For example ... a partner that will start having an abstract behavior ... is a partner that you almost lost ... but is still there.
Being abstract ... means ... does not have the courage to say ... that wants to be a different person ... and even worst ... you are “the communist party”. Everything is just a result of the fact that ... the partner does not feel near you the freedom of being the one ... that always wanted to be ... and the change is knocking on the door ... with all that this will include.
The abstract always hides something ... and when it comes about people ... is mainly the smell of change.
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And one day, the change happens
... and you start laughing ... of you
I always believed in the concept of plan A, B, C etc.
But my real problem was that i invested too much time and energy in all those plans.
Years ago, i decided to retired at 40 and had a very simple plan.
I was involved for many years in the internet business and i was making good money all the time.
Comparing with my friends ... i became a rich person ... but it was not enough for me.
I invested all my money, till the last cent from my pocket ... in real estate.
I bought or built houses and apartments.
And believe me ... the plan was quite simple ... i just wanted 30 houses ... as everyday to get money from renting.
30 days ... 30 invoice of renting.
I thought i could survive very well ... with this money.
So ... having only 15 properties, i decided to build another 15 ... and i started building a residential complex.
15 houses, a small house for fitness, a big kitchen for the ones that want to cook for a party, bar, swimming pool etc etc.
The concept of the complex was ... live as in vacation.
It was almost like a hotel.
It took me 5 years to finish the project.
It was a nightmare ... but at the end i thought i will be financial independent and i continued the path till i finished everything.
I rented the houses ... and then the problems appeared.
Everyday it was something.
Had problems with the water, with the fire ... with electricity ... and even with the fact that the people living in there started to believe that they live in a hotel ... and i was the one that i was taking care of them.
Basically ... everything started to be a nightmare.
I got retired at 42 instead of 40 ... but i imagined things differently.
I did not dreamed to stay on the beach with a cocktail in front of me ... but still i
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thought that investing in the renting business ... will be easy money and i could relax ... without having so much headache.
In the end i saw that i lost 20 years working very hard and investing everything in something ... that still produces headaches.
Today i stay on the sofa, from my living room, writing books from my iphone. All i need is a good coffee ... and all i dream is to write a good book, that could help many, many people to understand what personal development really means ... and have a best seller.
And i realize ... i could do this without working for 20 years ... and i start laughing ... of me.
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Understanding the change
The secret of change?!
... asking the priest that stayed in prison for years ... “What is the meaning of life in prison?”
... and he replies ... saying everything:
“To learn ... to die.”
Nelson Mandela served 27 years in prison ... and i wonder myself how the mind of such a person can change ... in such a long time.
I believe that even if he was very powerful before he entered in prison, at the time he became the first president of South Africa ... he was ready for the big change ... but not only for himself, but for his country. So ... what is the meaning of life is prison?!
Is it .. to learn to die?!
We need to see in here the message behind the message.
The “prison” is your actual life ... your daily habits ... your disability to make the swift so that you can become a new you, the one you dream to be ... the best version of yourself.
“To learn ... to die” ... means to forget about your old you ... the one you want to get rid of so that you can act at your full potential. But ... do you agree to “die”?!
You want for example to become a great writer ... but can you lose 12 hours a day writing and reading?!
Do you agree to wake up at 5 am in the morning, so that you can still have time for other things during the day?!
Do you agree to forget about the benefits you actually have today ... in your actual life?!
A new you ... will come with other rules, other advantages ... other conditions. Can you totally disconnect from the actual present?!
People as Nelson Mandela, or as many others that stayed in prisons for many, many years... were forced to be disconnected from the present ... because of being arrested at that time.
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You see .. if you really want the big change to appear in your life ... you need to meditate more at all those great personalities that had to change their life completely and ask yourself what would mean for you ... “ to learn ... to die”.
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Failing to do the change ... the day you see them happy ... laughing of you
Antoine de Saint-Exupery used to say that the success of our friends is our own success.
All theories about success say that you need to study, but also admire the success we see around ...but the envy is sometimes bigger than the principles we need to implement so that we follow the path of a beautiful life.
A dear friend of mine, that has very powerful energies, but does not know so much theory about spirituality ... just told me, few days ago ... about an experiment she did about 4-5 times in the last few months.
She is a great businesswoman ... but she noticed that great success appears in her life only when she disconnects for a while from the closest people from her life.
Every time she does this ... about week after ... something amazing happens. She understood that somehow, in a different environment ... without the energies of all those people from her life ... she goes right away to her full potential.
But how do you recognize those people that are sending you negative energies in your life?
The funny thing is that in the moment of failing to do important changes ... you see them happy because of that.
The problem is that we just can’t take them out from our lives ... but the trick is that we can ignore them for a while ... at least till the moment when we succeed the change we want to have.
Should we be angry on those persons?!
No ... is useless.
On the stage of life they are not ready yet to understand the message Saint-Exupery sent so many, many years ago.
Meanwhile ... we should pay attention at all those vibes that are around us ... and chose to live life with beautiful people near us.
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Changing the script ... just by
sending beautiful vibes
For more than 20 years i’ve been involved in the internet business.
I probably worked with more than 10.000 clients ... one by one and it was indeed a beautiful experience.
The funny thing is that i worked with a large spectrum of people ... starting from very small companies to banks and even different presidents of the country i was living in.
And one day something strange happened.
Someone recommended me to a plastic surgery doctor and i signed a monthly contract for advertising with her.
She was totally unsatisfied with the people before me and needed a change right away, cause she didn’t had so many clients at that time.
I was happy about the contract and said to myself that i will take care so that she will become successful again.
And i don’t know what really happened ... but i totally forgot about her.
The company was charging her every month ... she paid me every time, but we just did nothing for her.
3 months after, her assistant called me.
In that second, i realized that i totally forgot about them ... but the lady started her speech ... “Hey! I don’t know what you are doing over the internet, but the day we started the contract with you ... we are fully booked as a clinic. Clients from everywhere are calling everyday ... and we are amazed of what is going on!”.
I was smiling ... realizing that probably i just sent them good vibes ... and this is
why everything works perfect and decided to continue as an experiment ... just to
do nothing and see what is going on.
And everything was perfect.
They were so happy cause they met me.
2 years later, a competitor ... trying to get my contract, explained to the doctor that i was doing nothing, except charging her ... which in fact was true.
She wanted to call me to court and start a trial against me ... but they just stoped after i asked them ... “What are you going to tell to the judge?!
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That everything was running amazing just because i was a magician?!”
And the funny thing was that my competitor took my contract .... and 3 moths
later the assistant of that doctor called me back saying that they don’t have clients anymore.
Today i believe that you can change the script of a story ... just by sending beautiful vibes.
And maybe it’s time for you also to have this experiment.
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When it comes about change
... attitude is everything
During my lifetime, i had few times the chance to make a quantum jump ... and even if i dreamed for it, for such a long time ... i failed.
When i say ... quantum jump ... i mean a big change that can be done over night ... and i believe ... in that moment it was all about my attitude. When the shift happens ... the Universe is with you ... and you have all the support you need ... with only one condition ... and that is to adapt your beliefs and standards with the new reality.
It actually means ... to accept that everything is happening is true and act in the proper way.
Even recently, after being involved in a project of 5 years ... after working as a slave to complete it ... when everything finished and all i had to do was to benefit from that work ... well ... i felt overwhelmed of everything is going on.
I prepared myself for 5 years, but the shift from investing my full energy to just enjoy what i’ve created ... was annoying. I could not adapt to the change.
And it was not the first time when i saw at myself that i can’t adapt myself to a beautiful change.
I proved that i don’t have the ability to enjoy the benefits the Universe offered me.
I dreamed for those benefits ... i asked for them ... but i could not embrace the change.
I planned everything ... in all the possible details ... but i could not “fix” my attitude.
I had the knowledge to make the change ... i had the power to fight against all the barriers to have the process of change completed ... but i could not fight against me and make myself accept that i really succeeded to have the change. I had the chance of quantum jump for 4-5 times in my life ... but the change was overwhelming.
I could fight to have it ... but could not accept it. It was a paradox!
Then i realized ... that the only problem i have in my life .. it’s me and my silly attitude!
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“When it’s over, leave.
Don’t continue watering a dead flower”
We really don’t understand what the concept of change means for our lives. Sometimes the change might appear as a desire ... but sometimes it can be ... a must.
And it becomes a must ... cause you live in a “dead” reality ... that does not make sense anymore.
A dear friend of mine ... married by many years ... was very deep in love with ...
another lady.
His marriage was ruined ... but he was so happy because of the new love story.
And it was an amazing story.
He understood that everything he had with his wife ... was a relationship dead by years.
But the funny thing was that later on ... the same happened with the relationship
he had with the other lady.
Something broke between them also.
A great love story ... became almost without realizing a toxic relationship.
He could not believe it.
Tried to save the marriage ... but failed..
Tried to save the relationship with the mistress and failed again.
Even if he knew the truth ... he could not accept that he was the “dead flower”. He was not feeling alive for years ... and the new lady from his life ... was only created the illusion of happiness, cause someone that is not feeling alive ... cannot be happy.
The root of the problems with those ladies ... was his lost soul ... but is much easier to pretend that you continue “watering” ... something that represent a “dead flower” ... by a long, long time.
Yes ... sometimes the time for change has come ... but as for the case of my friend ... the change might be something totally different that it might look like. The guy ... had to change ... not the ladies from his life ... but his soul ... leave the way he used to be and start showing his beautiful side. ... and the truth is that the change is only a decision!
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The change ... daring to meet
the best version of yourself
I recently met a very beautiful lady.
28, divorced ... an amazing soul.
She knew i was married and forbidden me to fall in love with her ... but we became good friends.
And she started to tell me the story of her life.
She had an amazing love story with a married man ... but even if the love between them was so strong ... his jealousy ruined everything.
