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... a non ending story
Every story has a beginning, the story itself and an end, but what if we should taste only the story ... forgetting about the beginning and the end?!
We somehow pay too much attention in life at the details and we forget to live ... and actually enjoy life.
We study the beginning a lot. We define it in one million ways, but when the story starts we just lose the interest on tasting it .... and
soon after the story goes to the end.
We forget to act and see the message behind the story ... but also to enjoy the simple fact that we are alive on the stage of life.
... but still we pay too much attention to the beginning and the end ...
and we should maybe make an experiment to see ... what if we make the opposite?!
I mean ... forget about the beginning and the end and focus only on the story itself, on the fact that we should be connected with the present moment ... and nothing more.
The influence of our mind is huge ... and we actually don’t let the heart sing when we are on the stage.
We think too much at the beginning and it’s meaning and we only let the heart cry at the end.
Today ... after becoming an expert into failing in so, so many events ... i have the obsession of tasting just the story ... connect right away and totally forget about the start ... or why the story will be closed one day.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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... a non ending story
I have an obsession similar with the passion that 2 sex mates have. You see ... the sex mates ... even if the example is weird ... they does care just about the story.
They are not attached in any way ... and don’t care about how it starts or if one day it will end.
They are focused only on ... the story.
They just strongly connect to the moment.
Don’t pay attention to the thoughts they have ... but only to the passion itself.
Caring only about the story ... becomes the wisdom of enjoying life. Sex mates ... might be considered as a totally inappropriate example ... but their philosophy of life is a better one and many of us should learn the art of connecting to the present moment.
Yes ... in this world everything has a beginning and an end ... but we should ignore all that and learn to keep the right balance between the thoughts and emotions.
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... a non ending story
She liked him.
He liked her ... a lot. Between them it was a huge distance and the only relationship they could have was a spiritual one.
... but he was still dreaming to seduce her.
In India they have a beautiful festival ... which is called Rakshabandhan.
This festival is of brother and sister.
Raksha Bandhan, also Rakshabandhan, is a popular, traditionally Hindu, annual rite, or ceremony, which is central to a festival of the same name celebrated in South Asia, and in other parts of the world significantly influenced by Hindu culture. On this day, sisters of all ages tie a talisman, or amulet, called the rakhi, around the wrists of their brothers, symbolically protecting them, receiving a gift in return, and traditionally investing the brothers with a share of the responsibility of their potential care.
For europeans is difficult to understand the concept, but i got a friend ... also writer ... that knows lots of persons from there.
And he somehow fell in love with a beautiful girl from that part of the world.
He was always seeing as impossible a friendship between a man and a lady ... and he liked her a lot.
But being so far away from that beautiful young lady ... they decided to declare themselves bothers and sisters on the day of the festival. She liked the idea ... but he mentioned her that if one day in the
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future they will have the chance to meet ... he will forget about their understanding and he will try to seduce her.
And truth be told ... she was extremely beautiful.
The Universe was laughing of him trying to see how he will act with such a beautiful lady ... but being so far away.
The lady appeared ... they had a connection, but looked like impossible as they should meet one day. ... and also ... he was a married guy.
But he liked her a lot ... to stop dreaming about seducing her in the real world.
And the Universe was laughing on and on ... cause more they were talking ... more he realized he liked her ... and of course not as a sister ... but as a lady.
So ... my real philosophical question is ... can a man and a woman have just a spiritual relationship?!
Well ... same as the Universe, i am laughing also of my friend ... the writer ... cause this was the real message ... to understand that some circumstances forces us to have only spiritual relationships. The meaning?!
If we see the message behind the message ... we will understand that as a man ... you can also see a lady as a soul.
Sometimes only under the influence of the circumstances ... but once you understand the concept of the spiritual relationship ... you will also understand that the relationship between the opposite sexes can be by many kinds ... including spiritual.
The funny thing is that my friend ... the writer ... read and wrote a lot about spirituality, but he was too blind to look at a lady and see not only her exterior beauty ... but also the beauty of her soul.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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... a non ending story
“Now am thinking ... in any relation satisfaction is more important as love ... “
(Arij Emaan)
I started to write few years ago, because i had too many unclear things in my mind and soul.
I discovered what i call ... the art of defining ... and today i continue to write for sending the message of how you can improve your life just by replacing the bad habit of gossiping about others, which is also a sort of defining ... with a honest way of defining yourself ...
your life.
I wrote few books about love and 2 of them with my dear Arij
Emaan ... and discussing about what really means a relationship ...
we came on the conclusion that satisfaction is more important as love.
It’s an ugly definition of what is behind a love story and the reason why relationships don’t really work even if they start so damm well. We have lots of desires and we are looking for all kinds of ways to satisfy those desires ... and in the end ... if we are honest enough ... we realize that we were looking for satisfaction more than for love.
But it’s really annoying to play this game of defining ... be honest ...
and realize the real truth.
And is even more annoying if you had been hypothesized for weeks, or months ... of a person that looked as a god ... seeing in that relation the absolute perfection.
Today i believe Arij is right with her thinking.
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... a non ending story
I saw many couples that ended this way, because the real intention from the early beginning was satisfaction ... not real love. But the blindness itself existed.
Today i should write with Arij a new book called “Awakening can be obtained at the end of a love story” ... explaining the mistake we do and how we should .. at least ... keep the right balance between love and satisfaction.
But remember ... what we write is not the absolute truth ... cause we only write of the different types of influence from life.
Is the way we see the whole story and we only share with you those ideas ... believing that our life experiences will help you act better on the stage of life ... when you will be in this position.
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... a non ending story
Readapting to any scenario
... the greatest power a
human being can have
Today was a total mess ... the whole day.
From the morning till the night.
In the real life, i am involved in the renting business ... so i lost few contracts and also the chance to sign a new important contract. Was kind of a day that could be defined as a worst case scenario .. that really happened ... cause i never lost so many contracts in one day.
So ... i was not under good energies ... but i realized why.
I was not under the right influences from the people from my life and sometimes, having old statistical datas about the connection between the influences that come from the people around my soul ... i somehow understood why it happened. But ... you know what?!
I smiled ... and i am still smiling even now.
I studied a little bit the renting prices and i realized i can get an increase of 10 to 25 % more at the new contracts that i will sign from now.
So actually what i saw as a disaster in the morning ... it’s actually a big opportunity in the night.
Someone repeated me today few times ... as at every new situation
that appears as a new disaster to reply ... “It’s ok!” ... and i did it ...
and i even smiled.
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... a non ending story
I am usually optimistic ... and i saw ... from empiric experiences kept in my mind as statistical datas ... that every time something bad happens it usually becomes the reason why new opportunities appear in my life.
So in the end even the bad influences that fuck my energies and all around me ... are good.
I decided to embrace anything happens ... cause i know everything happens for a reason ... even if i can’t see the reason now.
I told to myself that readapting to any scenario ... is the greatest power a human being can have.
... and that is not a cliche ... but simple rules of life that i see how they happen all the time.
But what i can’t understand is why i keep my connections opened with all those people from my life ... that have a negative impact on my energetic field.
I could just totally disconnect from them and decide to have around me only people that have a positive influence over my life.
Is a simple decision ... but even if i don’t realize why i act in the way i act .. if i understand the dance of energies ... and how it works ... i haven’t decided yet to keep in mind what my intuition is telling me to do.
Till then ... i just readapt to any new scenario.
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... a non ending story
It’s not that you have a soul
... you are a soul ... so you should pay more attention at your priorities
Communism tried to make people look equal ... but we can’t be equals, because we are different.
So ... communism failed, even if they tried for such a long time ...
and even if they still exist.
Nazism tried to explain to us before and during World War II, that they were superior and the rest of people from the world were inferior.
But being different is quite ok ... even if nazism and communism could not understand that.
And i wonder myself why the theoreticians behind those 2 powerful doctrines ... never thought to consider we are in fact ... souls.
And why we should be declared equals ... or even worst ... superior and inferior?!
I somehow believe that both theories were wrong ... cause souls are ... different ... and have in fact that ... uniqueness, that only a soul can have.
But the bad part is that we believe we have a soul ... not that we are a soul.
The soul became something ... auxiliary.
And this is the reason why we don’t pay attention to it ... even if is so damm important.
On the list of priorities we never find ... the soul and if it happens to find it ... is the last on the list ... which is actually quite ridiculous.
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... a non ending story
But we continue life as that and we spend our lives doing only what we have to do and not what we love to do.
We cannot influence life in any way ... cause in fact we just can’t believe we are souls.
So many doctrines in philosophy, spirituality, religion ... that it becomes natural that we don’t know anymore what to believe. Communism and nazism were just playing an important role in the recent history ... but today we live in democracy and is even worst. The neighbors, the friends ... even the people we meet for the first time have huge influence over our lives ... telling us what to think and what to believe.
They are not great theoreticians ... as the nazy, communists and many others, but only simple people that influence us ... without even bothering to ask us if we agree or not.
Why?!
Well ... we are too silly to understand that it’s not that we have a soul
... but we are a soul ... so we should pay more attention at the list of priorities and ask first the inner self.
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... a non ending story
Addictions ... as drugs
... just ruin people
Let’s say that ... i had the chance in the last years to meet people that
were taking different kind of drugs and it was funny to listen to
them ... while explaining that i simple don’t understand the beauty
and the importance of this habit.
I did not defined them in any way.
Also ... i did not offend them ... not even as a joke.
I was just listening ... and trying to understand the meaning of all that.
What i saw at marihuana is that ... all of them call this a therapeutic treatment ... and again i was told that i am not able to understand ... because i never smoked.
On the other hand ... i realized one thing ... to understand life we need to taste it and experience everything ... including immoral things.
I wrote about this many times, and i also know that great yogins are using drugs for meditation, but i am coming from a generation that was addicted to something else ... alcohol.
And i experienced it many, many times till the day when i saw that the alcohol is influencing my decisions too much ... and i stopped. One day ... on a 1st of January i just eliminated this addiction from my life.
Last year i met a guy, about 35.
We were interacting a lot.
He was drinking about 5-6 bottles of beers a day ... but as long as he was only drinking was quite an ok guy.
