Dont live a life with others’s people standards.
Last chance is just an illusion ... there will be many, many others choices and chances.
Let the Universe define what we name the last chance, not the people from your life.
Create your own standards... only with the things you believe in.
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A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
In love or just loving who you become?!
Gabriel Garcia Marquez said “ i love you not for whom you are, but who i am when i'm by your side.”
Strange words ... but the truth.
The perfect partner is the one that makes you shine, no matter what kind of relashionship you have togheter ... and no matter of your age.
If someone makes you look like a diamont ... means that person is the love story of your life.
Most of the time we dont even understand what is going on ... but different people around us will say we look and act differentlly.
Is like a quatuum jump that you can make, just cause you are in a love story. You also might keep in mind that a quatuum jump means the abrupt transition of a quantum system from one quantum state to another, from one energy level to another.
For a human being a quantuum jump is for example ... a simple employe from a petroleum company becomes over night the president of the company.
The example might look weird, but that’s quatuum jump and this can also happen to you, in case you are into the love story of your life. Infinite love can make you fly.
Quatuum jump means also change everything around you, from the people you love to the dailly routines.
Lots of people that study personal development, are looking for a huge change into their lifes ... which can be defined as quatuum jumping.
Most of those people, after reading even thousands of books ... do not succed anything at all ... even if they learned all the theories even wrotten.
We have ... all of us ... a huge potential inside of us ... but only the person that gives you the infinite love ... can whisper you ... that you can be whoever you ever dreamed to be.
So ... just enjoy the love stories ... they are the infinite source.
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The need of an adventure
People love the adventures.
Some goes into a camp in the mountains, some love car racing, some flying with small airplains, some hunting ... and some ... they just fall in love and enjoy life togheter with the perfect partner.
I know a beautiful girl that loves having sex into the subterranean parking at the mall. This is the way she sees an adventure.
But we all have strange way of seeing life and only few things that makes us feel alive.
Do this love for certain adventures define us?!
Well ... yes. It’s quite difficult to understand why we have it, but anything that makes you alive is welcome into the dailly life ... cause life, in general, is quite boring.
Too bad we dont realise that any day can be an adventure ... and its up to us to do this every time we want it.
So ... dont be shy ... dare to live and do all the things you love to do.
That fear of being alive should not be part of you.
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A huge distance between
There are 2 kinds of relationship that we dont like to accept that they are ... the way they are: the one with the partner ... when you realise you too far from what you thought it might be between the 2 of you ... and the other with the person that you fall in love with, but you realise you have too different values in life. Can we do something about that?!
Well ... you could define with that person where you are at that moment ... and in the mean time try to redefine everything ... but for real, not as a simple discussion.
Negotiating into a relationship is something we will not be so happy about, but in the end is important to think if you really want to be with that person or not. Most probably, your life will not end tomorrow, so you need to think if you try to go on a common road togheter, or you just quit ... and think about a new life for you.
Things are quite simple, but we dislike talking honestly about what is really going on into the real life.
We can hide the truth for years, but we will not be able to hide the unhappiness from our souls.
Pretending you have a life is no an option.
Start to act honestly ... life is too short to lie yourself more than others.
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Being unhappy is just a choice
We believe that the world we live in decides the fact that we can be happy or unhappy.
We let the circumstances tell us what to feel inside of us.
We do not dare to define things and situations very clearly so that we understand, for example, that an unhappy partner cannot make you be unhappy for the rest of your life.
We cannot let others influence what we feel inside our souls.
Life is too short to let them decide what to do and feel.
Waking up and asking yourself if you want to define yourself as happy or unhappy is just a choice.
You should never let someone decide this for you.
The art of defining and redefining is the art that makes you understand that you can see everything into a microscopic but also macroscopic way ... and that what you see is just a reality from this moment ... but everything could have a different direction tomorrow ... even a good one.
So let your spirit decide to be happy ... is just a choice.
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Too much?!
How do we have a good balance in life with everything is really important?!
How do we think the concept of “too much” can be defined?!
Familly is important, friends are important, our jobs are important ... everythings looks like important ... but how you manage to keep the right balance in everything?!
Too many questions ... probably we should just enjoy everything we do but in the end pay more attention to the things we love.
But now a difficult question: what if one day you meet the love of your life ...
what happens when you receive “too much” love?!
Some of us ... got scared and ran away.
We do not know to let others love us ... we learned to love .. but were not teached the art of opening our hearts and let the love go into our souls. Is it unhealthy to love too much?
I believe that love is the only one .... that never can be too much.
When you know to love, but also to be loved ... even if it is “too much”, you start
living a life with the joy inside of you.
Just dare to love ... with all your heart.
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It's not over until I win
Les Brown playing with one of his kids, learned a huge lesson from his son.
The little guy did not accepted to end playing until he was winning.
But we are adults now ... and an adult has the right to abandon a fight, a dream or a purpose.
This is the real dogma ... and this is how we live our lifes.
Not all of us .... but still many ... have a huge lack of optimism inside.
When we were kids we wanted to win all the competitions ... but in time we had so many dissapointments that we get used with the idea.
People abandon today very easilly almost everything they think they care a lot ...
even the love stories.
What if we should still be stubborn as kinds and define better how our real life should look like.
What if one day .... just after waking up we say to ourselves ... is not over until i
win.
How are our lifes should look like?
Learn to define better what determination means ... and dont throw your dreams and goals to the trash.
Do all the time what your heart wisper you to do.
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Life is tricky baby
… stay in your magic
So many women with a heart of gold and a life full with illusions and desillusions ... end up just forgeting that not the makeup but stardust makes them beautiful.
We pay so much attention to the tricky details that life shows and convinces us that fairy tales ... even if we love them ... dont really exists. Why we stop believing into magic?
Why in the beginning we are dreaming for fairy tales ... and then abandon the idea and go back to the ugly dailly reality?!
Why we start with courage and loose all the optimism walking through the timeline of our lives?!
A gold heart must have the courage of living into a fairy tale all the time.
The optimism is sometimes an illusory vision about the life we want to live, but what should be life without optimism?
You need to go through some difficult lessons so that you understand that what you see is not what is looks like ... cause life is tricky.
Then you understang right away that you could still believe in magic and fairy tales.
And truth be told, women love the fairy tales.
They need them as their souls to survive.
So ... be brave enough and let the magic stay inside of you.
Think all the time about defining magic.
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Disconnecting from someone
You are a kid, then you grow up and you understand that being connected all the time to your parents is not such a good idea anymore.
Loving your parents is ok, at any age, but running your life considering all the time what others have to say, even if they are your parents, means you dont trust enough yourself and you are not connected deep enough to your soul.
We have certain chapters in life and being a kid, connected to his parents, is ok. You will learn a lot from them. This is the time when you implement your mental software inside of you ... and those principles that you learn at that age, will be the ones that will define your life.
The group of people from your schol ... teachers, other kids, the school bus driver ... all those people will influence you also at that time.
The time flies ... you end school and you start the life as an adult ... most probably you get a job, gett married ... have kids etc etc. That is the usual script of a human being.
On all those chapters, most of the time, you have someone in your life that you can talk and define things and situations, and feel that it helps you a lot. That person can be a close friend or your love partener.
No matter where you are on the timeline of your life, it will hurt a lot ... when somehow that relationship is closed.
If might be that you ended school and everybody goes to a different college or maybe your love dissapointed you so much, that you had to decide to break up. Into the love story, but also in the other situations, problem is that you start being lost ... not knowing in which direction you should go.
You realise that YOU was a mix of your soul and your partner’s soul.
Breaking up, makes your soul broken ... and you find so many hospitals around the world, but no one for broken souls.
In this moments, you will be forced to redefine everything and understand that your soul is an independent one ... and all you need can be find inside of you. Disconnecting from others, especially from the people we loved a lot, is a very difficult process ... but you can do it ... you will survive. In the end, one door closes and another opens.
Same with the love stories.
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Just let the silence enter into your soul
We live in a world where we let everything define us ... but never consider silence as a gift that was given to us.
I always thought that we will meet silence into the cemetery and we will have enough time for that, at the right moment ... but today i just changed my mind. What we find too late in life is that if we loose our silence because of something ... that is a huge price to pay.
Letting silnce coming into our souls is a wise decision ... one of the best we could ever do.
When you feel the silence ... there is no worry or fear ... and you have time to feel alive.
We have so many dramatic science fiction scenarios, that only a calm mind can heal our souls.
Life is too short for overthinking.
Let the silnce smile your soul ... and you will start living a happy life.
Defining your ife as too complicated to dare smiling into your dailly moments is too silly.
Silence is a gift given to us by Gods ... only to remember that we can be also Gods one day.
Dare to think about that ... and receive the silence!
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A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
The perfect couple
This is quite a strange concept ... and wonder if really exists at all.
So ... how should we define the perfect couple?!
A certain age?!
She is a doctor and he is a lawyer?!
Rich guy driving a Ferrari and she ... a beautiful top model girl?!
Well ... fairy tale exists, but lets speak about real life.
I recentlly had the pleasure to meet and interact with a very nice couple. He was a worker in construction and she ... a cleaning lady.
She was divorced, with 2 kids and he was really in love with her.
Simple people ... but a lovelly couple.
You could read happiness on their faces when you saw them togheter.
On the other hand i met so many rich famillies that they were real unhappy togheter ... that i dont think that the concept of the perfect couple is connected with the idea of having all what you dreamed for.
When you embrace with your partner, look togheter into the mirror and see you both shining ... that is the perfect couple ... even if is a love story from the real world or just a love affair.
Real love can make you shine like a diamond!
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Pretending we play all in
We always dream at what we dont have.
I believe that someone that is having a 2k dollars car is looking for a 7k dollars car, someone driving a Porsche is dreaming at a Bentley ... and someone married with a blonde girl is thinking how life looks like with a brunette.
We have lots of dreams and goals ... but lots of them are dying in time inside of us.
