THERAPY WITH THE LOVE TEACHER … ALL I NEEDED FOR A BEAUTIFUL LIFE
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THERAPY WITH THE LOVE TEACHER … ALL I NEEDED FOR A BEAUTIFUL LIFE
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Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THERAPY WITH THE LOVE TEACHER … ALL I NEEDED FOR A BEAUTIFUL LIFE
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ADRIAN GABRIEL DUMITRU
THERAPY WITH THE LOVE TEACHER … ALL I NEEDED FOR A BEAUTIFUL LIFE
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Year: 2023
Author: Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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You know … sometimes the meaning of a love story it’s
about healing our souls
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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INTRODUCTION
I wrote 10 books about love, but maybe someone should come to forbidden me … the right of speaking about the subject.
Cause to be honest … i was writing so much about it … but … i don’t really know what love is.
When i was personally involved … i was blind.
I was not seeing clear absolutely anything at all.
Most probably … being so, so … deep … in those stories … i did not had the ability to see everything detached and … it all became illusory for my mind.
And i had so contradictory … perceptions.
But one day … someone told me an interesting story … about how he got all what he wanted in his life … except love.
This story made me decide to start writing a new book about the subject … but from a new perspective.
This time i was the one that watch the play … like a spectator.
I was looking at him.
… but also at her.
I was not interested to analyze more …. one of the sides …
but only and only … the connection between those souls.
My new friend started to tell me more and more about his life … and the paradox that even if he succeeded to get from life
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all he ever dreamed … he could not see any joy at all for himself.
There was no reason for him to smile or …. to be happy.
His face was always sending to everyone the impression of a profound … unhappiness.
But one day … the guy … which by the way was a married person … met an amazing lady … and asked her to be his … love teacher.
He could not say it from the beginning … but the next second he had this opportunity …. he found the guts to say it. And the funny thing was that she said … yes.
She accepted the fact that he was married … cause there was no other chance to be together for the present moment. So … they started the lesson.
Brian … this was his real name … was telling me new and new details.
Many times i was simple smiling … not really knowing how to define the 2 of them, but later i realize that Carla was in the same position as him.
She tried many times to find the happiness.
The Universe sent in her life so, so many men … but all of those relationships looked like …. what we could name as …. pathless paths.
This time … with this guy Brian …. all looked different.
And he really wanted to understand what love is about. He came to me … confessing about his amazing story with Carla … and we were wondering … why the hell we had to learn so, so many things in school, but never about … love. His relationship with Carla became kind of a therapy.
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A weird one … but even if it was a slow process …. my friend
Brian started to feel like a … different person.
He was visiting her in her small studio, spending so, so many hours together … kissing her, discussing together … but also making love.
She was teaching him … the tremendous power of touch … the meaning of feelings … and how love can heal our souls. Everyday … was a new lesson.
She was his therapist … but liking her so, so much … and falling in love with her … he became her therapist also. In the night he was coming back at home …. and he was meditating more and more of what he was doing.
Had no regret that he was cheating his wife, cause the connection itself was broken by a long, long time. And he loved this kind of … therapy.
Everyday … he wanted to spend more and more time with her.
Her energy … all that love felt while being into her arms … even if there were moments when they simple practiced the silence …. was making him feel cured.
I was analyzing them … more and more …. until one day
when i had the chance to meet her also.
And i had the same feeling regarding Carla … that she was also having therapy with my friend Brian. … love therapy.
Now … i was looking from outside at all this … and … i
actually saw my stories.
… all my love stories.
I was analyzing and defining them … but i was trying to understand my stories and my way of acting from the past.
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It all became so damn clear now.
Looking at Brian and Carla … i suddenly understood that all i was doing into my past …. In all the love stories … was to heal my soul.
I needed … therapy also.
But i was afraid of following a classic way …. at a regular
therapist.
All needed to be abstract … to hide the fact that i needed … to heal my broken soul.
I smile realizing that all those partners … were my therapists ….
Brian and Carla made me understand much clearer … my own story.
And many others as them.
Seeing detached … all those love stories …. defining them in
my writings … little by little i started to understand what love is about … and its tremendous power.
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Acting as the perfect partner
but also looking at everything as a show … a nice way
of enjoying reality
My friend Brian …. which i use as inspiration in many of my
essays … recently told me about an experiment that he’s doing with our common friend Sheila.
They meet once a week and play a game … called … in a love story with the perfect partner.
They define one for the other … everything means … an amazing love story, what their expectations are in such a relationship … but also try to act … as into a hollywoodian love movie.
It’s like they train themselves to be great actors into a love story.
She is …. his love teacher.
He is … her love teacher … too.
They made the understanding… to not get in love with each other … but also to do all their best for 2-3 hours … once a week … to act like being into an amazing story.
Brian said … that last week … she was dancing for him … trying to seduce him … and he feeling amazing.
Of course … it was all an illusion … and it all looked like a stupid game … but what was interesting to see … both at
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Brian, but also at Sheila …. cause she was also telling me
from time to time what they were doing … was that they adored ... this game.
They both … made efforts to satisfy the partner in the best possible way … and were acting indeed as … great actors. And all had a … clear purpose.
… to train themselves to be …. amazing.
I smile … in front of such a story … but i vote it as a great idea.
I do not judge them … anymore … as i did in the beginning … when hearing about the experiment.
Actually … i trend to believe that i need such a partner as Sheila too.
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I loved your silence … whispered me so, so many things
Many times in life … we have lots of desires.
Then … when we see that we can’t make them become true … we name those desires … dreams.
And … the Universe loving all of us … allows us to manifest … in the end … whatever we want.
Many of our dreams … become … true.
All it’s perfect …. for a while.
We even start to consider ourselves … lucky and happy.
But … still … a piece of the puzzle is missing.
And i see that at so, so many people around myself. Today i don’t know if i should define my tendency of analyzing everything around myself as good or bad ….but still
i see so, so many people that look like … they got all they wanted in life … but can’t be happy for 100%.
It’s like all their dreams … they ever had …. became true … except one …. that remained … a simple fantasy and nothing more.
I recently had the chance to see … the perfect couple. I knew the guy … by a long time.
I also knew her … but not so much.
I could see the connection between them … from a very long distance … but i also realized that they pretended so, so much that … this connection did not existed.
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They were both married … having small kids at home … and the thought of being together …. was just … crazy. But … the fantasy existed.
They tried …. so, so hard … to hide it …. talking about
nonsenses … or even not talking at all.
In the end … Alice decided to move … into another country.
She could not pretend anymore.
She wanted to be with him …. but it all looked as a fantasy
that will never happen … and nothing more.
He looked like the perfect partner and … she looked the same
for him … but …
A fantasy … is …
Meeting my friend … i started to laugh of him … saying … “How the hell you could be so, so idiot and let her … go?!” “Well my friend … in the end i had the courage to just tell her that her silence whispered me so, so many things. And she left.
She will never be back.
She will remain … a fantasy.
A dream … that will never become real.
But i still consider that i have the right to believe in fantasies.”
It was so funny … seeing the absence of courage … on both sides.
Perfect couple … but that perfect story … remained a simple
fantasy … and nothing more.
The silence … maybe ruined all.
And i realize how idiots we are ….
I see those 2 people … understanding that they could have an amazing love story together … and still … even if the
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connection was so, so obvious … in the end … the absence of courage … made a dream … be forever metamorphosed into a fantasy … and nothing more.
She left …. far, far away.
He could simple say … “Please … don’t leave!” … but … It all remained …. an unwritten … beautiful love story.
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Everything is temporary
so why bother to worry so much … all the time
We live … making lots of plans.
And we are so, so unhappy … if we don’t follow the path of those plans.
Even the moment when we feel happy … our minds start to worry …. saying to us … that unfortunately … most probably
unhappiness will come soon. And it really happens this way.
Life is like an emotional balance between happiness and unhappiness.
Today we are happy … and most probably … the next day … that weird beautiful feeling is totally absent.
It all happens again and again … and again.
But … even if rarely … it happens i see couples that somehow have immunity … at this emotional dance.
I analyze her … maybe more than i pay attention to him … and can almost see with my closed eyes the happiness from her soul.
I look and can’t believe … unhappiness totally disappeared. It’s like they don’t even know the concept.
But unfortunately … after a while … when i even forget about them … seeing that love story again … i see everything changed.
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I also hear of some of the stories … that it all ended. And …
I don’t know what to believe about love stories anymore. Then … i remember all from this life is … temporary … even the love stories.
So why the hell we live this illusory stories?!
Are we allowed to say that love it’s an illusion?
Or … a total nonsense?!
I don’t really know what to say anymore.
I start to have a balance of contradictory perceptions. But i start to realize that maybe the whole meaning of the love story was … like a life lesson.
… a lesson about …. what love means.
It was all temporary … even if that joy and happiness looked eternal … but … had a very clear purpose.
To make those people realize … what love means …
Today …. I see them continuing being worried.
Again and again … that emotional balance.
They forgot everything.
So … maybe a new love story is needed?
And … a new love teacher?!
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It’s useless trying to change the partner. Just enjoy the positive side of the relationship … and don’t bother to make any projection for the future
Many people write me about their relationships …. seeing me
as psychologist …. but the simple truth is that i am only a
thinker …. a person that is probably thinking a little bit more
than the others.
I like the connection with all those people involved into those love stories.
They are somehow my teachers about … relationships and ….
love.
For example Charlie is always writing me about his relationships.
Businessman, a guy that chased success all his life ….
realized into the end … that all was useless … cause he was never really happy.
But the funny thing is that Charlie …. mastering the law of
attraction succeeded one day to finally attract into his life … an amazing lazy.
She was beautiful, intelligent … a warm soul … and amazing in bed.
Lily offered him … the best a woman can offer to a man … There was nothing … she would change at her.
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And it was all real … cause before Lily … Charlie wrote me about other ladies also … but there are was always something that he disagreed with.
This time … my friend was writing me … only and only about the beautiful side of the story.
Well … until one day … when i felt that Charlie is worrying about something.
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THERAPY WITH THE LOVE TEACHER … ALL I NEEDED FOR A BEAUTIFUL LIFE
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Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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THERAPY WITH THE LOVE TEACHER … ALL I NEEDED FOR A BEAUTIFUL LIFE
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ADRIAN GABRIEL DUMITRU
THERAPY WITH THE LOVE TEACHER … ALL I NEEDED FOR A BEAUTIFUL LIFE
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Year: 2023
Author: Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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You know … sometimes the meaning of a love story it’s
about healing our souls
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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INTRODUCTION
I wrote 10 books about love, but maybe someone should come to forbidden me … the right of speaking about the subject.
Cause to be honest … i was writing so much about it … but … i don’t really know what love is.
When i was personally involved … i was blind.
I was not seeing clear absolutely anything at all.
Most probably … being so, so … deep … in those stories … i did not had the ability to see everything detached and … it all became illusory for my mind.
And i had so contradictory … perceptions.
But one day … someone told me an interesting story … about how he got all what he wanted in his life … except love.
This story made me decide to start writing a new book about the subject … but from a new perspective.
This time i was the one that watch the play … like a spectator.
I was looking at him.
… but also at her.
I was not interested to analyze more …. one of the sides …
but only and only … the connection between those souls.
My new friend started to tell me more and more about his life … and the paradox that even if he succeeded to get from life
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all he ever dreamed … he could not see any joy at all for himself.
There was no reason for him to smile or …. to be happy.
His face was always sending to everyone the impression of a profound … unhappiness.
But one day … the guy … which by the way was a married person … met an amazing lady … and asked her to be his … love teacher.
He could not say it from the beginning … but the next second he had this opportunity …. he found the guts to say it. And the funny thing was that she said … yes.
She accepted the fact that he was married … cause there was no other chance to be together for the present moment. So … they started the lesson.
Brian … this was his real name … was telling me new and new details.
Many times i was simple smiling … not really knowing how to define the 2 of them, but later i realize that Carla was in the same position as him.
She tried many times to find the happiness.
The Universe sent in her life so, so many men … but all of those relationships looked like …. what we could name as …. pathless paths.
This time … with this guy Brian …. all looked different.
And he really wanted to understand what love is about. He came to me … confessing about his amazing story with Carla … and we were wondering … why the hell we had to learn so, so many things in school, but never about … love. His relationship with Carla became kind of a therapy.
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A weird one … but even if it was a slow process …. my friend
Brian started to feel like a … different person.
He was visiting her in her small studio, spending so, so many hours together … kissing her, discussing together … but also making love.
She was teaching him … the tremendous power of touch … the meaning of feelings … and how love can heal our souls. Everyday … was a new lesson.
She was his therapist … but liking her so, so much … and falling in love with her … he became her therapist also. In the night he was coming back at home …. and he was meditating more and more of what he was doing.
Had no regret that he was cheating his wife, cause the connection itself was broken by a long, long time. And he loved this kind of … therapy.
Everyday … he wanted to spend more and more time with her.
Her energy … all that love felt while being into her arms … even if there were moments when they simple practiced the silence …. was making him feel cured.
I was analyzing them … more and more …. until one day
when i had the chance to meet her also.
And i had the same feeling regarding Carla … that she was also having therapy with my friend Brian. … love therapy.
Now … i was looking from outside at all this … and … i
actually saw my stories.
… all my love stories.
I was analyzing and defining them … but i was trying to understand my stories and my way of acting from the past.
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It all became so damn clear now.
Looking at Brian and Carla … i suddenly understood that all i was doing into my past …. In all the love stories … was to heal my soul.
I needed … therapy also.
But i was afraid of following a classic way …. at a regular
therapist.
All needed to be abstract … to hide the fact that i needed … to heal my broken soul.
I smile realizing that all those partners … were my therapists ….
Brian and Carla made me understand much clearer … my own story.
And many others as them.
Seeing detached … all those love stories …. defining them in
my writings … little by little i started to understand what love is about … and its tremendous power.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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Acting as the perfect partner
but also looking at everything as a show … a nice way
of enjoying reality
My friend Brian …. which i use as inspiration in many of my
essays … recently told me about an experiment that he’s doing with our common friend Sheila.
They meet once a week and play a game … called … in a love story with the perfect partner.
They define one for the other … everything means … an amazing love story, what their expectations are in such a relationship … but also try to act … as into a hollywoodian love movie.
It’s like they train themselves to be great actors into a love story.
She is …. his love teacher.
He is … her love teacher … too.
They made the understanding… to not get in love with each other … but also to do all their best for 2-3 hours … once a week … to act like being into an amazing story.
Brian said … that last week … she was dancing for him … trying to seduce him … and he feeling amazing.
Of course … it was all an illusion … and it all looked like a stupid game … but what was interesting to see … both at
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Brian, but also at Sheila …. cause she was also telling me
from time to time what they were doing … was that they adored ... this game.
They both … made efforts to satisfy the partner in the best possible way … and were acting indeed as … great actors. And all had a … clear purpose.
… to train themselves to be …. amazing.
I smile … in front of such a story … but i vote it as a great idea.
I do not judge them … anymore … as i did in the beginning … when hearing about the experiment.
Actually … i trend to believe that i need such a partner as Sheila too.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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I loved your silence … whispered me so, so many things
Many times in life … we have lots of desires.
Then … when we see that we can’t make them become true … we name those desires … dreams.
And … the Universe loving all of us … allows us to manifest … in the end … whatever we want.
Many of our dreams … become … true.
All it’s perfect …. for a while.
We even start to consider ourselves … lucky and happy.
But … still … a piece of the puzzle is missing.
And i see that at so, so many people around myself. Today i don’t know if i should define my tendency of analyzing everything around myself as good or bad ….but still
i see so, so many people that look like … they got all they wanted in life … but can’t be happy for 100%.
It’s like all their dreams … they ever had …. became true … except one …. that remained … a simple fantasy and nothing more.
I recently had the chance to see … the perfect couple. I knew the guy … by a long time.
I also knew her … but not so much.
I could see the connection between them … from a very long distance … but i also realized that they pretended so, so much that … this connection did not existed.
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They were both married … having small kids at home … and the thought of being together …. was just … crazy. But … the fantasy existed.
They tried …. so, so hard … to hide it …. talking about
nonsenses … or even not talking at all.
In the end … Alice decided to move … into another country.
She could not pretend anymore.
She wanted to be with him …. but it all looked as a fantasy
that will never happen … and nothing more.
He looked like the perfect partner and … she looked the same
for him … but …
A fantasy … is …
Meeting my friend … i started to laugh of him … saying … “How the hell you could be so, so idiot and let her … go?!” “Well my friend … in the end i had the courage to just tell her that her silence whispered me so, so many things. And she left.
She will never be back.
She will remain … a fantasy.
A dream … that will never become real.
But i still consider that i have the right to believe in fantasies.”
It was so funny … seeing the absence of courage … on both sides.
Perfect couple … but that perfect story … remained a simple
fantasy … and nothing more.
The silence … maybe ruined all.
And i realize how idiots we are ….
I see those 2 people … understanding that they could have an amazing love story together … and still … even if the
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connection was so, so obvious … in the end … the absence of courage … made a dream … be forever metamorphosed into a fantasy … and nothing more.
She left …. far, far away.
He could simple say … “Please … don’t leave!” … but … It all remained …. an unwritten … beautiful love story.
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Everything is temporary
so why bother to worry so much … all the time
We live … making lots of plans.
And we are so, so unhappy … if we don’t follow the path of those plans.
Even the moment when we feel happy … our minds start to worry …. saying to us … that unfortunately … most probably
unhappiness will come soon. And it really happens this way.
Life is like an emotional balance between happiness and unhappiness.
Today we are happy … and most probably … the next day … that weird beautiful feeling is totally absent.
It all happens again and again … and again.
But … even if rarely … it happens i see couples that somehow have immunity … at this emotional dance.
I analyze her … maybe more than i pay attention to him … and can almost see with my closed eyes the happiness from her soul.
I look and can’t believe … unhappiness totally disappeared. It’s like they don’t even know the concept.
But unfortunately … after a while … when i even forget about them … seeing that love story again … i see everything changed.
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I also hear of some of the stories … that it all ended. And …
I don’t know what to believe about love stories anymore. Then … i remember all from this life is … temporary … even the love stories.
So why the hell we live this illusory stories?!
Are we allowed to say that love it’s an illusion?
Or … a total nonsense?!
I don’t really know what to say anymore.
I start to have a balance of contradictory perceptions. But i start to realize that maybe the whole meaning of the love story was … like a life lesson.
… a lesson about …. what love means.
It was all temporary … even if that joy and happiness looked eternal … but … had a very clear purpose.
To make those people realize … what love means …
Today …. I see them continuing being worried.
Again and again … that emotional balance.
They forgot everything.
So … maybe a new love story is needed?
And … a new love teacher?!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
14
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It’s useless trying to change the partner. Just enjoy the positive side of the relationship … and don’t bother to make any projection for the future
Many people write me about their relationships …. seeing me
as psychologist …. but the simple truth is that i am only a
thinker …. a person that is probably thinking a little bit more
than the others.
I like the connection with all those people involved into those love stories.
They are somehow my teachers about … relationships and ….
love.
For example Charlie is always writing me about his relationships.
Businessman, a guy that chased success all his life ….
realized into the end … that all was useless … cause he was never really happy.
But the funny thing is that Charlie …. mastering the law of
attraction succeeded one day to finally attract into his life … an amazing lazy.
She was beautiful, intelligent … a warm soul … and amazing in bed.
Lily offered him … the best a woman can offer to a man … There was nothing … she would change at her.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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And it was all real … cause before Lily … Charlie wrote me about other ladies also … but there are was always something that he disagreed with.
This time … my friend was writing me … only and only about the beautiful side of the story.
Well … until one day … when i felt that Charlie is worrying about something.
