It was such a great conversation that ... he realized that he likes her a lot, even if in a weird way ... he was not remembering about her look. He looks on whatsapp and sees a picture with a landscape.
He asks her why she does not have a picture ... but she realized in the next second ... the truth ... that he is not remembering her. But weird ... he already started the process of seducing her.
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She liked what was going on, but he was wondering how the hell he could be influenced so much about her vibe ... that not even remembering her look ... he was feeling a strange desire of having her.
He was seduced by her vibe ... cause he wanted a vibe as her vibe. The story started ... or maybe it will just stop the next day ... but the simple fact of spending some moments with her ... made him happy ... and he was forgetting how it was that amazing feeling. A beautiful or an ugly lady ... who knows?!
But the vibe .... my God ... the vibe was amazing ... and now his vibe
was the same.
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The best case scenario is as a real connection with another person ... to exists from the beginning ... not to build it
There are many times when we believe that we are real creators and same as we can build anything we want ... we can also build the connections with other souls.
We strongly believe that we can influence anything we have in mind ... but we don’t realize the difference between natural and artificial.
It happens i know a guy that had in his life 3 women.
One was the wife ... and he had no connection at all with her.
During the time, he tried few times to create the connection ... but he failed all the time.
The second one ... was his mistress.
He had such a great connection with her, that he could not believe it could be real.
But the third one ... was a new lady he recently met ... and just because he talked with her few philosophical issues ... he had an illusory idea that he can connect to her ... in a very short time.
The guy ... had a theory ... a silly one in my modest opinion ... that
we, the humans, can build the connections with the other humans.
But ... guess what?!
He was not her type.
He was rich ... and she wanted a rich guy.
He was a philosopher ... and he was a great one.
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But he needed in her life ... something ... to take her out right away from the huge depression that she had.
In the end ... connecting to her ... just failed ... even if the start was a great one.
His life was now split in 3 paths ... no connection at all, a natural amazing connection and an artificial one that was kind of a great connection - no connection at all. His final decision?!
Not knowing what to do, not understanding anything at all ... but still believing that he was greater than the Universe ... instead of just stopping and enjoying the path of the amazing relationship with his mistress ... he was still balancing between the wife, the mistress and other beautiful ladies.
But ... he was just a lost guy.
A lost one ... because he could not take a decision ... just choose the path of least resistance.
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Contradictory desires
... just chance the course of life
It’s quite important to understand that the course of life is strongly influenced by the power of our desires.
In many situations we are in the same scene with other people also. be
We have what is called .... relationships ... of any kind.
But you see ... we consider relationships are easier only if we control them.
Somehow we feel the need of dominating the scene itself, but also of the persons that are in the same scene with us.
And i keep wondering myself why?!
Because, in fact, we have contradictory desires and all we care is that all those desires to become real.
We don’t really care of anything the other side wants ... no matter who’s that person.
But the other side ... is actually like a mirror. Wants the same thing and cares about the same thing ... his/her own desires.
Is almost like mixing oil with water and we keep wondering why?! So what happens when you try to mix oil and water? The water molecules attract each other, and the oil molecules stick together. That causes oil and water to form two separate layers. Water molecules pack closer together, so they sink to the bottom, leaving oil sitting on top of the water.
Actually the relationship itself ... should be a cocktail of energies ... of those 2 or more people involved .... but ends up as the wish of mixing water with oil.
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You will see ... the impossible of mixing contradictory desires ... and
the influence of that on the scene from the real life ... will look like a
total mess.
The solution?!
Well ... we actually have 2 options.
“Smell the taste” of the desires ... and then see if you really need to go on that path together ... the path called relationship.
If you think is not a good direction ... just don’t follow it and try to find other things.
But ... if you already see the meaning of the contradictory desires ... continuing should be just silly, no matter who that person is. You could simple change the course, otherwise the Universe will change the course of life in unexpected ways ... that sometimes we won’t really like.
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You are what you actually do
... in your daily life
You see ... drinking everyday you become an alcoholic.
Making sport everyday ... you become a sportiv.
But ... i wonder myself if writing everyday ... you actually become a writer?!
A dear friend of mine ... that already wrote few books till now amazed me while telling his story of how he became a writer.
We were 6-7 writers in a beautiful restaurant from the city center.
We were actually talking not about literature, not about philosophy ...
but about ladies.
All of us ... we were having a muse ... and the muse was actually the one that was influencing all the ideas.
Our friend started to tell us his long story, about how he started to be a writer.
Being married ... but falling in love with a silly girl from the country side ... he started to write her thousands of lines on the chat.
He was explaining in our million words ... his love for her ... but actually the girl was too silly to listen to all his philosophical ideas. She was ok as him to become her sugar daddy, but did not imagined that ... as a sugar baby she will be forced to listen so much philosophy.
She was in love with the drugs ... and with the idea as someone to take care of all her needs.
But he was so deep in love with her ... and became blind at the fact that he was writing messages that she was not reading.
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He was speaking with ... the walls.
Few years later ... he falls in love again ... but even if she loved him a lot ... their love story was an impossible one. He writes her love letters.
She writes him ... lots of love letters.
The love story ... becomes almost a shakespearean love story ... but missing her so much ... he becomes a writer. Writes one book.
Then another one.
And another one.
All the books were about her ... his absolute obsession.
She influenced his life in such a powerful way that instead of being interested only about money ... he was actually interested only about writing.
One year ... and she changed the course of his life.
A businessman that was in love with the money ... became obsessed only by writing and reading books.
He heard that a lady can change a man’s life ... but he could not believe how things changed.
He started to sale 2-3 books a day.
Not much ... but he was not speaking with the walls anymore.
He was writing to influence the world, even if that meant only 2-3 pers a day for the moment.
So ... this is how a nice path of life starts.
He started with the beautiful silly country girl, writing her ... amazing illusory love letters ... continued with that gorgeous lady ... so that
the final result to be ... speak with beautiful ladies from all around the
world ... his readers.
Funny ... but true!
Life is strange ... but ... we actually never know where the paths of the present will take us.
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The problem with the negative paths is that sometimes ... they look as positive paths and we even believe that the Universe arranged that .... but He was just laughing
It says that the meaning of life is the awakening ... from the spiritual point of view.
To go to the level of awakening ... you need to understand the illusion of life.
The more you evolve as a soul ... the stronger the illusion will be. You will see all kinds of things that look so negative ... but in fact the meaning is always just a lesson of life, to better understand what the illusion is.
And it will look so damm real.
You will even blame the Universe for treating you in such a negative way ... not understanding why if you’ve asked for the best life can offer you ... the supreme awakening ... why you’ve got such a negative path ... with so many troubles and negative emotions ...
reactions ... events.
You actually start to believe that you don’t understand anything at all from what is going on around you.
You even believe that it’s a misunderstanding of communication and that you need to repeat again the prayers ... or the mantras ... or whatever way of communication you have with the Universe. It’s ... unbelievable.
You start to think that everything is wrong around you ... and even that you are in a conspiracy that is ruining your life.
Then you see a change ... a positive one.
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But soon after ... a negative one again.
A strange balance between positive and negative ... that reveals your unstable way of being.
There are moments when the path it’s of absolute beauty ... but also lots of moments ... when the opposite is happening.
You are somewhere in the middle, not knowing how to define your life in the present moment.
You actually are at the influence of positive and negative ... but you can’t define the moment in a certain way.
All it’s a strange mix of energies, but the balance created by those events ... ruins you emotionally.
You even start to believe that the Universe is laughing of you .... but
all you see it’s just a life test ... and you fail watching the illusion ....
but feeling is so real.
So ... what shall we believe?!
Are the negative paths exist?!
Should we follow only the positive ones?!
Or ... 3rd scenario ... the best one probably ... just live life as it it ...
smile in front of negative ... which is actually just an illusion and enjoy the positive.
And most important ... live without expectations!
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Is karma a bitch or a teacher?!
I wonder myself why we worry so much when we hear the word ...
karma.
I saw many people afraid of that ... not really understanding the meaning of the word.
And i heard lots of definitions of karma ... including contradictory ideas ... like “bitch” ... but even a ... “teacher”.
Well ... karma is actually based on the concept ... for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.
Or much simpler... all you see in life is actually a mirror of the inner soul.
But indeed karma looks sometimes as a bitch.
For example someone might like cheating, but is actually the end of the world when is being cheated.
Indeed that person might define karma as a bitch when the loved person cheats him ... but all might actually be ... is a lesson ... a life lesson.
I should even say that to understand life is important to see both sides of the story.
Sometimes in immoral acts we will see weird concepts explained quite easy through the feelings we have.
Will we accept the concept of karma?!
Well ... most probably the Universe will never ask if you accept the
concept or not ... but karma will always be present in our lives?!
But is there any way to avoid it?!
Don’t think so.
Or maybe ... see the beautiful side of karma ... you could do only positive things ... or you could live like a monk in silence ... practicing the non action and expecting as the Universe to have the same
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reaction.
But ... for the rest of us ... not knowing how to really act on the stage of life ... things will be strange from time to time.
Today ... i believe we should accept everything happens.
Embrace all the events ... even if it’s the mirror of a silly behavior we had in the past.
Karma is not a bitch .... and not anything similar with the concept ...
but a life lesson and nothing more.
The Universe will never want to hurt you ... but the way you might see the lesson present in your life ... will always be an abstract one.
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Keep in mind that you should not play around with the illusions . One day you will just become addicted of addictions.
There are moments when we feel that we are in total control of ourselves.
We feel so powerful that we believe that nothing can overwhelm us. It happens i know alcoholics that never keep alcoholic drinks in their house, not even if they have guests.
They never enter in bars and in the restaurants they avoid to ask something to drink ... even a mineral water.
They also close all the friendships with the people that usually drink alcohol in a regular way.
Knowing the huge power of this addiction .... call alcoholism ... they
cut all the connections with everything reminds them of alcohol.
