It is so funny to look into the past ... thinking at all the thoughts and
feelings you had not so long ago.
And you believed it was so ... real.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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BEHIND THE ABSTRACT
... there is always a message
I see in my friend Arij ... as a reflection of my life ... of my past ... of my beliefs.
Today ... even if she is still in love ... she sees that it’s all an illusion. Me ... not being in love anymore ... i can only see the message behind the message ... and laugh thinking how i acted at that moment.
But the Universe needed to teach me what the illusion was ... and a love story is the perfect illusion you can ever study in life. I had to be disturbed.
I had to be confused.
But in the end ... i decided to be in love only by the life itself, with everything that means.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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BEHIND THE ABSTRACT
... there is always a message
Friends ... then enemies.
Enemies ... then friends.
... just playing the silly game of domination
On my path of life ... i just became an observer of everything is going on around me.
I might look like a philosopher ... or even as a writer ... but i am only talking about my life ... or life ... as i see it through my eyes. Today ... i’ve been to a bank.
Had to do some financial transactions.
It was a little bit more complicated as usual and not knowing how to do it ... the guy from the bank became annoyed.
He even started to speak with a loud voice to me ... believing i am arrogant to him.
I did those kind of transactions many times before and i knew very well what i was asking.
Few more seconds ... and i’ve become his worst enemy.
Knowing myself ... knowing that i lose my temper very easy ... but also knowing that i am in a bank and they can call security very easy ... i decided to change the script of the story this time.
... and i ask ... “Have you ever thought resigning from this ugly job you have?! I mean you can find a job where you don’t need to deal with people.
There are plenty of jobs like that.
Resign and you will feel ... better.
I had to deal with thousands of people in the past ... till one day when
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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... there is always a message
i decided that it was enough.
And look at me.
I am not starving ... i have money to come to the bank and pay the invoices for the leasing of my cars.”
He did not knew what to say ... but then ... “Look ... i will think about what you just said. Maybe you are right”.
I could tell to the guy that he is an idiot and leave to another bank ...
but i decided to connect with him ... and send him a powerful message for his life.
I am sure he is paid well at the bank ... but for sure he does not like that job in there.
When i left ... we shook hands ... and smiled to each other.
An idiot and an arrogant sent each other powerful messages ... cause i also understood that i just can’t lose my temper all the time.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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BEHIND THE ABSTRACT
... there is always a message
Truth be told ... we love animals, but we hate the human beings
It happens i know about an interesting story from a residential complex.
I actually know the owner of the complex and we use to chat sometimes over philosophical stuff.
The guy just hate the animals, but because he saw the opportunity that people like so much the animals, he re edited his advertising saying that pets are welcomed into his complex, for the ones that want to rent a house and own animals.
So ... the short story ... hating animals ... but accepting them ... as an opportunity to make money much easier. And it worked, cause he rented all the houses.
So as any other businessman ... my friend was quite happy ... ignoring what he disliked .. as he loved more than anything ... making money.
But ... my friend is not such a bad person as you might think.
He created in the complex for his tenants a bar with a swimming pool and even if in there were living lots of people that love alcohol ... no one was using the bar.
So ... quite a paradox ... the people loving to drink ... did not used a bar that was build especially for them.
They just needed to interact a little bit with the neighbors and make new friends ... then spend time together at the bar.
But the people from the complex only loved animals ... and even if
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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... there is always a message
they liked alcohol .... they preferred to drink at home ... just staying
in the company of their pets.
The social experiment of my friend ... failed.
All it was based on the philosophy of living at home as being always in vacation ... but my friend not loving the animals, not knowing that people love animals because they love them back unconditionally...
not knowing that between an animal and a human being ... most of the people will prefer the animals ... failed in his good intention of creating common spaces of recreation for his tenants.
And the real truth is that in many cases, people love animals, but hate the human beings.
They prefer being in the company of a dog, a cat ... or even a mouse ... than socializing with a stranger that became his neighbor. But things are just the way they are and if there is anything we could say is that behind the message there is always another message ... and i keep wondering myself what is the real meaning in this case.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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BEHIND THE ABSTRACT
... there is always a message
You need to get lost
... to understand life
So many people are asking themselves ... what is life about?!
What is the real meaning?!
To have success? To go in expensive vacations?!
To become the owner of a fortune?!
Well ... today i believe that the answer depends only by the lesson of life that the person needs to study during the actual lifetime. But getting lost ... is just part of the script.
Failing ... also.
Not finding a purpose ... also.
Even losing the hope ... and walking on a pathless path that we name it ... life ... is a process you need to follow to understand life better.
I don’t believe any great philosopher had a happy life ... and also that there is no poet ... that wrote love poems ... meanwhile being happy with his partner.j
Philosophers ... even the great ones ... lived part of their lives in a labyrinth.
The poets ... the same.
Anyone ... who dared to find a meaning ... got lost ... not really understanding what is the best path.
Being lost ... becomes a whole chapter of what we name ... life. Failing becomes also ... an important chapter ... same as the success story is.
... and you start this process of understanding what is really going on.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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BEHIND THE ABSTRACT
... there is always a message
The moment when we see that the negative stories, but also the positive ones ... are having the same motivational values ... but in the same time, both being an illusion ... that is the beginning of a new life
... one when you become an observer ... and live life in harmony with the Universe.
And at one time you will see behind things and events that have a negative impact on you ... a positive message.
Not the times define the people, but the people define the times. Few days ago i had to visit the school where i spent the first 8th grades.
It was the primary and secondary school.
This time i had to prepare to transfer my son in there.
I had good memories, but also bad ones from there ... and i even delayed few times to go and do the transfer.
The building was looking a little bit different ... cause was totally renovated.
It almost looked like a totally new building, but still i was feeling that nothing changed.
I enter the building and ... surprise ... the director of the school was a lady from the times i was there ... 35 years ago.
She was really young at that time, but now she was more than 55 i suppose.
When communism collapsed i was just starting the 5 th grade ... so half of the time that i spent in there it was in the communism times and half after the communism collapsed.
So ... at enter in her office, explain her what i want to do and she stops me ... saying that ... it’s not about what i want ... but only if she agrees that.
She totally disliked that i said ... “i want” ... but i politely asked her if i should say ... “My desire is ... “.
I lost my temper and could not stop myself to mention that i can still smell the communism i used to know from 35 years ago.
Her secretary, a lady of about 65, could not believe that i was
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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... there is always a message
speaking like that to the director.
But the lady i used to know as a very shy person ... 35 years ago … lost her temper too.
She said she will call the police ... but to call the police for what?! ...
to tell them that we still have the ghost of communism in the building?!
35 years ... and nothing changed.
The only change they had to do ... was the attitude and nothing more. I left the building ... asking myself why did i decided to come back into that horrible place ... that sometimes was even as a prison, mainly in the communism times.
It was funny that the people decided to hire a teacher from those times to be the director from there.
Maybe they wanted a change ... but still not a big one.
I understood that the message behind the message that somehow
...not the times define the people, but the people define the times.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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BEHIND THE ABSTRACT
... there is always a message
The purpose of life?!
There is no purpose.
Just enjoy life
... no matter how things are.
I’ve been walking on a wild beach.
Felt fantastic.
I felt ... in fact ... that i am free.
After 20 years of work ... i came to a point where somehow i had the financial freedom i wanted so much ... and i could take a day off to relax on the beach.
The only problem ... a very silly one in fact ... was that it took me few hours to decide to take the day off.
It was the middle of the week and i was used to work even in the week ends, so taking a day off was not in my statistical behavior. How could i leave?!
What if something happens and someone needs me?!
It’s summer and everyone is in vacation now ... but my mind forgot about this scenario.
I was reading tens if books about success, financial freedom etc etc ... but none of them were saying what you do after you get the financial freedom.
I mean it’s easy to say that you will stay on the beach and relax, but how can you jump from the ... daily working as a slave to ... relaxation?!
How can you change the mental software after you get what you
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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BEHIND THE ABSTRACT
... there is always a message
wanted from life?
Why all those books about success don’t tell you about this huge problem?!
Was the purpose of life to achieve the financial success and then stay and relax?!
I just laugh ... when i think of this theory, cause it just does not satisfy me hearing that.
I was walking on a wild beach ... where you don’t need any money at all ... and i could do this years ago ... and actually enjoy life.
I prefered to work for 20 years, including the week ends as in the end to realize i don’t need any money at all to feel that i enjoy life.
It was a journey of 20 years ... on a pathless path and no one told me this or maybe i was too blind to see it.
Today i smile ... then i laugh ... of myself ... of how idiot i could act on the stage of my life.
But at least ... i am happy i understood the message ... you don’t need anything at all to be happy.
All you need to do is just be present and enjoy life.
Nothing more ... nothing less!
Just open your eyes ... and understand that there is no purpose ... or if there is any that is just to be one with the present moment.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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BEHIND THE ABSTRACT
... there is always a message
Your environment and the events from your life define in fact ... who you really are now.
“I just don’t like the life i have”.
“I hate those people from my life”.
“My life ... just sucks”.
An infinite list with examples ... of how most of us define the actual reality.
But whatever reality we have ... in the end this is the life we have ...
and we need to accept it as it is ... or change it.
There is no middle way and the funny thing is that we always forget that everything we see in our daily lives is just a reflection ... of who we really are.
So ... is the environment a reflection of us?!
Are the events a mirror of who we really are deep inside us?!
You think that .... those philosophical questions are too annoying?!
Well ... if the answer is yes ... you are in trouble.
Just make an exercise ... ask yourself ... why you meet so often annoying people?!
Or why the neighborhood where you live in ... is the way it is?!
Are you similar with the people from there?!
And i should also ask ...are you an annoying person too?! Hmm ... i am sure you don’t like what i write.
All the time when someone told me while describing what i don’t like ... that everything is just a reflection of my soul and my
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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BEHIND THE ABSTRACT
... there is always a message
actions ... i became angry.
But i was angry not because that person was not correct ... but because i knew it was a true statement.
And it really became annoying for me to hear that all the time.
I understood the message ... but i did not accepted the message.
I was on the same frequency with the environment, but also the one of the events from my life.
You see ... sometimes the things are just the way they are ... and we prefer to accept them ... than ... make a change.
Is much easier ... and we consider is even ... safer as that.
Yes ... it’s much easier to say i don’t like my life ... i hate it ... it’s a mess.
We are good when it comes about talking ... but it’s too difficult to
accept that life is just a mirror.
... just think about it!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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BEHIND THE ABSTRACT
... there is always a message
And i keep wondering
... why i still keep wondering
Many times i laugh of myself ... thinking how i acted in many occasions in life.
I analyze everything on and on.
