Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
One of the wisest thing you are teached to do in life is to control your mind ... but i think is also important to face your emotions ... and dont suppress them ... but let them come outside.
Just DARE to feel alive and dont suppress your basic instinct.
Dare to act in life in any situation at all.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
THE HUGE FEAR OF OUR EMOTIONS
Truth be told, we have a huge fear of our emotions, most of the times cause we cannot control them.
We have this control freak on others, but also on any situation from our lives. The colloquial term control freak describes a person with a personality disorder characterized by undermining other people, usually by way of controlling behavior manifested in the ways that he or she acts to dictate the order of things in a social situation.
Coming back to us, if we honestlly define what we do, we realise that everything is done this way just to avoid speaking directlly with our emotions.
But what you dont understand is that the soul is speaking to you through the emotions.
When for example, you feel fear regarding a special situation ... it means a smaller or bigger danger for you as a person.
The next thing you should do, just after the emotion is coming is just use your mind and meditate ... defining the whole scenario and even the worst case scenario that can happen.
At least you realise where you are, and even if things are not looking great ... you know where you are situated and the emotions cant conquer you.
Applying the same philosophy ... one day you can be in the position of falling in love.
Again ... you do the same mistakes, cause you are afraid of the emotions. Love is stronger than us, but being in love can make you feel alive. Letting your emotions be part of your dailly life ... will let you see things differentlly.
You will be happy, but also unhappy.
Its like a dance ... going to the left or right, but walking on this path, at least ...
life will not be so boring anymore.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
Why?!
Cause you will feel alive.
Our emotions make us be alive.
Daring to accept the gift of emotions is a wise way of living.
Hiding them ... is living in the artificial mode.
Let the heart guide you ... not your brain.
Just DARE ...
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
SILENCE ... THE ULTIMATE STAGE
Love can make us feel happy.
Love can make us feel the joy inside the soul ... and make us understand what means enjoy the present moment.
But somehow, if you dont know to manage the story ... love can hurt you a lot.
It s a huge emotion, that you feel deep, deep inside.
You know, i only met too kinds of persons, talking about love.
The first type, are the ones that are in love. If you stay with them for a while, you can only hear things about love.
The second type are the ones that ended the love story, the hurted ones.
They only think of that person, day and night, but in the end there is nothing that can be fixed, cause the love story had ended.
Even you you meet that person again and again ... you can only practice the silence.
There is nothing you could say ... cause you said a lot into the past ... so many plans and dreams you had togheter.
But behind the silence .... the memories will always be there ... in your soul.
Life can not steal them from there.
The silence from the end will only be that mask that will protect all those memories you had togheter.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
THE THEORY OF CARPE DIEM
AND OTHERS BLA BLA BLA
Carpe diem is a Latin aphorism, usually (though questionably) translated "seize the day", taken from book 1 of the Roman poet Horace's work Odes.
The exclamation is used to urge someone to make the most of the present time and give little thought to the future.
We somehow heard so many theories about how to live our lives that we dont even care when we hear a new one.
A theory can help you if you know how to apply it to your life.
You can read about all the theories in the world, but as long as you cant find a path to see that theory in your life is useless.
Carpe Diem means to live the present moment ... and enjoy it.
There are only few moments in life that we had the power to enjoy.
I remember in the last years only 2 moments ... one reading a nice book, staying near the sea ... the second moment driking a lovelly coffee in a coffee shop in the center of the city.
I mean ... in those moments i had 100% connection with the present moment.
So ... 3 years ... 2 moments ... and i am laughing writing this.
You know ... i could do this everyday ... at least drink a coffee into a beautiful coffee shop, cause i dont have the sea so close to me.
I could probably read a book in there, while enjoying my coffee.
So ... the theory of carpe diem is a fantastic one, just as many, many other theories, but maybe i should just create a pattern for that. Just like i am washing my teeths.
Imagine ... your kid would ask you ... “Hey ... did you wash your teeths today?” ... well ... i am sure you did ... at least one time, after waking up in the morning.
What if you are asked ... “Today had you enjoyed any of the moments?! The day is usually boring, especially over the work week, but still ... has many moments”. We try to discover ourselves all the time, but we miss the esential ... the most important rule of living the day ... CARPE DIEM.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
ONE DAY
Everything has a begining, but also an end, even if it s quite difficult to accept it. The only meaning of a love story is to fix our broken souls ... and just after fixing ... it brakes it again.
Accepting love into your heart is accepting a huge risk and we are used not to play risky, but to play safe.
We do a double game ... but still deep inside us we want to meet that infinite love.
But the Universe is laughing ... and sends the infinite love, but just as an imposible love story.
So .. the question is: how do we meet the infinite playing on safe mode?!
I think we are too cowards to play risky, to play all in and forget about the double game.
When you try to do the double game, and think you can win in any circumstances you already distroyed the concept of infinite.
Sometimes you just need to define if you turn left or right ... or you just forget everything and go straight, just continuing a boring life.
Playing in safe mode way will make all mistakes visible ... and destroy the magic of the love story.
Dare to define what the word happiness means to you ... and then you will receive all the answears.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
THE TRUTH ABOUT THE TRUTH IS
THAT WE KNOW THE TRUTH, BUT WE DISLIKE THE TRUTH
The theory of defining is based on the idea that you will meditate and be honest enough with you, so that you can understand the reality you live in.
That will help you then redefine the things so that you go in the new direction you want to follow.
The problem is that even that we know the truth, we dislike it so much that we try to hide very simple and clear things for years.
People have all kinds of addictions from eating, drinking, taking drugs till the addiction to love, hiden into the mask of imposible love stories.
But one day, even if you hide all those dirty things from your life, everything will come to the surface.
You cannot hide the truth forever.
In that day you will need to face the real facts ... the reality and decide if you start cleaning all the mud that you see inside of you or just forget everything and follow another path in life.
Being honest and defining everything will help you a lot, especially if you decide to change your life.
Finding the path for the change ... is start thinking about redefining reality.
So even if your actual life just sucks, it doens t mean that you are stuck forever into that situation.
Just dare to define and redefine!
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
FEELING YOU LOOSE THE GAME
You have a chance and then another ... and maybe another.
Is like the Universe is not letting you loose the game, as long as you still believe that there is a chance.
But one day you start feeling that you are going to loose and that’s only cause deep inside you only see ZERO CHANCE for winning.
The Universe leaves you alone, so that you have time to meditate and think again of a new path so that you will win.
When your soul is feeling the time has come, then everything will happen.
It s about asking, believing and receiving.
Saying “I feel like i am loosing you and there is nothing i can do” is just an illusion.
At the right time ... everything happens just the way we want things to happen.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
I VE LOST THE TRAIN
Life gives us all kinds of opportunities, but maybe we miss 90% of them.
But it’s ok. There are lessons we need to learn and is difficult to understand in that moment what is really going on.
And we have small dreams, but also big dreams.
When you miss small opportunities is ok, cause maybe tomorrow same opportunity will appear again ... but when we miss the big dream, we realise the impact will going to have on our life.
We dont have the power to believe that maybe that is not the path.
The soul is almost crying, thinking that the big chance had disappeared forever.
We missed the train indeed.
But have you ever thought that missing that train, was to chance to meet a new person in the railroad station ... a person that could really change your life?! Truth be told after a train is leaving, another one is coming and then another one is leaving.
Life is full of opportunities, so just smile ... and continue your life.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
HOME, SWEET HOME
… OR JUST A PRIVATE PRISON?!
I love houses ... and also everything has to do with interior design.
Nowadays people are investing in their homes almost everything they earn or even more just to create an enjoyable and cozy ambient for their famillies.
Real estate is a huge business today, only because people have the believe that a beautiful house can make them and their familly happy.
But the truth is that you can be a king or a queen, live in a huge palace, but deep inside yourself feel empty and very unhappy.
Is not the house that can make the familly happy ... but the people living in the house that can be togheter a happy familly.
You could come home and say “home, sweet home!”, or leave home and say “thanks God is monday and i leave to work”.
You can live in a tiny house and feel that you have a gorgeous home ... and live in a palace and feel you live in a prison.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
INSPIRED BY THE
WORLD WE LIVE IN
We are inspired by the people around us.
And new people that appears in our lives ... inspire us most.
A writer for example is inspired by the love of his life and there is a saying ... if you want to be immortal, live a love story with a writer.
But some people will be offended if will see that inspires you.
Dont know why, but somehow maybe they dont want to mix their energies with yours, until you ask them that.
Recentlly, a lovey girl from Iran inspired me with something, but in the end she was very mad seeing the story.
We like it or not, we interact a lot with some of the people we meet ....cause we
act in such a way as to have an effect on each other.
Some of the connections are more powerful than the others, but in the end is our choice what we see and how we get inspired by those connections.
So just dare to be inspired by anything or anybody you want ... dont ask ... just do it.
Adrian G Dumitru
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THE ART OF DEFINING LIFE
Personal development through a collection of writings teaching you how to ask questions about your lost way in life
A WISE MAN ONCE SAID … NOTHING
There are 3 ways of acting on the stage of life.
First way is being shy and not knowing what to say when something is happening. We just look, dont accept things, but dont have the power to deal with the situation itself.
Later, we grow up and we start to know how to manage discussions and situations.
We try to explain our point of view and we even get angry and over react to the situations.
We have the impression that we control the scene, but probably the scene is controlling us.
When you get angry, you loose control on yourself ... and you loose the game. Some of us, much later on ... understand that the true way of acting in life is just watching the scene ... and say nothing.
This is the real meaning of the saying “A wise man once said nothing” . Understand that you have the right to not react in any way at all is the true wisdom.
Is difficult to understand that ... in the begining you say nothing, but you are very angry inside of you ... then you affirm yourself, but also get angry disliking different things ... and on the last stage of wisdom ... you allow yourself to dont react in any way at all.
