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The exercise of connecting to strangers for 3-4 seconds ... teach you in fact the art of connecting to people
I’ve been playing around in the last time ... just trying to connect to strangers that i see on street for the first and probably the last time in my life.
I’m doing it by a while and all i can say is that it’s quite a nice experiment for understanding the art of connecting to other souls. When i was a kid i was an introvert, but somehow the Universe ...
made me with different life lessons ... an extrovert.
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Inside of me remain a small part of that shyness.
But i decided it’s time for an experiment.
It was easier with the strangers from the street.
I continued to look at different kinds of people, of any age ....
between 1 and 4 seconds.
I believe that after a maximum of 4 seconds you need to have the gut to say something or ... just leave.
I did not had this necessary gut to say anything at all ... but i loved the game.
Not by a long time i saw an interesting music clip.
The guy was driving, stops in traffic for few seconds, turn his head to the left, sees a beautiful blonde lady ... and in few seconds imagines the whole love story with her.
I did not had this kind of fantasies with none of the ladies i met ... but i just loved to connect to anybody.
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I even tried to find on the street ugly people.
... also people that looked dangerous.
At the end of the 3-4 seconds ... i smiled ... and you won’t believe
it ... i also received a smile back.
I started to love the game.
Somehow ... on long term ... i failed to connect to the people from my life ... but it was a huge success to connect to the people that i met only once in a life time.
It was actually playing the game of connecting to different kinds of souls ... but also the one of influencing them positively ... just in a moment of only few seconds.
My exercise of doing that will continue.
I am not saying you should daily do it, but i believe you should try it
from time to time, cause it will help you learn the art of connecting ...
and maybe why not ... re connecting to people.
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We remember the old game of the broken telephone ... we play it with that joy from our childhood, but this time being
adults ... we just destroy connections with it.
You see the game ... used to be a game in which a message is passed on, in a whisper, by each of a number of people, so that the final version of the message is often radically changed from the original.
But ... today we see it even as a game of defining.
Usually defining is a good thing to do in life ... actually kind of an art.
It usually helps us see the meaning of all the events from our lives ...
and understand the messages we need to understand as ... life lessons.
The story with defining becomes something similar with a coin that is having 2 sides ... the good one which is seeing better our lives by trying to define all the elements of it ... and defining the other people’s life ... which is actually gossiping.
The one that invented the game with the broken telephone ... i am sure that was an ironic person.
He tried to teach us ... what actually gossiping means from an early age.
We enjoyed it at that time.
It was even fun.
But it was just a game ... now is about the real life ... and we cannot see the difference.
You say something to a friend ... that friend defines your words in a totally different way ... and then one day a stranger ... comes to you and tell all about your life ... in a different version of how things are.
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You understand that everything started from the fact that you shared your thoughts ... and actually your life ... with that friend ... that you believed in your friend .... considering that person ... someone that should not judge you at all.
You shared your emotions ... your soul.
And instead of remaining a story just for you and that friend ... is becoming a subject of gossiping for all the people from your life. Today i believe that this habit of gossiping is actually a protective mode in how the individual, not being able to stop his infinite number of thoughts ... makes this trick and instead of studying, analyzing and defining his own inner world ... finds other souls ... and focus all the attention on those individuals.
Remaining in the outside world, making the inner world disappear ...
in fact succeeding to hide all those emotions from the soul ...
gossiping is the magic pill to forget about ... us.
But gossiping ... no matter the way you practice it ... it’s a bad habit that brings bad energies into the lives of all those people that we are talking about.
I studied lots of people that practice this sport ... and especially ladies are very good at that ... but i should recommend as the process of defining to be done only by speaking with the persons involved. ... with no one else, but them.
Try to help ... with the judgement that you have today ... but only if you have a positive attitude and see the beautiful side of the story. Otherwise ... practice the art defining only in your mind ... related with your life and life in general.
Bad habits ... as the game of the broken telephone will not bring good energies in our lives or in other people’s lives.
Define ... why you do it ... and if you can’t stop yourself from doing it ... just remember that your own life needs more attention as the one of others.
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The right story gives you the right energy you need in that moment
In one point in life ... we somehow understand that to have the perfect life we actually need to work for having the right energy all the time.
I met persons that have meditation first thing in the morning, others that go in vacations all around the world ... and also people that have as hobby different arts as painting, sculpture etc etc.
All those people ... were somehow trying to have in their lives ... a way in how they can recharge their batteries for being in perfect shape all the time.
But i also met persons that have in their lives a mentor, a guru, or a priest ... that were guiding them so that they will be at a certain type of positive energy all the time.
And the funny thing is that i also met persons that instead of a guru ... they looked for a love story with a partner that could raise their energy level all the time ... just by being around.
The connection between ... was amazing and the reaction of just staying one near another .... was one very difficult to be defined in
words.
But was easy to be seen that ... it was the right story ... at the right time ... all that they needed to be in great shape.
It all started with the search of the perfect life ... and being lucky enough to be in the arms of a soulmate ... gave the best positive influence a human being can have.
So ... looking for the perfect life scenario?!
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Well ... just find out what gives you a great vibe, stay around that source of amazing energy and your life will be totally redefined. ... simple as that!
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We attract what we think about
... but actually get what we want
... only after we decide to stop thinking
about that something.
Have you ever thought how can you get in life all the dreams and
goals right away?!
Visualizing ... helps a lot.
Having in your mind all the details also ... gets you closer by what you desire do much.
But the paradox is that ... we don’t get what we want right away,
even if we have the clarity and visualize so damm well everything ...
because we are too obsessed of the desire.
The real trick is more ... connect ... disconnect ... re connect.
The process of connecting - disconnecting ... evaporates the negative influence of the obsession.
It’s ok to want in life ... anything we have in mind, but not in an obsessive way.
… just think about it!
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The secret of a great day ... comes
from the pleasure of waking up with joy
In any activity we should have ... the start is very important. But you see ... a new day is the present moment and all that we actually have.
The past does not exists anymore.
The future is just an illusory concept.
But the present is the one that actually makes us happy, unhappy, feel alive or ... not ... all depending on the way we know to connect to the day.
I once heard a statistic that said that one million people don’t wake up anymore when a new day starts, so the simple fact that we wake up ... should make us be happy.
But for many, the days when they wake up with joy ... are probably just a few in a year time.
Today i wonder myself if waking up with joy is a decision that belongs of us ... or is a simple fact that just happens.
Could we have the habit of starting the day with joy ... or is much over our powers?!
It’s quite strange to understand why they are days when we wake up happy or unhappy ... but probably everything has to do with the interior factors that defines positivity or negativity from inside of us. With enough optimism in our souls ... we can choose to believe that waking up with joy ... starting the day with the idea of positivity, expecting great things to happen ... that should be a better script than the one when we are afraid of being alive.
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Honestly speaking, i personally don’t really understand why we wake up feeling that it’s going to be a bad or a great day ... but maybe the past influence indeed the present moment ... and we should keep in mind also that the present moment influence a lot the future.
So ... walking up with joy can be even a trick to avoid starting with negativity ... something that in fact can be amazing ... a new day from our lives.
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Re writing your mental software
... the trick that can have a
tremendous influence on your life
Don’t have the life you dreamed so much about?!
Don’t even see any hope that you will have that one day?!
Well ... you still have a chance for being happy and that is accept the present moment just as it is.
Embrace it ... love it ... as it is the only fact that you really have in life.
We sometimes are too connected with all the material goods we have, but actually don’t realize that all we have is the present moment itself.
But what we don’t like is that this moment doesn’t have the elements of the that dreamed life ... or if you see few of the elements ... still not seeing everything just as we thought reality should be ... still let the unhappiness be present inside of our souls.
But have you ever thought that the change does not appear ... because we are not actually opened for it?!
We want to have the ideal life, but actually don’t do anything for getting it.
We want it ... but we don’t want to pay the price for it.
But what is this price?!
Well ... it’s quite simple and in fact everything is related with the way we think ... and this is why changing the way we think ... re writing our mental software can be the trick for a better life ... and even for an amazing one.
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The way we think ... the thoughts we decide to focus on ... is something that can have a huge impact on us.
The influence of thinking is more powerful than we can imagine ...
and is the root of all the situations we have in our lives now.
But re writing the software, by being opened to any kind of change ...
could re define our lives ... in a great way.
I am not saying as a religious leader that this is the absolute path that you should follow, because i don’t believe in paths and dogmatism, but ... only to keep in mind the idea and meditate over it ... experience it ... at least as a test.
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Volatility ... a new trend
I believe that understanding what really defines volatility is actually ...
the new secret that we should look for.
But also accepting all the effects of it ... which actually might sound as weird ... will bring bring you in fact lots of advantages.
I bet you already believe that ... i lost my mind ... or i really don’t know what i am talking about.
But you see ... volatility defines the contemporary life.
We know from the Bible, by already thousands of years that everything is just an illusion ... which is actually a way of saying that everything you see is volatile ... and can disappear right away.
But it becomes a huge problem that we see the phenomenon in all the areas of our lives ... and much often than we used to see it in the past.
We somehow start to feel that volatility is actually ... a trend.
We lost all the absolute values from life ... and maybe the last chance we see now is to focus on the Absolute Divine ... which we name God, Allah ... and in many, many other ways.
And even if we take this decision ... we start to wonder in the next second ... how do i actually connect with the Infinite?!
We have moments when we feel we succeeded that .... and soon after
we believe it was all an illusion.
Even the fact that we connected with the absolute becomes volatile and illusory.
Then we search again and again and again ... in the outside world ...
for the absolute symbols.
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We have also many moments when we believe we found that ... but we end up being disappointed all the time ... cause everything is volatile nowadays ... more than ever.
