You are extremely beautiful.
If you should be ugly, there is nothing that can happen tomorrow so that you became beautiful, but if today you are beautiful, most probably you will be beautiful tomorrow also.
Maybe over 70 years from now, you will not be so beautiful as you are today ... but you know something ... your soul, at that time, will be even more beautiful as it is today.
So ... is not that you are young, beautiful ... or poor that really matters ... but the beauty of your soul that will always remain as that.
The real definition of us is what is inside of us ... not outside.
Unfortunately we always are attracted by the persons that don’t want us ... but we should look to spend our lives with persons that have similar life values as we do.”
You see ... just as the wise man said, we should try to look for people that see what is inside of us, people that knows to connect to our souls ...but not for
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
people that have a particular interest when are deciding what kind of partner they are looking for.
Having a beautiful soul ... but feeling incomplete is silly.
Just don’t let any idiot defines you ... and in the end believe what he is telling you.
You deserve beautiful people in your life.
Adrian G Dumitru
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Defining the undefined
Everything changed since we are togheter
“You lit up my life, like no other
I love what we have,
I love what we do
It’s you, I know
It’s true!
When were together,
Our days are comfortable
Our nights are a blast,
I’m so in love with you,
You lit up my life, like no other
No other will do...”
I wonder why everything changes when we fall in love and we meet ... the one ... the soulmate?!
I mean ... everything is different ... but in a beautiful way.
The whole reality is redefined.
Suddenly you just love the present moment and you care about every second you spend togheter.
... and you are so in love.
I dare to say that i saw by already few years a special pattern to all the men of success i met during time.
All of them were in a love story ... with a very beautiful lady ... even if she was not the wife.
But they were in love.
You see ... when you are in love, you percieve the reality in a much different way ... but not only related with the love story ... but the reality itself with everything includes that.
Seeing all around you in a beautiful way ... everything becomes actually beautiful ... perfect ... just as you wanted to be.
And this is the secret why all things change when you start being togheter. Just as my friend, that wrote the poems ... says ...”You lit up my life, like no other”.
Meeting with your soulmate is crucial ... if you dare to do something with your life.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
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It can happen at 20, 30, 40 or even 50 ... whenever the Universe decides is the perfect moment for that, but don’t spoil that chance.
Is something unique and you should have the wisdom of understanding that. Dare to believe in your love story!
Adrian G Dumitru
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Defining the undefined
I don’t feel …
“I don’t feel you love me anymore ...
I don’t feel you love me ...
I don’t feel you love ...
I don’t feel you...
I don’t ... i don’t “
(Arij Emaan)
He was still loving her .... but she was not believing anymore.
She was still loving him ... but he totally lost the connection with her.
Not long time ago ... everything was perfect, but today she was not feeling anymore his infinite love.
And she was keep whispering “i don’t ... i don’t ... i don’t feel you ...” But he was not listening.
He had a stupid certainty that she infinitely loves him ... and nothing ... but absolutely nothing ... will end the love story they have togheter.
And she was telling him so, so many times what she felt inside her soul, but he never listened.
You see ... a beautiful love story means having the right balance between strong feelings and certain actions ... that will show that love is not only about beautiful words, but also about real facts.
The woman needed to feel his love ... but he was not understanding that.
... and everything was already too late.
Well ... my dear friend ... if the day when she feels that you do not love her anymore has come ... that’s a disaster. Even if you do love her.
Show always the love you carry in your soul.
She needs that certainty.
She just loves to see that you love her.
Love ... act properly ... prove it ... show it ... and she will love you forever.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
You make my heart sing
“You make my heart sing,
You make it dance,
Look at this romance
Days spent together
Always holding hands
Never letting go
You make my heart sing,
You make it dance
Look at this romance
Its the little things
Memories make life
I’ll always be yours
Cause you make my heart sing
You make it dance
Look at this Romance”
How do you know you found the love of your life?!
What are the signs that reveal that?!
Well ... first of all you will reset all your values ... and maybe you will not care so much about all the things you cared before, but about the way you feel your heart.
When the heart will start to sing and dance in the same time ... you will know that it’s time for romance and you are already in love. And maybe that person ... is the love of your life.
Can you control it?!
Hell no ... and should be useless you try.
But you will enjoy it ... because as long as your heart is happy ... your soul will be happy too.
Sing, dance, spend the whole day togheter, enjoy the little things ... and never let those moments disappear from your life.
Adrian G Dumitru
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
The art of saying “Good bye ... forever!” and the importance of saying “Thank you for being part of my life!”
One day he received this good bye letter, just after waking up.
It was a short one ... but extremely powerful.
After all “Good bye!” ... is a sentence with only 2 words ... but the way you say it is very important.
“Hi! I want to thank you for all the beautiful moments you offered me and the fact that I met you in a very difficult period of my life, so that I can overcome all the difficult situations and become myself again!
I want you to understand and accept that the story is over for me, that I loved you enormously and that everything must end like this!
I was right person, at the right moment and it was a beautiful life lesson.
I wish you the same happiness as i want for myself ... and to hear in a long time distance from now that you are well there with your family. Thank you!
Take care of yourself!”
It was nothing else to say.
The “thank you!” message was very important ... as indeed he help her a lot in becoming herself again.
But he was too selfish and had too much vanity into his blood to say her also ...
“Thank you for making me be that person i always wanted to be”.
The reply she was expecting from him was more ...”Fuck you!” ... even if she knew that he loves her so much.
Saying “Good bye ... forever!” is an art, but not so many people master the art of seeing at the end only the beautiful side of the story.
And we should remember only the beautiful memories, thank you to the Universe for those moments ... but also to all the persons involved into the story. Dare to say “Good bye!” ... in a beautiful way ... even if it is forever.
Adrian G Dumitru
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Love of mt life
“The love of my life
Is shining bright
He is the love of day and night
He lights up my days like the sunrise
He makes me feel free and light
Makes it better than alright
When the moon arrives
Come sit close and tight
Feel the beat of my love for you
To the Love of my life”
When i read a love poem, like this one, i understand why almost everybody has a relationship, but only few you can see happy.
Somehow, being afraid of being alone, we accept the first person that appears as a possible partner.
We have kind of a connection with that person, but is not the perfect connection, and we know it from that moment.
There are also things that we don’t like from the early beginning, but we ignore all of them.
Between living life alone and starting a relationship with a person that we are not convinced is the right person ... we prefer to not be alone.
And soon we understand we need to tolerate all kinds of things just to continue the relationship.
The whole story of the couple could be defined in any possible way ... but one thing is clear ... it has nothing to do with love.
And this is why you see everywhere in the world so many unhappy marriages. When you analyze them as individuals, there are great persons .... but as a couple they are a disaster.
The concept of “the love of my life” is something unknown for them and most
probably will never be.
But why?!
There are so many love poems they could read and understand what love is about.
Well ... maybe even since we were children, the parents and all the others around us taught us all kinds of things ... but nothing about love.
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And if we visit them today, chat a little bit and ask them why they did not did it ... they will just say that they never knew what love is about .. so could not taught us.
So ... the question is ... how do we understand the secret of a beautiful life ...
being in a couple.
Should we start to read love poems, love stories, love essays etc etc?! Well ... maybe.
But will not be enough.
To understand what love is about you just need to open your heart ... and believe it or not this is the moment when showing your real love ... even the wrong partner ... will understand how to become the best partner and the love of your life.
Just DARE to try it!
Adrian G Dumitru
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His worst enemy, comes to him and says:
“You should pay me for stealing your wife”
Dalai Lama used to say that your enemy is the best teacher you could have in life.
When i first read that, i thought i am not reading correctly ... and i read it again 4-5 times more.
I knew that Dalai Lama is a wise man and the message behind this saying was very, very powerful.
But the truth is that we just hate our enemies and especially the worst ones. Should we love them?!
Should we accept them in our lives?!
Should we see the presence of an enemy as a life lesson, as Dalai Lama is suggesting?!
Even if the theory is right, is quite difficult to accept it in practice.
You see, over the years, i met so many people that were in the divorce process or they were just divorced ... and saw at that time a huge disappointment and unhappiness on their faces.
Later on, after 1-2 years more, meeting them again i just saw other persons, completely changed.
I could not believe when i saw such a big change.
They were looking differently, acting differently ... and the “new” person was always a better version of that person from the past.
I even wonder myself how should i change if i will divorce one day and when i am telling this i am thinking of 2 gentelmen that it happens i know by already 15 years ... and know their story very well.
One of them started a love affair with the wife of the other guy ... and everything was looking like a great love story that will never end. The husband was desperate to save his marriage.
He was trying everything a man could try ... but he forgot only one important thing ... to love for real his wife ... not just to pretend he loves her.
The wife was in love with the other guy, or at least this is what she pretended ...
and she was enjoying the love affair she had.
Everything was different than in the marriage, but soon after the lady started to make the same mistakes that she did in her marriage.
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PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
Day by day she was revealing her real character, but the guy was loving her too much to just end the love story with her.
The husband was seeing the guy as his worst enemy, but he could do nothing to just stop him and save his marriage.
But you know ... the moment of awakening is appearing only in time.
Being in love, means also to be blind and not even real facts that shows the truth and the lies ... can’t let you see the real character of the person that you love so much.
The funny thing was that after almost 2 years, the guy went to the husband of his mistress and tells him “I think you should pay me for stealing your wife”.
The husband could not believe what he was hearing ... and did not know how to react.
His worst enemy, came to him to suggest to be paid as he offers him the chance of divorce in exchange.
When it happens is difficult to really see what is going on ... but later on the truth becomes so obvious.
I believe that ... the guy understood ... even if almost too late, the real character of the lady ... and the fact that if he “steals” her from her husband ... his life will not be so beautiful as he might think.
The only thing that would happen was as the husband to be saved ... and him to take his place ... as the new victim of the wife.
Seeing the truth behind the truth is quite difficult to understand ... but maybe the time will help you see everything clear.
Sometimes, someone that looks as the worst enemy you had during this life time ... could be your savior or best teacher ... but most probably ... you will never see that at that time.
Time is revealing all the good and bad parts of all the important things from your life ... but just be prepared to open your eyes.
Adrian G Dumitru
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Fake it till ... you become the queen of faking.
A cartoon movie from the real life
All the books and movies about personal development teach how you should fake it, till you make it.
Jackie Kennedy used to say that if she should be poor, would take all the money she has, go to the most expensive restaurant from New York, order a coffee and enjoy the luxury atmosphere from there.
She explained that it should be enough to take from there the energy of success. It says that if you want to become rich, you need to act as a rich person, buy expensive clothes, a luxury car and everything that inspires success.
