DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED
... a way of wasting our lives
philosophical essays
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
1
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES philosophical essays
ADRIAN GABRIEL DUMITRU
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
Year: 2023
Author: Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
2
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
I wondered many times .. where from comes this idea of domination. Why we want to dominate?!
And also … why do we accept being dominated? Why the hell?! …
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
3
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
I’ve decided to write this book … influenced of the success of the other book of mine … “Influenced and being influenced”. I could probably say that i’ve wrote it as a philosophical journey
trying to find out why influence is metamorphosed into the end … into …
dominance.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
4
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
I don’t believe in domination.
I believe in synchronizing energies
I wrote many books about love stories … and what i regret most is that i did not used … almost at all the word …. sex.
But i’ve spent a huge time analyzing and defining the connection between a man and a woman.
Unfortunately… it was all from my perspective … as a man. And even if i tried to connect to so many other ladies … that i had nothing to do with … i still did not understand the real … subject.
I see today all my writings … actually as a great help for the ladies that want to find out how a man thinks … but it’s 100
not the truth about relationships. In fact … not even close to that.
But i still feel myself dominated by my own ideas.
I still care of them … and maybe the real truth is that everything i do …. all the decisions i am taken are related with my perceptions.
And i am laughing seeing that in … everything means my life … i try to make all my best as reality to look like my perceptions.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
5
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
Even if it does not look like that …. the ugly story of
dominating starts again … and again.
Somehow history is repeating on and on and on.
I am saying all the time that i don’t believe in domination … but all i do reveals that i want as my world to be … part of … my prison.
To look like …. my perceptions.
And no change appears …
I know few theoretical things about the change that i should do in life … but … it’s useless.
I say all the time, that i don’t believe in domination … and i should just synchronize with the world … and i know that this is the path … but …
Maybe i am still the prisoner of my perceptions …
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
6
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
Feeling in an unconscious way the sensation of dominant energies … we simple want to run away … not even realizing … why
Yesterday i’ve met George again.
Last time when i saw him …. It was when we finished high
school … so about 100 years ago.
He came … smiled … shake my hand … and he was so, so friendly.
But suddenly …. he said … “My God! You have absolutely… no
idea who i really am.
You don’t recognize me …
Can’t believed it!”
I smiled …. pretending it was not true.
I somehow felt that i know him … that we’ve been great friends into the past … and i really liked his energy … which i felt i knew by a long time … but i could not guess who he was.
Having beard … and white hair … but also 30 kg more that he used to have … he looked today much, much older than me.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
7
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
I was keep asking into my mind … who the hell this guy is … and how’s that i feel so connected to him?! But i was not guessing anything … at all.
It was all related with something from so long time ago … and probably life changed him too much.
Seeing me with my retro car …. he suddenly stopes and asks
“What do you do for living?! This is a real nice car … “ “Well … my friend … almost nothing.
In fact it’s a too long story to synthesize it shortly …. but today probably i could define myself as a … writer.
I write books about love …. and other nonsenses.” George started to laugh … very load.
“Hahahaha! You are joking.
100% you are joking.
I see your after 25 years … driving an amazing retro car …. and you tell me that you are a writer.
Or maybe you had a time … you sold guns and drugs …. and now you just retired …. having enough money into your bank account.
But … Gabriel … let’s suppose you are right … i’d like to give you a test … if you don’t mind.”
“No … not at all … please ask me … “
“Well … you said you write about love …. and that probably could define you as an expert into the subject.
I must be honest with you … like i’ve always been when we’ve been in high school … and had those long discussions about girls.
Today i am married by more than 15 years … but i also have an amazing mistress.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
8
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
Which actually sounds like a great scenario for any man around 45 …
The only real problem is that recently … i felt something weird.
I the middle of the night … i’ve run away from home … without as my wife to find out … and went to this beautiful girl which i told you about.
We made love … and it was amazing.
But the moment … we finished … i wanted to go home … and this is what i did.
I went home … but … when i’ve arrived … i’ve asked myself …. why the hell i’ve got back?!
What i want to know …. is … what’s wrong with me?!
Why i go to the mistress and then i want to go back home … but when i am home … i’m not understanding why i’ve decided to do that … cause i simple don’t like there.
So …. as an expert into this subject …. can you find an
explanation to me?!”
I smiled …
“George … first of all i am not an expert.
I just published close to 40 books … but i don’t consider myself as an expert.
I’m probably the same idiot which you know from high school.
Most probably …. I haven’t changed so much … deep inside
myself.
But … on the other hand … i think it’s so, so damn clear … that neither your wife … or that beautiful mistress … is not giving yourself the right energy you are chasing for. And it’s even worst than that.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
9
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
You actually … don’t like the dominance of the energies of those ladies.
Probably they both want you … but … your place it’s not there.
You chase for something else … but you don’t have the guts to clearly define it.”
I suddenly see a change on George’s face.
His smile disappeared….
“Yes … Gabriel! You are right! You remained the same idiot from high school … with all those science fiction scenarios from your crazy brain.
But who the hell knows … maybe you are right …. and i just
hate hearing these theories …. with energies … which you are
telling me about.”
Close to finishing our discussion …. I finally remembered …
who George was.
He was totally changed … having a totally different look like in high school.
But deep inside him …. he succeeded to keep that energy …
since we were teenagers.
He was still a nice guy …. but lost on the paths of life.
And the energies of those 2 ladies … that really knew what they wanted in life … were for himself so, so dominant. George wanted to have a free life … to do … whatever he wanted … when he wanted … with who he wanted. Without …. rules.
Without …. dominance.
… just as we’ve been in high school …. free spirits.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
10
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
Hearing “Stop it!” … on and on and on … we realize the limits … which could even be defined as …. karmic limits.
Berta is a young lady from Amsterdam, that came to work with me for a real estate project.
We already know each other by more than 6 months and really had great progress with what we are doing.
I like her … and she likes all what we are doing together. But what it’s a little bit funny is that almost every time we meet … and does not like something … she says …”Stop it!” She said that so many times … that i’ve started to be aware of what i am saying to her.
She actually told me so many times … “Stop saying that … or that … or that” … that in fact i’ve stoped being myself around her.
I’ve actually understood that our relationship has some limits
and to remain friends i need to respect all that. It was funny …. or maybe i should say ridiculous…. But suddenly … a weird idea came into my mind.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
11
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
I knew by a long time that many of our relationships are karmic … and maybe that … “Stop it!” … was the signal that we’ve reached the karmic limit … and most probably if i don’t stop doing or saying what she disliked … we’ll be metamorphosed from friends into … enemies. Or maybe just … stop being friends.
I totally disliked to control my way of being … while i was around her … feeling dominated by her desire of keeping our relationship in certain parameters … but i also understand the concept of karmic limits.
I had to pretend i respect those rules … and accept to be dominated … just of the sake of remaining friends. It was all … so, so obvious …
But realizing i need to stop being annoyed of that …. I’ve
asked myself … what if this is rule number one for all our friendships … respecting and letting ourselves be dominated by certain … rules.
Yes … because beyond those limits imposed to me … those so called karmic limits … everything would probably change ….
She probably wanted that … with everyone around her … cause i’ve heard her saying that to other people also … and to explore just the beautiful side of the relationship … being too afraid … of karmic experiences.
But the question is … can we actually get rid of karmic influences …. which always end up dominating the scene of our lives?
Can we control this process?
Can we remain in certain parameters … of a relationship … just by saying … stop that … stop that … stop that?
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
12
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
For me personally it’s really annoying to let myself be dominated by such persons …. and i prefer to push the … play button … of the karmic story.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
13
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
Allow yourself to disconnect from time to time of the the scene of your life and connect with the whole Universe.
Might be an amazing … trick.
I woke up … put my hand on the phone … opened whatsapp
read but also reply all messages came over night. Then look on telegram, viber, instagram … facebook …. Interconnected with everyone i am usually in contact …. and suddenly i started to feel that i’ve made a big mistake.
I felt all those energies which i usually feel everyday … and i usually dislike.
I felt again that i’m dominated by all those forces …. that were controlling the direction of all the paths i was following. I hated it …
Yes … I finally understood i’ve made a huge mistake … but it was even worst than that.
I was doing this mistake by years. … by so, so many years in a row.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
14
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
This was probably the mistake many of us … too many indeed … do everyday.
Wake up … and connect into the next second to the scene of life.
Not liking so much to sleep …. I’ve always wondered what
the hell is this nonsense with … sleeping.
Today i somehow feel it’s about a daily cycle that we must experience all the time … but also an amazing chance of disconnecting from the scene of life … which many, many times … dominates us … into an ugly way.
Sleeping … becomes a way of releasing ourselves from the prison of all those energies of different types … that dominates us.
and also of the stupid desire of dominating all around ourselves.
Dominating and being dominated … became probably … a way of living.
We ignore the night … and the sleep itself. We ignore … its meaning.
We ignore the chance of disconnecting of a story that usually is not what we need … and accept the dominance … as part of the game of life.
We could simple wake up and say … It’s a new day and a new chance of enjoying life … but we don’t do it.
Instead of remaining connected to the whole Universe … from the time of sleep … we come back into reality … and connect again to it …
Connect to … the scene of difference dominances.
Well … we probably don’t know so much about the tricks of life and even if we would know … we would not act properly
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
15
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
anyway.
We accept too easy … the dogmatic way of living … instead of trying to reset all from time to time …. and why not even everyday.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
16
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
Sometimes saying them …. “Fuck
you!” … and leave is the only option.
Everything else is … useless.
Many times in life we are so, so influenced of the energies around us.
And so often … the influence becomes stronger and stronger
until we realize that it was actually metamorphosed into … dominance.
We feel surrounded by energies … we dislike so, so much … and it all starts to look like … a prison … of ugly emotions. Everywhere we should go … the same vibes are appearing in front of us.
philosophical essays
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED
... a way of wasting our lives
philosophical essays
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
1
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES philosophical essays
ADRIAN GABRIEL DUMITRU
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
Year: 2023
Author: Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
2
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
I wondered many times .. where from comes this idea of domination. Why we want to dominate?!
And also … why do we accept being dominated? Why the hell?! …
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
3
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
I’ve decided to write this book … influenced of the success of the other book of mine … “Influenced and being influenced”. I could probably say that i’ve wrote it as a philosophical journey
trying to find out why influence is metamorphosed into the end … into …
dominance.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
4
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
I don’t believe in domination.
I believe in synchronizing energies
I wrote many books about love stories … and what i regret most is that i did not used … almost at all the word …. sex.
But i’ve spent a huge time analyzing and defining the connection between a man and a woman.
Unfortunately… it was all from my perspective … as a man. And even if i tried to connect to so many other ladies … that i had nothing to do with … i still did not understand the real … subject.
I see today all my writings … actually as a great help for the ladies that want to find out how a man thinks … but it’s 100
not the truth about relationships. In fact … not even close to that.
But i still feel myself dominated by my own ideas.
I still care of them … and maybe the real truth is that everything i do …. all the decisions i am taken are related with my perceptions.
And i am laughing seeing that in … everything means my life … i try to make all my best as reality to look like my perceptions.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
5
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
Even if it does not look like that …. the ugly story of
dominating starts again … and again.
Somehow history is repeating on and on and on.
I am saying all the time that i don’t believe in domination … but all i do reveals that i want as my world to be … part of … my prison.
To look like …. my perceptions.
And no change appears …
I know few theoretical things about the change that i should do in life … but … it’s useless.
I say all the time, that i don’t believe in domination … and i should just synchronize with the world … and i know that this is the path … but …
Maybe i am still the prisoner of my perceptions …
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
6
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
Feeling in an unconscious way the sensation of dominant energies … we simple want to run away … not even realizing … why
Yesterday i’ve met George again.
Last time when i saw him …. It was when we finished high
school … so about 100 years ago.
He came … smiled … shake my hand … and he was so, so friendly.
But suddenly …. he said … “My God! You have absolutely… no
idea who i really am.
You don’t recognize me …
Can’t believed it!”
I smiled …. pretending it was not true.
I somehow felt that i know him … that we’ve been great friends into the past … and i really liked his energy … which i felt i knew by a long time … but i could not guess who he was.
Having beard … and white hair … but also 30 kg more that he used to have … he looked today much, much older than me.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
7
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
I was keep asking into my mind … who the hell this guy is … and how’s that i feel so connected to him?! But i was not guessing anything … at all.
It was all related with something from so long time ago … and probably life changed him too much.
Seeing me with my retro car …. he suddenly stopes and asks
“What do you do for living?! This is a real nice car … “ “Well … my friend … almost nothing.
In fact it’s a too long story to synthesize it shortly …. but today probably i could define myself as a … writer.
I write books about love …. and other nonsenses.” George started to laugh … very load.
“Hahahaha! You are joking.
100% you are joking.
I see your after 25 years … driving an amazing retro car …. and you tell me that you are a writer.
Or maybe you had a time … you sold guns and drugs …. and now you just retired …. having enough money into your bank account.
But … Gabriel … let’s suppose you are right … i’d like to give you a test … if you don’t mind.”
“No … not at all … please ask me … “
“Well … you said you write about love …. and that probably could define you as an expert into the subject.
I must be honest with you … like i’ve always been when we’ve been in high school … and had those long discussions about girls.
Today i am married by more than 15 years … but i also have an amazing mistress.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
8
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
Which actually sounds like a great scenario for any man around 45 …
The only real problem is that recently … i felt something weird.
I the middle of the night … i’ve run away from home … without as my wife to find out … and went to this beautiful girl which i told you about.
We made love … and it was amazing.
But the moment … we finished … i wanted to go home … and this is what i did.
I went home … but … when i’ve arrived … i’ve asked myself …. why the hell i’ve got back?!
What i want to know …. is … what’s wrong with me?!
Why i go to the mistress and then i want to go back home … but when i am home … i’m not understanding why i’ve decided to do that … cause i simple don’t like there.
So …. as an expert into this subject …. can you find an
explanation to me?!”
I smiled …
“George … first of all i am not an expert.
I just published close to 40 books … but i don’t consider myself as an expert.
I’m probably the same idiot which you know from high school.
Most probably …. I haven’t changed so much … deep inside
myself.
But … on the other hand … i think it’s so, so damn clear … that neither your wife … or that beautiful mistress … is not giving yourself the right energy you are chasing for. And it’s even worst than that.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
9
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
You actually … don’t like the dominance of the energies of those ladies.
Probably they both want you … but … your place it’s not there.
You chase for something else … but you don’t have the guts to clearly define it.”
I suddenly see a change on George’s face.
His smile disappeared….
“Yes … Gabriel! You are right! You remained the same idiot from high school … with all those science fiction scenarios from your crazy brain.
But who the hell knows … maybe you are right …. and i just
hate hearing these theories …. with energies … which you are
telling me about.”
Close to finishing our discussion …. I finally remembered …
who George was.
He was totally changed … having a totally different look like in high school.
But deep inside him …. he succeeded to keep that energy …
since we were teenagers.
He was still a nice guy …. but lost on the paths of life.
And the energies of those 2 ladies … that really knew what they wanted in life … were for himself so, so dominant. George wanted to have a free life … to do … whatever he wanted … when he wanted … with who he wanted. Without …. rules.
Without …. dominance.
… just as we’ve been in high school …. free spirits.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
10
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
Hearing “Stop it!” … on and on and on … we realize the limits … which could even be defined as …. karmic limits.
Berta is a young lady from Amsterdam, that came to work with me for a real estate project.
We already know each other by more than 6 months and really had great progress with what we are doing.
I like her … and she likes all what we are doing together. But what it’s a little bit funny is that almost every time we meet … and does not like something … she says …”Stop it!” She said that so many times … that i’ve started to be aware of what i am saying to her.
She actually told me so many times … “Stop saying that … or that … or that” … that in fact i’ve stoped being myself around her.
I’ve actually understood that our relationship has some limits
and to remain friends i need to respect all that. It was funny …. or maybe i should say ridiculous…. But suddenly … a weird idea came into my mind.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
11
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
I knew by a long time that many of our relationships are karmic … and maybe that … “Stop it!” … was the signal that we’ve reached the karmic limit … and most probably if i don’t stop doing or saying what she disliked … we’ll be metamorphosed from friends into … enemies. Or maybe just … stop being friends.
I totally disliked to control my way of being … while i was around her … feeling dominated by her desire of keeping our relationship in certain parameters … but i also understand the concept of karmic limits.
I had to pretend i respect those rules … and accept to be dominated … just of the sake of remaining friends. It was all … so, so obvious …
But realizing i need to stop being annoyed of that …. I’ve
asked myself … what if this is rule number one for all our friendships … respecting and letting ourselves be dominated by certain … rules.
Yes … because beyond those limits imposed to me … those so called karmic limits … everything would probably change ….
She probably wanted that … with everyone around her … cause i’ve heard her saying that to other people also … and to explore just the beautiful side of the relationship … being too afraid … of karmic experiences.
But the question is … can we actually get rid of karmic influences …. which always end up dominating the scene of our lives?
Can we control this process?
Can we remain in certain parameters … of a relationship … just by saying … stop that … stop that … stop that?
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
12
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
For me personally it’s really annoying to let myself be dominated by such persons …. and i prefer to push the … play button … of the karmic story.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
13
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
Allow yourself to disconnect from time to time of the the scene of your life and connect with the whole Universe.
Might be an amazing … trick.
I woke up … put my hand on the phone … opened whatsapp
read but also reply all messages came over night. Then look on telegram, viber, instagram … facebook …. Interconnected with everyone i am usually in contact …. and suddenly i started to feel that i’ve made a big mistake.
I felt all those energies which i usually feel everyday … and i usually dislike.
I felt again that i’m dominated by all those forces …. that were controlling the direction of all the paths i was following. I hated it …
Yes … I finally understood i’ve made a huge mistake … but it was even worst than that.
I was doing this mistake by years. … by so, so many years in a row.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
14
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
This was probably the mistake many of us … too many indeed … do everyday.
Wake up … and connect into the next second to the scene of life.
Not liking so much to sleep …. I’ve always wondered what
the hell is this nonsense with … sleeping.
Today i somehow feel it’s about a daily cycle that we must experience all the time … but also an amazing chance of disconnecting from the scene of life … which many, many times … dominates us … into an ugly way.
Sleeping … becomes a way of releasing ourselves from the prison of all those energies of different types … that dominates us.
and also of the stupid desire of dominating all around ourselves.
Dominating and being dominated … became probably … a way of living.
We ignore the night … and the sleep itself. We ignore … its meaning.
We ignore the chance of disconnecting of a story that usually is not what we need … and accept the dominance … as part of the game of life.
We could simple wake up and say … It’s a new day and a new chance of enjoying life … but we don’t do it.
Instead of remaining connected to the whole Universe … from the time of sleep … we come back into reality … and connect again to it …
Connect to … the scene of difference dominances.
Well … we probably don’t know so much about the tricks of life and even if we would know … we would not act properly
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
15
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
anyway.
We accept too easy … the dogmatic way of living … instead of trying to reset all from time to time …. and why not even everyday.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
16
DOMINATING AND BEING DOMINATED … A WAY OF WASTING OUR LIVES
philosophical essays
Sometimes saying them …. “Fuck
you!” … and leave is the only option.
Everything else is … useless.
Many times in life we are so, so influenced of the energies around us.
And so often … the influence becomes stronger and stronger
until we realize that it was actually metamorphosed into … dominance.
We feel surrounded by energies … we dislike so, so much … and it all starts to look like … a prison … of ugly emotions. Everywhere we should go … the same vibes are appearing in front of us.
