THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
THE ART OF
DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you
how to ask questions about your lost way in life
Adrian G Dumitru
Adrian G Dumitru
1
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
ADRIAN DUMITRU
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
Year: 2020
Author: Adrian Dumitru
Adrian G Dumitru
2
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
IT'S ALL ABOUT DEFINING
People are going to try to define you. Let Them. In the end, their definition doesn't really matter – it's how you define yourself that does.
Adrian G Dumitru
3
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
INTRODUCTION
Truth be told we want an over night change in our lifes.
There are many moments when the actual reality is very difficult to handle and looks like we have no escape at all.
We dream of a quatum jump, even if we dont understand the concept very well. In few words, the reality sucks and we dream of a life that we will never have, because deep inside us, we dont really believe we will ever meet this reality.
We have a fake attitude that we are looking for change, but this attitude is just a mask for our fears... as them not to be seen.
So we wonder today if there is a way of how our lifes can be changed in what we think that should be better for us.
Does it exists a system that we could follow and achieve our dream life?! But it must be a simple way ... otherwise we know that we will not follow the path.
Everything is happening is related to us, and everything could happen is also related to us.
The magic answear, because we are looking only for magic answears, is the art of defining life.
Yes ... this is an art.
We need to start be honest with ourself, and all the answears to simple questions as “why am i fat?! ... because i eat to much” , “why my partner is cheating on me?! ... because i did not knew to be that perfect partner that i had to be” and the list of questions will go on.
We need to start defining what we dont like. Once we undestand that the change is in our powers and if we really want a change, we will start the process of achieving the new life we dream at.
We dont need to go to a therapist, we dont need to study motivational issues of social media and dont even need to read hundreds or thousands of books to start the change process.
The art of defining our lifes, means that we have the courage to understand what we dont like and define very clear how our reality should look like.
Adrian G Dumitru
4
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
The depression, or what we call depression, because many things are unclear in our minds, is this huge gap between where we are now and where we want to be. We are looking for a magic bridge that should help us go very easilly from one point to the other.
The process itself is a very simple one, as long as we decide to be honest to us.
The art of defining ... yes ... is an art.
And also to live ... is an art.
Once we decide that we are brave enough to live our lifes... the dream life... the magic will happen, cause all the magic is our powers.
Adrian G Dumitru
5
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
GAMBLING
Since 1970 gambling started to be considered as a way of having fun and socializing in all modern countries.
There are arheological evidences from 6000 years ago that people practice gambling at that time.
Gambling is a way of dreaming that you can get a huge benefit right away ... that can change your life to a much higher level.
Basiclly, the concept of quatuum jumping can be seen in gambling.
There are all kinds of gambling, and the dose of high risk exists.
But the question is why dont we practice gambling with our private lifes?! Why we always have a silly fear inside of us, that stop us from living our dreams?!
The society had a huge progress in the last 6000 years and even since 1970, since gambling was considered as a way of enjoying life, but the philosophy of gambling is still not part of our mental dna.
Dreaming is ok.
Working for your dreams is ok.
But without gambling, at least a little bit, the huge success you are looking for ...
that quatuum jump will not appear.
Define for yourself, which is the gambling process you need to follow... and just do it.
Adrian G Dumitru
6
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
THE BEAUTY OF BEING DIFFERENT
Most of us are just clones of the standard human being and we dont go out of the statistics ... and if we do it ... we never go so far of the dogmatic way of being in the nowadays society.
Being different should not be just a choice, but a way of being.
Being different does not mean to play the role of a person that just dont want to follow the rules ... being different means to be just ... YOU.
We had been teached not to break the rules ... and that s why being different means breaking the rules.
But one day, without realising not even for a second ... just over night ... we change and we become different.
We wake up, look in the mirror and see a different person than you saw few days ago.
You see someone else ... a projection .... acting differently on the stage of life.
You dont understand ... a thing.
And you start asking what happened, what had changed?! ... cause you have no clue.
And then ... you admit it ... YOU ARE IN LOVE.
Yesss ... Love can change us, love can make us fly, love can let us be different ... love can teach us and let us become ...US ... a different person than you use to think you are.
Love is everything ... just dare to live into the story!
Adrian G Dumitru
7
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
MILK THE PIGEON
There is an interesting book with this title, for the ones that started to ask themself:
“What The Hell Should I Do With My Life?
“How do I find work I love?"
"How do I create an awesome, meaningful life?"
And the list with questions is continuing on and on .... and making them stop is a
difficult task.
Starting to define meaning of life or in particular the meaning of your life is going to be an interesting journey.
It might not appear right away or may discover that there is no purpose at all or maybe the only purpose should be to discover and heal your soul.
The long list with existential questions may also take you to an emotional bankrupcy state, but again ... dont worry ... just continue the road. Just let everything happen ... good or bad or whatever it is.
Feeling lost, bored and with no meaning is going to last soon just after you discover that starting to define and redefine the way you see everything is the key.
Knowing what you dont want, but not what you want will be just part of the journey.
Adrian G Dumitru
8
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
AN INDISCRIMINATE HUNDER FOR
APPRECIATION OR AFFECTION
Why we post our lifes on social media?!
Why we look who liked or photos?!
Why we care so much obout other what people think of us?!
Art of defining life in the contemporary society should start with those 3 silly questions.
Seneca was a nice guy who lived about 2000 years ago.
If you read his thoughts, and dont know who he was ... and read especially his ideas about the mouth of the world, you might think that he is probably a professor of philosophy speaking about our society from 21st century.
So our value is defined by the mouth of the world?! It was the same 2000 years ago?!
George Soros has an interesting theory about the values on the stock markets. He says that the values are defined by what people think that other people think. So ... we dont speak about real values, but by prices influenced of the opinions of people involved in buying - selling process.
This is why if a group of people start to sell, they all start to sell and the values goes down and vice versa.
Letting other people define your real value in the “stock market” of social media ... in the end proves to be a silly thing.
Nobody can define your value better than you and nobody has the right to underevaluate your actual position.
Adrian G Dumitru
9
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
RUN A WILD GOOSE CHASE
What happens when you are 25-35-45 ... married ... with children ... and your life is not what you wanted to be?!
What if, without realising, you fall in love of someone else?!
Well, in one point, we all become experts in questions.
The good news is that if you are at this level of asking yourself tens of questions, some of them without answears, you already started to master the art of defining.
You dont need to read tens or hundreds of books.
My life does not have the same meaning in here as your life and vice versa. Well ... questions are coming in your mind, but your heart cannot be controlled anymore.
This is when you start run a wild goose chase.
In the end, its an experience, which ... indeed can ruin your life or heal your soul.
Everything you need to keep in mind is that life is beautiful and worth enjoying it.
Run a wild goose chase ...sometimes make no sense ... but everything happens for a reason.
Adrian G Dumitru
10
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
CAN THE ENLIGHTENMENT BE OBTAINED
IN THE ACTUAL ERA?!
There is a zen quote: “Before enlightenment; chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment; chop wood, carry water.”
Sounds a little bit silly with no sense in the world we live now, but if you try to see the meaning from this quote, your life might be changed.
Enlightment is a strange concept, but maybe the whole meaning of life is to obtain the enlightment.
Most of us are not happy with the life we have.
Maybe we will never be happy with what our life means.
There is always a big gap between our desires and what we see in the dailly life.
Months are passing and then years are passing and nothing changes. Whatever happens we are happy maybe for just a second and again the gap appears in our thoughts.
The big mistake is that we dont know to define very clear what we want in life and to fight for that ... and the gap appears again and again.
The whole journey to the desire itself should be enjoyed with all our hearts.
When we enjoy the moment itself ... then you will feel alive.
“Before enlightenment; chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment; chop wood, carry water.” .... means enjoy the moment, just as it is, no matter what you do.
When you feel the joy on your soul, you become alive and happy. Speak with you today .... define enlightenment and enjoy your life!
Adrian G Dumitru
11
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
TOUCHING THE HORIZON LINE IS OUR
MAINE OBSESSIVE DESIRE
If you ask a good business man about money and when he will stop this desire of more and more money is like if you should ask an alcoholic why he does not stop when he thinks he drunk enough.
The desire of more is part of our mental dna.
Lots of people, men and women, from all over the world, are using tinder and other apps to date ... but not just to find a soul mate but to date with as many new partners as posible.
More of them become sex addicted.
Using alcohol or drugs ... is usually ending up not just tasting ... but being addicted for life.
We usually find something we like to do and become the slaves of our pleasures.
The desire of more and more is like wanting to touch the horizon line.
You will never be able to feed enough these silly desires.
If you have the power to see this in your life and define very clear the addiction to something, step by step you can heal yourself.
Drinking is not something bad. Drinking a lot might ruin your life.
Tasting drugs in clubs just to have fun and enjoy the evening might not be the worst thing you ever did.
The problem is that in many case you loose control of the situation and “the more and more” is controling you.
This is when the addiction start to define you in silly way.
And truth be told, the horozin line cannot be touch.
In life you have the liberty to taste everything you want, but dont loose the control on yourself.
Life is beautiful as long as the moments you live define you.
If is not something you like to see ... JUST STOP.
Adrian G Dumitru
12
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
DEPRESSION
Play the game of defining with any strong emotion you may have.
Depression is feeling the huge gap between the actual situation where you are and where you dream to be.
You have 2 choices to eliminate it: you start to enjoy the present moment just as it is, no matter where you are or what you do ... or you use all this negative energy as a fuel to go in the directions of your dream life.
Depression might look like an illness, but in the end is a stage where you identify yourself with some silly thoughts.
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
THE ART OF
DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you
how to ask questions about your lost way in life
Adrian G Dumitru
Adrian G Dumitru
1
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
ADRIAN DUMITRU
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
Year: 2020
Author: Adrian Dumitru
Adrian G Dumitru
2
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
IT'S ALL ABOUT DEFINING
People are going to try to define you. Let Them. In the end, their definition doesn't really matter – it's how you define yourself that does.
Adrian G Dumitru
3
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
INTRODUCTION
Truth be told we want an over night change in our lifes.
There are many moments when the actual reality is very difficult to handle and looks like we have no escape at all.
We dream of a quatum jump, even if we dont understand the concept very well. In few words, the reality sucks and we dream of a life that we will never have, because deep inside us, we dont really believe we will ever meet this reality.
We have a fake attitude that we are looking for change, but this attitude is just a mask for our fears... as them not to be seen.
So we wonder today if there is a way of how our lifes can be changed in what we think that should be better for us.
Does it exists a system that we could follow and achieve our dream life?! But it must be a simple way ... otherwise we know that we will not follow the path.
Everything is happening is related to us, and everything could happen is also related to us.
The magic answear, because we are looking only for magic answears, is the art of defining life.
Yes ... this is an art.
We need to start be honest with ourself, and all the answears to simple questions as “why am i fat?! ... because i eat to much” , “why my partner is cheating on me?! ... because i did not knew to be that perfect partner that i had to be” and the list of questions will go on.
We need to start defining what we dont like. Once we undestand that the change is in our powers and if we really want a change, we will start the process of achieving the new life we dream at.
We dont need to go to a therapist, we dont need to study motivational issues of social media and dont even need to read hundreds or thousands of books to start the change process.
The art of defining our lifes, means that we have the courage to understand what we dont like and define very clear how our reality should look like.
Adrian G Dumitru
4
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
The depression, or what we call depression, because many things are unclear in our minds, is this huge gap between where we are now and where we want to be. We are looking for a magic bridge that should help us go very easilly from one point to the other.
The process itself is a very simple one, as long as we decide to be honest to us.
The art of defining ... yes ... is an art.
And also to live ... is an art.
Once we decide that we are brave enough to live our lifes... the dream life... the magic will happen, cause all the magic is our powers.
Adrian G Dumitru
5
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
GAMBLING
Since 1970 gambling started to be considered as a way of having fun and socializing in all modern countries.
There are arheological evidences from 6000 years ago that people practice gambling at that time.
Gambling is a way of dreaming that you can get a huge benefit right away ... that can change your life to a much higher level.
Basiclly, the concept of quatuum jumping can be seen in gambling.
There are all kinds of gambling, and the dose of high risk exists.
But the question is why dont we practice gambling with our private lifes?! Why we always have a silly fear inside of us, that stop us from living our dreams?!
The society had a huge progress in the last 6000 years and even since 1970, since gambling was considered as a way of enjoying life, but the philosophy of gambling is still not part of our mental dna.
Dreaming is ok.
Working for your dreams is ok.
But without gambling, at least a little bit, the huge success you are looking for ...
that quatuum jump will not appear.
Define for yourself, which is the gambling process you need to follow... and just do it.
Adrian G Dumitru
6
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
THE BEAUTY OF BEING DIFFERENT
Most of us are just clones of the standard human being and we dont go out of the statistics ... and if we do it ... we never go so far of the dogmatic way of being in the nowadays society.
Being different should not be just a choice, but a way of being.
Being different does not mean to play the role of a person that just dont want to follow the rules ... being different means to be just ... YOU.
We had been teached not to break the rules ... and that s why being different means breaking the rules.
But one day, without realising not even for a second ... just over night ... we change and we become different.
We wake up, look in the mirror and see a different person than you saw few days ago.
You see someone else ... a projection .... acting differently on the stage of life.
You dont understand ... a thing.
And you start asking what happened, what had changed?! ... cause you have no clue.
And then ... you admit it ... YOU ARE IN LOVE.
Yesss ... Love can change us, love can make us fly, love can let us be different ... love can teach us and let us become ...US ... a different person than you use to think you are.
Love is everything ... just dare to live into the story!
Adrian G Dumitru
7
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
MILK THE PIGEON
There is an interesting book with this title, for the ones that started to ask themself:
“What The Hell Should I Do With My Life?
“How do I find work I love?"
"How do I create an awesome, meaningful life?"
And the list with questions is continuing on and on .... and making them stop is a
difficult task.
Starting to define meaning of life or in particular the meaning of your life is going to be an interesting journey.
It might not appear right away or may discover that there is no purpose at all or maybe the only purpose should be to discover and heal your soul.
The long list with existential questions may also take you to an emotional bankrupcy state, but again ... dont worry ... just continue the road. Just let everything happen ... good or bad or whatever it is.
Feeling lost, bored and with no meaning is going to last soon just after you discover that starting to define and redefine the way you see everything is the key.
Knowing what you dont want, but not what you want will be just part of the journey.
Adrian G Dumitru
8
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
AN INDISCRIMINATE HUNDER FOR
APPRECIATION OR AFFECTION
Why we post our lifes on social media?!
Why we look who liked or photos?!
Why we care so much obout other what people think of us?!
Art of defining life in the contemporary society should start with those 3 silly questions.
Seneca was a nice guy who lived about 2000 years ago.
If you read his thoughts, and dont know who he was ... and read especially his ideas about the mouth of the world, you might think that he is probably a professor of philosophy speaking about our society from 21st century.
So our value is defined by the mouth of the world?! It was the same 2000 years ago?!
George Soros has an interesting theory about the values on the stock markets. He says that the values are defined by what people think that other people think. So ... we dont speak about real values, but by prices influenced of the opinions of people involved in buying - selling process.
This is why if a group of people start to sell, they all start to sell and the values goes down and vice versa.
Letting other people define your real value in the “stock market” of social media ... in the end proves to be a silly thing.
Nobody can define your value better than you and nobody has the right to underevaluate your actual position.
Adrian G Dumitru
9
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
RUN A WILD GOOSE CHASE
What happens when you are 25-35-45 ... married ... with children ... and your life is not what you wanted to be?!
What if, without realising, you fall in love of someone else?!
Well, in one point, we all become experts in questions.
The good news is that if you are at this level of asking yourself tens of questions, some of them without answears, you already started to master the art of defining.
You dont need to read tens or hundreds of books.
My life does not have the same meaning in here as your life and vice versa. Well ... questions are coming in your mind, but your heart cannot be controlled anymore.
This is when you start run a wild goose chase.
In the end, its an experience, which ... indeed can ruin your life or heal your soul.
Everything you need to keep in mind is that life is beautiful and worth enjoying it.
Run a wild goose chase ...sometimes make no sense ... but everything happens for a reason.
Adrian G Dumitru
10
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
CAN THE ENLIGHTENMENT BE OBTAINED
IN THE ACTUAL ERA?!
There is a zen quote: “Before enlightenment; chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment; chop wood, carry water.”
Sounds a little bit silly with no sense in the world we live now, but if you try to see the meaning from this quote, your life might be changed.
Enlightment is a strange concept, but maybe the whole meaning of life is to obtain the enlightment.
Most of us are not happy with the life we have.
Maybe we will never be happy with what our life means.
There is always a big gap between our desires and what we see in the dailly life.
Months are passing and then years are passing and nothing changes. Whatever happens we are happy maybe for just a second and again the gap appears in our thoughts.
The big mistake is that we dont know to define very clear what we want in life and to fight for that ... and the gap appears again and again.
The whole journey to the desire itself should be enjoyed with all our hearts.
When we enjoy the moment itself ... then you will feel alive.
“Before enlightenment; chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment; chop wood, carry water.” .... means enjoy the moment, just as it is, no matter what you do.
When you feel the joy on your soul, you become alive and happy. Speak with you today .... define enlightenment and enjoy your life!
Adrian G Dumitru
11
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
TOUCHING THE HORIZON LINE IS OUR
MAINE OBSESSIVE DESIRE
If you ask a good business man about money and when he will stop this desire of more and more money is like if you should ask an alcoholic why he does not stop when he thinks he drunk enough.
The desire of more is part of our mental dna.
Lots of people, men and women, from all over the world, are using tinder and other apps to date ... but not just to find a soul mate but to date with as many new partners as posible.
More of them become sex addicted.
Using alcohol or drugs ... is usually ending up not just tasting ... but being addicted for life.
We usually find something we like to do and become the slaves of our pleasures.
The desire of more and more is like wanting to touch the horizon line.
You will never be able to feed enough these silly desires.
If you have the power to see this in your life and define very clear the addiction to something, step by step you can heal yourself.
Drinking is not something bad. Drinking a lot might ruin your life.
Tasting drugs in clubs just to have fun and enjoy the evening might not be the worst thing you ever did.
The problem is that in many case you loose control of the situation and “the more and more” is controling you.
This is when the addiction start to define you in silly way.
And truth be told, the horozin line cannot be touch.
In life you have the liberty to taste everything you want, but dont loose the control on yourself.
Life is beautiful as long as the moments you live define you.
If is not something you like to see ... JUST STOP.
Adrian G Dumitru
12
THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
DEPRESSION
Play the game of defining with any strong emotion you may have.
Depression is feeling the huge gap between the actual situation where you are and where you dream to be.
You have 2 choices to eliminate it: you start to enjoy the present moment just as it is, no matter where you are or what you do ... or you use all this negative energy as a fuel to go in the directions of your dream life.
Depression might look like an illness, but in the end is a stage where you identify yourself with some silly thoughts.
