But he almost missed all of them.
The other guy... let’s call him George ... made huge amounts of money in his businesses, being more pragmatic ... and had about 5-600 women in his life.
Almost double than Casanova ... which was a legend.
But the funny thing is that all the time when i have the chance to talk with them ... they are both unsatisfied by their sentimental life.
Carl is still looking for the perfect mistress, cause he is still married and George ... even if he tasted so many relationships ... did not found yet ... that perfect lady for him.
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... there is always a message
Sometimes ... one is enough ... but not for the case of my 2 friends.
Successful businessmen ... but unhappy cause they don’t have yet ...
something they defined so clear to the Universe.
I wonder how is it possible to meet so many ladies ... but still ... can’t be satisfied of what you have in your life.
Is difficult for me to understand ... both of them ... and is clear that no one will meet what they say they want to meet. The message they send ... is much deeper.
Most probably ... there are many happy men from all around the world that had met only one lady ... got married with her ... and had a very happy life.
... but my friends are just tasting the interactions with beautiful ladies
... having always the excuse that they look for the perfection.
My opinion is just that ... perfection does not exists ... is only
illusory ... and it ruins the life of my friends ... forcing them to follow
a pathless path.
Are they happy?!
Will they ever be happy?!
Well ... who knows ... but probably not during this lifetime.
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... there is always a message
Cheating ... an art of coming back at home with different energies?!
I love the saying .... “it’s not what it looks like!”.
The funny thing is that i heard this from lots of people that i know for sure that they cheat or cheated in the near past. They told me amazing stories.
Fabulous explanations.
When i was about 15 someone told me at that time that cheating is the only real trick for saving a marriage, at least till the things between the partners go to normal.
I was shocked and totally disliked the theory.
Later on ... in life ... i cheated and i was cheated.
I did not like neither of the circumstances ... but one day i had a moment of awakening, seeing the message behind the message ...
and i understood that i cheated cause i considered that the relationship i had did not offered me what i really expected ... but also that i had been cheated cause i was not acting like the partner i had to be.
I know ... cheating is not moral.
But ... nowadays it is almost normal ... cause it happens so ofter for so ... so many people.
Cheating became the last option before breaking up.
A last used trick to save something that looks almost impossible to save.
And the theory i heard when i was 15 ... and totally disliked looks so true.
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... there is always a message
But why?!
Sometimes the only sense for cheating is just as someone to come in your life and help you be reinvented.
To help you understand how you used to act long time ago, in the moment when you met the person that is today ... still your partner. And the funny thing is that the energies that you come back with in your relationship can help the 2 of you a lot.
I know ... i am too abstract ... and the theory of cheating is much too
simple to be understood.
But ... that’s my style!
I just love to define the undefined ... and see the meaning of abstract in our silly lives
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... there is always a message
We are all influencers
... of different kinds
Truth be told ... we somehow influence and are influenced by the others.
Unfortunately ... negativity has usually a much easier impact in the environment we spend our lives.
Positivity ... even if it exists ... is not so easy to see around.
But in the end ... no matter of intensity of the impact we have ... we are all influencers ... of different kinds.
The only problem is that no one ever told us ... that life is sometimes
like a battle field.
We feel it ... but ...
But we react ... at negativity ... with even stronger forces of negativity ... and unfortunately ... in many cases ... we totally ignore positivity.
We know what a influencer is, but just don’t believe that we can be defined as that ... even if it’s done in an unofficial way.
What i don’t really understand is why we can’t see that we can change the world ... just by changing the small corner of the Universe where we live our lives.
We can’t see we can be that ingredient that transform the life ... from grey colors to beautiful colors.
We always forget that a little piece of sugar can make the coffee ...
have an amazing taste.
For the real life ... that should be ... a smile ... a nice word ... etc etc Nothing difficult to do ... or implement.
We want to do it ... we know we can do it ... but we just don’t do it.
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... there is always a message
And we know so well ... that we have a beautiful side too ... where you never see the dark side .... but we just don’t share it ... with the others.
That small corner of the world ... lose the chance of becoming a better place ... cause we are just afraid of showing the influence of our positive side.
... but we still remain influencers.
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... there is always a message
Reality ... whatever you live now
... is the best case scenario of what you could live ... but you will understand that later.
Is just that today ... you are blind.
Sometimes it’s quite difficult to understand why things are happening the way they are happening.
We could even define reality ...as being totally illogical.
Even if we know the theory that behind any fact from the real life is hidden a different message ... and it’s never what it looks like ... we just cant understand why the Universe offered us those scenarios. And we keep wondering why.
Again and again and again.
We even strongly believe that we know better than the Universe what is better for us and we ignore all the signs we see.
We understand the messages ... but we just ignore any meaning at all.
“Living the present moment” ...”Carpe diem” etc etc ... looks like no sense advices.
We don’t really realize that what we live today in the present moment
... is actually the best scenario the Universe ... that infinite intelligence ... prepared for us long time before coming into this world.
There are moments when we believe in the concept of destiny ... but lots of other moments when we think that everything happens
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... there is always a message
randomly ... having no real meaning.
And we keep being blinds ... but the philosophical question is ... till when?!
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... there is always a message
Don’t bother to think so much! Just do it ... if this is what you feel that is the path!
I read the book “The 5 second rule”, written by Mel Robbins.
The book had been a best seller all over the world, but the way is written ... i considered it was a little bit annoying.
The message of the book is quite simple ... you only have 5 seconds to decide that you will do it ... whatever is to do ... especially the important things.
Otherwise ... you will find 1 million excuses not to do it.
The book is full with example of people that applied the rule ... and it worked.
I found annoying in the beginning, that the book was focusing on so, so many examples and was missing describing the rule.
But the theory itself ... was so simple that there was not so much to write about it.
You just need to count 5,4,3,2,1 and just wake up, start make the homework, refuse the glass of scotch if you know that you have alcohol problems etc etc.
Probably the book has hundreds of example described ... so that you easily see how the others applied the rule in their lives.
Yes ... truth be told we think too much before we do different things ... especially the important ones.
Instead of connecting to the inner self, use the intuition to find the real path of life ... we believe that what we think ... the million of excuses might be true ... so at least we should wait until we find the
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... there is always a message
absolute truth.
But this is not going to happen during this lifetime ... and we still wait.
Being obsessed with the fact that i should become my own
observer ... i saw myself thinking a lot ... in hundreds of occasions... even in the situations when i could do something good for the others. There were things easy to do for me ... but very important for the others ... and still i was not doing it.
I was thinking too much ... and missed the chances to help the ones that really needed that at that time. But life goes on.
I am still working with myself ... to remove all the analysis before i start acting on the stage of the real life.
So ... i have a simple message for you .. don’t bother to think so much ... just do it!
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... there is always a message
Qu’est-ce que vous avez
prepare pour aujourd’hui?
Rien
Rien??!!!
The teacher is asking the student ... If you learnt the lesson, but the student has to admit that he did not did it.
As philosophy ... i have a simple theory that i want to implement in my real life.
I tried to become an observer of everything happens around me, but also to me.
I try to define life ... only through the final results, but at the end ... i try to find the meaning at all those events ... what i call ... the message behind the message.
I understood that the meaning of life is to see all those lessons, the messages behind the lessons ... so that they will not be repeated anymore.
The desire of becoming a better soul, of being in a higher spiritual level ... will bring from the Universe more and more tests ... and you will be asked ... “Have you understood the lesson?!”.
Scared ... you will say ... “yes” ... but have you really understood the
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... there is always a message
lesson?!
In many cases, just as the times when you were in school ... when you did not payed so much attention to the homework ... you will actually never be ready.
So .. what the Universe does?!
Just gives you more and more tests ... sometimes with the same subject ... and even if you will fail ... life will continue with more and more tests.
The meaning of all these?!
Well ... what is the meaning of school?!
Can we evolve spiritually just by reading books or going to church?! No ... unfortunately is not that simple.
We need to understand the message ... that “life is an illusion” ..., and the lesson itself is hidden behind the illusion.
A friend once told me that she does not want anymore to play this game with the Universe, but you see ... depending of the meaning of this life ... sometimes you don’t really have the choice.
But sooner or later the tests will come anyway ... so there is no real option to not play the game of the life lessons with the Universe. Life continues.
Other tests will appear in your life and you will need to experience them ... but always keep in mind that is only a life lesson ... and a message to see.
And also .... don’t forget!!!
Never be mad on the teacher ... all he really wants is your best.
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... there is always a message
Why should we run away from the scene of life?! In the end ... all we lived ... and we succeed to interconnect the inner
and the outside world ... are amazing experiences
Years ago ... i was finding strange that a human being could go to a monastery and remain in there for the rest of the life.
I was asking myself why the hell someone could go, by himself, in a prison ... for a lifetime.
Today i see things in a totally different way.
I understood that the world is the way it is and sometimes we just need to disconnect from everything to survive ... or to evolve as spiritual beings.
Buying a house on the top of the mountains, with no neighbors around ... or going to the monastery and live in there ... at least for a while is a real trick that could help our spiritual life. But what if instead of that ... we do the opposite?!
Meaning ... staying on the stage of life, accepting all what is going on, analyze and define the meaning of all what is going on ... but seeing the life lessons as a blessing for a better spiritual life.
So ... what if we start to embrace everything is going on?! Just as it happens.
Not bothering of anything.
Not seeing anything negative ... even if they look as that. What do you think it can happen?!
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... there is always a message
Living, accepting and embracing the present moment ... just as it is.
Connecting with the moment ... instead of running away.
Solitude is great ... and i start enjoying it even if i love to socialize with people ... but i do all my best to stay on the scene of life and not run away of it.
Just be there ... no matter what is going on.
At the right time ... most probably i will practice mainly solitude ....
but today i consider myself that i am on the chapter of understanding life through the interactions i have with the others.
I decided to stay in the real life ... even if i know that all i see it’s an illusion.
All i hope is that i will be able to interconnect the inner and the outside world ... and have amazing experiences all the time.
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