As long as you are fearless, everything is perfect, but if you believe that love hurts ... this is what you will get in return. The Universe sends us those experiences.
Instead of complaining that it hurts a lot after the love story is ended, maybe you
should think of thanking for the fact that those moments were offered to you.
Dare to live the love story!!
Dare to enjoy it!
Life can really be beautiful!
Adrian G Dumitru
37
ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
The illicit love affairs
... a huge contemporary problem
I am not watching television by already few years, but i know most of the things that happens around the world from social media.
But i do interact a lot with lots of people from the city i live in.
Well ... over the years i had been hearing about all kinds if problems that the humanity has, but never heard about a crysis in love affairs.
I have a close friend that has a 2 stars hotel, but also a 3 stars hotel in here. He makes a huge amount of money with those ugly hotels, more than a 5 stars hotel, because many people from our city go in there.
I am 42 and in the begining i thought that men of my age are coming with girls of 20 in there ... but no no.
I also believed that people of 18s are going in there ... but i was wrong again.
It is actually a story with people of 24, 37, 55 or even 62 ... married people most of them, in love of someone else that their spouses.
They come 2-3 times a week for 2-3 hours and enjoy life togheter.
I mean ... we can name this illicit love affairs, but listen to me ... I just used the name love.
And when you say LOVE is just as you would say GOD, cause in the end love and God is almost the same thing.
How should we define all those married people from all world, having illicit love affairs in 2-3-4 or 5 stars hotels?!
The first definition ... well it does not sound so nice.
The second one, after meditating more is that those are unlucky and unhappy people in love with maybe ... the love of their life ... at the wrong time.
Love affairs exists everywhere in the world and i think we are in front of a real crysis, but everybody is just hiding this, hoping that no one will notice. Being happy is a choice.
But being happy is also a fundamental right of a human being ... so, just dare to live your life.
Adrian G Dumitru
38
ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
Just say the truth ... and send the letter.
Well my dear, there are 2 kinds of imposible love stories.
The first one is when love exists only by one side and on the other side, even if it exists, is not so strong as it should be.
The second one, is actually the kind of shakespearean style, when the 2 of them act as Romeo and Juliet.
So ... what is the solution on both cases?!
For the first scenario i will tell u about a good friend of mine from Pakistan, student at english literature, a guy that wants to be a writer. He is young and very talented.
His english is excellent, but did not found the path so that he could become a writer.
He is also so deep in love with a beautiful girl from his country, but again he is not finding the path to go inside her soul.
I spoke with him few times and in the end we realised togheter that he should mix the 2 desires, being with the girl he wants and also being a writer, in only one desire.
He promised he will start writing, expressing the infinite love he feels inside his soul, writing only and only about love ... the love of his life.
If the trick works, the girl will understand one day that he is a fantastic guy and he deserves her attention.
For the shakespearean way of living the love story ... well .... what should i start
with?!
The love exists on both sides, is actually infinite love, but they cannot live the story in the real life.
If you would analyze the stories behind great love poems, or other great love story novels, you would easilly understand thar behind what you read it was a great imposible love story from the real life.
The story does not need to end in the Romeo and Juliet style, but the fact is that we have an end, which is never hollywood style scenario.
Writing our feelings will make us understand better what is inside of us ... and also might be the way to survive.
So ... just write the truth and send the letter.
Adrian G Dumitru
39
ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
When for anything you should say ... I DONT CARE ...is the answear
What if one day everything ends with ... i dont care anymore ... what it does mean?!
Well ... it means all ways of connections are closed ... and you lost the train. Which is ... bad ?
But the end ... is not always the end.
Might look as the end, but is not, cause sometimes it s not what it looks like.
Women loves us, but in one point, after we drive them crazy ... they would kill
us ... but it s illegal to kill us ... so they just drive us crazy ... and believe it or not
we deserve it.
In that point you need to reconnect to the love story and to that woman you love a lot .. if you really care about her.
I dont care means ... you dont really care about me in everything you do related to our relationship.
So ... silly boy ... just redefine everything ... if you really love that silly girl . That s all!
Adrian G Dumitru
40
ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
If we ever stop talking
… send me a song
There are lots of ways of communication, not only the clasical ones you think about.
Sometimes just looking one to another for 2 seconds is more than enough. Sometimes, we block each other ... and all the doors for communications are closed.
Maybe a song, will tell everything we have to say ... and will touch the love of our life again.
Music is very well connected to love, and the lines sends most of the time our feelings.
Dont bother to do too much ... so my dear love ... if we ever stop talking, and we do it so often, just send me a song!
Adrian G Dumitru
41
ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
Leaving forever
I am leaving
It s about time, she said. You fixed my broken soul and then you broke it again
But i will never come back
Well ... you going to stay in my broken heart forever.
One man and one woman, very deep in love, ended the conversation. It s too complicated to say “Good bye, forever!”
There are tens of thousands of books about love, but no one about how to break up.
All the writings say only about the end in the best case scenarios, but not about real cases.
Truth be told, being in love can heal your soul, but it can also break it ... forever.
The end is not shakespearean, but it s also not the hollywood movie style .
The end hurts, cause we havent ever been teached to say “Good bye, forever!”
Adrian G Dumitru
42
ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
One day
One day ... I hope you look back at what we had togheter
Everything has a begining, but also an end, even if it s quite difficult to accept it. The only meaning of a love story is to fix our broken souls ... and just after fixing ... it brakes it again.
Accepting love into your heart is accepting a huge risk and we are used not to play risky, but to play safe.
We do a double game ... but still deep inside us we want to meet that infinite love.
But the Universe is laughing ... and sends the infinite love, but just as an imposible love story.
So .. the question is: how do we meet the infinite playing on safe mode?!
I think we are too cowards to play risky, to play all in and forget about the double game.
When you try to do the double game, and think you can win in any circumstances you already distroyed the concept of infinite.
Sometimes you just need to define if you turn left or right ... or you just forget everything and go straight, just continuing a boring life.
Playing in safe mode way will make all mistakes visible ... and destroy the magic of the love story.
Dare to define what the word happiness means to you ... and then you will receive all the answears.
Adrian G Dumitru
43
ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
Had I just lost a battle or I lost the war?!
Had i just lost a battle, or i lost the war?!
Maybe is time to surrender and continue the story into my book.
There are so many situations in life when everything looks like ... lost.
And we fight a lot to win ... and one day the story goes to an unwanted end. We learned in school history for years, but the history teacher did not defined very clear to us at that time what is the difference between loosing a battle and loosing the war.
It s too confusing for most of us if the certain situations are the end or it s just a new test the Universe just gave us.
Should we continue fighting or just surrender and start a new chapter from our life?
It s difficult to define, but in the end everything is about the fact that you want or not to follow a certain path in life.
If you see yourself you into that story, you need to go on, but if you think that everything was just a life experience that had the purpose to heal your soul, you will need to accept that other stories and experiences are waiting for you.
A writer should still continue the story into his books ... a musician should continue everything into his songs ... you can just keep everything into your soul and always remember those beautiful memories.
Adrian G Dumitru
44
ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
Pretending we are happy togheter
Well, one of the first things that we will learn in personal development is ... “Fake it till you make it”.
The affirmations technique is using the same principle. You tell yourself the same story on and on and one day you will think that is the truth.
Hitler’s close friend, Goebbels used to say “Tell people 1000 times a lie and soon after they will say that is the truth” ... and you can say a lie for 1000 times to you too.
I am not saying that the affirmation technique is wrong or that the idea with “fake it till you make it” is not ok, but you should always consider that you have a brain, but also a heart.
And is quite easy to lie your brain, but quite difficult to say a lie to your heart. The heart is connected with the soul and lieing is the silliest thing you can do. We can pretend that we are stronger and will help, we can pretend that we are smarter ... and again, it will work ... and we can even pretend we are richer than we are ... but we cannot really pretend that we are in love or that we are happy if we are actually not.
The lie can be seen in our eyes, cause the eyes are the window to our souls. It does not mean you dont have the right to try to pretend you are happy in a relationship ... but in the end being into a relationship does not mean you can also be into a love story.
Real love has nothing to do with pretending.
Adrian G Dumitru
45
ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
We cant dictate whom to love
A real life story from a friend of mine who is living in Southeast Asia, who happened to fall in love not with the man whom she is with, but with someone who live in another land... far, far away ... There is a love story not many would agree (a secret only the two of them knew and of course, me)... but for the two of them, love conquers all, defy all the laws,man has ever made...their ultimate dream is to be in each other's arm...being together one day, is what they both aim to achieve...
So the question is .. and i need to ask all of you .... what should be the scenario
my friends should follow?
Adrian G Dumitru
46
ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
Why are we looking all the time for illusions and end up getting only desillusions?!
We always want what we cant have.
And if it looks imposible to get that something is even more attractive to fight for that.
We even think we can own other people and the desire of domination, that comes from our ego, is huge.
And the Universe is laughing and let us desire more and more what is called ...
illusions.
We want a very expensive car, a very beautiful house, the spouse of someone else ... and the list is infinite.
We are in love with imposible things and want more and more ... not realising that we actually want an illusion.
Having the power to define if a bigger house or a better location than the actual location will make u happier ... or the spouse of another person will make you happier than you are with your spouse ... is difficult to say.
Illusion can mean even an idealistic model of living life and the desillusion is the fact we cannot have that imposible from our silly minds.
So ... truth be told ... we looking all the time for illusions and end up getting only desillusions ... but it s ok ... throw experiences we understand life better.
Adrian G Dumitru
47
ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
The truth about the truth is that we know the truth, but we dislike the truth
The theory of defining is based on the idea that you will meditate and be honest enough with you, so that you can understand the reality you live in.
That will help you then redefine the things so that you go in the new direction you want to follow.
The problem is that even that we know the truth, we dislike it so much that we try to hide very simple and clear things for years.
People have all kinds of addictions from eating, drinking, taking drugs till the addiction to love, hiden into the mask of imposible love stories.
But one day, even if you hide all those dirty things from your life, everything will come to the surface.
You cannot hide the truth forever.
In that day you will need to face the real facts ... the reality and decide if you start cleaning all the mud that you see inside of you or just forget everything and follow another path in life.
Being honest and defining everything will help you a lot, especially if you decide to change your life.
Finding the path for the change ... is start thinking about redefining reality.
Instead of complaining that it hurts a lot after the love story is ended, maybe you
should think of thanking for the fact that those moments were offered to you.
Dare to live the love story!!
Dare to enjoy it!
Life can really be beautiful!
Adrian G Dumitru
37
ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
The illicit love affairs
... a huge contemporary problem
I am not watching television by already few years, but i know most of the things that happens around the world from social media.
But i do interact a lot with lots of people from the city i live in.
Well ... over the years i had been hearing about all kinds if problems that the humanity has, but never heard about a crysis in love affairs.
I have a close friend that has a 2 stars hotel, but also a 3 stars hotel in here. He makes a huge amount of money with those ugly hotels, more than a 5 stars hotel, because many people from our city go in there.
I am 42 and in the begining i thought that men of my age are coming with girls of 20 in there ... but no no.
I also believed that people of 18s are going in there ... but i was wrong again.
It is actually a story with people of 24, 37, 55 or even 62 ... married people most of them, in love of someone else that their spouses.
They come 2-3 times a week for 2-3 hours and enjoy life togheter.
I mean ... we can name this illicit love affairs, but listen to me ... I just used the name love.
And when you say LOVE is just as you would say GOD, cause in the end love and God is almost the same thing.
How should we define all those married people from all world, having illicit love affairs in 2-3-4 or 5 stars hotels?!
The first definition ... well it does not sound so nice.
The second one, after meditating more is that those are unlucky and unhappy people in love with maybe ... the love of their life ... at the wrong time.
Love affairs exists everywhere in the world and i think we are in front of a real crysis, but everybody is just hiding this, hoping that no one will notice. Being happy is a choice.
But being happy is also a fundamental right of a human being ... so, just dare to live your life.
Adrian G Dumitru
38
ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
Just say the truth ... and send the letter.
Well my dear, there are 2 kinds of imposible love stories.
The first one is when love exists only by one side and on the other side, even if it exists, is not so strong as it should be.
The second one, is actually the kind of shakespearean style, when the 2 of them act as Romeo and Juliet.
So ... what is the solution on both cases?!
For the first scenario i will tell u about a good friend of mine from Pakistan, student at english literature, a guy that wants to be a writer. He is young and very talented.
His english is excellent, but did not found the path so that he could become a writer.
He is also so deep in love with a beautiful girl from his country, but again he is not finding the path to go inside her soul.
I spoke with him few times and in the end we realised togheter that he should mix the 2 desires, being with the girl he wants and also being a writer, in only one desire.
He promised he will start writing, expressing the infinite love he feels inside his soul, writing only and only about love ... the love of his life.
If the trick works, the girl will understand one day that he is a fantastic guy and he deserves her attention.
For the shakespearean way of living the love story ... well .... what should i start
with?!
The love exists on both sides, is actually infinite love, but they cannot live the story in the real life.
If you would analyze the stories behind great love poems, or other great love story novels, you would easilly understand thar behind what you read it was a great imposible love story from the real life.
The story does not need to end in the Romeo and Juliet style, but the fact is that we have an end, which is never hollywood style scenario.
Writing our feelings will make us understand better what is inside of us ... and also might be the way to survive.
So ... just write the truth and send the letter.
Adrian G Dumitru
39
ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
When for anything you should say ... I DONT CARE ...is the answear
What if one day everything ends with ... i dont care anymore ... what it does mean?!
Well ... it means all ways of connections are closed ... and you lost the train. Which is ... bad ?
But the end ... is not always the end.
Might look as the end, but is not, cause sometimes it s not what it looks like.
Women loves us, but in one point, after we drive them crazy ... they would kill
us ... but it s illegal to kill us ... so they just drive us crazy ... and believe it or not
we deserve it.
In that point you need to reconnect to the love story and to that woman you love a lot .. if you really care about her.
I dont care means ... you dont really care about me in everything you do related to our relationship.
So ... silly boy ... just redefine everything ... if you really love that silly girl . That s all!
Adrian G Dumitru
40
ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
If we ever stop talking
… send me a song
There are lots of ways of communication, not only the clasical ones you think about.
Sometimes just looking one to another for 2 seconds is more than enough. Sometimes, we block each other ... and all the doors for communications are closed.
Maybe a song, will tell everything we have to say ... and will touch the love of our life again.
Music is very well connected to love, and the lines sends most of the time our feelings.
Dont bother to do too much ... so my dear love ... if we ever stop talking, and we do it so often, just send me a song!
Adrian G Dumitru
41
ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
Leaving forever
I am leaving
It s about time, she said. You fixed my broken soul and then you broke it again
But i will never come back
Well ... you going to stay in my broken heart forever.
One man and one woman, very deep in love, ended the conversation. It s too complicated to say “Good bye, forever!”
There are tens of thousands of books about love, but no one about how to break up.
All the writings say only about the end in the best case scenarios, but not about real cases.
Truth be told, being in love can heal your soul, but it can also break it ... forever.
The end is not shakespearean, but it s also not the hollywood movie style .
The end hurts, cause we havent ever been teached to say “Good bye, forever!”
Adrian G Dumitru
42
ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
One day
One day ... I hope you look back at what we had togheter
Everything has a begining, but also an end, even if it s quite difficult to accept it. The only meaning of a love story is to fix our broken souls ... and just after fixing ... it brakes it again.
Accepting love into your heart is accepting a huge risk and we are used not to play risky, but to play safe.
We do a double game ... but still deep inside us we want to meet that infinite love.
But the Universe is laughing ... and sends the infinite love, but just as an imposible love story.
So .. the question is: how do we meet the infinite playing on safe mode?!
I think we are too cowards to play risky, to play all in and forget about the double game.
When you try to do the double game, and think you can win in any circumstances you already distroyed the concept of infinite.
Sometimes you just need to define if you turn left or right ... or you just forget everything and go straight, just continuing a boring life.
Playing in safe mode way will make all mistakes visible ... and destroy the magic of the love story.
Dare to define what the word happiness means to you ... and then you will receive all the answears.
Adrian G Dumitru
43
ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
Had I just lost a battle or I lost the war?!
Had i just lost a battle, or i lost the war?!
Maybe is time to surrender and continue the story into my book.
There are so many situations in life when everything looks like ... lost.
And we fight a lot to win ... and one day the story goes to an unwanted end. We learned in school history for years, but the history teacher did not defined very clear to us at that time what is the difference between loosing a battle and loosing the war.
It s too confusing for most of us if the certain situations are the end or it s just a new test the Universe just gave us.
Should we continue fighting or just surrender and start a new chapter from our life?
It s difficult to define, but in the end everything is about the fact that you want or not to follow a certain path in life.
If you see yourself you into that story, you need to go on, but if you think that everything was just a life experience that had the purpose to heal your soul, you will need to accept that other stories and experiences are waiting for you.
A writer should still continue the story into his books ... a musician should continue everything into his songs ... you can just keep everything into your soul and always remember those beautiful memories.
Adrian G Dumitru
44
ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
Pretending we are happy togheter
Well, one of the first things that we will learn in personal development is ... “Fake it till you make it”.
The affirmations technique is using the same principle. You tell yourself the same story on and on and one day you will think that is the truth.
Hitler’s close friend, Goebbels used to say “Tell people 1000 times a lie and soon after they will say that is the truth” ... and you can say a lie for 1000 times to you too.
I am not saying that the affirmation technique is wrong or that the idea with “fake it till you make it” is not ok, but you should always consider that you have a brain, but also a heart.
And is quite easy to lie your brain, but quite difficult to say a lie to your heart. The heart is connected with the soul and lieing is the silliest thing you can do. We can pretend that we are stronger and will help, we can pretend that we are smarter ... and again, it will work ... and we can even pretend we are richer than we are ... but we cannot really pretend that we are in love or that we are happy if we are actually not.
The lie can be seen in our eyes, cause the eyes are the window to our souls. It does not mean you dont have the right to try to pretend you are happy in a relationship ... but in the end being into a relationship does not mean you can also be into a love story.
Real love has nothing to do with pretending.
Adrian G Dumitru
45
ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
We cant dictate whom to love
A real life story from a friend of mine who is living in Southeast Asia, who happened to fall in love not with the man whom she is with, but with someone who live in another land... far, far away ... There is a love story not many would agree (a secret only the two of them knew and of course, me)... but for the two of them, love conquers all, defy all the laws,man has ever made...their ultimate dream is to be in each other's arm...being together one day, is what they both aim to achieve...
So the question is .. and i need to ask all of you .... what should be the scenario
my friends should follow?
Adrian G Dumitru
46
ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
Why are we looking all the time for illusions and end up getting only desillusions?!
We always want what we cant have.
And if it looks imposible to get that something is even more attractive to fight for that.
We even think we can own other people and the desire of domination, that comes from our ego, is huge.
And the Universe is laughing and let us desire more and more what is called ...
illusions.
We want a very expensive car, a very beautiful house, the spouse of someone else ... and the list is infinite.
We are in love with imposible things and want more and more ... not realising that we actually want an illusion.
Having the power to define if a bigger house or a better location than the actual location will make u happier ... or the spouse of another person will make you happier than you are with your spouse ... is difficult to say.
Illusion can mean even an idealistic model of living life and the desillusion is the fact we cannot have that imposible from our silly minds.
So ... truth be told ... we looking all the time for illusions and end up getting only desillusions ... but it s ok ... throw experiences we understand life better.
Adrian G Dumitru
47
ABSTRACT LOVE
A philosophical guide for imposible love stories
The truth about the truth is that we know the truth, but we dislike the truth
The theory of defining is based on the idea that you will meditate and be honest enough with you, so that you can understand the reality you live in.
That will help you then redefine the things so that you go in the new direction you want to follow.
The problem is that even that we know the truth, we dislike it so much that we try to hide very simple and clear things for years.
People have all kinds of addictions from eating, drinking, taking drugs till the addiction to love, hiden into the mask of imposible love stories.
But one day, even if you hide all those dirty things from your life, everything will come to the surface.
You cannot hide the truth forever.
In that day you will need to face the real facts ... the reality and decide if you start cleaning all the mud that you see inside of you or just forget everything and follow another path in life.
Being honest and defining everything will help you a lot, especially if you decide to change your life.
Finding the path for the change ... is start thinking about redefining reality.
