We do not realise that the meaning itself is related to our own souls.
Love has not a real purpose, but only to feel it and teach you how to connect to the soul.
That magic person that appears in your life, and you fall in love with, has only one real meaning... to make you feel alive.
I know that we are obsessed by making plans over plans, but there are moments when you need to learn to just stop doing that and savor the feeling of being in love.
You will start repetitive saying:
“Do we have any plans?!
Or just enjoy the love story?
But what if it’s only about love and sex?”
Well ... even if it is only a story about love and sex ... there is NOTHING wrong in that. The Universe knows better than you which lessons you need to have on the time line you are now.
And you need to understand that not everything has a real purpose ... or maybe the purpose itself is so important that you actually don’t have the power to see it ... not even as being a purpose.
And healing your soul could be a huge purpose ... but i know ... it’s not looking as other purposes that you had before till now.
Analyzing and understanding a love story, even if is it an abstract one ... is useless.
Empty your mind of all repetitive thoughts ... think at NOTHING ... but love and let your soul connects with the partner.
Yes ... it can be a Romeo and Juliet story ... or just love and sex ... with no plans for the future. Whatever it is ... ENJOY IT!
Adrian G Dumitru
81
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
It’s different. I like it
Steve Jobs redefined the word “different” for the whole world.
Before him, the meaning of “different” was quite different of how we see “different” today.
Different was not a positive attribute ... at least not a nice way of talking of someone.
But now ... we dare to do different things, act different, think different, be different.
And we actually love everything is different.
The problem is that the philosophy of different, becomes the new way of living life.
We start enjoying life near people that are different from the ones we usually spend life with ...including our partners.
And the new slogan becomes “It’s different! I like it!” ... or “She is different / he is different”.
We actually dislike our boring ways of living the daily life and we need something new.
But different means first of all ... new.
We need to go out of our own statistics and taste new experiences, new sensations ... and new ways of enjoying life. New people will help a lot.
And a love story with a person that is quite different than the actual partener or other people you met in the past is a beautiful experience. First you like it ... then you love it.
But what you do if you are involved into a serious relationship or even a marriage?!
Can you just change your life over night and live a different story ... which looks just what you dreamed?!
Well ... depends how much you want it, or if we should be honest ... if you just like it or you love it.
And on the other hand you need to consult your intuition also, to understand the difference between normal and different.
Adrian G Dumitru
82
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
Sometimes the difference is just a perception, but after defining better you will see that there is NOTHING between the 2 worlds.
We can enjoy the “different” daily ... but need to connect to the present moment.
Then normal will stop being normal ... but different.
But you know why?!
Cause you connected and you feel it.
And the same story with the people from your life ... connect to them and you will
see a different version of that person.
Everything is just a perception.
There is no normal or different.
It’s NOTHING but the illusion of something new ... but it’s nice to enjoy the beautiful illusions.
Adrian G Dumitru
83
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
...and she said:
“Everything i want is ... YOU .... idiot!”
Understanding what the other partner really wants is sometimes quite a mystery, very difficult to find out.
Sometimes we don’t really care to understand, sometimes everything is too complicated to see things clearly ... and sometime probably we don’t have the power to believe that what we see is real ... cause real love stories smell as magic all the time.
It happens that i know a very nice gentleman and a very beautiful lady, that were very, very deep in love.
They spoke a lot about everything, but still their love story was looking like an imposible one.
Being in love ... they just became blinds in front of the real life. Suddenly, after a long time, the guy seeing the lady that is mad on him, asked ...”What do you really want from me?!”.
And she replied ... “Everything i want is ... YOU .... idiot!”
Yes ... there are many moments in life when we just miss the essential ... paying too much attention to other unimportant things.
But, when is real love behind the story, i think is never too late to see everything and act in the way you should really act.
So ... even if you understand NOTHING today ... just love and the path will appear.
Adrian G Dumitru
84
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
One more chance ... for NOTHING
... and she continues ...
“to see you again ... for what?!”
There are many moments when we do not see the future and even consider that the present is useless.
Any love story has many beautiful chapters, but sometimes difficult moments also.
And everything is just part of the same story.
I know a beautiful lady, that asked her lover one day what for to see him again ... what for to give a new chance to them as a couple if there is no future for them as a couple?!
The lady was very determined ... but both of them were in love of each other.
She could say anything to him ... but he knew she loves him.
He just became speechless ... but the love did not disappeared from their souls. We look for the future, for specific events, for certain things to happen ... but we always forget the real meaning of the love story.
And the expectations hurt a lot, because instead of living and enjoying the story, we loose our time thinking of an uncertain future ... loosing the beauty of the present moment.
Not seeing the future togheter is just the fear that you might loose something beautiful that you have today ... but in the end all this overthinking to the future events, actions and maybe the whole script ... destroys the pleasure of all you actually have ... the present moment, because there is nothing else than the moment.
Asking “to see you again for what?!” is forgetting about the magic you have togheter.
“One more chance ... for NOTHING?!”.
Well ... what you might call “nothing” with your mind is probably “everything” for the heart.
Don’t loose your time planing a love story ... just enjoy it.
Adrian G Dumitru
85
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
Controlling the partner ... the disease that destroys everything into a relationship
Being into a relationship should be something that brings you joy all the time.
The dynamic of the relationship should be the one that we see while dancing.
We do not control the dance, but enjoy the dance.
The fact that you are togheter on the same path ... should be a pleasure to spend time in the company of each other.
When dancing togheter there is a kind of control of the steps, of the motion, but everything is related to the synchronizing of the music with the 2 of the partners. And the same should be in a relationship even if it is a love story or not. Trying to control the things is a disease.
But also doing the oposite ...might look like you don’t care at all.
It happens that i know 2 man, both married ... and i know their stories.
One is controlling at his wife everything, calling, checking all details and the other is never bother to find out where his wife is, or what she is doing. So ... who is the positive character?!
No one ... cause i think that soon in the future ... both couples will divorce. Control or no control at all?!... or maybe just check from time to time ... so that you understand the real status of the relationship.
We need to show that we care ... but never over react, cause the control will become a disease that will destroy completely the relationship.
There is NOTHING wrong to ask questions, to make sure that everything is ok and there is nothing to worry about ... but always remember about the technique applied while dancing.
Keep the right balance and let the relationship be a pleasure, not a disease that you live togheter.
Adrian G Dumitru
86
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
I don’t want anymore to hide and live on chat.
I want to feel alive and live in the real world.
The chat is a wonderful way to communicate with people from all around the word.
Sometimes even a way to communicate with people living in the same house with you, cause it becomes a nice mask for our emotions ... and makes communication easier.
But the problem is that in the end the connection between 2 people cannot continue forever on chat.
We live in a real world and we need to see each other, to interact one with another, to see and understand better the emotions from the other side. Yes ... real relationships needs to be part of the real world.
To meet, to shake hands, to kiss each other, to smile, to touch ... to feel the vibration from the other side.
Chat can help us ... but it will be very toxic on long term, because we need the real life to feel better everything.
A love story that happens only on chat ... or mostly on chat ... will not let the 2 partners connect for 100%.
The absence of the real connection, will create in time a huge gap between the 2 of them.
And one day ... one of them will decide to leave ... probably forever.
Is maybe part of the script.
Life was created so that you feel it in a real way not a virtual way.
Even if it is a love relationship between 2 people that live in different countries, or a love affair between 2 persons that live in the same village ... if it is only ... or mostly virtual ... the chat will not let you enjoy the real magic of the love story. The virtual way of interconnections is part of our daily routines, but 2 people in love needs NOTHING more than real feelings ... that can come only in the real world.
Keep the right balance and you will be ok.
Adrian G Dumitru
87
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
I want a Rolls ... and i don’t want
to pay for it. I will just steal it from time to time ... but i will bring it back.
We want that ... and that and that.
We always want something ... and we never stop this game.
And one day ... we realise that we want something amazing and a very strong desire appears inside of the soul.
Looks like imposible to get that something ... but most probably is something we did not wanted before, just dreamed that it exists and had no courage to think that we could have that in our life.
It’s like you want a Rolls Royce and you ask yourself if you can pay the price to buy that expensive car.
The Rolls looks amazing into the exterior, but also the interior of the car is fabulous.
You just love the car.
Is the car of your dreams.
But the car is having also a huge price to be paid for it.
Is like a very beautiful lady, with a gorgeous body, but also with a lovely soul.
But it’s not just a beautiful lady ... it’s Miss Universe.
You realise that to be with that lady, you need to be at that level ... and maybe to be a different person than you are now.
You need to change a lot, redefine all the values you have, and be also at least kind of a prince.
Are you willing to pay the price?! .. or you just enjoy the fact that you were lucky enough to meet Miss Universe ... and feel the joy for few moments that you stay and chat with the most beautiful woman from the Universe.
You know that for everything in life you need to pay a price ... and for amazing things you need to pay a different price that you are used to pay.
You ask yourself if you can do it, if you can change yourself overnight so that you can stay in that story, hoping even at a quantum jump, but you just dream and delay everything so that you still enjoy it for few more moments.
And then you realise that you want a Rolls Royce ... and you don’t want to pay for it.
Adrian G Dumitru
88
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
You even decide that will just steal it from time to time ... but you will bring it back ... just not to pay the price.
And the question is: you cannot afford to pay the price of the Rolls or you are just
a nice thief that steal things, enjoy having then and later on he brings everything
back so that things to calm down?!
Every desire have a price.
Hoping that there will be NOTHING to pay ... is just childish.
Adrian G Dumitru
89
PHILOSOPHY OF NOTHING
Had everything, but I actually had nothing ...had nothing, but I actually had everything
So ... we changed the password from
“I love you!” to ... “It is imposible to love you!”
We love imposible stories.
We adore them.
We would do anything in the world to live an imposible story ....even if it is an
imposible love story.
Wanting what you cannot have ... makes the desire itself ... be the strongest emotion you could ever feel.
And you have it ... but you actually see that you have NOTHING for real.
Days are passing and you want it more and more, cause it is an obsession.
The love story takes you daily from infinite joy to a huge disappointment, on and on and on.
Is like if you want to feel the infinite, you must also accept everything comes after.
Disappointment is part of the game and is just a result of the fact that you have the infinite and then, after the end of the meeting ... you feel that everything is gone.
You need to understand that every love story has a password and if it is a great love story, the connection appears as an always “I love you!”.
