He continued ... “You see ... in 40 years of marriage, i had only one fight with my wife.
I was drunk and i was listening music very load.
She asked me to stop the music ... and being annoyed of her request, i just destroyed the radio.
She got scared a little bit ... and since then we never had any fights at all.”
I was amazed ... listening to the guy and said: “Listen ... i would love to write a book with you. Will be like an interview.
I ask the questions ... and you tell to the world the secret of such a great marriage ... that can be enjoyed in harmony”. He smiles ... and continues.
“You see ... since that episode, when i destroyed the radio, my wife actually found my secret.
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I want a beer ... she goes at the fridge and brings me the beer. If we don’t have any beer at home ... right away she goes to the supermarket and comes with a cold beer.
I want to eat ... i just ask her ... and she serves me like in the most expensive restaurant in the world.
But ... what is funny is that ... in most of the occasions ... i don’t ask anything at all.
I am so tired, carrying constructions materials at this company from 7 am to 6 pm in the night ... that i don’t even dream at a beer, as i did years ago, when i was younger.
The wife ... found the secret to a perfect marriage ... she makes me few pleasures, if i ask ... but i don’t usually ask. So, my young friend ... what should i do at home?!
Everything is perfect in there ... and that means ... a boring life.
At work, i get annoyed all day long, by all of you ... the customers of the company ... and my colleagues.” The guy was not joking.
He had the perfect marriage.
One fight in a marriage of 40 years.
He is only a simple person, but he probably deserves to be invited to speak at television ... to tell us about the secret of such a marriage. But same as in the saying ... “The woman is a beautiful melody when the man is a good musician” ... everything is somehow related to both of them ... to have a harmonious life togheter.
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An addiction is an addictions ... no matter of its kind, same as a sin is ... a sin.
There is no difference between money addiction and cocaine addiction.
The human being has a dependency for addictions ... of many kinds. About more than 20 years ago, i started my first business ... with lots of dreams in my mind and my soul.
I really felt the soul and the mind connected ... having this huge desire for success.
Everything looked like an amazing plan and after a while ... money
appeared ... which was good.
Also ... the success appeared.
I had lots of dreams, but without realizing i actually became addicted of making money.
I wanted more all the time.
... more and more.
I wanted a minimum amount per day.
If those money did not appeared ... a sort of depression was overwhelming me.
And it was funny cause this is how i lived more than 20 years. I had an addiction for businesses, of being involved in different activities all the time and on making money.
Today i believe there is no difference between me from that time and a person addicted by cocaine.
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It was almost the same story, but my story sounded better ... i was searching for success ... not for happiness.
I was in a prison ... with invisible walls, but i was the one that built that artificial environment, where i was living.
The good part was that sometimes i was realizing that i am not in the best energetic field where i should be ... so not to stay in the office till the age of 80, i sold my office space and started to work from everywhere i was.
I was doing everything from my phone.
Phone calls, emails, reports ... everything ... so i could be in my car ... or on a beautiful beach and still work.
I abandoned the concept of dreams and goals and had the desire of staying, as much as i can ... in the best energetic fields.
I started a process of focusing more on positivity and spirituality ... but still connected to the standards of the society where i was living. All i know now is that i don’t want to continue life with a dependency for addictions and probably the environment ... will change by itself.
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Being selective is a ... must.
... she looks at him and says ...
“I need to be more selective, otherwise i would date with all the guys in the world”
He was not her type, but even if she was suffering of bipolarity ... she decided after dating him only one time to stop seeing him and even talk to him.
It was quite obvious for her that the reaction of mixing their energies will not be a positive one.
But .... not for him.
Even if he was not 20 anymore he was not understanding yet that being selective in life is ... a must.
But selective actually means to know ... whom to spend time with, what kind of people we should accept on the scene of our lives, what activities we should do, be aware at all the things that we should not accept and do etc etc.
You then realize that this is the path for defining and building a reality that you would love to have.
And still ... even if he had so many types of interactions with other people and all kinds of situations and events in his life time ... the guy was not understanding what the lady told him.
She already knew that the chemical reaction, after mixing their both energies ... will not generate a positive energy field ... so she was avoiding a negative story for her life, but he was believing that he needs to experience everything in life.
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So ... different concept.
She wanted only positive episodes, but he liked to experience positive, but also negative episodes ... cause this is what actually life is ... yin and yang ... positive and negative.
So ... who should we define as a wiser person?!
The guy ... or the lady?!
Well ... most probably ... the truth is in the middle.
We should experience in life everything and when i say everything i say even immoral or illegal things ... but after a while, after we understand that an immoral situation will never generate something positive in our lives, we will probably change our philosophy of life and follow certain criteria so that we will only have positive experiences.
But we should never forget that to understand what light is ... we also need to see experience the dark.
Being selective is a ... must ... but only when you understand what is life ... and the concept of yin and yang.
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Difficult to live in 2 different worlds?!
Well ... what about 3?!
I heard lot of stories about people that live in 2 different worlds ... but not so many about people that had to deal with 3 or more different realities.
A guy i met not long time ago had a beautiful young mistress.
The girl was about 20 ... and the wife was about 35.
He also used to live with his parents, being very attached by them.
So ... bottom line ... the short story is the following ...
The mistress loved him ... and wanted him only for herself.
The wife ... used to love him a lot and when she found about about the mistress was very disappointed.
She was mad that the husband was too involved in the relationship with his parents ... as in the end to see that she is actually sharing the husband with another woman.
Staying in the same house with his mother and father ... the couple, that used to be so happy years ago ... started to have fights all the time.
The parents wanted as their son ... to pay a lot of attention to
them ... and even if their son had 3 children now ... they still wanted to be that family from 30 years ago.
The guy was living a nightmare splitting himself between the parents ... the wife and the mistress.
3 totally different worlds.
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3 realities ... that were not under his control anymore ... but he was attached with all the 3 energetic fields and did not wanted to lose neither of them.
But imagine if is difficult to live between 2 worlds ... how it should be splitting yourself in 3 ... or even more realities.
The guy was totally lost ... and maybe hiding or running away for a while was the only option, but how could he run away from the parents that loved him do much ... or from the mistress that adored him ... or the wife that he thought for so many years in a row that she is his soulmate?
All the 3 worlds ... had their beauty, but living in contradictory worlds is too difficult.
You need to change the frequency very fast and see if it really worth to live as that.
Do we really need this kind of life to feel alive and fulfilled?! Well ... hell nooo ... but the scenario can happen. Understanding our needs for a certain type of reality will help us attract the right energies for our life.
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Less means more.
More means less.
We live in a world controlled by the disease of ... more.
Not than 50 years ago, people used to feel ok with everything life offered them.
Food, clothes and a home was ... enough.
Now we dream about an exclusive life style.
Food ... is tasty only in luxury restaurants.
Clothes ... must be an expensive brand ... otherwise we can’t even name them clothes.
The house needs to be a mansion ... and what people thought is a house 50 years ago ... we would define as the ideal space of the dressing for all the clothes, shoes and sun glasses that we own.
And even if there are european countries where the important people are going to work by their bicycles ... we just adore cars between 50 to 100k euros.
We are a generation of people that want ... the best that life can offer to us.
Wanting more and more and more ... is our main desire, but also our main disease.
We pay a lot of attention to all the details that define our image and “the best + a lot” is the main philosophy we have in our minds.
But the paradox is that today, the number one disease in the world is not cancer ... but depression.
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Many of us have the lifestyle of a noble family from few centuries ago ... but still we are unhappy.
This focus on all the exterior details of our lives ... ruined everything. We did not know to keep the right balance between the inner and the outside world ... and that took us to the emotional bankruptcy that destroyed everything around us.
So ... is the human being of today in a better position as the one from tens of years ago ... or even hundreds of years ago? Hell no ... but you know why?!
Cause the silly desires we had, created an artificial environment ...
that is not really satisfying us.
Just keep the right balance ... but also always remember that less means more and more means less.
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Addictions change people
... a lot ... and also everything around
Have you ever wondered why we love so much the addictions?!
I mean ... even a person that takes drugs realizes that drugs are not a good path for them ... but the addiction itself removes for a while the pain of the unhappiness.
The addiction becomes actually a medicine for the pain.
Without this magic pill .... the problems from the mind will continue
on and on and on.
Once is taken ... the pill cures for a short time everything.
The drugs are somehow stopping the time.
Without taking it ... the pain becomes stronger and stronger.
It is almost an infinite pain that ruins everything inside the mind and soul.
If we speak about the addiction of drinking alcohol, cheating, gossiping etc etc ... we will see that the “substance” used for the addiction is somehow changing that person for a short term, as in the end to reveal the truth even in a stronger shape. And the truth hurts ... hurts a lot.
The stronger the addiction is ... more powerful are the effects of the hidden truth that comes to surface.
The individual lives in 2 totally different worlds and having so much pain inside of him ... somehow changes a lot.
Negative and positive are unclear paths ... and the human being having the addiction is not understanding the difference between
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them.
They live in a world ... where the fog is so dense that everything becomes unclear.
The steps they do, the paths they follow are so difficult to be understood and accepted ... that in the end, only removing them from our lives might look as the only option.
You see ... the influences come from both sides and just interacting with them ... not that we will copy the addiction, but our inner world will interfere with negative elements from the other world.
No matter where we are on spiritual level, our energetic field will become less powerful than is today.
And the truth is that the addictions change people a lot, but in the end they can influence us a lot also ... and maybe even change us. So be aware all the time ... who you allow to be present on the scene of your daily life.
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Have you ever wondered what is the reason why a desire does not happen for real right away?!
In the movie “The Secret” it is explained how the law of attraction works, but also that there is a delay between the appearance of the desire in your mind and accomplishing it.
