The story with the mistress is a funny one.
I saw by years at all the important men i knew ... that they had 1 or even 2 mistresses.
For a while i’ve been wondering why, then i was understanding that the mistress is only the need of having other values in the inner world of our emotions.
A real mistress can make you feel ... special ... even if you are not. She can even rebuild you ... in such a great way that you won’t even recognize yourself.
I had the chance to chat, over the years, with lots of ladies that were in the position of being a mistress for a very long time. Interesting ladies.
Very beautiful ... powerful ... wise ... and also beings with such a great vibe.
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The only time when they changed their vibe was when hearing ...
“The family is ... everything”.
Unfortunately for them ... the married men had this old rule, but on the other hand ... all of them were in love with the mistresses not with the .. wives.
But to be really connected with a mistress, which is kind of a strange mix of friend, lover, partner ... basically ... everything ... you need to know what is a mistress.
After talking with so many ladies ... that had this position, i can’t say that i don’t want a mistress or that i understand what a mistress is ...
but i felt that ... they actually represent another universe ... one totally different than the one from home.
But as you to follow such a path in life, path that in many cases ...
you will have no idea where it can take you ... you will need to redefine your ability of being able to ... live in those 2 different worlds.
The story with the lovers ... is a complex one.
Is it something good?
Something bad?!
Well ... depends of the perspective, but without the need of having everything great life can offer to you ... it will be a useless desire.
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I'm fully hopeful ...
I still dream ...
Desires are alive ...
Thinks are attached ...
From new days ...
From good weather ...
From fading evening...
From deep darkness ...
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The experiment
... one day ... one lady.
A real story
It happens that i have 2 dear friends that are playing around with ladies.
They just love the concept of connecting to them.
One of them is mainly socializing with them ... and the other one always feel the need of having them in his bed.
But the rule is simple ... and they never forget it ... one day ... one lady.
One guy is using dating apps ... the other one uses just his connections.
One believes in the sexual connection ... the other one ... wants their souls.
So ... what is the path?!
The real one ... i mean.
What a man should really do ... to “poses” a lady ... in a great way. To be only ... his lady, but not only with the body, but also with the mind and the soul.
I know so many married men that somehow they are so proud that their wives don’t cheat them, but on the other hand you can see the thoughts of those ladies ... just by watching them.
They don’t do anything for real ... but the mind and the soul is always dreaming of something else ... and this something else is not the
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partner that she thinks she is respecting in all the moral ways that you could think about.
But i sometimes try to understand from my 2 friends ... if they have any conclusion after interacting with all those ladies.
They are somehow blocked in this beautiful world of the feminine spirit ... and actually will never stop this experiment ... but the only thing they could tell me is that ... us ... the men ... are just idiots. And this is only because we don’t understand that life, except God, does not have absolute values.
The concept of a beautiful relationship is ... illusory.
It does not really exist.
In fact ... it never existed and will never exist.
All we have ... is the ... NOW ... the moment itself ... the connection.
But you can’t ask for full time connection all the time.
It’s just ... an utopian concept.
In many situations we just walk on paths of life that we actually don’t know were will take us ... but enjoying the moment itself is the best advise we should keep in mind.
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I have learned that as long as I take every word of heart to heart ... I'll be in pain ...
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“Sharing people” .... an abstract
concept?! ... or just a huge compromise that will ruin us?!
Because of the dating apps anyone, even the ones that are shy ... can easy date not with one person ... but with N persons.
You even start to like it and the real truth is that people start having multiple relationships without realizing.
The individual doing that ... even if never did this before ... starts to like it.
Being wanted ... by other persons ... gives a great vibe.
Is it moral?!
Is it good for you?!
Is this kind of a “modern” medicine that actually heals in a way the disease of feeling great, important .... and special. The ego is feeling amazing.
The soul ... even if it lets us play this game ... is whispering that this is a path that goes in a direction we don’t know anything about.
Is not even saying that is good or bad ... but it lets us know that if the ego is feeling great ... something might not be ok .... in the new scenario.
But as we use to say ... the coin has ... 2 sides.
And one day ... we see that those persons that we are with in these weird relationships .... are having other stories also. They chat with other persons.
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They go out with other persons also.
They even have sex with other persons.
The ego is totally destroyed seeing the illusion and understanding that feeling so special ... unique ... etc ... was just a simple lie.
The individual was having relationships with people that were doing the same thing, but no one was talking about that.
Everyone enjoyed this script .... but everyone was lying.
But the funny thing is that one of those N persons ... you liked a lot.
She liked you also.
You thought she is special and she thought the same, but it was all a game that we actually lost the control on it. The soul is totally disappointed.
The ego is ruined emotionally.
It’s a catastrophe.
The awakening hurts a lot.
The individual starts to ask philosophical questions then ....
Is this a game?!
This is how life is today?!
Sharing people is an art ... or just a huge disappointment?! But truth be told ... we love to betray and totally dislike to be betrayed.
We love the illusions only till the moment when the illusions shows us that it has 2 sides.
The abstract ... is not there ... but you can see the joy and the pain in the same body, but just revealing in different moments. Unfortunately ... life is just a mirror.
Sharing the special people from our lives ... is in fact only the absence of the courage ... of acting only in a beautiful scenario ... that does not involve other people also.
Love stories ... are not like shoes, even if a pair of shoes might be also important for us.
Look and follow the beauty of the ... uniqueness ... maybe this should be a better path ... for a better life.
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You know about promise??
I'll tell you ...
It just strengthens the belief ...
It just strengthens the relation ...
Promise is just a hope ...
Nothing
More than that ...
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You’ll learn to let things go
She was still having that ... obsession for him.
Her friend ... was acting the same.
Just that she could not forget ... the other guy.
One of them was teaching psychology and the other one philosophy, in the same high school in New Delhi.
They hated each other, but they suffered of the same disease ... the obsession ... for a love story that ended too sudden. But what is the obsession?!
Well ... it says that we are obsessed only of the things we cannot have, but if we should be lucky enough to have them ... we should understand why the Universe did not let us continue on that pathless path.
We don’t know how to let things go ... even of the ones that we desire so much.
Our problem, like my 2 lady friends, is that we don’t chat so much with the people from our lives to define those obsession.
I would laugh of someone else’s obsession ... and actually, in a moment of awakening, i would re analyze myself. The common patterns are similarly.
We see them.
But i was wondering, what if we should make an exchange of obsessions?!
How should that be?!
An experiment ... the exchange of obsessions with the best friend ...
or even with the worst enemy from our lives.
You see .... we are so great on defining other people’s lives ... but
when it comes to us ... we just don’t understand and in fact ... don’t
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even see the obsession.
We are blinds ... just as the 2 ladies.
Her friend was analyzing her all the time.
She was doing the same ...
Instead of gossiping ... which in fact is analyzing and defining the others ... we should try to exchange places, just as in the story of “The Prince and the Pauper”.
See life from another angle ... of the one that you gossiped or ... the one that tried to gossip you.
The result and actually the meaning of the experiment?!
Well ... just get out from the cage of your ego ... and understand the
irrelevancy of the obsession.
Same patterns.
Same story.
You will laugh ... then let everything go.
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There is a beauty in
being empty ...
In being unfound ...
In being lost ...
Being in illusion ....
But we have silly demands ...
And fancy dreams ...
That naturally evolve ...
In overthinking ...
Fantasizing ...
Imagining ...
Expecting ...
Worrying ...
Doubting ...
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All she wants now
... is a magic pill
First she wanted a fairy tale.
The moment when she realized the fairy tale will never appear in her
life ... it just happened.
Everything changed overnight.
And it really was an amazing love story, but we always forget that everything has a beginning, the story itself and then ... the end. One day, even if they did not agreed, the end had come to them. The memories were too great to be forgotten and coming back to the real life was a totally disaster.
She had moments when she was thinking and acting rationally .... but
from time to time the heart was whispering her ... “Allow you to do it one more time! With him you’ll feel the infinite again”.
Just meeting accidentally ... it all became a chain reaction ... that ended all the time as a magic moment of making love.
They realized they are prisoners in the real life, but also in this parallel universe ... the one of their love story.
But it was a story that could not become real and they kept wondering why?! ... why?! ... why?!
The answer was so simple ... but they could not see it.
... a fairy tale ... cannot be part of the real life.
You will have no idea where the fairy tale will take you ... cause it’s a path of happiness difficult to be understood, but .... once you had this magic pill ... you will always want to have one from time to time.
And she needed that in her life ... as her soul to survive.
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He wanted the same, even if there were moments when he tried to forget about his weird addiction for happiness.
Yes ... there are moments in life when we need to follow paths that we do not understand ... but we desire... at least to taste from time to time ... as a magic pill.
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Senor ...
It can heal ...
It can change a sinner ....
It can strengthen ...
It can bring happiness ...
It can destroy hate ...
It can fight ...
It can hold ...
It can ...
It can grow ...
It can become better ...
You don't need to underestimate the
power of love ...
You don't ...
You don't ...
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The addiction defines us
Some people prefer drugs.
Some ... alcohol.
Some ... go fishing.
And there are people that prefer ... the love stories.
But before judging all those people ... we should ask ourselves ... what is an addiction and why we prefer to remain in the story of that addiction.
What is it so special about drugs?!
What about alcohol?!
Well ... almost nothing ... but they somehow induce the presence of a new universe, parallel with the actual one ... that for a short time creates the illusion of being happy.
And truth be told, there are lots of people that have a love story, get marry .... and when the love story ends at home, they look for a new love story ... again and again and again.
We call that cheating ... but is the desperate need of love ... that they just can’t forget about.
And define the people that take drugs as ...?!
They just desperately try to find the happiness and the only way to see that happiness inside of themselves, at least for a short time ... is by taking drugs.
