Nothing much.
Adrian G Dumitru
35
MY LIFE IN A PRISON WITH INVISIBLE WALLS
...still dreaming about freedom
Removing from our way of thinking and acting ... the limits ... means becoming a free person ... the next stage of the human evolution. But truth be told ... we are not saints ... we are just sinners.
Adrian G Dumitru
36
MY LIFE IN A PRISON WITH INVISIBLE WALLS
...still dreaming about freedom
Be what you expect
the world to offer you
I once read an interesting statistical study.
It looks like if there is a car accident and only one person sees it ... will stop and try to help, but if there are 20 people that are seeing what is going ... no one will stop and help.
The funny thing is that seeing others around ... we will think that someone else will help and we will not need to do anything at all. But the funny thing is that the others will think the same.
On the other hand ... i should ask ... what if you are the one from the car that had the accident ?! ... and you need help urgently.
What should be your expectations from all the people watching?! And then ... you realize that no one ... is not even asking ... “are you ok?!”
All those expectations from those strange moments will hurt a lot ...
and you will remember that for a very long time.
And i continue my questions ... what will you do next time ... when you will see a car accident .... or any other kind of accident?!
Will you help in any way the victims?! .... or you will just watch as all
the ones from the statistical studies, expecting as someone else to help?!
So ... basically ... even if you was at the accident as a victim or just present in there ... you have in your mind just expectations.
But you never thought that you could also be what you expect the world to offer you.
Most probably this is a scenario that you never saw ... or no one told you about.
Adrian G Dumitru
37
MY LIFE IN A PRISON WITH INVISIBLE WALLS
...still dreaming about freedom
Once again ... if you will be honest, speaking with yourself, being your own observer ... you will probably see that you are in kind of a prison of the dogmatic thinking and behavior.
You act ... in a total contradiction ... with what you expect from the others ... and you act same as they act.
The example with the accident ... is just an extreme one ... but in all the other cases ... when is something really important we act the same way.
We are defined by unspoken expectations ... and can’t understand that we are the ones that can change the world into a better place ... even with small things ... helping anyone around.
Today i believe that everything is related with the word “dogmatic” ... defines us as prisoners ... and we should meditate more if we really want to continue living as that.
Adrian G Dumitru
38
MY LIFE IN A PRISON WITH INVISIBLE WALLS
...still dreaming about freedom
The new society ... just an old story
... defined using other words?! Well ... maybe yes ... maybe no
We define ourselves as a new society ... and we believe we are totally different than other societies from years ago.
New means ... in our vision ... much powerful and much better. But is that really so?!
Had the society really changed than the one from 10, 20, 50 or 100 years ago?!
Or ... we are just an old story ... defined in other words?! Unfortunately ... the human being still suffers by individualism ... which somehow destroys everything.
The individual does not see the connection between him and society. Thousands of years ago, even if they did not had so many rules as today, the human being felt as part of the tribe .. and was one with the tribe.
Today ... the human being prefers the solitude.
Respects the law of the modern tribe, which is name society ... or community ... but does not really care of it.
There is a nice story with an old man that was staying at the gate of the Babylon.
A young man came in there and before he entered the city ... asked the old man ... “ How are the people in Babylon”.
The old man asked ... “How are the people where you came from?!” “Not nice people. This is why i left”
The old man smiled and said ... “Unfortunately ... the people in Babylon ... are the same as the ones where you came from”.
Adrian G Dumitru
39
MY LIFE IN A PRISON WITH INVISIBLE WALLS
...still dreaming about freedom
Then another young man had come and ask the same question ... and replies to the old man that the people from the place he comes from are ... good people.
The old man then said ... “The people of Babylon are the same. Very nice people”.
A group of boys that saw everything came to the old man and say ... “Why are you doing this? To one boy you said the people of Babylon are good ... and to the other one that they are bad”
... the old man smiles .. “You see my sons .. the way we see people ... is just a reflection of our souls. We see them as good .. or as bad people .... it does not mean is true”.
The way we see the world defines the world ... in totally different ways ... but there is only one world ... defined in millions or billions of ways.
A good society is a society with individuals that know to act in a good way.
But we must be opened to the common interests ... to what we mean ... as a group of people ... as what it was in the past ... the small tribes.
We see a wall between us as individuals ... and the other citizens that we see good or bad ... totally missing the concept of ... us.
In the end we can be defined only as human beings that forms a so called society ... that is not unified.
We don’t know to connect to the people around us and prefer to stay in a private cage .. cause this is individualism.
The people from around us are not good or bad ... but a society that we should connect to it, care about it ... and do something for it ... so that it can be defined in a beautiful way from the people from outside. So ... what is the difference between the human being from today and the one that was living thousands of years ago?!
Maybe there is no difference ... and new society ... represents just an old story ... defined using other words but probably the ones from tribes cared about what we call ... “us” ... the community.
Adrian G Dumitru
40
MY LIFE IN A PRISON WITH INVISIBLE WALLS
...still dreaming about freedom
Analyzing and being frustrated is useless
Learning the art of defining things is an excellent thing to do.
But in only one second you could be trapped in the believe that what you see is real.
In my experiment of becoming my own observer ... i learnt the art of defining.
I learnt it not by reading about it ... but by exercising ... and writing about all i lived ... even and ... maybe especially ... about the obsessions i had.
Every time something important was happening ... i was not only analyzed what i did ... but how i would do it in other ways also ... and when i say that ... i mean better ways of doing it. I made lots of mistakes over the years.
Some of them tens or hundreds of times ... but the moment of awakening came only after i was asking myself ... is it a logical explanation on keep repeating it over and over and over again?! And many times I became frustrated... and i consider this being a mistake also.
I was becoming one with the situation ... believing that ... what i
believe was the absolute truth.
But was it so?!
Had i reached the absolute level of awakening without even realizing what i did?!
I am smiling ... cause you know the answer even if you did not know me so well.
Only 2 weeks later ... thinking about the same situation, i was laughing of myself.
I could not believe that i acted in such a silly way ... so, so many times in a row.
Adrian G Dumitru
41
MY LIFE IN A PRISON WITH INVISIBLE WALLS
...still dreaming about freedom
I analyzed well what i did ... trying to define from 2 different angles ... the me from the moment the situation happened and the me ... at 2 weeks after the event.
Same person ... me ... totally different perspectives ... but unfortunately still frustrated.
All i had to do ... was just to take another shoot ... at least in my mind ... and ask myself ... how should i act this time ... if i already know what happened last time?!
And the Universe laughs of me ... many, many times again and again and again ... sending me the same tests, but in different ways.
I know i will still fail ... but i came to a point where i asked myself one thing very important ... no matter what happens, not to be frustrated anymore.
Just ... live the events ...learn the message behind the message ...
and try each time to be the best version of yourself!
That’s all it matters!
Adrian G Dumitru
42
MY LIFE IN A PRISON WITH INVISIBLE WALLS
...still dreaming about freedom
The change means ... having the courage of tasting something else also
In the real life, i am the father of 2 little boys.
I read thousands of books, but never about how to raise the children ... and probably never will.
Maybe i am not a good a good father, cause i don’t spend so much time with them... but i have a trick about how to open the minds of my children.
All the time i try to take them to different places.
If we go out to a park, i show them another park ... if we go to a walk on the streets i take them to different areas in the city center ....
where they can see the crowd of people ... and analyze it without even noticing.
You might laugh, but probably a kid is studying all around, especially when goes to a new place.
The adult does not pay attention anymore.
Kids discover the world ... when you go out with them to a walk on the streets.
The city center is beautiful anywhere in the world, especially in a capital ... and they will see a large spectrum of people in there.
They will discover the ... society and learn what society means just by watching.
On the walks i do with them ... my kids saw all kinds of things and people, but also saw in the city center ... homeless people that were asking for money.
I had to find a way of explaining that they are same as us ... but something strange happened to them and for a short time, they live
Adrian G Dumitru
43
MY LIFE IN A PRISON WITH INVISIBLE WALLS
...still dreaming about freedom
this lesson of life called “how to be homeless”.
But you ... see ... this is the real life.
A large spectrum o people and things and we must know it ... even from the beginning of life.
At the right time ... when the kids will understand what the concept “spectrum” means ... no matter what age they will be ... will know that the change is just ... ... having the courage of tasting something else also.
Even if it is good ... or bad.
When i was a kid, maybe 35 years ago ... i could define my childhood as ... boring.
Today ... we see the change everywhere.
A person of success is one that is adapting all the time to the change ... in fact is embracing the change.
The change should be seen as the main ingredient that life has ... so that we don’t have a boring life.
Now ... between being bored and embracing the change ... i prefer the last one ... even if ... sometimes that means struggling or difficult times.
Having boring lives ... is just the result that we prefer to stay in a mental cage ... in a dogmatic world ... not accepting that we came of this Earth to enjoy different experiences ... and see the whole spectrum of life.
So ... just open your mind ... and don’t let yourself trapped in a ...
static world.
Open your heart and enjoy all the experiences that life offers to you!
Adrian G Dumitru
44
MY LIFE IN A PRISON WITH INVISIBLE WALLS
...still dreaming about freedom
Zoom in and zoom out the things and situations ... a way of defining what is going on. What if we should analyze everything
from outside the box?!
Truth be told we are very good on defining other people’s lives ... but we are not so good on being our own observers ... and defining what is really going on with us.
Everything is related to why we do certain things, why we act in certain ways ... why we can’t be better ... the best version of ourselves.
But can we find the truth in details, after practicing the exercise of zoom in or zoom out on everything is related to us?!
Donald Trump used to say that ... “God is in details” ... and probably we should pay attention to everything so that we create a perfect world.
On the other hand, Michelangelo said that ... “The Devil is in the details”.
So ... who should we believe?!
Donald Trump, that in the end is a guy that was the president of the United States or Michelangelo ... who was one of the greatest artists from the world?!
Well ... today i believe they both were right ... which is actually a paradox, but this is the truth.
Depending on the vibe we have, the situations we are in ... we might see the same situation in totally 2 different ways.
Zooming in and zooming out ... which means seeing into microscopic way the details or seeing the whole picture of any situation you are in ... might look like the key of understanding your life ... but what do
Adrian G Dumitru
45
MY LIFE IN A PRISON WITH INVISIBLE WALLS
...still dreaming about freedom
you think about the technic or thinking out of the box?!
That should be analyzing yourself ... as it is not you ... just analyze like this should be someone else.
It is so easy to tell to the others what to do and how to do it ... but
when we look at us, even seeing everything in micro or macro
detail ... we take everything too personal ... and in the end we go to a
blockage that just ruins everything.
And ... all happens this way ...because we stay in kind of a mental prison ... or name it cage ... or if it sounds too ugly you can name it ... box ... but seeing that it does not work ... anything you try ...
maybe you might consider the technic of “thinking ... out of the box” ... a new path of living life. But how should we do it?!
Well ... it is a metaphor that means to think differently, unconventionally, or from a new perspective. This phrase often refers to novel or creative thinking ... and that can be applied to our lives also.
So ... what is the trick?!
Just try to become your own observer ... but look from outside ... try to not be in the matrix ... analyze and find new perspectives of seeing life ... even if everything is related with yours.
Adrian G Dumitru
35
MY LIFE IN A PRISON WITH INVISIBLE WALLS
...still dreaming about freedom
Removing from our way of thinking and acting ... the limits ... means becoming a free person ... the next stage of the human evolution. But truth be told ... we are not saints ... we are just sinners.
Adrian G Dumitru
36
MY LIFE IN A PRISON WITH INVISIBLE WALLS
...still dreaming about freedom
Be what you expect
the world to offer you
I once read an interesting statistical study.
It looks like if there is a car accident and only one person sees it ... will stop and try to help, but if there are 20 people that are seeing what is going ... no one will stop and help.
The funny thing is that seeing others around ... we will think that someone else will help and we will not need to do anything at all. But the funny thing is that the others will think the same.
On the other hand ... i should ask ... what if you are the one from the car that had the accident ?! ... and you need help urgently.
What should be your expectations from all the people watching?! And then ... you realize that no one ... is not even asking ... “are you ok?!”
All those expectations from those strange moments will hurt a lot ...
and you will remember that for a very long time.
And i continue my questions ... what will you do next time ... when you will see a car accident .... or any other kind of accident?!
Will you help in any way the victims?! .... or you will just watch as all
the ones from the statistical studies, expecting as someone else to help?!
So ... basically ... even if you was at the accident as a victim or just present in there ... you have in your mind just expectations.
But you never thought that you could also be what you expect the world to offer you.
Most probably this is a scenario that you never saw ... or no one told you about.
Adrian G Dumitru
37
MY LIFE IN A PRISON WITH INVISIBLE WALLS
...still dreaming about freedom
Once again ... if you will be honest, speaking with yourself, being your own observer ... you will probably see that you are in kind of a prison of the dogmatic thinking and behavior.
You act ... in a total contradiction ... with what you expect from the others ... and you act same as they act.
The example with the accident ... is just an extreme one ... but in all the other cases ... when is something really important we act the same way.
We are defined by unspoken expectations ... and can’t understand that we are the ones that can change the world into a better place ... even with small things ... helping anyone around.
Today i believe that everything is related with the word “dogmatic” ... defines us as prisoners ... and we should meditate more if we really want to continue living as that.
Adrian G Dumitru
38
MY LIFE IN A PRISON WITH INVISIBLE WALLS
...still dreaming about freedom
The new society ... just an old story
... defined using other words?! Well ... maybe yes ... maybe no
We define ourselves as a new society ... and we believe we are totally different than other societies from years ago.
New means ... in our vision ... much powerful and much better. But is that really so?!
Had the society really changed than the one from 10, 20, 50 or 100 years ago?!
Or ... we are just an old story ... defined in other words?! Unfortunately ... the human being still suffers by individualism ... which somehow destroys everything.
The individual does not see the connection between him and society. Thousands of years ago, even if they did not had so many rules as today, the human being felt as part of the tribe .. and was one with the tribe.
Today ... the human being prefers the solitude.
Respects the law of the modern tribe, which is name society ... or community ... but does not really care of it.
There is a nice story with an old man that was staying at the gate of the Babylon.
A young man came in there and before he entered the city ... asked the old man ... “ How are the people in Babylon”.
The old man asked ... “How are the people where you came from?!” “Not nice people. This is why i left”
The old man smiled and said ... “Unfortunately ... the people in Babylon ... are the same as the ones where you came from”.
Adrian G Dumitru
39
MY LIFE IN A PRISON WITH INVISIBLE WALLS
...still dreaming about freedom
Then another young man had come and ask the same question ... and replies to the old man that the people from the place he comes from are ... good people.
The old man then said ... “The people of Babylon are the same. Very nice people”.
A group of boys that saw everything came to the old man and say ... “Why are you doing this? To one boy you said the people of Babylon are good ... and to the other one that they are bad”
... the old man smiles .. “You see my sons .. the way we see people ... is just a reflection of our souls. We see them as good .. or as bad people .... it does not mean is true”.
The way we see the world defines the world ... in totally different ways ... but there is only one world ... defined in millions or billions of ways.
A good society is a society with individuals that know to act in a good way.
But we must be opened to the common interests ... to what we mean ... as a group of people ... as what it was in the past ... the small tribes.
We see a wall between us as individuals ... and the other citizens that we see good or bad ... totally missing the concept of ... us.
In the end we can be defined only as human beings that forms a so called society ... that is not unified.
We don’t know to connect to the people around us and prefer to stay in a private cage .. cause this is individualism.
The people from around us are not good or bad ... but a society that we should connect to it, care about it ... and do something for it ... so that it can be defined in a beautiful way from the people from outside. So ... what is the difference between the human being from today and the one that was living thousands of years ago?!
Maybe there is no difference ... and new society ... represents just an old story ... defined using other words but probably the ones from tribes cared about what we call ... “us” ... the community.
Adrian G Dumitru
40
MY LIFE IN A PRISON WITH INVISIBLE WALLS
...still dreaming about freedom
Analyzing and being frustrated is useless
Learning the art of defining things is an excellent thing to do.
But in only one second you could be trapped in the believe that what you see is real.
In my experiment of becoming my own observer ... i learnt the art of defining.
I learnt it not by reading about it ... but by exercising ... and writing about all i lived ... even and ... maybe especially ... about the obsessions i had.
Every time something important was happening ... i was not only analyzed what i did ... but how i would do it in other ways also ... and when i say that ... i mean better ways of doing it. I made lots of mistakes over the years.
Some of them tens or hundreds of times ... but the moment of awakening came only after i was asking myself ... is it a logical explanation on keep repeating it over and over and over again?! And many times I became frustrated... and i consider this being a mistake also.
I was becoming one with the situation ... believing that ... what i
believe was the absolute truth.
But was it so?!
Had i reached the absolute level of awakening without even realizing what i did?!
I am smiling ... cause you know the answer even if you did not know me so well.
Only 2 weeks later ... thinking about the same situation, i was laughing of myself.
I could not believe that i acted in such a silly way ... so, so many times in a row.
Adrian G Dumitru
41
MY LIFE IN A PRISON WITH INVISIBLE WALLS
...still dreaming about freedom
I analyzed well what i did ... trying to define from 2 different angles ... the me from the moment the situation happened and the me ... at 2 weeks after the event.
Same person ... me ... totally different perspectives ... but unfortunately still frustrated.
All i had to do ... was just to take another shoot ... at least in my mind ... and ask myself ... how should i act this time ... if i already know what happened last time?!
And the Universe laughs of me ... many, many times again and again and again ... sending me the same tests, but in different ways.
I know i will still fail ... but i came to a point where i asked myself one thing very important ... no matter what happens, not to be frustrated anymore.
Just ... live the events ...learn the message behind the message ...
and try each time to be the best version of yourself!
That’s all it matters!
Adrian G Dumitru
42
MY LIFE IN A PRISON WITH INVISIBLE WALLS
...still dreaming about freedom
The change means ... having the courage of tasting something else also
In the real life, i am the father of 2 little boys.
I read thousands of books, but never about how to raise the children ... and probably never will.
Maybe i am not a good a good father, cause i don’t spend so much time with them... but i have a trick about how to open the minds of my children.
All the time i try to take them to different places.
If we go out to a park, i show them another park ... if we go to a walk on the streets i take them to different areas in the city center ....
where they can see the crowd of people ... and analyze it without even noticing.
You might laugh, but probably a kid is studying all around, especially when goes to a new place.
The adult does not pay attention anymore.
Kids discover the world ... when you go out with them to a walk on the streets.
The city center is beautiful anywhere in the world, especially in a capital ... and they will see a large spectrum of people in there.
They will discover the ... society and learn what society means just by watching.
On the walks i do with them ... my kids saw all kinds of things and people, but also saw in the city center ... homeless people that were asking for money.
I had to find a way of explaining that they are same as us ... but something strange happened to them and for a short time, they live
Adrian G Dumitru
43
MY LIFE IN A PRISON WITH INVISIBLE WALLS
...still dreaming about freedom
this lesson of life called “how to be homeless”.
But you ... see ... this is the real life.
A large spectrum o people and things and we must know it ... even from the beginning of life.
At the right time ... when the kids will understand what the concept “spectrum” means ... no matter what age they will be ... will know that the change is just ... ... having the courage of tasting something else also.
Even if it is good ... or bad.
When i was a kid, maybe 35 years ago ... i could define my childhood as ... boring.
Today ... we see the change everywhere.
A person of success is one that is adapting all the time to the change ... in fact is embracing the change.
The change should be seen as the main ingredient that life has ... so that we don’t have a boring life.
Now ... between being bored and embracing the change ... i prefer the last one ... even if ... sometimes that means struggling or difficult times.
Having boring lives ... is just the result that we prefer to stay in a mental cage ... in a dogmatic world ... not accepting that we came of this Earth to enjoy different experiences ... and see the whole spectrum of life.
So ... just open your mind ... and don’t let yourself trapped in a ...
static world.
Open your heart and enjoy all the experiences that life offers to you!
Adrian G Dumitru
44
MY LIFE IN A PRISON WITH INVISIBLE WALLS
...still dreaming about freedom
Zoom in and zoom out the things and situations ... a way of defining what is going on. What if we should analyze everything
from outside the box?!
Truth be told we are very good on defining other people’s lives ... but we are not so good on being our own observers ... and defining what is really going on with us.
Everything is related to why we do certain things, why we act in certain ways ... why we can’t be better ... the best version of ourselves.
But can we find the truth in details, after practicing the exercise of zoom in or zoom out on everything is related to us?!
Donald Trump used to say that ... “God is in details” ... and probably we should pay attention to everything so that we create a perfect world.
On the other hand, Michelangelo said that ... “The Devil is in the details”.
So ... who should we believe?!
Donald Trump, that in the end is a guy that was the president of the United States or Michelangelo ... who was one of the greatest artists from the world?!
Well ... today i believe they both were right ... which is actually a paradox, but this is the truth.
Depending on the vibe we have, the situations we are in ... we might see the same situation in totally 2 different ways.
Zooming in and zooming out ... which means seeing into microscopic way the details or seeing the whole picture of any situation you are in ... might look like the key of understanding your life ... but what do
Adrian G Dumitru
45
MY LIFE IN A PRISON WITH INVISIBLE WALLS
...still dreaming about freedom
you think about the technic or thinking out of the box?!
That should be analyzing yourself ... as it is not you ... just analyze like this should be someone else.
It is so easy to tell to the others what to do and how to do it ... but
when we look at us, even seeing everything in micro or macro
detail ... we take everything too personal ... and in the end we go to a
blockage that just ruins everything.
And ... all happens this way ...because we stay in kind of a mental prison ... or name it cage ... or if it sounds too ugly you can name it ... box ... but seeing that it does not work ... anything you try ...
maybe you might consider the technic of “thinking ... out of the box” ... a new path of living life. But how should we do it?!
Well ... it is a metaphor that means to think differently, unconventionally, or from a new perspective. This phrase often refers to novel or creative thinking ... and that can be applied to our lives also.
So ... what is the trick?!
Just try to become your own observer ... but look from outside ... try to not be in the matrix ... analyze and find new perspectives of seeing life ... even if everything is related with yours.
