And i have the power to understand that we can’t fight with everyone around and that not everybody is dominating the environment where is usually staying ... but at least, with the person we love, we should ... be ourselves ... otherwise ... ?! But ... real facts are real facts ... and the situation is the way it is.
On the other hand, hiding ourselves forever should be a real silly thing to do continuing life in such a way.
So ... maybe ... we should explore, analyze and better define the concept of soul mate.
Then ... just redefine the way you act, cause life is short and should be silly to not let us the freedom to be the real ... us ... the one we feel inside of the soul.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
29
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
A new day.
The experiment ... continues
I recently read a novel about a businessman that had so many problems during the long period of looking for money all the time that ... and he decides to retire, even if he was not so old.
He knew a little bit about the real estate market and internet, so the best decision was to invest in renting apartments.
He thought it will be quite easy and that 20- 30 apartments would probably give him enough income for a new life style ... one with not so much stress around.
So ....even if he took few years to implement the plan ... one
day he became a real rentier.
He succeeded the change and was living with the illusion that his problems with the customers from his main business will totally disappear.
But ... he was only exchanging a business with another one, forgetting that business should be easy just without customers, but as long as they exist ... let’s say we need to deal with lots of things.
On the other hand, the guy from the novel did not realized he was not having the right software for relaxation.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
30
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
You can’t have a certain type of life, if you don’t have the right mental software for that.
He just needed adrenaline ... and the renting business was creating all kinds of argues .. but not adrenaline.
He had to deal especially with ladies, that in the nowadays society from his place ... were living with the impression that renting an apartment is like living in a hotel.
He knew to satisfy the clients ... but again he saw that instead of being paid just for doing nothing, because somehow this is the business of renting ... he was losing his mind with his clients.
Every new day ... he saw that the experiment was ...
continuing.
It was all a nightmare, same as he lived 20 years with the other business.
Making money is not easy.
It never was and probably it will never be.
You see ... the guy from the story was not understanding that relaxation is not so related as you might think with money and you can’t have the peace of mind as a monk if you just chance a silly nightmare with another one.
But ... exploring and analyzing a contemporary story as this one ... we have the chance to define what a life fulfilled with relaxing moments means.
We might also have the chance to decide if we need to focus only on relaxation or maybe have a balanced life where money have a meaning for us, but we also try to have relaxing moments.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
31
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
And the experiment called ... life ... can be a beautiful or an ugly one, but it was depends on the paths that you are following.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
32
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
Drugs kill people
...but those people don’t have eyes to see that.
Little by little ... they turn them into ...
garbage ... till the moment they are completely destroyed. But ... even mentioning that to them all the time is ... useless.
A guy that was trying to get rid of all his addictions, not understanding that actually an addiction is usually replaced by another one ... started to have a funny test from the Universe.
Even if he never had drugs, he was addicted to alcohol, work, love stories etc etc.
In a conversation of 5 minutes with him, you could clearly see that he had an addiction for addictions, but he started in a strange way to hate all the ones that use to have addictions.
The Universe was first smiling, then laughing of his new philosophy.
The guy started to have conflicts with all the ones that he was interacting with ... but in the same time were addicted to alcohol or drugs.
He was almost losing his mind ... so often trying to convince
those people to stop what they were doing, that he ended
having huge useless conflicts.
None one of them were listening.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
33
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
More he was trying to convince them ... much headache he was having.
In fact ... he was receiving an opposite reaction at all he was doing, by naming those people .... “junkies”.
One day, realizing what problems he had because of all those conflicts ... he goes to a friend and ask for help.
The lady was a person that had alcohol addiction also in the past ... but now she stopped the interaction with all those people that were addicted ... same as she was. She smiled to him ... saying:
“Listen ... Paul! It’s not them that you are hating so, so much ... having those horrible conflicts ... but you ... the one you was only few months ago.
All you see is just a reflection.
It’s too soon to accept the past just as it was, but the past is part of us ... and the meaning of the time spent in here on Earth is to understand some lessons of life.
I believe ... you got the lesson ... alcohol addiction, as any other addiction, is not good.
Trying to save the world ... is an utopian concept ... but all those people don’t have eyes to see and ears to hear.
At the right time ... they will decide to stop being a zombie same as you and i had been ... but maybe today showing them our good vibes, after living without alcohol ... is a better decision than naming them ... junkie.” He knew she was right.
She always was right.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
34
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
Realized he needed to explore much deeper not the outer world, but the inner one.
He did not know how to do it ... but he understood is time to define better his own problems from the past and change the world, not by criticizing .... but showing them ... his positive example ... as change.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
35
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
Replying is an option
.... not a must
I had so many argues in my life that i could write a book about it.
Maybe 7-800 pages ... or even more.
But i am sure it will not be a best seller, cause most of us did that so many times that we should be defined as experts in arguing.
Unfortunately ... i can’t write yet a book about how arguing can be avoid, cause that should become a very read book for the ones that are having this problem.
I have moments when i explore my past and i analyze and define what was going on with me .... and i smile ... then i laugh.
I see how i over reacted all the times i argued with people ... but i also understand that actually all those silly times were moments when i lost the control on myself.
I was not connected anymore me with myself and i actually saw that weak side of myself dominated by the a stupid Ego. I could avoid 99% of the argues i had, just by smiling and replying ... “It’s just a beautiful day! Don’t you think so?! Let’s enjoy it ... and also the life itself!”
But i let the Ego speak for myself ... actually letting him
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
36
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
prove useless things and situations.
Replying was just an option ... but ... being blind ... i always thought that it was ... a must.
Today ... after exploring all those situations, trying to understand myself ... i should totally redefine my way of acting on the stage of life.
I would ask myself to smile in front of any illusory situation that is provoking argues and be a better self that knows to reply in a beautiful way to any ugly word came from anyone i meet on the timeline of my life.
So ... the plan itself is simple ... and i wonder myself if i will succeed to do it ... but i still hope i will follow a path of a beautiful change that will take me to an harmonious life. Sounds like an utopian concept, yeah?!
Well ... at least i have a plan and i want to start it.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
37
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
What you see in your daily life is actually a representation of the inner self
In the night, before going to sleep, i started to have the habit of exploring and analyzing the day. I try to see everything as a movie.
Close my eyes and try to understand what i like and what i dislike ... and i wonder if i could change the scenario of that movie.
For years, for many of us, it happens that the days look as a repetitive event that is happening for tens or hundreds of times ... without realizing we could change the script of our lives in a second ... by taking a different decision.
I close my eyes, i see everything again ... and i explore the day few more times.
I analyze all the details, i try to define them and then i am meditating how should i change reality by redefining everything.
I see all kinds of negative events that keep appearing to me on and on and on ... and don’t understand why.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
38
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
I see the argues i had with some of the people from my life ... but can’t understand the repetitive facts.
Then in a second ... everything is changing in my vision.
I realize that the problem is not ... the environment where i live, not the people from my daily life ... but me.
After this process of exploring few times everything, i see so clearly that i have the power to change my life, just by acting differently.
The events can look the same, but i can react in a different way ... every time this is happening.
And it was so simple to see that ... but i was blind and too stubborn to follow a positive path for my life, instead of a silly one.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
39
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
Before the addiction ... during the addiction ... and the
moment after the addiction. A story ... which is actually a lesson of life.
Having addictions is actually a way of living today.
People use to love alcohol by centuries ... and if you have the chance to talk with them, why they love it so much ... they will tell you that alcohol is actually kind of a medicine.
One that is making them forget about the real life, about the problems that they have ... and live daily a part of time with different thoughts.
Long time ago, when i was a child i saw an amazing russian movie about the life of a guy from Moscow.
He was married by a while ... and he started to drink more and more.
In the beginning he was drinking ... just from time to time. He was very stressed because of his work, but his wife could not understand that.
Then he started to drink more ... and more ... and he became an alcoholic.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
40
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
Started to dislike his work, because of so, so many problems ... but also the life that he had at home with his wife.
During the day he could not drink, but in the night he could not go to sleep without having one or 2 bottles of wine. Drinking alcohol daily ... became a habit.
The connection with his wife ... was totally interrupted ... and even if she disliked so much his addiction, she could not convince him to stop.
But one day, on a 1st of January ... he just stopped drinking ... and promised to himself that this is a final decision.
His problems from work did not disappeared ... but suddenly he started to see his problems from home.
The relationship with the wife ... was so toxic, that he was making jokes thanking to God that he invented alcohol .. and that this is the reason why his marriage lasted so, so much. But ... today he could clearly see the toxicity of their marriage, the fact that he was never supported by his wife and the fact that they have a zero connection.
He disliked everything he saw ... but was happy that he can understand the real situation of where he was on the timeline of his life.
He was not blind anymore.
He realized he needed alcohol ... just to become blind and not see for a long time the truth about his life.
But a truth is a truth ... and maybe the message was to understand the life itself even if he liked it or not.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
41
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
Before the addiction he was looking for a medicine for becoming blind when if comes about analyzing his life ...
during the addiction he loved the fact that he had moments when he totally forgot everything ... and after the addiction, he understand he must accept the facts from reality just as they are, analyze them, define and redefine everything he wants to change ... and have the power to dream again. Hiding from the real situations of life ... is useless, as long as we have some lessons of life to study.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
42
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
Being on a negative frequency ... you will attract only negative people and events. The simple trick is ... CHANGE YOUR VIBE!
We somehow live with the illusion that we can plant cactus seeds and in the end see that apple trees are growing in our gardens.
Even a kid will say this is not possible ... but most of us ... have the believe that our actions and the way of being is not really having any influence on our lives.
And it keeps happening ... on and on and on.
But not even for a second ... we think of this inter connection between the vibe we have and what we see in the present moment.
Lots of negative people are appearing.
Also negative events.
... and we continue ... being blinds.
We want a change, but we can’t see the path to that change, cause we are ... blinds.
It all becomes so ... harmful, that one day we even feel the need of resigning from being a human being.
On the other hand, hiding ourselves forever should be a real silly thing to do continuing life in such a way.
So ... maybe ... we should explore, analyze and better define the concept of soul mate.
Then ... just redefine the way you act, cause life is short and should be silly to not let us the freedom to be the real ... us ... the one we feel inside of the soul.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
29
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
A new day.
The experiment ... continues
I recently read a novel about a businessman that had so many problems during the long period of looking for money all the time that ... and he decides to retire, even if he was not so old.
He knew a little bit about the real estate market and internet, so the best decision was to invest in renting apartments.
He thought it will be quite easy and that 20- 30 apartments would probably give him enough income for a new life style ... one with not so much stress around.
So ....even if he took few years to implement the plan ... one
day he became a real rentier.
He succeeded the change and was living with the illusion that his problems with the customers from his main business will totally disappear.
But ... he was only exchanging a business with another one, forgetting that business should be easy just without customers, but as long as they exist ... let’s say we need to deal with lots of things.
On the other hand, the guy from the novel did not realized he was not having the right software for relaxation.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
30
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
You can’t have a certain type of life, if you don’t have the right mental software for that.
He just needed adrenaline ... and the renting business was creating all kinds of argues .. but not adrenaline.
He had to deal especially with ladies, that in the nowadays society from his place ... were living with the impression that renting an apartment is like living in a hotel.
He knew to satisfy the clients ... but again he saw that instead of being paid just for doing nothing, because somehow this is the business of renting ... he was losing his mind with his clients.
Every new day ... he saw that the experiment was ...
continuing.
It was all a nightmare, same as he lived 20 years with the other business.
Making money is not easy.
It never was and probably it will never be.
You see ... the guy from the story was not understanding that relaxation is not so related as you might think with money and you can’t have the peace of mind as a monk if you just chance a silly nightmare with another one.
But ... exploring and analyzing a contemporary story as this one ... we have the chance to define what a life fulfilled with relaxing moments means.
We might also have the chance to decide if we need to focus only on relaxation or maybe have a balanced life where money have a meaning for us, but we also try to have relaxing moments.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
31
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
And the experiment called ... life ... can be a beautiful or an ugly one, but it was depends on the paths that you are following.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
32
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
Drugs kill people
...but those people don’t have eyes to see that.
Little by little ... they turn them into ...
garbage ... till the moment they are completely destroyed. But ... even mentioning that to them all the time is ... useless.
A guy that was trying to get rid of all his addictions, not understanding that actually an addiction is usually replaced by another one ... started to have a funny test from the Universe.
Even if he never had drugs, he was addicted to alcohol, work, love stories etc etc.
In a conversation of 5 minutes with him, you could clearly see that he had an addiction for addictions, but he started in a strange way to hate all the ones that use to have addictions.
The Universe was first smiling, then laughing of his new philosophy.
The guy started to have conflicts with all the ones that he was interacting with ... but in the same time were addicted to alcohol or drugs.
He was almost losing his mind ... so often trying to convince
those people to stop what they were doing, that he ended
having huge useless conflicts.
None one of them were listening.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
33
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
More he was trying to convince them ... much headache he was having.
In fact ... he was receiving an opposite reaction at all he was doing, by naming those people .... “junkies”.
One day, realizing what problems he had because of all those conflicts ... he goes to a friend and ask for help.
The lady was a person that had alcohol addiction also in the past ... but now she stopped the interaction with all those people that were addicted ... same as she was. She smiled to him ... saying:
“Listen ... Paul! It’s not them that you are hating so, so much ... having those horrible conflicts ... but you ... the one you was only few months ago.
All you see is just a reflection.
It’s too soon to accept the past just as it was, but the past is part of us ... and the meaning of the time spent in here on Earth is to understand some lessons of life.
I believe ... you got the lesson ... alcohol addiction, as any other addiction, is not good.
Trying to save the world ... is an utopian concept ... but all those people don’t have eyes to see and ears to hear.
At the right time ... they will decide to stop being a zombie same as you and i had been ... but maybe today showing them our good vibes, after living without alcohol ... is a better decision than naming them ... junkie.” He knew she was right.
She always was right.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
34
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
Realized he needed to explore much deeper not the outer world, but the inner one.
He did not know how to do it ... but he understood is time to define better his own problems from the past and change the world, not by criticizing .... but showing them ... his positive example ... as change.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
35
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
Replying is an option
.... not a must
I had so many argues in my life that i could write a book about it.
Maybe 7-800 pages ... or even more.
But i am sure it will not be a best seller, cause most of us did that so many times that we should be defined as experts in arguing.
Unfortunately ... i can’t write yet a book about how arguing can be avoid, cause that should become a very read book for the ones that are having this problem.
I have moments when i explore my past and i analyze and define what was going on with me .... and i smile ... then i laugh.
I see how i over reacted all the times i argued with people ... but i also understand that actually all those silly times were moments when i lost the control on myself.
I was not connected anymore me with myself and i actually saw that weak side of myself dominated by the a stupid Ego. I could avoid 99% of the argues i had, just by smiling and replying ... “It’s just a beautiful day! Don’t you think so?! Let’s enjoy it ... and also the life itself!”
But i let the Ego speak for myself ... actually letting him
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
36
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
prove useless things and situations.
Replying was just an option ... but ... being blind ... i always thought that it was ... a must.
Today ... after exploring all those situations, trying to understand myself ... i should totally redefine my way of acting on the stage of life.
I would ask myself to smile in front of any illusory situation that is provoking argues and be a better self that knows to reply in a beautiful way to any ugly word came from anyone i meet on the timeline of my life.
So ... the plan itself is simple ... and i wonder myself if i will succeed to do it ... but i still hope i will follow a path of a beautiful change that will take me to an harmonious life. Sounds like an utopian concept, yeah?!
Well ... at least i have a plan and i want to start it.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
37
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
What you see in your daily life is actually a representation of the inner self
In the night, before going to sleep, i started to have the habit of exploring and analyzing the day. I try to see everything as a movie.
Close my eyes and try to understand what i like and what i dislike ... and i wonder if i could change the scenario of that movie.
For years, for many of us, it happens that the days look as a repetitive event that is happening for tens or hundreds of times ... without realizing we could change the script of our lives in a second ... by taking a different decision.
I close my eyes, i see everything again ... and i explore the day few more times.
I analyze all the details, i try to define them and then i am meditating how should i change reality by redefining everything.
I see all kinds of negative events that keep appearing to me on and on and on ... and don’t understand why.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
38
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
I see the argues i had with some of the people from my life ... but can’t understand the repetitive facts.
Then in a second ... everything is changing in my vision.
I realize that the problem is not ... the environment where i live, not the people from my daily life ... but me.
After this process of exploring few times everything, i see so clearly that i have the power to change my life, just by acting differently.
The events can look the same, but i can react in a different way ... every time this is happening.
And it was so simple to see that ... but i was blind and too stubborn to follow a positive path for my life, instead of a silly one.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
39
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
Before the addiction ... during the addiction ... and the
moment after the addiction. A story ... which is actually a lesson of life.
Having addictions is actually a way of living today.
People use to love alcohol by centuries ... and if you have the chance to talk with them, why they love it so much ... they will tell you that alcohol is actually kind of a medicine.
One that is making them forget about the real life, about the problems that they have ... and live daily a part of time with different thoughts.
Long time ago, when i was a child i saw an amazing russian movie about the life of a guy from Moscow.
He was married by a while ... and he started to drink more and more.
In the beginning he was drinking ... just from time to time. He was very stressed because of his work, but his wife could not understand that.
Then he started to drink more ... and more ... and he became an alcoholic.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
40
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
Started to dislike his work, because of so, so many problems ... but also the life that he had at home with his wife.
During the day he could not drink, but in the night he could not go to sleep without having one or 2 bottles of wine. Drinking alcohol daily ... became a habit.
The connection with his wife ... was totally interrupted ... and even if she disliked so much his addiction, she could not convince him to stop.
But one day, on a 1st of January ... he just stopped drinking ... and promised to himself that this is a final decision.
His problems from work did not disappeared ... but suddenly he started to see his problems from home.
The relationship with the wife ... was so toxic, that he was making jokes thanking to God that he invented alcohol .. and that this is the reason why his marriage lasted so, so much. But ... today he could clearly see the toxicity of their marriage, the fact that he was never supported by his wife and the fact that they have a zero connection.
He disliked everything he saw ... but was happy that he can understand the real situation of where he was on the timeline of his life.
He was not blind anymore.
He realized he needed alcohol ... just to become blind and not see for a long time the truth about his life.
But a truth is a truth ... and maybe the message was to understand the life itself even if he liked it or not.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
41
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
Before the addiction he was looking for a medicine for becoming blind when if comes about analyzing his life ...
during the addiction he loved the fact that he had moments when he totally forgot everything ... and after the addiction, he understand he must accept the facts from reality just as they are, analyze them, define and redefine everything he wants to change ... and have the power to dream again. Hiding from the real situations of life ... is useless, as long as we have some lessons of life to study.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
42
EXPLORING OURSELVES
... we will understand what life is about
Being on a negative frequency ... you will attract only negative people and events. The simple trick is ... CHANGE YOUR VIBE!
We somehow live with the illusion that we can plant cactus seeds and in the end see that apple trees are growing in our gardens.
Even a kid will say this is not possible ... but most of us ... have the believe that our actions and the way of being is not really having any influence on our lives.
And it keeps happening ... on and on and on.
But not even for a second ... we think of this inter connection between the vibe we have and what we see in the present moment.
Lots of negative people are appearing.
Also negative events.
... and we continue ... being blinds.
We want a change, but we can’t see the path to that change, cause we are ... blinds.
It all becomes so ... harmful, that one day we even feel the need of resigning from being a human being.
