PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
PHILOSOPHY
OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
Adrian G Dumitru
Adrian G Dumitru
1
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
ADRIAN G DUMITRU
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
Year: 2021
Author: Adrian G Dumitru
Adrian G Dumitru
2
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
IS LOVE AN
ILLUSION MY DEAR?!
Had everything, but we actually had NOTHING ... had NOTHING, but we actually had everything.
Adrian G Dumitru
3
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
INTRODUCTION
The book “PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING” is a collection of essays that are trying to send the message that in a relationship you can be happy even if you don't have a real relationship togheter, in a clasical way, but also be unhappy when you have everything togheter.
Having everything, but actually having nothing … having nothing, but actually having everything is an idea that we should meditate on it.
We live in a world of unhappy marriages, that should be totally redefined, but actually are dying little by little, day by day ... with no change from any of the 2 partners.
Wainting for NOTHING for years, doing NOTHING … but expecting everything from the other side.
Love is not math and will never be.
Love is not a business and will be never be.
Philosophy of NOTHING is trying to define the beautiful side, but also the dark side of the love stories.
The book does not have any architecture and is just a collection of essays. And maybe the only message of the book is quite simple: to be happpy you probably need NOTHING, but enjoy the present moment with the person you are in the story.
Daring to do it … you don't need anything, cause you actually have everything, the love story itself.
Adrian G Dumitru
4
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
The Princess
The Castle
The Love Story ...the
perfect script for a fairy tale
We have an addiction for stories since we are little kids and parents tells us different kind of stories with princesses, magic castles, the imposible love story between a prince and a princess, etc etc. All of us know those stories.
We all heard them many, many times in the childhood.
Later on, we start life and we miss those stories.
The desire of hearing the story is now the desire of meeting the story.
And you dare to start dreaming at a fairy tale for your life.
But you don’t want a simple love story, you dream for an imposible story so that it looks like the ones from the stories you heard when you were a kid.
And this is why you fall in love with someone that lives far away from you, or by a married person .... or you are married, can’t divorce, and you fall in love of a person that is 20 years younger ... and many, many other similar scenarios.
Whatever it is ... the story looks like an imposible one.
The old addiction for fairy tales is running your life and there is NOTHING you can do about that.
One day, you think you woke up, live with the illusion that you are a mature person today and you close the imposible love story.
The next day, you wake up, feel again empty inside of your soul and you do what?!
You start looking for the next fairy tale.
You don’t smoke, you don’t drink, you don’t take drugs ... you look like a normal person, with no addiction at all ... but you love to consume fairy tales from time to time.
You cannot survive without them.
Is there any chance to stop this addiction?!
Adrian G Dumitru
5
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
Well ... even the people taking drugs ... some of them ... succeed to end their addiction.
But only if they find someone in their life to offer them infinite love and ... infinite understanding.
The day you will see that the addiction is NOTHING than an illusion, that is the day of awakening ... the day you can live into the real world. Don’t look for fairy tales ... dare to enjoy the real life.
Adrian G Dumitru
6
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
You can’t learn to play football .... just by
reading books about football.
You can read books about the subject, but you will need to play on the stadion, even if in the beginning it will not be an Olympic Stadion.
There are many people that read books and think that life can be understood just by reading.
And there are people that never read a book, or maybe don’t even know to read ... and somehow they understood that the secret of life is to enjoy the present moment ... and NOTHING more.
After you read hundreds or thousands of books, the biggest mistake you can do is that you think you can make plans.
One day, the Universe gives you a life lesson and sends you into a love story. You read books about politics, psychology, engineering, philosophy ... and even love stories or books that describes what love is about. You think you are ready.
The Universe is smiling behind your back and the story goes on.
But there is a huge difference between theory and practice.
In theory everything can be arranged with the perfect script ... but in practice, situations are sometimes running in a way in how things are running out of control.
The theoretician is not understanding anything.
Not having a clue about what is going on.
You go to the one of your friends that never read a book, or don’t even know to read ... and ask for an advice.
And the friend, that graduated many, many years ago, the school of life ... is smiling and everything can say is “Don’t take the things so seriously ... just enjoy the show ...NOTHING more”.
And you fail in all of your actions from the love story, because you made plans, you had all kinds of scenarios ... instead of enjoying the presence of the person
Adrian G Dumitru
7
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
you love so, so much.
This is the moment when you realise that you can’t learn to play football by reading books or watch football games on tv in your couch.
You had to enter on the stadion years ago, but you thought that you can find all the answears in books.
Now you want to be a football player and play on Olympic Stadion, but years ago you did not wanted to play on the football stadion from your school yard ... and you had so, so many chances.
At this age, you had to be prepared, so that the love story, the Universe gave you as a present, to be a great story, not a failed experiment.
The end is coming and the only thing left to do is to take everything as an experience.
It was NOTHING than a life lesson ... maybe next time you will be ready to enjoy the show of a the love story.
Yeesss ... keep in mind, that the only thing needs to be done is ... enjoy the present moment!
Adrian G Dumitru
8
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
I’ve asked for a mistress
and i’ve got a love story.
You’ve asked for a love story
and you became a mistress.
Is very important when you meet someone to have the same objective in the relationship you have togheter.
Years ago i met 2 lovely people ... that somehow fell very deep in love one of another.
I liked them a lot, but was very difficult for me to understand their story at that time.
The guy was asking the Universe a beautiful mistress and she asked for a love story.
Most probably, you need to define very clear what you ask for, when you speak to the Universe, otherwise the Universe will play around with your desires, laughing a little bit of you, just to teach you another life lesson.
And the main idea is to understand that what you have now, in the present moment, is all you need to have so that you will be happy.
And if the present moment means that you are in a prison, means that this is the best place in the world where you could be.
Another dear friend of mine, that was in jail for 1 year, told me that he read about 150 books at that time and was very inspired by those books after he went out of jail ... to change his life.
So ... at that time the prison was the best place he could be, even of he did not understood in the beginning.
The same with my friends that fell in love.
He asked for a mistress and the Universe sent him into a love story.
She asked for a love story and became a mistress.
And she was very mad, cause she became a mistress, but i think that meanwhile she forgot that she was married and my friend also.
Their story continued for a long time, but somehow they were always unsatisfied
Adrian G Dumitru
9
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
that did not get exactly what they asked for.
Were very happy togheter, but the story itself it was too complicated so that it can become a story from the real life.
We ask something and we somehow receive something else, but we should never doubt that the Universe knows better than us what is better. Everything happens for a reason.
Enjoy a story just as the Universe offered it to you.
And remember ... there is NOTHING more important in life than living the present moment.
Adrian G Dumitru
10
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
In love with a hooker
... worst case scenario in a love story
... but don’t forget that the hooker is a soul
... maybe an empty soul.
A dear friend of mine, who was too busy over the years to live his life, fell in love of a beautiful lady.
Everybody knew who the lady was, except him and no one wanted to tell him the truth.
In the beginning, all his friends thoughts that he just want to enjoy life with her for short time ... and have fun, as a silly man that have NOTHING better to do. His family, knowing also the truth about the lady, thought that he just lost his minds ... but were hoping he will be back to reality sooner or later, cause he was a strong guy.
One day, the guy, feeling that something is wrong, goes to a witch that was his friend for many years.
The witch was usually a very direct person ... but in this case, he did not wanted to offend her dear friend, that was so ... so naive ... but also so deep in love. She tries to be funny ... then tries to give him another examples of other customers of her, with similar stories, but whatever she was saying, the guy was telling her that he loves her a lot.
The witch started to be annoyed and said to him: “Listen to me ... i have the crystal ball for years. I know what i am talking about ... this lady is cheating on you and not with only one man ... and not even 2.
She does this by a long time, will do it again ... but you are blind my friend”. The guy started to feel offended, but kept his calm, then asked her to do a favor to him and look again into the crystal ball.
The witch started to be very annoyed and tells him:
“Listen idiot, this beautiful lady, that you say you love a lot ... is ... and please
don’t be offended ... she is a hooker.
You fell in love by the wrong person.
I am sorry that is me the one that needs to tell you the truth ... but .. even if the truth hurts a lot ... you need to know it”.
Adrian G Dumitru
11
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
He could not believe what he was hearing.
He felt ruined inside his soul, but had to accept that the truth hurts.
Then another close friend confirms the theory that the witch told him.
He was destroyed.
But after meditating a lot ... he accepted the truth and understood that he was not fell in love with a hooker, but he fell in love with a soul ... that he saw as a beautiful soul, even if it was an empty one.
Defining the person you love as a bad or a good person, keeping in mind the opinions of others, even if they are close friends or family members ... is silly. As long as you love someone, you see the beautiful side of that person and don’t care about her dark side.
Discovering that you fell in love with a hooker, might sound as the worst case scenario in a love story ... but in the end ... don’t forget that even a hooker ... or a criminal have a soul ... and deserve being loved. There is NOTHING to be ashamed of.
Adrian G Dumitru
12
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
Let the silence begin
Enjoy the show
There are stories ... in which the end is useless to be declared.
I mean ... we are so disappointed, that there is NOTHING more to be said. Not even say “Good bye!” or “Listen ... this is the end of a beautiful story ... an illusion that ended as a desillusion”.
But when the end had come, you need to review everything ... and let the silence be present into your soul.
And think, and think and think again.
But not at the bad things that happened ... but on the beautiful memories.
If you remember also the mistakes you’ve done, keep them in mind just to not do them again in the future.
What looks the end of a relationship is actually the end of a chapter from your life.
Is not a good or a bad thing that the end had come ... it just means other chapters are waiting for you.
The end is always a new beginning.
We graduated kindergarten .. then we started primary school ... then secondary school ... high school ... university ... and then life with many other chapters.
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
PHILOSOPHY
OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
Adrian G Dumitru
Adrian G Dumitru
1
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
ADRIAN G DUMITRU
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
Year: 2021
Author: Adrian G Dumitru
Adrian G Dumitru
2
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
IS LOVE AN
ILLUSION MY DEAR?!
Had everything, but we actually had NOTHING ... had NOTHING, but we actually had everything.
Adrian G Dumitru
3
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
INTRODUCTION
The book “PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING” is a collection of essays that are trying to send the message that in a relationship you can be happy even if you don't have a real relationship togheter, in a clasical way, but also be unhappy when you have everything togheter.
Having everything, but actually having nothing … having nothing, but actually having everything is an idea that we should meditate on it.
We live in a world of unhappy marriages, that should be totally redefined, but actually are dying little by little, day by day ... with no change from any of the 2 partners.
Wainting for NOTHING for years, doing NOTHING … but expecting everything from the other side.
Love is not math and will never be.
Love is not a business and will be never be.
Philosophy of NOTHING is trying to define the beautiful side, but also the dark side of the love stories.
The book does not have any architecture and is just a collection of essays. And maybe the only message of the book is quite simple: to be happpy you probably need NOTHING, but enjoy the present moment with the person you are in the story.
Daring to do it … you don't need anything, cause you actually have everything, the love story itself.
Adrian G Dumitru
4
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
The Princess
The Castle
The Love Story ...the
perfect script for a fairy tale
We have an addiction for stories since we are little kids and parents tells us different kind of stories with princesses, magic castles, the imposible love story between a prince and a princess, etc etc. All of us know those stories.
We all heard them many, many times in the childhood.
Later on, we start life and we miss those stories.
The desire of hearing the story is now the desire of meeting the story.
And you dare to start dreaming at a fairy tale for your life.
But you don’t want a simple love story, you dream for an imposible story so that it looks like the ones from the stories you heard when you were a kid.
And this is why you fall in love with someone that lives far away from you, or by a married person .... or you are married, can’t divorce, and you fall in love of a person that is 20 years younger ... and many, many other similar scenarios.
Whatever it is ... the story looks like an imposible one.
The old addiction for fairy tales is running your life and there is NOTHING you can do about that.
One day, you think you woke up, live with the illusion that you are a mature person today and you close the imposible love story.
The next day, you wake up, feel again empty inside of your soul and you do what?!
You start looking for the next fairy tale.
You don’t smoke, you don’t drink, you don’t take drugs ... you look like a normal person, with no addiction at all ... but you love to consume fairy tales from time to time.
You cannot survive without them.
Is there any chance to stop this addiction?!
Adrian G Dumitru
5
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
Well ... even the people taking drugs ... some of them ... succeed to end their addiction.
But only if they find someone in their life to offer them infinite love and ... infinite understanding.
The day you will see that the addiction is NOTHING than an illusion, that is the day of awakening ... the day you can live into the real world. Don’t look for fairy tales ... dare to enjoy the real life.
Adrian G Dumitru
6
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
You can’t learn to play football .... just by
reading books about football.
You can read books about the subject, but you will need to play on the stadion, even if in the beginning it will not be an Olympic Stadion.
There are many people that read books and think that life can be understood just by reading.
And there are people that never read a book, or maybe don’t even know to read ... and somehow they understood that the secret of life is to enjoy the present moment ... and NOTHING more.
After you read hundreds or thousands of books, the biggest mistake you can do is that you think you can make plans.
One day, the Universe gives you a life lesson and sends you into a love story. You read books about politics, psychology, engineering, philosophy ... and even love stories or books that describes what love is about. You think you are ready.
The Universe is smiling behind your back and the story goes on.
But there is a huge difference between theory and practice.
In theory everything can be arranged with the perfect script ... but in practice, situations are sometimes running in a way in how things are running out of control.
The theoretician is not understanding anything.
Not having a clue about what is going on.
You go to the one of your friends that never read a book, or don’t even know to read ... and ask for an advice.
And the friend, that graduated many, many years ago, the school of life ... is smiling and everything can say is “Don’t take the things so seriously ... just enjoy the show ...NOTHING more”.
And you fail in all of your actions from the love story, because you made plans, you had all kinds of scenarios ... instead of enjoying the presence of the person
Adrian G Dumitru
7
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
you love so, so much.
This is the moment when you realise that you can’t learn to play football by reading books or watch football games on tv in your couch.
You had to enter on the stadion years ago, but you thought that you can find all the answears in books.
Now you want to be a football player and play on Olympic Stadion, but years ago you did not wanted to play on the football stadion from your school yard ... and you had so, so many chances.
At this age, you had to be prepared, so that the love story, the Universe gave you as a present, to be a great story, not a failed experiment.
The end is coming and the only thing left to do is to take everything as an experience.
It was NOTHING than a life lesson ... maybe next time you will be ready to enjoy the show of a the love story.
Yeesss ... keep in mind, that the only thing needs to be done is ... enjoy the present moment!
Adrian G Dumitru
8
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
I’ve asked for a mistress
and i’ve got a love story.
You’ve asked for a love story
and you became a mistress.
Is very important when you meet someone to have the same objective in the relationship you have togheter.
Years ago i met 2 lovely people ... that somehow fell very deep in love one of another.
I liked them a lot, but was very difficult for me to understand their story at that time.
The guy was asking the Universe a beautiful mistress and she asked for a love story.
Most probably, you need to define very clear what you ask for, when you speak to the Universe, otherwise the Universe will play around with your desires, laughing a little bit of you, just to teach you another life lesson.
And the main idea is to understand that what you have now, in the present moment, is all you need to have so that you will be happy.
And if the present moment means that you are in a prison, means that this is the best place in the world where you could be.
Another dear friend of mine, that was in jail for 1 year, told me that he read about 150 books at that time and was very inspired by those books after he went out of jail ... to change his life.
So ... at that time the prison was the best place he could be, even of he did not understood in the beginning.
The same with my friends that fell in love.
He asked for a mistress and the Universe sent him into a love story.
She asked for a love story and became a mistress.
And she was very mad, cause she became a mistress, but i think that meanwhile she forgot that she was married and my friend also.
Their story continued for a long time, but somehow they were always unsatisfied
Adrian G Dumitru
9
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
that did not get exactly what they asked for.
Were very happy togheter, but the story itself it was too complicated so that it can become a story from the real life.
We ask something and we somehow receive something else, but we should never doubt that the Universe knows better than us what is better. Everything happens for a reason.
Enjoy a story just as the Universe offered it to you.
And remember ... there is NOTHING more important in life than living the present moment.
Adrian G Dumitru
10
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
In love with a hooker
... worst case scenario in a love story
... but don’t forget that the hooker is a soul
... maybe an empty soul.
A dear friend of mine, who was too busy over the years to live his life, fell in love of a beautiful lady.
Everybody knew who the lady was, except him and no one wanted to tell him the truth.
In the beginning, all his friends thoughts that he just want to enjoy life with her for short time ... and have fun, as a silly man that have NOTHING better to do. His family, knowing also the truth about the lady, thought that he just lost his minds ... but were hoping he will be back to reality sooner or later, cause he was a strong guy.
One day, the guy, feeling that something is wrong, goes to a witch that was his friend for many years.
The witch was usually a very direct person ... but in this case, he did not wanted to offend her dear friend, that was so ... so naive ... but also so deep in love. She tries to be funny ... then tries to give him another examples of other customers of her, with similar stories, but whatever she was saying, the guy was telling her that he loves her a lot.
The witch started to be annoyed and said to him: “Listen to me ... i have the crystal ball for years. I know what i am talking about ... this lady is cheating on you and not with only one man ... and not even 2.
She does this by a long time, will do it again ... but you are blind my friend”. The guy started to feel offended, but kept his calm, then asked her to do a favor to him and look again into the crystal ball.
The witch started to be very annoyed and tells him:
“Listen idiot, this beautiful lady, that you say you love a lot ... is ... and please
don’t be offended ... she is a hooker.
You fell in love by the wrong person.
I am sorry that is me the one that needs to tell you the truth ... but .. even if the truth hurts a lot ... you need to know it”.
Adrian G Dumitru
11
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
He could not believe what he was hearing.
He felt ruined inside his soul, but had to accept that the truth hurts.
Then another close friend confirms the theory that the witch told him.
He was destroyed.
But after meditating a lot ... he accepted the truth and understood that he was not fell in love with a hooker, but he fell in love with a soul ... that he saw as a beautiful soul, even if it was an empty one.
Defining the person you love as a bad or a good person, keeping in mind the opinions of others, even if they are close friends or family members ... is silly. As long as you love someone, you see the beautiful side of that person and don’t care about her dark side.
Discovering that you fell in love with a hooker, might sound as the worst case scenario in a love story ... but in the end ... don’t forget that even a hooker ... or a criminal have a soul ... and deserve being loved. There is NOTHING to be ashamed of.
Adrian G Dumitru
12
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
Let the silence begin
Enjoy the show
There are stories ... in which the end is useless to be declared.
I mean ... we are so disappointed, that there is NOTHING more to be said. Not even say “Good bye!” or “Listen ... this is the end of a beautiful story ... an illusion that ended as a desillusion”.
But when the end had come, you need to review everything ... and let the silence be present into your soul.
And think, and think and think again.
But not at the bad things that happened ... but on the beautiful memories.
If you remember also the mistakes you’ve done, keep them in mind just to not do them again in the future.
What looks the end of a relationship is actually the end of a chapter from your life.
Is not a good or a bad thing that the end had come ... it just means other chapters are waiting for you.
The end is always a new beginning.
We graduated kindergarten .. then we started primary school ... then secondary school ... high school ... university ... and then life with many other chapters.
