It was just … a therapy … and nothing more. It was indeed like going to the doctor.
This lady … my wife is talking about … was not my mistress … but my therapist.
I don’t know if she loved me …. or not. But she cared about me … and even a lot.”
I was listening to George and could not start …. to laugh.
I was sure that his wife was shocked about this perception … but … maybe the therapist had listened many times in life … this idea.
But … i did not even knew what to reply to my friend.
He saw me as an expert …. in love stories … and i was just a lost guy …. same as him.
In fact … i was agreeing with him.
I knew that therapy with love is the greatest therapy we could have … but …
Maybe today i could not find that courage … to do that again
…
But … i agree with George … for 100%.
And even if i know the meaning of morality … and also of the karmic experiences we have during this life … i still trend to affirm that George was taken the … right decision for his life.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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The Stockholm syndrome is seen so damn often … in so, so many relationships
For the ones that don’t know … Stockholm syndrome is a coping mechanism to a captive or abusive situation. People develop positive feelings toward their captors or abusers over time. This condition applies to situations including child abuse, coach-athlete abuse, relationship abuse and sex trafficking.
Paul recently reminded me … about the concept.
In fact we were talking about our friend … Brian.
It might look that we were gossiping … but not.
We were just trying to understand … why our dear friend still stays into an annoying marriage … when he already has an amazing relationship with this new french lady … Elise.
You see … me and Paul know Brian … by a very, very long time.
His wife is not loving him.
She’s even having an aggressive attitude towards him … treating him as the worst person from this plannet.
And on the other hand … we also saw Elise … which really loves him.
Anyone could easily see the connection between the 2 of them.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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But maybe i could also say that anyone … except … Brian.
I see my friend … captive into a real ugly universe … but also living into the same time … 2 contradictory life scenarios. In one Universe … he’s in hell.
And in the second one … he’s enjoying life … in Paradise. And he lives like this everyday … by a already a long, long time.
No matter … how much me and Paul were discussing … it was all useless.
We were incapable of understand why the hell Brian … would not simple divorce and start a new life with Elise … which was an amazing woman … at least comparing to his wife.
He was actually the best example i could offer to my readers
into my book “I was the prisoner, but also the guardian.”
So what is the connection between Stockholm syndrome and
relationships between a man and a woman … that stay a long time together?!
From a psychological perspective, this phenomenon can be understood as a survival mechanism. In fact, some experts may even encourage those in a hostage situation to act as if they are experiencing Stockholm syndrome in order to improve their chances of survival, as a connection with the perpetrator can potentially make the situation more bearable for the victim and may make the captors more inclined to meet the captive’s basic needs.
But still … i look at Elise … and … She was so, so beautiful.
so warm to him.
so lovely … when she was looking at him.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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I somehow started to have a weird idea … that Brian is not believing anymore into new beginnings and that life can be restarted anytime.
That prison with invisible walls … which was the relationship with his wife … which treated him so many times as a war criminal … defined his life for such a long time … that not even an amazing love story … could have the effect of … awakening for him.
It was maybe a karmic connection … which he could not close anymore.
And no matter how many ladies …. the Universe sent into his
life … Brian was still acting … like an idiot. We could even say that he … loved his prison. Loved … the aggressor …
Between the chance of living an amazing life … and staying into an unhappy marriage … Brian … like an idiot … always chooses to remain captive … probably for a lifetime.
Or maybe he loves his aggressive wife …. but also … his
amazing mistress.
Usually me and Paul … come up all the time with a clear conclusion … but this time …. seeing how idiot Brian is … our
only conclusion is in fact that … the human being it’s too difficult to be understood.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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Influencing and being influenced … unfortunately a non ending process … which is many times ruining our lives.
I was seeing them …. everyday.
I was in fact admiring them … all the time.
Looking at their connection … which was indeed the connection of love … i realized that love is … an amazing thing.
I ignored it for years … even if i knew it.
But i was analyzing this couple … on and on and on. It was a great example for my book … about love. Somehow … i was obsessed of this inter connection … between their souls.
I wanted to understand the process itself … and how deep it was.
Unfortunately… one day … i’ve realized that i’ve seen … the whole story.
I saw them extremely happy together … but also saw them …. in the end … so, so … unhappy.
Or i could probably say that …. they were balancing between
happiness and … unhappiness.
An amazing relationship became … illogical in the end. Weeks later …. I found out that a guy that used to like her a
lot …. was telling her all the time real bad things about the
relationship with what she defined as …. the love of her life.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
34
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And the guy … over reacted so, so good … that … in the end … Sheila really started to believe him.
That so called friend … that had a real passion for her … was in fact … a reflection of her fears. Maybe she also wanted him.
Maybe … she wanted both stories … somehow into the same time … but letting herself influenced so, so much … forgot about the connection with her lover. Happiness … became … unhappiness.
It was somehow … metamorphosed … into such an ugly way.
I could swear that connections still existed.
Love … was also present into their souls.
But …. letting herself be dominated by the outside world …
everything was ruined.
And damn it … was such an amazing love story.
So … what can we do to protect ourselves?!
How can we keep remaining in beautiful scenarios?! Well … maybe just understanding the meaning and the importance of the connection.
Anything else … could be totally ignored.
We all have fears …. and sometimes they become real …
indeed.
But we also have dreams … and they become real also … and
as idiots … we just fail … even in best case scenarios. Influencing and being influenced… is a real fact ….
And letting other people … which don’t have real good intentions … to ruin our lives … is also a real fact.
most probably …. a total nonsense.
All becomes a story about … dominance.
… a beautiful story … metamorphosed into an ugly one.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
35
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Sex … an amazing therapy
I dared to write about my emotions.
And i’ve wrote about 10 books about love … but somehow … i avoid to use the word … sex.
If you’d ask me why … and i should be honest enough … most probably it’s because … even if i wrote so much … i did not said the whole truth.
I was not admitting that many times … sex … in fact that story defined so well … as amazing sex … it’s kind of a therapy.
I wanted to write so, so much about that … but i did not dared to write all those thoughts. I used just the word … love.
not speaking about that weird amazing emotional cocktail with … love and sex.
It was like i was writing hundreds of essays about duality … but in fact i was defining just half of the story.
Most probably … today … admitting that i’ve redefined my perceptions … and good sex is actually … a therapy …. It’s so, so damn good.
I finally dare to complete my … writings.
And i smile … being happy of exploring the other side of … this duality … which i’ve adored.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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It s a new day … a new chance to be together
I always felt her in love with him.
I’ve analyzed a lot into the last years … all related with … love stories.
They were the friends of some of my friends.
I could not know all about them … but looking at their connection … i tried to go deeper and deeper.
I was in fact obsessed about the meaning of all what happened … between them … and why the connection between 2 people in love … succeeds to make life itself … so amazing.
Why lots of other couples were feeling unhappy together … and this couple, i am talking about … were having such a special relationship.
But still … time proved to myself that something was wrong with them also.
I saw her too concerned about their future … and him carrying just about the present moment … and nothing more. And day by day … this gap between such contradictory perceptions …. made her balance all the time between happiness and unhappiness.
Then … by accident … walking on the beach … i see a couple of 2 old people … that looked … so … so in love. They were just … enjoying the moment.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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Dancing …. on the music of the waves.
They were one with the moment … adoring the fact that they were together … having no plans … but being extremely happy.
And i remember about the other couple … and i start smiling
realizing that we live … not really knowing … how to live.
forgetting the essential … for a beautiful life.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
38
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There are people that completely change our vibes …. simple by being
present into our lives
I recently started to write a book about … depression … and i try to write it not from the psychological side … but more from the spiritual perspective … seeing the impact of connection between us … as humans.
I decided to write about depression … because i see too many people … all around … that don’t carry good vibes into their souls.
I see that on their face.
And for many of them … i see that by a long, long time.
But … some weird questions came into my mind …
What if i am wrong?
What if what i thought it’s depression … it’s actually a … temporary sadness … and nothing more?!
What if the depression itself … is just an illusion?!
What if it actually means the disconnection between us … as individuals and … the Universe?!
The list with my questions … was so, so long … but most probably … as my book to make sense … and be a practical guide … i needed to come with some new informations that might help the public.
And writing about love, love stories … and everything involve this … i realized i saw over the years lots of people totally
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
39
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... essays
redefined of the connection with … an amazing life partner. Comparing my perspectives … before and after the love story started … i somehow concluded that love is the best antidote from the world … for sadness … depression or anything related with negative vibes.
I really saw … happiness … on faces that carried the masks of unhappiness … for such a long, long time. So … why people go to therapists?!
Why they take medicines against depression?!
Why simple … don’t decide to have a … love story?!
to experience …. this amazing subject … called … love. It most probably …. doesn’t costs anything … and any soul from this world …. has the right soulmate.
It’s all about the decision of … trying kind of a natural antidote … against depression.
And sometimes when nothing really works …. maybe we should ask ourselves … why not?!
I personally … don’t dare to try it … again and again … but seeing …. those people i am talking about … so happy … i also start to wonder … why not?!
Don’t really know if i really ever suffered of depression … but i certainly suffered of not always having happiness into my soul.
which made me sad.
Really sad.
People were telling me … that i look sad.
that a profound sadness could be read on my face. Was that depression?!
Or … the absence of … love?!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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Maybe i really needed someone to change my vibe … but where the hell should i find that person?!
Well … i still hope that at the right time … the right person will be sent by the Universe.
Until then ….
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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Laughing of … my thoughts … and our thoughts
I’m not reading anymore by a long time what people are writing on social media …
Even if i personally publish daily … my essays.
But few days ago … i saw a post with a picture of a lady … that was exactly the prototype i was looking for … by a long time.
I looked at the picture for few minutes … and realized i loved her smile … her vibe …. her everything.
Then …. suddenly… reading the post … i started to laugh.
Another lady had published the post … defining this person i liked … as an dishonest person … a liar … and even as a … bitch.
I could not believe what this nervous lady … was writing in social media.
It looked like Melinda …. the lady from the photo … a refugee
from Germany … had asked the help from the husband of this lady that wrote such a long, long story …. about her.
But even if she was defined in such a negative way … looking even that Melinda abused of the husband of the nervousness lady … my reply … was … a little bit abstract.
I looked again at the picture … and realized … i really liked her.
This lady … my wife is talking about … was not my mistress … but my therapist.
I don’t know if she loved me …. or not. But she cared about me … and even a lot.”
I was listening to George and could not start …. to laugh.
I was sure that his wife was shocked about this perception … but … maybe the therapist had listened many times in life … this idea.
But … i did not even knew what to reply to my friend.
He saw me as an expert …. in love stories … and i was just a lost guy …. same as him.
In fact … i was agreeing with him.
I knew that therapy with love is the greatest therapy we could have … but …
Maybe today i could not find that courage … to do that again
…
But … i agree with George … for 100%.
And even if i know the meaning of morality … and also of the karmic experiences we have during this life … i still trend to affirm that George was taken the … right decision for his life.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
30
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The Stockholm syndrome is seen so damn often … in so, so many relationships
For the ones that don’t know … Stockholm syndrome is a coping mechanism to a captive or abusive situation. People develop positive feelings toward their captors or abusers over time. This condition applies to situations including child abuse, coach-athlete abuse, relationship abuse and sex trafficking.
Paul recently reminded me … about the concept.
In fact we were talking about our friend … Brian.
It might look that we were gossiping … but not.
We were just trying to understand … why our dear friend still stays into an annoying marriage … when he already has an amazing relationship with this new french lady … Elise.
You see … me and Paul know Brian … by a very, very long time.
His wife is not loving him.
She’s even having an aggressive attitude towards him … treating him as the worst person from this plannet.
And on the other hand … we also saw Elise … which really loves him.
Anyone could easily see the connection between the 2 of them.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
31
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But maybe i could also say that anyone … except … Brian.
I see my friend … captive into a real ugly universe … but also living into the same time … 2 contradictory life scenarios. In one Universe … he’s in hell.
And in the second one … he’s enjoying life … in Paradise. And he lives like this everyday … by a already a long, long time.
No matter … how much me and Paul were discussing … it was all useless.
We were incapable of understand why the hell Brian … would not simple divorce and start a new life with Elise … which was an amazing woman … at least comparing to his wife.
He was actually the best example i could offer to my readers
into my book “I was the prisoner, but also the guardian.”
So what is the connection between Stockholm syndrome and
relationships between a man and a woman … that stay a long time together?!
From a psychological perspective, this phenomenon can be understood as a survival mechanism. In fact, some experts may even encourage those in a hostage situation to act as if they are experiencing Stockholm syndrome in order to improve their chances of survival, as a connection with the perpetrator can potentially make the situation more bearable for the victim and may make the captors more inclined to meet the captive’s basic needs.
But still … i look at Elise … and … She was so, so beautiful.
so warm to him.
so lovely … when she was looking at him.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
32
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I somehow started to have a weird idea … that Brian is not believing anymore into new beginnings and that life can be restarted anytime.
That prison with invisible walls … which was the relationship with his wife … which treated him so many times as a war criminal … defined his life for such a long time … that not even an amazing love story … could have the effect of … awakening for him.
It was maybe a karmic connection … which he could not close anymore.
And no matter how many ladies …. the Universe sent into his
life … Brian was still acting … like an idiot. We could even say that he … loved his prison. Loved … the aggressor …
Between the chance of living an amazing life … and staying into an unhappy marriage … Brian … like an idiot … always chooses to remain captive … probably for a lifetime.
Or maybe he loves his aggressive wife …. but also … his
amazing mistress.
Usually me and Paul … come up all the time with a clear conclusion … but this time …. seeing how idiot Brian is … our
only conclusion is in fact that … the human being it’s too difficult to be understood.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
33
THERAPY WITH THE LOVE TEACHER … ALL I NEEDED FOR A BEAUTIFUL LIFE
... essays
Influencing and being influenced … unfortunately a non ending process … which is many times ruining our lives.
I was seeing them …. everyday.
I was in fact admiring them … all the time.
Looking at their connection … which was indeed the connection of love … i realized that love is … an amazing thing.
I ignored it for years … even if i knew it.
But i was analyzing this couple … on and on and on. It was a great example for my book … about love. Somehow … i was obsessed of this inter connection … between their souls.
I wanted to understand the process itself … and how deep it was.
Unfortunately… one day … i’ve realized that i’ve seen … the whole story.
I saw them extremely happy together … but also saw them …. in the end … so, so … unhappy.
Or i could probably say that …. they were balancing between
happiness and … unhappiness.
An amazing relationship became … illogical in the end. Weeks later …. I found out that a guy that used to like her a
lot …. was telling her all the time real bad things about the
relationship with what she defined as …. the love of her life.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
34
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... essays
And the guy … over reacted so, so good … that … in the end … Sheila really started to believe him.
That so called friend … that had a real passion for her … was in fact … a reflection of her fears. Maybe she also wanted him.
Maybe … she wanted both stories … somehow into the same time … but letting herself influenced so, so much … forgot about the connection with her lover. Happiness … became … unhappiness.
It was somehow … metamorphosed … into such an ugly way.
I could swear that connections still existed.
Love … was also present into their souls.
But …. letting herself be dominated by the outside world …
everything was ruined.
And damn it … was such an amazing love story.
So … what can we do to protect ourselves?!
How can we keep remaining in beautiful scenarios?! Well … maybe just understanding the meaning and the importance of the connection.
Anything else … could be totally ignored.
We all have fears …. and sometimes they become real …
indeed.
But we also have dreams … and they become real also … and
as idiots … we just fail … even in best case scenarios. Influencing and being influenced… is a real fact ….
And letting other people … which don’t have real good intentions … to ruin our lives … is also a real fact.
most probably …. a total nonsense.
All becomes a story about … dominance.
… a beautiful story … metamorphosed into an ugly one.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
35
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... essays
Sex … an amazing therapy
I dared to write about my emotions.
And i’ve wrote about 10 books about love … but somehow … i avoid to use the word … sex.
If you’d ask me why … and i should be honest enough … most probably it’s because … even if i wrote so much … i did not said the whole truth.
I was not admitting that many times … sex … in fact that story defined so well … as amazing sex … it’s kind of a therapy.
I wanted to write so, so much about that … but i did not dared to write all those thoughts. I used just the word … love.
not speaking about that weird amazing emotional cocktail with … love and sex.
It was like i was writing hundreds of essays about duality … but in fact i was defining just half of the story.
Most probably … today … admitting that i’ve redefined my perceptions … and good sex is actually … a therapy …. It’s so, so damn good.
I finally dare to complete my … writings.
And i smile … being happy of exploring the other side of … this duality … which i’ve adored.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
36
THERAPY WITH THE LOVE TEACHER … ALL I NEEDED FOR A BEAUTIFUL LIFE
... essays
It s a new day … a new chance to be together
I always felt her in love with him.
I’ve analyzed a lot into the last years … all related with … love stories.
They were the friends of some of my friends.
I could not know all about them … but looking at their connection … i tried to go deeper and deeper.
I was in fact obsessed about the meaning of all what happened … between them … and why the connection between 2 people in love … succeeds to make life itself … so amazing.
Why lots of other couples were feeling unhappy together … and this couple, i am talking about … were having such a special relationship.
But still … time proved to myself that something was wrong with them also.
I saw her too concerned about their future … and him carrying just about the present moment … and nothing more. And day by day … this gap between such contradictory perceptions …. made her balance all the time between happiness and unhappiness.
Then … by accident … walking on the beach … i see a couple of 2 old people … that looked … so … so in love. They were just … enjoying the moment.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
37
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... essays
Dancing …. on the music of the waves.
They were one with the moment … adoring the fact that they were together … having no plans … but being extremely happy.
And i remember about the other couple … and i start smiling
realizing that we live … not really knowing … how to live.
forgetting the essential … for a beautiful life.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
38
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... essays
There are people that completely change our vibes …. simple by being
present into our lives
I recently started to write a book about … depression … and i try to write it not from the psychological side … but more from the spiritual perspective … seeing the impact of connection between us … as humans.
I decided to write about depression … because i see too many people … all around … that don’t carry good vibes into their souls.
I see that on their face.
And for many of them … i see that by a long, long time.
But … some weird questions came into my mind …
What if i am wrong?
What if what i thought it’s depression … it’s actually a … temporary sadness … and nothing more?!
What if the depression itself … is just an illusion?!
What if it actually means the disconnection between us … as individuals and … the Universe?!
The list with my questions … was so, so long … but most probably … as my book to make sense … and be a practical guide … i needed to come with some new informations that might help the public.
And writing about love, love stories … and everything involve this … i realized i saw over the years lots of people totally
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
39
THERAPY WITH THE LOVE TEACHER … ALL I NEEDED FOR A BEAUTIFUL LIFE
... essays
redefined of the connection with … an amazing life partner. Comparing my perspectives … before and after the love story started … i somehow concluded that love is the best antidote from the world … for sadness … depression or anything related with negative vibes.
I really saw … happiness … on faces that carried the masks of unhappiness … for such a long, long time. So … why people go to therapists?!
Why they take medicines against depression?!
Why simple … don’t decide to have a … love story?!
to experience …. this amazing subject … called … love. It most probably …. doesn’t costs anything … and any soul from this world …. has the right soulmate.
It’s all about the decision of … trying kind of a natural antidote … against depression.
And sometimes when nothing really works …. maybe we should ask ourselves … why not?!
I personally … don’t dare to try it … again and again … but seeing …. those people i am talking about … so happy … i also start to wonder … why not?!
Don’t really know if i really ever suffered of depression … but i certainly suffered of not always having happiness into my soul.
which made me sad.
Really sad.
People were telling me … that i look sad.
that a profound sadness could be read on my face. Was that depression?!
Or … the absence of … love?!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
40
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... essays
Maybe i really needed someone to change my vibe … but where the hell should i find that person?!
Well … i still hope that at the right time … the right person will be sent by the Universe.
Until then ….
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
41
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Laughing of … my thoughts … and our thoughts
I’m not reading anymore by a long time what people are writing on social media …
Even if i personally publish daily … my essays.
But few days ago … i saw a post with a picture of a lady … that was exactly the prototype i was looking for … by a long time.
I looked at the picture for few minutes … and realized i loved her smile … her vibe …. her everything.
Then …. suddenly… reading the post … i started to laugh.
Another lady had published the post … defining this person i liked … as an dishonest person … a liar … and even as a … bitch.
I could not believe what this nervous lady … was writing in social media.
It looked like Melinda …. the lady from the photo … a refugee
from Germany … had asked the help from the husband of this lady that wrote such a long, long story …. about her.
But even if she was defined in such a negative way … looking even that Melinda abused of the husband of the nervousness lady … my reply … was … a little bit abstract.
I looked again at the picture … and realized … i really liked her.
