The whole project was more expensive than i even thought about ... but i knew that if you want to eat an elephant, you just need to cut it into small pieces and eat one piece ... and then another one ... and another one ...
To lie myself that i can do it, i worked on all the buildings.
One week i was doing something, then i was doing something else to another house ... and so on.
I had no money on my pocket ... but i was continuing the project. There were days when i saw that i will complete everything and days when i thought that i just try to touch the horizon line. Everything took 5 years.
Not even the people involved in the project ... could believe that i will finish one day.
An idiot, that worked with me ... but very good on what he was doing ... told me in the second year ... “It will take you at least another 3 years to complete this project”.
I almost wanted to kill him hearing this, but i decided to go to my car and leave.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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BEHIND THE ABSTRACT
... there is always a message
Being so nervous ... i crashed his car, by accident.
Paid the damaged ... but i was glad of what i did ... because of what he just said.
During the time ... i had many moments when i realized that the project is not a residential complex ... but a life lesson.
I lost my temper hundreds of times and i had a delay for at least one year cause i did not knew how to react and speak with the workers involved into the project.
The project itself ... became a prison, but after 5 years i succeeded
and rented all the houses.
Imagine what i did at the end?!
Well ... just started a new project with a house with 23 rooms, that will be kind of a hotel for elders.
The project is half of the last project ... but still a big one for my powers ... but i decided to not care anymore of how much time it will take to be completed.
I tried to remember that i build ... because i love to build ... and i should just enjoy that process.
I actually forgot the message behind the message ... that i love the process itself of building ... but not necessarily the fact that i will own those buildings.
When it will finish ... guess what?!
You think i will go in a vacation for 1 year around the world?! No, no.
I am sure ... i will come out with a new project.
But ... at least ... i decided to enjoy what i do ... even if it is an illusion ... or even a prison project.
So ... a simple plan for your life ... just enjoy it .. whatever you do ...
with not so many plans anymore.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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... there is always a message
All of us ... the humans .. we just need some guidance. That’s all!
Not knowing this .... is the only reason
... we became experts in failing.
I know real stories about people, that achieved a great success in life, because in one point they decided to get a coach that will guide them. That coach was an expert into that area and success came .... to the
persons i am talking about ... right away after strictly following certain rules.
You see, i read lots of books about success and keep in my mind the main rule ... find the model of success that you want, analyze it ...
and then apply to your life, with a script a little bit improved ... so that you can achieve even a greater success.
But why can’t we apply the method ... with a coach?!
Who needs to be the coach?!
Well ... that person could be anyone ... from your grandma to your ex class mate ... but whoever that person is ... needs to be a person with life experience, a good connection with you ... but also good intentions.
So ... what problems you have in your life?!
Financial problems?!
Maybe you have a cousin that is already rich and will love to become your mentor for financial issues ... or a old friend from school, that wants to become a coach in money problems ... and will love to help you.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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BEHIND THE ABSTRACT
... there is always a message
Have problems in your marriage?!
Maybe you just don’t know how to act with your soul mate?!
Believe me or not ... even a mistress is good in this case, if she really has a good soul and beautiful intentions.
Is hard to believe that ... but the mistress can teach a man ... the art of loving a woman.
The mistress ... can become a real coach when it comes about relationship problems, but of course as long as you don’t fall in love with her.
And in all the other areas of our lives ... sometimes we just need guidance.
All we need to do is just ... ask and accept the help.
Truth be told we just can’t be experts in money, love stories, modeling, cars etc etc ... but with some special help we can understand all the areas of life. So ... we need to do what?!
Well ... just connect to the people that wants to help you ... or the ones that can help you ... and pay attention to that relationship.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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... there is always a message
When the obsession is gone
... the real path will appear
I had many obsessions in my life and i am glad i have the power to admit that.
But one day i became much happier when i found out that behind any obsession there is a very powerful message. I studied it.
Defined it ... in 1000 ways.
Then ... one day i realized the obsession is usually only an illusory desire.
I wanted to define the obsession ... but the obsession itself was defining me.
I had moments when i was one with the obsession ... cause all my energy was there.
Today ... i look in my past ... seeing the history of my obsessions ...
and i laugh.
When i finish laughing ... i talk with myself and realize that the illusion
... even if it was an event, a person, a situation ... was just a life lesson.
Today i saw again an illusion that defined my recent past for about few years.
I felt nothing ... and i was so happy.
I was cured.
It was like a test ... to see if i am still in the prison of that illusion ...
and i did not failed.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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BEHIND THE ABSTRACT
... there is always a message
The obsession was gone ... which actually means a new path is waiting for me ... hopefully a good one.
Somehow ... i need to keep in my mind that what i see ... and looks so real ... is never what it looks like.
The funny thing is that the obsession is always amplified ... and is not that it looks real ... but it represent your whole life in that moment from your timeline.
Words ... the art of defining ... and any other methods becomes useless ... as you can’t really see the truth.
Long time after the obsession will end, maybe even years, you will see its meaning ... why it appeared and why it took so long to disappear ... which actually means the end of the process of healing. You see ... we need illusions ... obsessions ... but keep in mind that somehow we need to get out of that labyrinth.
The soul is difficult to be healed ... but is the most important thing we need to take care during our life time.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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... there is always a message
The funny thing about ... cheating
... is that one day you’ll start cheating yourself too.
People like to experience lots of things.
Sometimes ... just because life is boring, trying to get out from the actual reality ... cheating becomes a way of doing something different ... or at least this is how we define it.
And we start cheating the life partner, the business partner ... and many others.
We believe we just taste other paths of living life.
And we continue believing nothing will happen ... and that we are allowed to do in life whatever we want to do ... without paying any price for it.
But ... doing it so often ... cheating becomes a way of living and we start to cheat not even the life partners, the business partners etc etc ... but even us.
And there is nothing worst in life than cheating your own soul.
You betray your dreams and goals ... your main philosophy or life ...
the main path you follow in life.
It all becomes a new way of living ... having no real values in life. But i still wonder what is the message behind all those actions?! Why people still do ... the cheating?! ... and even find an explanation for that.
You see ... we always want a different life and we even name what we want ... as a dream life.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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BEHIND THE ABSTRACT
... there is always a message
But we don’t have the courage to do it with all the heart ... we just want to taste the change before we do it.
Taste how should life be with another partner, how businesses will be with another business partner .... how should be to have another job etc etc.
Cheating becomes a synonym for ... tasting, but maybe the main reason we do it ... is just that we are too cowards to do it for real. Cheating might be a positive script ... if you have the courage to start a new path, after you understand that you love what you just ...
tasted ... but a negative scenario if you believe you can live life like that ... at infinite ... just tasting.
Be aware as one day to not start cheating yourself too ... cause that should be the worst case scenario. Just think about it!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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BEHIND THE ABSTRACT
... there is always a message
Just me and myself.
Defining my thoughts
... walking on a pathless path
I tried to find answers.
I spoke with myself for many months in a row.
Then i started to learn the art of defining.
The huge mistake i did was that ... in one point, analyzing and defining ... i amplified everything too much.
I took all that happened too seriously ... not realizing that i was defining an illusion ... seeing the small details ... but not understanding the whole picture of what was going on.
I was writing hundreds of pages, believing i understand what is going on with my life.
Later on ... i discovered the concept of ... the message behind the message ... and i understood that all i see in my life, even if i define it so good and looks so real ... is only something illusory.
The real message the Universe whispered to me ... was a very simple one .. and i had no clue what was going on.
I was prisoner in a cage full with all kinds of details ... but had no idea that those details were only encrypted messages ... that i did not even knew that they existed.
It was me and myself ... in that cage ... and maybe the typewriter. All of us ... had something to say ... but it all became a journey on a pathless path.
Contradictory ideas were coming.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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... there is always a message
Defining my thoughts, writing them down, believing that i found the absolute truth ... but the next day realizing it’s all a misunderstanding ... it became a new way of living.
Then i discovered that ... i can redefine everything.
Defining was the beginning of the process i needed to follow in life, but redefining my life was actually what i had to do ... cause i just did not liked my life.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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... there is always a message
Let the silence begin!
The best way of communicating
with difficult people
... using the power of silence
I am a difficult person and i really know what a difficult person is.
I had hundred of conflicts with lots of people.
Every time i believe i am right ... i continue arguing till i succeed to send my message.
But the real truth is that after the argue stops .. i realize i lost my energy for nothing.
I could just close the conflict right away ... by simple smiling and leave ... but i preferred to lose money, friendships and lots of opportunities just to prove i am right.
I sometimes had huge loses ... but i continued doing the same ... on and on and on.
My life had lots of chapters as that and even if i studied the management of conflict ... i could not see the way out of this labyrinth.
But one day ... I suddenly discovered i can just ... let the silence begin.
I started to get rid of the trend ... of becoming angry ... and just think of a way of connecting to people in a beautiful way .... but also
disconnect from the world when i don’t want to interact with them anymore.
The silence taught me to cut the cords with the people i interacting in
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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BEHIND THE ABSTRACT
... there is always a message
a negative way.
But ... on the other hand ... i looked around me and did not saw anymore so many people as i used to see in the past. Most of them disappeared forever.
And most of the time ... it was just me with myself.
But the funny thing is that i did not knew myself ... and i started to understand who am i ... what i want.
All those long moments ... i started to ask my soul ... why did i run away for such a long time ... avoiding to have a close connection?
I looked only into the outside world ... refusing to spend time me with myself.
But ... in the end ... when the silence began to appear ... i started a new chapter for my life.
I started to see the message behind the message ... and did not liked what i saw.
I was having a conflict ... not with the other people, but with ...
myself.
I had a problem with the connection of my soul ... and thought that by trying to control the outside world ... i will hide very well the real truth.
But the silence appeared.
... and then ... my soul appeared also ... asking to be friends ...
forever.
Dare to meet yourself!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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... there is always a message
Still in illusion
“Still in illusion ...
Still confused,
Still disturbed,
... but still in love”
(Arij Emaan)
I haven’t spoke by a long time with my dear friend Arij Emaan, which is also a writer, and i was really happy cause i chatted with her.
Last time we talked ... i was talking about the illusion of life and she was talking about love ... but now she was defining the love story itself as the synonym for the illusion.
I was in love too at the time we met ... by someone else of course, but i knew what the illusion was.
I even had the power to write a book called ... “The beautiful illusion of being in love” ... and i am smiling today, after such a long time ... hearing Arij that she feels the same.
I represent the philosophy of the men of 40 and Arij the philosophy of women of 20, but even our wives know that we like the women of 20 ... no matter what they believe about life.
