For the persons that have philosophical questions ... going to the next stage of unlearning and come with your own version is an interesting chapter from life. And for the lucky ones ... a love story is a blessing episode and can be the start of the process of unlearning everything we heard about life.
When you fall in love ... pay attention .. we never say raise in love .. but fall in love ... we start a process of brainwashing everything we know ... and it is the first time in life when we don’t care of what society told us.
We start to not care of what we need to do, forget about all responsibilities and actions ... and think only of the beauty of enjoying life, which means in this case the beauty of being togheter with that person that we love a lot.
We lose control ... we fall ... according to the society standards ... but for us is all about falling in love .... which can be a total reset of everything ... and suddenly after we forget everything ... we only see the beauty of life.
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As my friend, who wrote this poem, says ... we don’t ask to be born, we don’t ask to die ... but we don’t know either to enjoy the beauty of life.
The meaning of the love story is the chance of awakening ... but only if you decide to choose between fall ... and raise.
Lose yourself ... and then after the experience of the love story ... dare to meet
again with the new you.
It’s only a decision.
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Why PARANOIA exists in a love story?
When we are young ... we are more naive and can live a love story without being afraid of anything at all.
We don’t mind if you will lose our minds .... or even the heart.
We play all in ... and one day we are broken into small pieces, usually by someone that we thought is loving us a lot.
That is a first lesson that teaches us about the love stories ... and what can happen when we actually loose control on ourselves.
Later on ... we become more prudent ... and we analyze a lot all datas regarding the person we start the relationship with.
We ask silly questions and instead of seeing beautiful scenarios for you as a couple, you have in mind all the time the things that happened in your past. You start making the mistake of mixing the energies of the past with the ones from present moment ... and the result is a catastrophe.
You have all kinds of projections that have nothing to do with the actual partener, You compare him / her with that person from the past ... that hurt you a lot ...
and later on you even confuse the past with the present and also the partners. Instead of enjoying a love story, you only think of a posible nightmare ... and the whole dynamic of the relationship is going into a negative direction.
It all started as something that brought you joy, good vibe, pleasure of being togheter ... and today everything started to be just a connection that brings you only sadness, worriness ... and a bad vibe.
The love story was metamorphosed into a story that does not bring joy anymore. Being afraid of loving something beautiful ... something that we had also into the past, but lost it ... remembering how much it hurt ... we just become paranoia.
And this is just the beginning of the end, cause paranoia is a disease that ruins the beauty of the story from the first second it appears.
Making the mistake of accepting paranoia in your mind, letting it control you ...
nothing good will happen in your life.
Indeed ... you need to be vigilant, but paranoia is about letting the mind creates worst case scenario ... in the days when everything is just beautiful between the 2 of you.
The answear to the question why paranoia is part of a love story is simple ... we
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are still anchored into what happened in the past and we don’t believe we really deserve a beautiful life and a love story.
Paranoia is a disease that can be cured only and only by ... love.
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“If you are not decided which one to choose, between me and her ... don’t bother to choose me”
She was in love ... of a person that belonged to someone else.
In the beginning she accepted things just as they were ... but later on she realised that life is short and should spend it ... only in the direction the heart was whispering her.
She needed to be patience, but at one point refused to continue doing that. Was believing in them as a couple ... but unfortunately he was too confused and was delaying everything for months.
One day she understood that his indecision was only the result of the fact that he just liked living in 2 worlds ... having 2 lives in the same time. It was not a correct decision ... but this was the truth.
He loved her ... and even a lot ... but in the same time he was not choosing her. Everything had been delayed till the day when she stoped asking him to choose her ... and in fact to not even bother to do it.
You see ... asking someone to choose between you and another person ... the decision itself might be the decision of changing his life completely and that might be uncomfortable or even scary for that person.
Even if he likes you ... or even loves you ... it’s not you the problem and it’s not that he prefers the other person .... but the past and the present means the
confort zone ... and the future ... even if might be a beautiful one ... might look as strange path to follow.
Looks like annoying to see a man that does not know to decide which of 2 women should represent his life ... but changing life completely is not a decision that everybody can take.
And there is a saying “whatever you are not changing, you are choosing”. Letting him choose ... that he is not changing his life ... and telling him as not even bother to choose her ... was the best lesson she could teach him. The change is not for everybody.
Accepting that and continuing your life ... on another path ... with someone else is sometimes the only option.
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Being “Nobody” ... and the probability of living a love story
I’ve been arguing many times with a friend regarding the probability of being in a love story when you are just a simple person ... a “nobody”.
My friend believes that the chances are close to zero, because a beautiful lady that should choose for example between a business man and a plumber, for example, will always make and evaluation first.
Basically we do not choose the person, but what that person represent into the society.
If we have to choose between a person that we like, that is just a simple person ... like a plumber, a cashier to the grocery store etc and a guy that is a successful businessman ... unfortunately “the story of success” is more attractive ... and this will be the chosen one.
So “attractive” means not the soul of that human being, but the way that human being is acting on the stage of life.
So there is a huge probability that instead of choosing a beautiful soul, with a magnificent heart ... just to have interest in starting a relationship with a partner, that even if maybe does not have a beautiful soul ... the fact that knows what success means is a much better partner ... for the real world.
So basically we are not looking at the values inside of that human being ... but the values outside.
We cannot see beyond ... what is easy to see.
And this is the first mistake when you start a new relationship.
Later on ... you actually discover ... all what is beyond the image of that
person ... beyond success, money, fame etc etc ... and maybe you will just dislike what soul you’ve met.
The fact that someone is “nobody” ... should not destroy the chances of living a great love story ... even with a beautiful lady, that usually has many options when it comes of choosing the right partner.
The probability of living a fairy tale, when it comes to love, should depend only of what our souls looks like ... and not of the results we have on the stage of the real world.
But even if the theory is quite simple ... people choose only what they can see and touch ... not what their soul tells them to choose.
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Once you become silent, you will hear what you need to hear
A dear friend of mine from Africa, that i chat with from time to time, called me few days ago, asking me what to do cause his girlfriend wants to break up and also ask him to not text her anymore, otherwise she will block him.
I was smiling and first replied to him not to worry, cause he is very young and other girls are waiting for him.
But my dear friend is still a naive guy and answeared me that maybe there are billions of other girls .... but he is in love with this one.
Well ... my friend is an honest guy and he is not looking for experiences, even if he is young and other people of his age are doing that.
He is just looking for a love story and maybe the girl is not prepared yet for a love story.
If she really wanted to block him, she could do this ... and was not needed of tell him “I’ll block you if you text me again!”.
Maybe she needs time to see what is going on and ask herself if she is ready for a relationship with a guy that should love her like in love story.
We need to understand sometimes that the partner could not be prepared yet for a fairy tale ... and that the infinite love and all our attention is not what expected to see ... not because is not wanting this, but simple because never thought of a love story scenario.
Giving her time will be the best advice i could give to my friend.
Once she will become silent, she will hear what she needs to hear ... and if she really likes my friend she will accept the invitation of living a fairy tale togheter.
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“Vanity is my favorite sin”
Al Pacino used to say that and it looks like today many people are believing in this quote.
And maybe the problem is that this quote is running our lives.
A friend of mine just wrote me, telling that he gave a small present to the woman he loved, but because of a misunderstanding ... the lady get mad on him ... and the next day she sent the present back to him.
The funny thing was that it was the first time he was offering her a present ...
and the lady adored to receive presents ... but most probably she was too annoyed by him to keep the present.
But the question is ... why do we mix vanity with love?!
If someone sent you a present today and after one day you get mad on that person ... is it ok to send the present back?!
How should that person feel if also ... this is the first time he is offering her a present?!
And why vanity is more powerful than love?!
How should him react to her vanity?!
So many questions ...but not so many clear answears, cause in a love story, if something is more powerful than the love ... it just means that is not real love. Someone that loves for real will never define vanity as the favorite sin ... and on the other hand will ignore anything that will have negative influence on the love story.
In a relationship, there will be many moments of misunderstandings ... and caring only about what the ego says ...will be silly.
Is quite easy to destroy a relationship in just one second ...but too difficult to have a second chance to meet that lovely person ... that you have a huge connection with.
There are some situations when vanity is good ... but not in a love story.
I wanted to tell to my friend but i couldn’t ... that between him and the vanity ...
the woman that he loved so, so much ... preferred Al Pacino with his famous quote.
People that have vanity in blood ... will always let the Ego control them ... and the love story itself will be interesting only as long it follows a certain scenario ... otherwise will not present anymore ... any kind of interest.
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The theory of conspiracy and ... the love stories
There are so many theories of conspiracy that i read about over time ... that i am even laughing when i hear about them.
A very intelligent guy, a KGB agent, explained years ago, in a very beautiful way, the whole meaning of those theories.
It says that when KGB was trying to hide something very important, just asked the agents to write or tell all around ... about 2 antagonist theories, that had nothing to do with what was really going on.
People were loosing their time and energy, thinking and discussing for weeks or
even months and in some cases even years ... about what is the truth ... the first
or the second theory?!
But what is the truth?!
Does the real truth exists?! ... or is just an illusion?!
One truth that i should dare to define is that people are not caring at all about the famous theories of conspiracy ... like did the jewish gave money to Hitler to start the second world war?! ... or who really killed the president Kennedy?! ... or is it true that the Bilderberg group is controlling the whole world from shadow?! Nooo ... people are not caring about there amazing theories.
Or if someones does that, i am sure ... is just for the interest of publishing some books that could have a chance of becoming best sellers. Nothing more.
I studied life and people around me for years and the only theories of conspiracy i ever saw were regarding people’s life.
And believe me the overthinking process is worst than cancer ... and this is when all those theories are appearing.
It happens i know a guy that had a love affair with the wife of a dear friend and later on he found out that his friend was having long time ago ... a love affair with his mistress.
And he was in love with his mistress and was really annoyed that his friend did that years ago.
And from here ... started a huge theory of conspiracy.
I also know a guy that had a beautiful wife, but also a beautiful mistress. The wife was believing that his husband was in love with the mistress and the other one was believing that the guy, that she loved so much, was caring only about the wife.
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He get so annoyed after a while that he decided just to get rid of both of them.
Had enough hearing them.
