Not even the actual FSB, togheter with FBI, could generate such theories of conspiracy ... like the 2 ladies had ... regarding him. But the truth about the truth is that there is no truth.
On the timeline of our own lives we go on different paths ... and sometimes we will be on a pathless path ... but the right path to nowhere is the way in how you can find again your soul.
And when you see what is really going on ... just dare to live your life without those people that are paying so much attention to all those theories.
Adrian G Dumitru
64
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
His wife finds out
And one day his wife finds out .... that he is a writer that writes about love, but
the problem was that the main character of his books was a brunette and she was blonde.
All his life he was hiding things from her and she knew that all the time.
She almost started to ignore all his actions, cause in the end she was not caring so much about what he was doing.
Even started to believe that he is crazy and is useless to hope that he will ever change.
The funny thing was that she always defined him as a guy that is not knowing anything about love ... and that he is caring inside of him a stone instead of a heart.
And one day, by accident, she discovers in his computer some files, that were looking like the manuscripts from books written by him.
She started to read and read ... and she was reading everything.
She was shocked.
First of all cause she never thought that he can be a writer ... then even if she accepted that he is a writer ... she was still amazed that he was writing about love.
She could think of anything ... but not that he is writing about those emotions that she never thought that he is capable of understanding.
But the worst part from his books was that the main character .... from what he
defined as illusionary essays ... was a brunette and she was blonde.
Everything was looking like an ugly dream.
She got crazy and started to ask him for the whole night ... one million questions. Started to blame him that he is having a parallel life and actually that he is still living in that “fairy tale” that he had 2 years ago with that brunette.
Knew who the brunette was ... and also knew that he is capable of doing all kinds of silly things.
But in the end the big shock was not that ... maybe ... he was still having that love affair with the brunette, because she was not in love with him to really care about that ... but the fact that she was living for more than 15 years near a person that did not knew how to understand and discover.
She was amazed that he knew what love is about ... and he defined love on hundreds of pages ... but they never had a love story togheter ... and most
Adrian G Dumitru
65
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
probably will never have ... at least not in this life.
Is difficult to see that for 15 years you had been totally blind ... and today the awakening is coming to you in such a brutal or maybe beautiful way.
Maybe the moral of the story is that you need to understand that marriage should not give you any certainty of anything ... or maybe first thing what you should do after getting married is to be aware of the huge risk of becoming ... BLIND for many, many years in the row.
Adrian G Dumitru
66
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
Your heart
“There’s your heart
There’s where you will spend your whole life
So don’t keep her chained up
Of things that dont have love”
I have a question for you: what you do in your daily life ... you listen your heart or your mind?
You do all the time what you need to do or what you love to do? Unfortunately ... truth be told ... we spend our life in a dogmatic way ... doing only what we need to do, not caring about what the heart wants to do. Most of us.
I met thousands of people during my life time and only few were doing what they loved to do.
And not even when it comes to love ... we don’t allow ourselves to love that soulmate that is the perfect partner for a fairy tale.
That’s only because we don’t allow ourselves to live a fairy tale.
We use to think in a pragmatic way, having a philosophy of life controlled by the mind ... and we choose partners that best fit for our needs from this material world .. but not a partner that should fulfill all our emotional and spiritual needs. Instead of choosing someone that really love us and have a great connection with ...we choose someone that can take care of us in the real world.
But we should take care of ourselves ... and not care about anything from the material world.
And if we should care of anything ... we should let our heart act in a wild mode ...
and do only what wants to do.
Keeping it chained up ... of the things that don’t have love ... is just silly.
Life is about enjoying it ... but you can enjoy life only with the heart, not with the mind.
And maybe we should keep in mind, just what the poem says ... “there’s your heart ...there’s where you will spend your whole life”.
Adrian G Dumitru
67
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
The cash machines and the love stories
I have a dear friend that explained me many, many times that in a love story he does not want to be seen as a cash machine.
I always laughed and replied that he is not a cash machine, but the bank itself. We talked in various occasions about the importance of an expensive car, that can be a real passport to some of the ladies, or a “small” house with a swimming pool, with a nice view to the ocean.
So ... our philosophical question was ... are money important into a love story? Can a love story survive without expensive cars, houses with ocean view, vacations into luxury resorts ... and a cash machine available anytime for withdraw any amounts of money?!
If we should compare 2 students that are falling in love in the university and are living the love story of their life ... having no money at all ... with 2 adults that are spending their time on an expensive yacht .... who should we define as the most happier couple?!
That is a proof that ... money are not so important into a love story .... but
probably the problem appears later when the 2 students get older and one of them starts having this illusory dream that a luxury vacation on an expensive yacht could be an interesting idea.
And there are people that are spending their life on yachts that costs millions of dollars ... and looking at the sea ... are remembering probably the funny and happy moments when they were students with no money at all.
We should not continue to lie writing an essay of 100 pages, with one million reasons why money are important or not into a love story.
Most probably money could attract in the beginning and combined with the connection between the 2 of the partners ... everything is becoming actually a love story.
Money indeed makes life easier and a little more beautiful than the scenario with the absence of money.
But there is also a scenario when the connection itself starts the story and later on ... the presence of the “cash machine” entertain everything in a beautiful way. And i am also sure that there are people, like philosophers ... men snd women also ...that can enjoy a love story ... with or without money.
But today .... even philosophers are rich ... so again it’s a lie ... cause is quite
easy to be relaxed into a love story and enjoy the beauty of everything.
Adrian G Dumitru
68
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
Statistics show that when a woman says “No” ... it actually might be a “Yes”
It ‘s quite difficult to understand a woman.
I mean a woman can say “no” and that “no” can mean also a “no”, but also a “yes”.
And i saw so many “smart” guys, that are experts into the philosophy of women, but on the other hand saw them loosing the game when they were in a love story. They thought they understood everything ... but they actually not understood the theory of “no” which can be “no” indeed, but maybe a “yes” also.
I wonder if the so called experts ... when it comes to women ... knows that understanding a woman means to connect to her soul and see the real answear in there.
She can say “no” and be a “no”.
She can also say “no” cause her ego says that, but in fact her heart is telling something else.
Connecting and understanding what she really wants is part of the scenario if you really want to be with her.
Seeing a “no” ... acting like you had received a “yes” ... might be the key so that you will see her happy cause you understood her. A woman thinks different than a man.
She wants to see you ... that you connect to her heart and understand all what she really wants.
The language of speaking to a woman ... is sometime nonverbal.
The woman is looking for real love and she knows that real love means connection ... and connection means that you understand everything without asking.
Love her ... connect with her ... feel her ... and make her happy.
Quite a simple plan, no?!
Adrian G Dumitru
69
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
“Torturing” her
... was part of the scenario.
There is an interesting story, which tries to define love ... in a way that might look as silly, but in the end trying to define anything ... should be about telling the truth first of all.
It says that ... a young man asks his friend “Why are you eating that fish?!” The other guy answeared
“Because i love fish.”
So the young man replies
“So you love fish.
That’s why you took it out of the water, killed it and boiled it.
Don’t tell me you love the fish.
You love yourself and because the fish tastes good to you, therefore, you took it out of the water and killed it and boiled it”
The moral of the story is that so much of what is love ... is what we should call fish love.
What does that mean?!
It means that when we fall in love with a person ... that lovely human being is providing us all the physical and the emotional needs.
The problem is that we care about the love story itself as long as we can see or at least still hope that we will see our needs accomplished.
We don’t care that for the pleasure of eating the fish, “we killed it and we boiled it”.
And the same in the love story.
We just want to have and feel that infinite love, but actually don’t care if we harm or even “torture” that person ... just to receive that happiness we looked so much for.
Torturing her ... or him ... is just part of the scenario in many love stories and this is one of the reasons why even if the story is great, the connection is deep, the love exists on both sides ... in the end, just looking for the pleasure of being togheter ... we destroy everything.
We should learn that love is about giving and not about receiving.
Investing emotions, different actions ... does not mean we need to think about
Adrian G Dumitru
70
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
receiving everything back, eventually multiplied.
Love is about giving and when there is harmony into the couple, you will see everything coming back to us ... without any efforts from any of the partners. Love is not a business and it will never be.
But the love story can be a great chapter of our lives.
Adrian G Dumitru
71
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
A red rose
They were in love by almost 2 years, but he never gave her a present ... not even on her birthday.
He could give her any present she would love to have ... but somehow he did nothing about that.
It was like he was ignoring that she would love to receive something beautiful from him.
But all this time he was connected with her and loved her in a way she never felt before.
Kissing ... or simple touching her was giving her sensations she never had till the day she met him.
She was a mature woman and wanted to see real facts from him, but she was also delaying everything ... and meantime was enjoying the love story with him. It was difficult for her to understand why he never came at her with a flower, but in the end she realised that all she wanted from him was his infinite love ... even if she adored, like any other woman, to receive presents from time to time.
Her mother and few friends asked her one day how is it posible to be in a love story with a guy that could buy all kinds of presents, maybe even daily, but he was never interested about that.
One day before Valentine’s Day, he came with a red rose, kissed her and whispered her again “Would you marry me?!”
It was the last meeting before the end of the story.
He adored her and did not wanted to let her follow her path, but she also liked that he was always coming back into her arms .. even if lately she told him so many time .. “go away”.
She was amazed that he finally came with a flower at her .... but also felt in her
heart that this is the last time they will meet.
Unfortunately, just like the guy with the red rose, we do not know how to act when we are on the stage of the love story.
Maybe we should read books about the subject ... or maybe the actual story is a lesson, so that we will be prepared for the next story.
And maybe a gift for her, does not mean a ring with diamonds .... but a simple
red rose.
Just remember that e everything will come from you ... will make her happy ...
and the whole meaning of the love story is to make her be again a beautiful happy soul.
Adrian G Dumitru
72
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
Just continue to love her!
A scenario for the days when the connnection between you 2 is lost.
It was almost imposible for him to calm her.
She had enough living a dream, that was only a dream.
She wanted a dream that could become reality.
He was loving her .... he was adoring her in fact ... but she was a very
determined woman.
She loved the beautiful words coming from him ... and indeed he was an expert when it came to words ... but she wanted real facts also.
And somehow the scenario with the beautiful story changed in the day when the connection was lost.
But no one of them could see it ... and also accept that only the connection between him and her ... was creating the magic of their love story.
He was still hoping that things will be ok again, but she was disappointed ...
maybe too disappointed.
Only one thing left to do for him ... to continue loving her without expectations. This is probably the only scenario available, but you need to love her a lot to continue doing that.
On the timeline of our own lives we go on different paths ... and sometimes we will be on a pathless path ... but the right path to nowhere is the way in how you can find again your soul.
And when you see what is really going on ... just dare to live your life without those people that are paying so much attention to all those theories.
Adrian G Dumitru
64
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
His wife finds out
And one day his wife finds out .... that he is a writer that writes about love, but
the problem was that the main character of his books was a brunette and she was blonde.
All his life he was hiding things from her and she knew that all the time.
She almost started to ignore all his actions, cause in the end she was not caring so much about what he was doing.
Even started to believe that he is crazy and is useless to hope that he will ever change.
The funny thing was that she always defined him as a guy that is not knowing anything about love ... and that he is caring inside of him a stone instead of a heart.
And one day, by accident, she discovers in his computer some files, that were looking like the manuscripts from books written by him.
She started to read and read ... and she was reading everything.
She was shocked.
First of all cause she never thought that he can be a writer ... then even if she accepted that he is a writer ... she was still amazed that he was writing about love.
She could think of anything ... but not that he is writing about those emotions that she never thought that he is capable of understanding.
But the worst part from his books was that the main character .... from what he
defined as illusionary essays ... was a brunette and she was blonde.
Everything was looking like an ugly dream.
She got crazy and started to ask him for the whole night ... one million questions. Started to blame him that he is having a parallel life and actually that he is still living in that “fairy tale” that he had 2 years ago with that brunette.
Knew who the brunette was ... and also knew that he is capable of doing all kinds of silly things.
But in the end the big shock was not that ... maybe ... he was still having that love affair with the brunette, because she was not in love with him to really care about that ... but the fact that she was living for more than 15 years near a person that did not knew how to understand and discover.
She was amazed that he knew what love is about ... and he defined love on hundreds of pages ... but they never had a love story togheter ... and most
Adrian G Dumitru
65
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
probably will never have ... at least not in this life.
Is difficult to see that for 15 years you had been totally blind ... and today the awakening is coming to you in such a brutal or maybe beautiful way.
Maybe the moral of the story is that you need to understand that marriage should not give you any certainty of anything ... or maybe first thing what you should do after getting married is to be aware of the huge risk of becoming ... BLIND for many, many years in the row.
Adrian G Dumitru
66
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
Your heart
“There’s your heart
There’s where you will spend your whole life
So don’t keep her chained up
Of things that dont have love”
I have a question for you: what you do in your daily life ... you listen your heart or your mind?
You do all the time what you need to do or what you love to do? Unfortunately ... truth be told ... we spend our life in a dogmatic way ... doing only what we need to do, not caring about what the heart wants to do. Most of us.
I met thousands of people during my life time and only few were doing what they loved to do.
And not even when it comes to love ... we don’t allow ourselves to love that soulmate that is the perfect partner for a fairy tale.
That’s only because we don’t allow ourselves to live a fairy tale.
We use to think in a pragmatic way, having a philosophy of life controlled by the mind ... and we choose partners that best fit for our needs from this material world .. but not a partner that should fulfill all our emotional and spiritual needs. Instead of choosing someone that really love us and have a great connection with ...we choose someone that can take care of us in the real world.
But we should take care of ourselves ... and not care about anything from the material world.
And if we should care of anything ... we should let our heart act in a wild mode ...
and do only what wants to do.
Keeping it chained up ... of the things that don’t have love ... is just silly.
Life is about enjoying it ... but you can enjoy life only with the heart, not with the mind.
And maybe we should keep in mind, just what the poem says ... “there’s your heart ...there’s where you will spend your whole life”.
Adrian G Dumitru
67
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
The cash machines and the love stories
I have a dear friend that explained me many, many times that in a love story he does not want to be seen as a cash machine.
I always laughed and replied that he is not a cash machine, but the bank itself. We talked in various occasions about the importance of an expensive car, that can be a real passport to some of the ladies, or a “small” house with a swimming pool, with a nice view to the ocean.
So ... our philosophical question was ... are money important into a love story? Can a love story survive without expensive cars, houses with ocean view, vacations into luxury resorts ... and a cash machine available anytime for withdraw any amounts of money?!
If we should compare 2 students that are falling in love in the university and are living the love story of their life ... having no money at all ... with 2 adults that are spending their time on an expensive yacht .... who should we define as the most happier couple?!
That is a proof that ... money are not so important into a love story .... but
probably the problem appears later when the 2 students get older and one of them starts having this illusory dream that a luxury vacation on an expensive yacht could be an interesting idea.
And there are people that are spending their life on yachts that costs millions of dollars ... and looking at the sea ... are remembering probably the funny and happy moments when they were students with no money at all.
We should not continue to lie writing an essay of 100 pages, with one million reasons why money are important or not into a love story.
Most probably money could attract in the beginning and combined with the connection between the 2 of the partners ... everything is becoming actually a love story.
Money indeed makes life easier and a little more beautiful than the scenario with the absence of money.
But there is also a scenario when the connection itself starts the story and later on ... the presence of the “cash machine” entertain everything in a beautiful way. And i am also sure that there are people, like philosophers ... men snd women also ...that can enjoy a love story ... with or without money.
But today .... even philosophers are rich ... so again it’s a lie ... cause is quite
easy to be relaxed into a love story and enjoy the beauty of everything.
Adrian G Dumitru
68
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
Statistics show that when a woman says “No” ... it actually might be a “Yes”
It ‘s quite difficult to understand a woman.
I mean a woman can say “no” and that “no” can mean also a “no”, but also a “yes”.
And i saw so many “smart” guys, that are experts into the philosophy of women, but on the other hand saw them loosing the game when they were in a love story. They thought they understood everything ... but they actually not understood the theory of “no” which can be “no” indeed, but maybe a “yes” also.
I wonder if the so called experts ... when it comes to women ... knows that understanding a woman means to connect to her soul and see the real answear in there.
She can say “no” and be a “no”.
She can also say “no” cause her ego says that, but in fact her heart is telling something else.
Connecting and understanding what she really wants is part of the scenario if you really want to be with her.
Seeing a “no” ... acting like you had received a “yes” ... might be the key so that you will see her happy cause you understood her. A woman thinks different than a man.
She wants to see you ... that you connect to her heart and understand all what she really wants.
The language of speaking to a woman ... is sometime nonverbal.
The woman is looking for real love and she knows that real love means connection ... and connection means that you understand everything without asking.
Love her ... connect with her ... feel her ... and make her happy.
Quite a simple plan, no?!
Adrian G Dumitru
69
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
“Torturing” her
... was part of the scenario.
There is an interesting story, which tries to define love ... in a way that might look as silly, but in the end trying to define anything ... should be about telling the truth first of all.
It says that ... a young man asks his friend “Why are you eating that fish?!” The other guy answeared
“Because i love fish.”
So the young man replies
“So you love fish.
That’s why you took it out of the water, killed it and boiled it.
Don’t tell me you love the fish.
You love yourself and because the fish tastes good to you, therefore, you took it out of the water and killed it and boiled it”
The moral of the story is that so much of what is love ... is what we should call fish love.
What does that mean?!
It means that when we fall in love with a person ... that lovely human being is providing us all the physical and the emotional needs.
The problem is that we care about the love story itself as long as we can see or at least still hope that we will see our needs accomplished.
We don’t care that for the pleasure of eating the fish, “we killed it and we boiled it”.
And the same in the love story.
We just want to have and feel that infinite love, but actually don’t care if we harm or even “torture” that person ... just to receive that happiness we looked so much for.
Torturing her ... or him ... is just part of the scenario in many love stories and this is one of the reasons why even if the story is great, the connection is deep, the love exists on both sides ... in the end, just looking for the pleasure of being togheter ... we destroy everything.
We should learn that love is about giving and not about receiving.
Investing emotions, different actions ... does not mean we need to think about
Adrian G Dumitru
70
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
receiving everything back, eventually multiplied.
Love is about giving and when there is harmony into the couple, you will see everything coming back to us ... without any efforts from any of the partners. Love is not a business and it will never be.
But the love story can be a great chapter of our lives.
Adrian G Dumitru
71
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
A red rose
They were in love by almost 2 years, but he never gave her a present ... not even on her birthday.
He could give her any present she would love to have ... but somehow he did nothing about that.
It was like he was ignoring that she would love to receive something beautiful from him.
But all this time he was connected with her and loved her in a way she never felt before.
Kissing ... or simple touching her was giving her sensations she never had till the day she met him.
She was a mature woman and wanted to see real facts from him, but she was also delaying everything ... and meantime was enjoying the love story with him. It was difficult for her to understand why he never came at her with a flower, but in the end she realised that all she wanted from him was his infinite love ... even if she adored, like any other woman, to receive presents from time to time.
Her mother and few friends asked her one day how is it posible to be in a love story with a guy that could buy all kinds of presents, maybe even daily, but he was never interested about that.
One day before Valentine’s Day, he came with a red rose, kissed her and whispered her again “Would you marry me?!”
It was the last meeting before the end of the story.
He adored her and did not wanted to let her follow her path, but she also liked that he was always coming back into her arms .. even if lately she told him so many time .. “go away”.
She was amazed that he finally came with a flower at her .... but also felt in her
heart that this is the last time they will meet.
Unfortunately, just like the guy with the red rose, we do not know how to act when we are on the stage of the love story.
Maybe we should read books about the subject ... or maybe the actual story is a lesson, so that we will be prepared for the next story.
And maybe a gift for her, does not mean a ring with diamonds .... but a simple
red rose.
Just remember that e everything will come from you ... will make her happy ...
and the whole meaning of the love story is to make her be again a beautiful happy soul.
Adrian G Dumitru
72
PHILOSOPHY OF LOVE
Defining the undefined
Just continue to love her!
A scenario for the days when the connnection between you 2 is lost.
It was almost imposible for him to calm her.
She had enough living a dream, that was only a dream.
She wanted a dream that could become reality.
He was loving her .... he was adoring her in fact ... but she was a very
determined woman.
She loved the beautiful words coming from him ... and indeed he was an expert when it came to words ... but she wanted real facts also.
And somehow the scenario with the beautiful story changed in the day when the connection was lost.
But no one of them could see it ... and also accept that only the connection between him and her ... was creating the magic of their love story.
He was still hoping that things will be ok again, but she was disappointed ...
maybe too disappointed.
Only one thing left to do for him ... to continue loving her without expectations. This is probably the only scenario available, but you need to love her a lot to continue doing that.
