …. I see the trick working so, so good.
I see them happy together.
I see them radiating.
I see … an amazing energy around them.
I finally realize that the wisdom of one of the partners … wrote a totally different scenario for the love story.
Because … there’re so, so many other love stories destroyed of the selfish desire … of being happy.
Maybe it’s time to understand that rule number one in any relationship …. should be to do our best …. and make our partners … happy.
Then … everything will come by itself.
All our mistakes …. many of them so, so stupid mistakes …
will become irrelevant.
And maybe the happiness … that we’ve chased for such a long time … will dominate into the end … our lives.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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Disconnecting is sometimes … the key. Only fools who think … and find reasons that they must go through this long-suffering path and continue to suffer proudly … are unhappy.
Many people consider divorce … as a normal process … but into the past it could not be seen as an option.
Even today … divorce is not seen as something positive … for many people.
They consider marriage … as an eternal relationship …. and
no reason could be good enough to explain why … it needs to be broken.
And i see couples that decide to simple do it without meditating so much about their breakup … but also people that … think a lifetime … if they should do it … or not.
So … i ask myself today … just as a simple thinker …. what is
the best … to try healing the unhappiness from the couple ….
or simple break up … and follow another path … with the hope that the next connection should be better.
And ….
Many … just do it …
But i also see … many delaying on and on … and on.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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I smile … looking at both scenarios … and even if i analyze and define all my perspectives … i still can’t say that any of my theories are … right.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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Sometimes … an amazing love story can reset … all we knew or cared about life.
It created an emptiness … that allows us ….
to see the world from a totally different perspective … that we had no idea about. And … we love … all is going on …
I know Dennis, by already a long time.
He’s a writer … a great one … much, much better than me.
… and he writes only and only about love.
In fact … Dennis … writes all the time about his life … and his love stories.
But ... yesterday … Dennis called me a little bit worried … telling me that by almost a month he can’t write anymore. His mind is somehow … empty.
He still meditates a lot … but can’t write anymore.
I found it a little bit weird … cause before this love story he had today … he was defining all the details about his adventures.
He was writing books after books … but today he could not write anymore.
And Dennis was really worried.
The paranoia from his head made him even think that this new lady from his life … it’s actually not a good influence for
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him.
But … i was listening to him ... and smiled.
Then … i was starting … to laugh.
“Dennis my friend … you know i love you … as a friend … but you are … an idiot.
This girl … touched your soul.
She redefined your thinking.
What you see today as emptiness …. is actually a detachment
of all your previous concepts.
Something from this connection … that touched your soul ….
created space for ideas and feelings you never had before.
And … maybe your thinking … will be totally redefined.
Accept the … emptiness.
Accept it as part of the process of being … redefined.” Dennis knew i was right … but he did not liked what i was telling him.
He was … worried.
Before he was using all those strong emotions … as fuel for the process of writing.
But this emptiness… of today … scared him.
And i was laughing again and again of my friend. He was writing so much about love … not really understanding its real meaning … and the moment when real love touched his soul … he got so, so scared.
I somehow believe that my friend will soon start to … write again … from a totally new perspective … the one of real love.
This amazing love story which he is living … and in fact ….
enjoying today … had actually redefined him … as a thinker.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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And we should not be afraid of those experiences … cause many times … whatever redefines us … is for our best.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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We believe it or not … love it’s an amazing … therapy for the soul
George is a guy i know for years.
And even if i try to hide that i am a writer … some of the people from the scene of my real life … found out on social media about my books.
Last week … we’ve accidentally met and spoke for almost an hour.
He was keep telling me about my books about … love, love affairs … and i was keep telling him that it’s just a coincidence of names … and i am not really a writer.
Which is actually true … cause i am not considering myself a writer … but more a guy that is treating his soul … writing his thoughts.
In the end … George started to tell me about his life … and it looked like he was unhappy by years near his life partners. But one day …. his wife found out that he had a love affair with … a young lady.
They argued a lot … as in the end … to decide to go to a therapist together.
They somehow wanted to save their marriage … for the sake of their children … even if she was still very angry on him … for cheating her.
In front of the therapist … George smiled … saying “Sir! With all the respect for the intelligence of everyone from this room
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believe it or not … all i’ve done …. was to heal my soul. I needed a love story … to feel alive again.
All the problems of my marriage … ruined my soul. I was feeling like a … zombie.
All i’ve done was to … save myself.
Today i’ve somehow realized that Lily loves the masculine energy … and has this inner desire of staying in those energies.
She loves to be surrounded by men.
She enjoys a lot the masculine energies.
I don’t believe she can be … just with me.
She’s the perfect lady … but i can’t project anything with her into the future … cause i would not accept to share her … with other men.
And today i simple don’t know what to do …”
I was smiling … realizing that even if we are in front of a best case scenario … we still find something which is not ok. “Charlie! My dear friend! Stop being idiot! You finally met the perfect woman.
You had so, so many plans with your life … but … you failed all the time.
On and on and on.
Lily is a divorced lady.
She comes from a world … that is not so related with the borders of a relationship.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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She loves being surrounded by men … yes.
She loves the masculine energies.
What can you do?!
Try to change her way of acting on the scene of life?! She comes from a free universe.
She was a free woman …. divorced.
Before … she could do absolutely anything she wanted.
Now you appeared into her life … and you want as her to
stop acting like that.
Stop being a free soul.
Stay connected … just to your soul.
Be your own … property.
Be yours 100%.
You want as this lady be your prisoner.
Stay disconnected from any other type of energy.
She makes you happy.
She offers you everything a woman can offer to a man. And now … with other words … you expect her to accept being your … prisoner.
It’s really stupid what you ask.
Really … really stupid of you to think like that.
But you might still have a chance.
And that is to love and treat her in the way she loves and treats you.
There is only one way as her to be yours and only yours.
You want exclusivity.
But …
Only if your love will create an amazing connection for her soul …. her unconscious need of connecting to any masculine energy will become … fade.”
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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I saw Charlie … a little bit annoyed.
“So … you are telling me …. that i still have to work … to get
what i want.
She’s mine … but not 100% mine.
I dislike her unconscious need of being surrounded by masculine energies … but …
All you’re telling me is that if i’ll succeed to me a great actor on the stage of life … then maybe she can re soft herself. It’s funny …
The Universe sent me the perfect lady … but she can be mine for 100% … only and only … if i can be the perfect partner also.
I hate all what you say to me … “
“Well … Charlie … just try to be that perfect partner … you were chasing for …
And all will be as you want.”
I was meditating a lot about Charlie and Lily.
And i was smiling realizing that Charlie adored the fact that the Universe sent him the perfect lady … but he did not realized that he needs to become for her ….that perfect partner also.
He wanted her … just for him.
Wanted as Lily to become his prisoner … but forgot that only an amazing connection can make the partner be blind at anything around.
In fact … i was laughing of my friend.
Same as the Universe was laughing of him.
He was acting indeed as any other idiot … that is having one million expectations … not understanding that to amazing things … we need to reply into an amazing way also.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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And it’s true …
A love story can be an amazing.
It can also be a prison … as Charlie wanted that into an unconscious way … but … my friend forgot about the theory that says that in life ….it’s all a … reflection.
And the psychological question was … for me but also for the
2 of them … was Charlie ready also to become the prisoner of
that love story?!
Hmmm …
Or maybe it’s time … for my dear friend … to not bother to change anything at all … in this story … and simple live and enjoy it.
Abandoning … all thoughts … all stupid desires of domination … might be … probably for both of them …. the best plan … they could have in mind.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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Sometimes the present moment is so
amazing that … we can’t see the future anymore.
And we suddenly realize that having any new plan it’s useless.
Have you ever asked yourself why the human being started to have plans .. and goals … or dreams?!
What is making us projecting our happiness into the future?! And why we live so much into the future?
Why can’t we simple connect to the present moment … and enjoy it?!
Today i somehow believe that … the hope itself … is in the same time a positive, but also a negative thing for us. Seeing the unhappiness from the … now … but still having the hope of a better tomorrow … we start making … plans. On and on …. and on.
And it all becomes … a habit.
the one of planning a future …. with a perfect case scenario … that most probably will never happen. Life continues … and one day … guess what?!
The happiness … appears on the stage of our lives … but living so, so many times the stupid scenario of unhappiness
we can’t believe happiness is real.
We don’t know to stop … hoping and … dreaming … about the future.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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We … continue being unsatisfied.
Sometimes …. It happens that i see people … in love.
I see them suffering of the blindness of seeing … the unhappiness.
I see them … connected into the present moment.
And … i am … amazed.
I even see … impossible love stories.
with absolutely no future … and no hope of being … a real thing.
And … still …
I see the … happiness into their eyes.
I see them connected to the …. moment.
And i suddenly realize that having any new plan it’s … useless.
Reality it’s so amazing …. that continuing dreaming it’s just … stupid.
In the end … i finally conclude that the meaning of the love story is actually … to make us realize that we should stop making projections …. but simple stay connected to reality …. and enjoy it.
I analyze all the time …. all those stories.
I see those people in love … as my love teachers … and i keep wondering myself if i will ever have one more time the chance to experience … the love therapy .. so that i can heal my broken soul.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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Rule number 1 …. do your best
and make your partner happy. Everything else will become almost …. irrelevant.
We have this non sense idea of … becoming happy.
And … chase for this to happen … for such a long, long time. Until … one day … when we somehow realize that becoming happy it’s similar with the desire of touching … the horizontal line.
I did this …. for so many years into the row.
And .. of course …. I failed.
But during my lifetime … i had the chance to also meet … people that knew the art of having a great relationship with … the partner.
I was analyzing them … and trying to define how the hell they succeed that … and many others are not capable of being happy together … i finally understood that they somehow have a totally different mentality.
I saw both … men and women … focusing not on the obsession of being happy … but in making the partner … happy.
It s like … offering all … before … maybe not asking …. but
expecting to receive the same thing in return.
Living … without any expectation … but … only having the infinite desire of seeing the partner … happy.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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And …. I see the trick working so, so good.
I see them happy together.
I see them radiating.
I see … an amazing energy around them.
I finally realize that the wisdom of one of the partners … wrote a totally different scenario for the love story.
Because … there’re so, so many other love stories destroyed of the selfish desire … of being happy.
Maybe it’s time to understand that rule number one in any relationship …. should be to do our best …. and make our partners … happy.
Then … everything will come by itself.
All our mistakes …. many of them so, so stupid mistakes …
will become irrelevant.
And maybe the happiness … that we’ve chased for such a long time … will dominate into the end … our lives.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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Disconnecting is sometimes … the key. Only fools who think … and find reasons that they must go through this long-suffering path and continue to suffer proudly … are unhappy.
Many people consider divorce … as a normal process … but into the past it could not be seen as an option.
Even today … divorce is not seen as something positive … for many people.
They consider marriage … as an eternal relationship …. and
no reason could be good enough to explain why … it needs to be broken.
And i see couples that decide to simple do it without meditating so much about their breakup … but also people that … think a lifetime … if they should do it … or not.
So … i ask myself today … just as a simple thinker …. what is
the best … to try healing the unhappiness from the couple ….
or simple break up … and follow another path … with the hope that the next connection should be better.
And ….
Many … just do it …
But i also see … many delaying on and on … and on.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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I smile … looking at both scenarios … and even if i analyze and define all my perspectives … i still can’t say that any of my theories are … right.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
25
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Sometimes … an amazing love story can reset … all we knew or cared about life.
It created an emptiness … that allows us ….
to see the world from a totally different perspective … that we had no idea about. And … we love … all is going on …
I know Dennis, by already a long time.
He’s a writer … a great one … much, much better than me.
… and he writes only and only about love.
In fact … Dennis … writes all the time about his life … and his love stories.
But ... yesterday … Dennis called me a little bit worried … telling me that by almost a month he can’t write anymore. His mind is somehow … empty.
He still meditates a lot … but can’t write anymore.
I found it a little bit weird … cause before this love story he had today … he was defining all the details about his adventures.
He was writing books after books … but today he could not write anymore.
And Dennis was really worried.
The paranoia from his head made him even think that this new lady from his life … it’s actually not a good influence for
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him.
But … i was listening to him ... and smiled.
Then … i was starting … to laugh.
“Dennis my friend … you know i love you … as a friend … but you are … an idiot.
This girl … touched your soul.
She redefined your thinking.
What you see today as emptiness …. is actually a detachment
of all your previous concepts.
Something from this connection … that touched your soul ….
created space for ideas and feelings you never had before.
And … maybe your thinking … will be totally redefined.
Accept the … emptiness.
Accept it as part of the process of being … redefined.” Dennis knew i was right … but he did not liked what i was telling him.
He was … worried.
Before he was using all those strong emotions … as fuel for the process of writing.
But this emptiness… of today … scared him.
And i was laughing again and again of my friend. He was writing so much about love … not really understanding its real meaning … and the moment when real love touched his soul … he got so, so scared.
I somehow believe that my friend will soon start to … write again … from a totally new perspective … the one of real love.
This amazing love story which he is living … and in fact ….
enjoying today … had actually redefined him … as a thinker.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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And we should not be afraid of those experiences … cause many times … whatever redefines us … is for our best.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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We believe it or not … love it’s an amazing … therapy for the soul
George is a guy i know for years.
And even if i try to hide that i am a writer … some of the people from the scene of my real life … found out on social media about my books.
Last week … we’ve accidentally met and spoke for almost an hour.
He was keep telling me about my books about … love, love affairs … and i was keep telling him that it’s just a coincidence of names … and i am not really a writer.
Which is actually true … cause i am not considering myself a writer … but more a guy that is treating his soul … writing his thoughts.
In the end … George started to tell me about his life … and it looked like he was unhappy by years near his life partners. But one day …. his wife found out that he had a love affair with … a young lady.
They argued a lot … as in the end … to decide to go to a therapist together.
They somehow wanted to save their marriage … for the sake of their children … even if she was still very angry on him … for cheating her.
In front of the therapist … George smiled … saying “Sir! With all the respect for the intelligence of everyone from this room
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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believe it or not … all i’ve done …. was to heal my soul. I needed a love story … to feel alive again.
All the problems of my marriage … ruined my soul. I was feeling like a … zombie.
All i’ve done was to … save myself.
