I mean luxury vacations, beautiful cars, expensive clothes etc etc. The list could be infinite ... if the woman really knows what she wants ... but i believe that if you love her ... you will take care of all her desires.
Years ago, a dear friend of mine had a relationship with a extremely beautiful young woman, that loved receiving presents.
Once they went to the mall and she asked for a simple jacket that costed about 500 usd.
My friend was really annoyed and i advices him at that time to play a little game with her... just go to the mall with his planinum credit card and buy everything she desires.
I even told him about a documentary movie i saw with Michael Jackson in an antiques shop ... saying .. “i want this ... and this ...
and that ... and this one please also ... ohhh .... i love this one” ...
and all the articles were minimum 250.000 usd each.
I know my friend pretty well ... and he was wealthy enough to afford such a game ... but he refused in the end to do it.
He just wanted the beautiful young woman ... but he also needed as the relationship to have real spiritual and emotional values. He refused to play the game of desires.
Today i started to ask myself if i would do ... all the important advices i gave to others .... in my real life.
So ... are the beautiful and expensive presents important into a love story?!
Adrian G Dumitru
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Can a love story, between 2 people that are used to have only beautiful expensive things ... survive without the art of surprising the partner with all kinds of presents?!
Can such a person be converted to a different path?! ... to a spiritual one?!
I believe ... everything is just a choise ... and the path itself ... can be different than it used to be in other relationships we had in the past. But a healthy relationships means a little bit of everything ... even a little bit of ... beautiful expensive presents.
And truth be told is that it’s quite difficult as in the real life to follow only a spiritual path in the relationships we have.
... and women just love to be surprised with amazing things!
Adrian G Dumitru
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The infinite “hahahaha” ... or why
the illusion looks so real even after such a long time
It happens i know 2 guys that always used to chat about their love life.
One of them was in love of a woman that looked like an amazing lady, but in fact was only a shrew.
His friend tried to explain to him for months that everything is only an illusion and that he is only lying to himself that he is living the love story of his life.
In fact the guy was living the disappointment of his life ... but the illusion itself looked so real even after such a long time.
Seeing that there is nothing to do with his lost friend, the other guy just started to laugh of him ... and everything was an infinite “hahahaha”.
You see ... you cannot offer the guidance to someone to a path of awakening ... if that person persists on and on ... making the same statistic mistakes day by day ... week by week ... month by month and then ... years are passing and you still see that toxic situation. The blindness exists into the love stories.
You cannot get rid of it ... and maybe the only way to say your opinion as a friend is just to laugh in front of an illusion.
I mean ... good friends can afford to say anything to each other ... and indeed if nothing you would say can reveal the illusion to a dear friend ... smiling and laughing is the only path.
I am calling it today, the infinite “hahaha” ... or the perfect answear to an illusion that looks so real even after such a long time.
The truth is that sometimes we have the impression we met a muse,
Adrian G Dumitru
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that gave us excellent vibe and in fact ... it could be a shrew or a jerk that only makes our life miserable.
So ... just let your real friends laugh of you .... cause you might need
to see what the illusion is about.
Adrian G Dumitru
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She still loves him …
“She has been reading herself in detail ... She is a complex lady ... All her parts want him ... Despite of his missteps ... She still loves him ...” (Arij Emaan)
She got lost on the paths of the love story.
Analyzing everything ... even the missteps are useless ... because she wants him from all her heart.
She was analyzing herself also ... and saw that she is quite a complex lady ... but she can’t control herself ... cause still loves him.
He is kind of an obsession ... but she can’t control the love story ...
and maybe the love story controls her.
Does she has any escape?!
Does she wants to escape?!
Is she mad on herself cause she loves him so much?!
She thought she knows her in every detail ... but in fact the love story changed her so much ... that somehow she lost the control on herself. The fact that she loves him ... that simple fact, makes her happy.
I look at her ... cause i know her ... and she adores that she is dominated in such a way by the story.
She feels so in love ... that despite of all his missteps ... she still loves him.
She has a blindness ... but she does not care.
Everything can happen ... but she is not willing the abandon from her heart the beautiful feelings of love.
She was looking for this magical love ... for such a long time ... and
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now ...
But only the time will decide ... meanwhile she prefers to remain dominated by him, by the love story ... or even by them ... as a couple.
Adrian G Dumitru
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What can we do when we start to not like anymore the way the partner changes ... but we still care
of that person and about the relationship?!
You know ... people change.
Sometimes it is a good change.
But sometimes ... maybe it’s not a good one.
Years ago, i met at my office a very nice couple.
They were young, rich and good looking.
Looked to me like the perfect couple.
... and i missed to see them for 5-6 years, till one day when he came back to my office for a new business.
I politely asked him ... how was his wife, but i saw that he did not liked the question.
He just replied that “You know ... people change!” ... and i think that in that moment i understood everything. Their relationship changed.
He thought she changed, but in fact maybe she thought the same about him.
One thing was clear to me ... they were not the perfect couple anymore.
I wonder myself if we change so much ... or in fact only our expectations change?!
The real truth is really difficult to be defined.
Maybe both partners change and maybe in a beautiful way ... but they just don’t follow the same path.
For example i have 2 dear friends, that are a nice couple.
Adrian G Dumitru
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They are togheter since the 1st grade, from primary school ... and they went in the same class in high school also ... but later, when they started university ... she started art studies and he went to a technical faculty.
Different paths and they almost lost themselves, but in the end got married.
They were different characters and even if they started to have different friends at university ... they found a way to be togheter as acouple.
You see ... even of you start to not like the way the partner starts to change ... or act, and even if you follow different paths ... maybe it’s time to readapt if you really care about that person ... and about the 2 of you as a couple.
Change is inevitable ... but change is part of life.
What we see as a change that we dislike, cause is not in our advantage ... maybe for the partner means a dream.
Just dare to accept change and life will continue in a beautiful way.
Adrian G Dumitru
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The dance of energies.
How are we all interconnected?!
Is she destroying your good energy?!
Isn’t he sends you anymore a good vibe, as he used to do in the beginning?!
What means the dance of energies and how are we all interconnected?!
... and especially why is so easy as the loved ones to change our vibes in a good way ... or a bad one?! Is that good ... or bad?!
Should be silly to answear that we dislike when the loved one just ...
destroy our vibe in only one second.
But it’s the truth and this is one of the reasons of why relationships starts to not function ok anymore. Can you do something about that?!
Well ... there is a spiritual practice, but when you will start practicing it ... you might also have in mind that the end of the story had come. The practice it’s called cut the cords.
When in solitary time, lay down on the bed, arms positioned down ...
close eyes.
Relax breath in ... breath out to a calm state of mind. Release everything from your mind, work, writing, friends, etc Now, in your mind you have strings about your toes, raise your left hand and hold the ring upward above your tummy area as these strings are attached too.
Every one of these strings have a face, name, people that you need or want to dis attach from you, or you from them ... your right hand comes up and CUTS the cord. Say good bye in out loud voice with their name.
Adrian G Dumitru
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This releases you from the person (s)
and then from you.
When completed, throw the strings away and relax again.
The practice can be used for close friends, family members, love partners ... and anyone you actually have a connection with ... and you believe that is influencing you in a bad way.
Being very well interconnected, but also wishing to have good vibes all the time ... will almost be natural to decide at cutting the cords with that person ... or maybe influence the partner in such a positive way that can help at re becoming the person we admired so much into the past.
And i believe that even a muse deserves as from time to time ...
someone to take care of her vibe.
Adrian G Dumitru
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Love - chapter 2 — MONEY
Can money make a love story look like a love story from movies?!
We are looking far happiness .... or we live with the illusion that this is
our real search in live.
And one day ... the perfect person appears from nowhere and brings us that happiness ... at least for a while.
The couple is happy just by staying togheter ... drinking a coffee in a small restaurant, that has a good vibe.
We start to see that happiness means simple things ... and we thought for such a long time that for being happy we need money ...
lots of money ... beautiful cars, luxury vacations and everything is related with the opulence.
But why we have this illusion that happiness involves in any way something that is related with money.
I saw on social media a perfect couple, that is always in expensive vacation ... but a dear friend of mine, which is very pragmatic, just asked me how the “perfection” will look like without traveling around the world?!
So .. the simple question is .. do we need money ... or even large amount of money to be happy?!
Well ... it quite difficult to answear, cause i know lots of rich people that i did not saw happy togheter ... and i saw ordinary people that inspired me harmony when i looked at them. For being in love ... you need a connection.
Without it ... there will be no love story.
I would call this chapter 1 ... falling in love.
But does chapter 2 ... means ... “let’s talk a little bit about money?! So ... does the perfect couple needs money so that the love story continue to be perfect ... or the connection is enough?!
Adrian G Dumitru
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I mean ... the Universe arranges everything for you, so that you meet the soul mate ... but can real love be so related with money?!
Can you travel around the world without few tens of thousands of dollars?!
Years ago i met in Tunisia a lady that traveled in many, many countries just with a small salary as a teacher. She even told me ... how she was doing it.
But at that time there was no facebook, or instagram ... so that we show to our friends the check in to a luxury and expensive hotel. We just told to the friends the name of the country and about the beauty we saw in there.
So ... i believe that today ... unfortunately the perfect love story has already kind of a dogmatic scenario.
You can’t say you are the perfect couple ... if you just travel through the mountains ... with your soulmate ... but with no money in your pocket.
The illusion that the perfect scene is always related with money ... will probably dissapear when money will be in your pocket ... in large amounts ... but the connection will not be in there anymore.
Adrian G Dumitru
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“Vibes never lie”
(Antoaneta Bunea)
Imagine you should be in the position that you could choose between
having the following partners ... a very rich person ... or one that is
no so rich, but still takes care of all your desires ... and someone that
can bring you joy everyday.
What would you choose?!
Who should be the best partner?!
Or choose between a very beautiful person and one that is giving you
daily a good vibe?!
What would you chose?!
You see ... this is the meaning of what we call in life ... “illusions”. The Bible and all the great philosophers from history used a lot this concept.
You always need to see what is behind the illusion ... and how it is actually displayed in the real life.
And i read so many modern love stories ... but they don’t insist so much on the good vibe that comes from them as a couple.
The beauty of the love story comes from the pleasure of being and acting togheter on the stage of life.
So ... what is the best partner we should have?
Well ... i think whoever that person is ... if that love story gives us a good vibe ... that is the perfect partner. How’s that?!
Years ago, a dear friend of mine had a relationship with a extremely beautiful young woman, that loved receiving presents.
Once they went to the mall and she asked for a simple jacket that costed about 500 usd.
My friend was really annoyed and i advices him at that time to play a little game with her... just go to the mall with his planinum credit card and buy everything she desires.
I even told him about a documentary movie i saw with Michael Jackson in an antiques shop ... saying .. “i want this ... and this ...
and that ... and this one please also ... ohhh .... i love this one” ...
and all the articles were minimum 250.000 usd each.
I know my friend pretty well ... and he was wealthy enough to afford such a game ... but he refused in the end to do it.
He just wanted the beautiful young woman ... but he also needed as the relationship to have real spiritual and emotional values. He refused to play the game of desires.
Today i started to ask myself if i would do ... all the important advices i gave to others .... in my real life.
So ... are the beautiful and expensive presents important into a love story?!
Adrian G Dumitru
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A collection of love essays
Can a love story, between 2 people that are used to have only beautiful expensive things ... survive without the art of surprising the partner with all kinds of presents?!
Can such a person be converted to a different path?! ... to a spiritual one?!
I believe ... everything is just a choise ... and the path itself ... can be different than it used to be in other relationships we had in the past. But a healthy relationships means a little bit of everything ... even a little bit of ... beautiful expensive presents.
And truth be told is that it’s quite difficult as in the real life to follow only a spiritual path in the relationships we have.
... and women just love to be surprised with amazing things!
Adrian G Dumitru
44
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A collection of love essays
The infinite “hahahaha” ... or why
the illusion looks so real even after such a long time
It happens i know 2 guys that always used to chat about their love life.
One of them was in love of a woman that looked like an amazing lady, but in fact was only a shrew.
His friend tried to explain to him for months that everything is only an illusion and that he is only lying to himself that he is living the love story of his life.
In fact the guy was living the disappointment of his life ... but the illusion itself looked so real even after such a long time.
Seeing that there is nothing to do with his lost friend, the other guy just started to laugh of him ... and everything was an infinite “hahahaha”.
You see ... you cannot offer the guidance to someone to a path of awakening ... if that person persists on and on ... making the same statistic mistakes day by day ... week by week ... month by month and then ... years are passing and you still see that toxic situation. The blindness exists into the love stories.
You cannot get rid of it ... and maybe the only way to say your opinion as a friend is just to laugh in front of an illusion.
I mean ... good friends can afford to say anything to each other ... and indeed if nothing you would say can reveal the illusion to a dear friend ... smiling and laughing is the only path.
I am calling it today, the infinite “hahaha” ... or the perfect answear to an illusion that looks so real even after such a long time.
The truth is that sometimes we have the impression we met a muse,
Adrian G Dumitru
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that gave us excellent vibe and in fact ... it could be a shrew or a jerk that only makes our life miserable.
So ... just let your real friends laugh of you .... cause you might need
to see what the illusion is about.
Adrian G Dumitru
46
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A collection of love essays
She still loves him …
“She has been reading herself in detail ... She is a complex lady ... All her parts want him ... Despite of his missteps ... She still loves him ...” (Arij Emaan)
She got lost on the paths of the love story.
Analyzing everything ... even the missteps are useless ... because she wants him from all her heart.
She was analyzing herself also ... and saw that she is quite a complex lady ... but she can’t control herself ... cause still loves him.
He is kind of an obsession ... but she can’t control the love story ...
and maybe the love story controls her.
Does she has any escape?!
Does she wants to escape?!
Is she mad on herself cause she loves him so much?!
She thought she knows her in every detail ... but in fact the love story changed her so much ... that somehow she lost the control on herself. The fact that she loves him ... that simple fact, makes her happy.
I look at her ... cause i know her ... and she adores that she is dominated in such a way by the story.
She feels so in love ... that despite of all his missteps ... she still loves him.
She has a blindness ... but she does not care.
Everything can happen ... but she is not willing the abandon from her heart the beautiful feelings of love.
She was looking for this magical love ... for such a long time ... and
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now ...
But only the time will decide ... meanwhile she prefers to remain dominated by him, by the love story ... or even by them ... as a couple.
Adrian G Dumitru
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What can we do when we start to not like anymore the way the partner changes ... but we still care
of that person and about the relationship?!
You know ... people change.
Sometimes it is a good change.
But sometimes ... maybe it’s not a good one.
Years ago, i met at my office a very nice couple.
They were young, rich and good looking.
Looked to me like the perfect couple.
... and i missed to see them for 5-6 years, till one day when he came back to my office for a new business.
I politely asked him ... how was his wife, but i saw that he did not liked the question.
He just replied that “You know ... people change!” ... and i think that in that moment i understood everything. Their relationship changed.
He thought she changed, but in fact maybe she thought the same about him.
One thing was clear to me ... they were not the perfect couple anymore.
I wonder myself if we change so much ... or in fact only our expectations change?!
The real truth is really difficult to be defined.
Maybe both partners change and maybe in a beautiful way ... but they just don’t follow the same path.
For example i have 2 dear friends, that are a nice couple.
Adrian G Dumitru
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They are togheter since the 1st grade, from primary school ... and they went in the same class in high school also ... but later, when they started university ... she started art studies and he went to a technical faculty.
Different paths and they almost lost themselves, but in the end got married.
They were different characters and even if they started to have different friends at university ... they found a way to be togheter as acouple.
You see ... even of you start to not like the way the partner starts to change ... or act, and even if you follow different paths ... maybe it’s time to readapt if you really care about that person ... and about the 2 of you as a couple.
Change is inevitable ... but change is part of life.
What we see as a change that we dislike, cause is not in our advantage ... maybe for the partner means a dream.
Just dare to accept change and life will continue in a beautiful way.
Adrian G Dumitru
50
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A collection of love essays
The dance of energies.
How are we all interconnected?!
Is she destroying your good energy?!
Isn’t he sends you anymore a good vibe, as he used to do in the beginning?!
What means the dance of energies and how are we all interconnected?!
... and especially why is so easy as the loved ones to change our vibes in a good way ... or a bad one?! Is that good ... or bad?!
Should be silly to answear that we dislike when the loved one just ...
destroy our vibe in only one second.
But it’s the truth and this is one of the reasons of why relationships starts to not function ok anymore. Can you do something about that?!
Well ... there is a spiritual practice, but when you will start practicing it ... you might also have in mind that the end of the story had come. The practice it’s called cut the cords.
When in solitary time, lay down on the bed, arms positioned down ...
close eyes.
Relax breath in ... breath out to a calm state of mind. Release everything from your mind, work, writing, friends, etc Now, in your mind you have strings about your toes, raise your left hand and hold the ring upward above your tummy area as these strings are attached too.
Every one of these strings have a face, name, people that you need or want to dis attach from you, or you from them ... your right hand comes up and CUTS the cord. Say good bye in out loud voice with their name.
Adrian G Dumitru
51
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A collection of love essays
This releases you from the person (s)
and then from you.
When completed, throw the strings away and relax again.
The practice can be used for close friends, family members, love partners ... and anyone you actually have a connection with ... and you believe that is influencing you in a bad way.
Being very well interconnected, but also wishing to have good vibes all the time ... will almost be natural to decide at cutting the cords with that person ... or maybe influence the partner in such a positive way that can help at re becoming the person we admired so much into the past.
And i believe that even a muse deserves as from time to time ...
someone to take care of her vibe.
Adrian G Dumitru
52
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A collection of love essays
Love - chapter 2 — MONEY
Can money make a love story look like a love story from movies?!
We are looking far happiness .... or we live with the illusion that this is
our real search in live.
And one day ... the perfect person appears from nowhere and brings us that happiness ... at least for a while.
The couple is happy just by staying togheter ... drinking a coffee in a small restaurant, that has a good vibe.
We start to see that happiness means simple things ... and we thought for such a long time that for being happy we need money ...
lots of money ... beautiful cars, luxury vacations and everything is related with the opulence.
But why we have this illusion that happiness involves in any way something that is related with money.
I saw on social media a perfect couple, that is always in expensive vacation ... but a dear friend of mine, which is very pragmatic, just asked me how the “perfection” will look like without traveling around the world?!
So .. the simple question is .. do we need money ... or even large amount of money to be happy?!
Well ... it quite difficult to answear, cause i know lots of rich people that i did not saw happy togheter ... and i saw ordinary people that inspired me harmony when i looked at them. For being in love ... you need a connection.
Without it ... there will be no love story.
I would call this chapter 1 ... falling in love.
But does chapter 2 ... means ... “let’s talk a little bit about money?! So ... does the perfect couple needs money so that the love story continue to be perfect ... or the connection is enough?!
Adrian G Dumitru
53
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A collection of love essays
I mean ... the Universe arranges everything for you, so that you meet the soul mate ... but can real love be so related with money?!
Can you travel around the world without few tens of thousands of dollars?!
Years ago i met in Tunisia a lady that traveled in many, many countries just with a small salary as a teacher. She even told me ... how she was doing it.
But at that time there was no facebook, or instagram ... so that we show to our friends the check in to a luxury and expensive hotel. We just told to the friends the name of the country and about the beauty we saw in there.
So ... i believe that today ... unfortunately the perfect love story has already kind of a dogmatic scenario.
You can’t say you are the perfect couple ... if you just travel through the mountains ... with your soulmate ... but with no money in your pocket.
The illusion that the perfect scene is always related with money ... will probably dissapear when money will be in your pocket ... in large amounts ... but the connection will not be in there anymore.
Adrian G Dumitru
54
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A collection of love essays
“Vibes never lie”
(Antoaneta Bunea)
Imagine you should be in the position that you could choose between
having the following partners ... a very rich person ... or one that is
no so rich, but still takes care of all your desires ... and someone that
can bring you joy everyday.
What would you choose?!
Who should be the best partner?!
Or choose between a very beautiful person and one that is giving you
daily a good vibe?!
What would you chose?!
You see ... this is the meaning of what we call in life ... “illusions”. The Bible and all the great philosophers from history used a lot this concept.
You always need to see what is behind the illusion ... and how it is actually displayed in the real life.
And i read so many modern love stories ... but they don’t insist so much on the good vibe that comes from them as a couple.
The beauty of the love story comes from the pleasure of being and acting togheter on the stage of life.
So ... what is the best partner we should have?
Well ... i think whoever that person is ... if that love story gives us a good vibe ... that is the perfect partner. How’s that?!
