BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
BEYOND THE NONSENSE …
THERE IS A PATH
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
1
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
Title: BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
Year: June, 2021
Author: Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
2
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
“Forgive me my nonsense, as I also forgive the nonsense of those that think they talk sense.”
Robert Frost
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
3
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
INTRODUCTION
Beyond the nonsense ... there is a path
In the real life ... i am not a writer.
I am kind of a businessman and a real estate investor.
Kind of ...
But i read so many motivational stuff ... that my mind started to believe that
we ... all of us ... should try to change the world ... so that it can become a better place.
In the last 5 years, i’ve been involved in a project of building a complex with houses … that had a bar, fitness room, patio with barbeque, swimming pool, a kitchen where you could cook for 50 people, billiards, library with few hundreds books etc etc.
It was not a big complex, but still ... the whole concept of the project was ... live your daily life as in vacation.
I spent a huge amount of money and 5 years from my life to complete everything.
The funny thing ... the whole nonsense is that i now realize that no one is using the relaxing areas from the complex.
They rented a house in there ... happy that we have those areas ... but they don’t even use the barbeque in the week ends.
My intention was a good one and really wanted as people coming in there should enjoy life togheter ... but even if you see that people are living in there, cause you see their cars ... still the “ghost” image exists.
Today ... i am laughing of myself ... thinking about how much money i spent creating that place.
The idea of the bar came to me from an old guy, engineer in Dubai.
We were building the complex at that time ... and when the guy told me the place where i should plant the bar ... i thought he is crazy .. and he is speaking only nonsense.
One year later ... the bar was there.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
Now is still there ... but empty .. with nobody using it.
An abandoned bar, even if there are lots of people in there that love to drink alcohol.
I am laughing again ... thinking about the nonsense or being alcoholic ... having a bar just few meters from your house ... and not visiting it.
But in the end ... today ... i understand what is really going on.
People don’t like to socialize with their neighbors ... and also don’t have the ability to treat any day ... as a day of vacation.
Life should be a non ending vacation even if we work very hard.
At home we should try to relax and enjoy staying in there in any way.
But we just can’t.
Maybe one day ... we will see that beyond the nonsense ... there is a path ... the one of enjoying any day of our lives.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
5
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
A philosophical question:
“Rich and unhappy ... or poor and happy?! ... which kind of life you would prefer?!”
There are all kinds of philosophical questions, but this one is a great one.
But how can you find the answer?!
If you could be the prime minister of your country, you could just order to the Institute of Statistic to make a study about that and give you the results.
In case you are not the prime minister, you still have the chance to ask all the people you know, what they really think about that. And, at the end, you should also ask yourself .what do you prefer?! 20 years ago i’ve been working with a rich guy from Germany.
He was kind of a nazi style businessman, but in the end i understood he was probably as a mentor for me.
He had millions of dollars, but never told me anything about his financial situation.
But one day seeing that i work so much ... he said to me “I see that you work a lot and you dream to become rich.
Be aware that being rich will not bring you happiness, but maybe a little bit of certainty in your life and nothing more.”
I totally ignored at that time his advice, but later on i remembered it all the time, even in an obsessive way.
20 years later, after becoming rich, according to the financial standards from my country, i still remember his words and the funny thing is that i can’t define myself as a happy person. I am a positive guy.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
6
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
I do believe in the power of positivity, but i don’t believe in the eternal happiness.
I think, it only exists the joy of the moment and nothing more, but i still have, deep inside myself, the illusion that somehow Santa Claus is real.
Today, a dear friend asked me if i prefer to be happy and poor or unhappy and rich?!
I chose the first answer, but i believe that the best version is to have in life a little bit of everything.
Being rich will not bring you the happiness and i know it. Being poor will bring you in front of all kinds of difficulties and probably you will miss the chance to be happy, being too busy to solve all the problems generated by the fact that you don’t have enough money.
So, probably the middle way is the best path you could chose in life. But even being unhappy is a lesson, cause our happiness should not have any dependency of anything.
And being happy is maybe only the decision that you have the right to enjoy life.
... simple as that and nothing more.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
7
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
The long way to freedom
is called “my life”
There is a beautiful book, called “Long way to freedom”, written by Nelson Mandela ... about his life.
The book has about 750 pages, but is very well written ... and has an abundance of details since his early age.
And i was wondering how can someone remember so many details about things that happened so long time ago. ... but probably after staying 27 years in prison ... you try to feed your soul with memories about how the normal life was.
You appreciate more all what you had ... and your soul, if you are a person with a positive thinking, is fulfilled with lots of beautiful moments from the past.
Mandela, spent too much time in prison ... but not all his life.
Many of us have the look of free life ... and in fact live in an invisible prison.
Their whole life is a prison ... but an abstract one.
The home is a prison ... the job is a prison and everything that does not make them happy are the ingredients that create this kind of life. I have a house at the lake and i used to laugh many times with a dear friend, when we were speaking on the phone, i arrived home and had to tell him ... “I am sorry. I need to hang up cause i just arrived at the prison from the lake”.
I loved this house in the beginning.
It gave me an excellent vibe, but somehow, because of the marriage i have ... it became for me as a prison.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
8
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
The only thing i could enjoy in here was reading books and drinking wine in the night.
When i was about 20 years old, i wanted a lot a company with thousands of customers ... and guess what ... it happened. But the company became a prison also.
It ruined me emotionally talking with thousands of people for 20 years.
One day seeing that i can’t stand the office anymore ... i just sold the space where we were located and continued working from home.
I did not wanted to spend my life in that prison .... called my
company.
My “long way to freedom” was taking 20-21 years ... which means i am pretty close to the time Mandela spent in prison.
Today, if i would be 20 again ... i would pay more attention to what i want for my life.
Close to 43 ... i am only looking for freedom.
... and be a wild soul!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
9
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
All the non sense thoughts are about you .... but
accepting them is the key for healing the soul
I’ve decided to let my mind think at whatever wants to think ...
without defining positive or negative anything.
Someone, dear to me ...even defined me as a person with an atomic behavior and thinking.
It was kind of a compliment, cause i am hyper active all the time ...
and i always saw that i prefer new things and thoughts. Letting my mind free ... with a tendency to a wild behavior ... i started to discover a new me.
The discipline that i had till this age, that was somehow induced by the fact that i was expecting so much from life ... created a border that i could not pass.
... and somehow i let myself stay in the prison of my dreams. But not so long, after the decision that i will let myself experience anything ... and also my mind think of anything could possible think ... i started to feel better.
It all looked like a non sense and everything moved very, very fast.
I was reading all kinds of books.
I started to talk to all kinds of people ... and also spend my time with them ... no matter who they were.
In other words ... i let myself experience anything life could offer to me ... without thinking that i do something positive or negative.
I replaced the duality positive-negative ... with the concept ... life experience.
Anything that i thought or lived ... was stamped as something ... that i should enjoy.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
10
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
Today ... the shift i try to do ... let me feel better inside of me.
I refuse the things i dislike ... but in a polite way ... and i do them smiling.
Today i called a client that is not paying me in time and shows no respect at all for me ... announcing him that he can treat this way all the people from his life ... but i refuse to accept his offer. He payed me in the next 30 minutes.
And i have all kinds of non statistic ways of experiencing all the situations from my life.
I try to do everything different ... and let to act only my wild part from inside of me.
... and many times ... everything looks like a non sense ... but i just learn to be a new me.
I actually dare to be ... the one i feel i should be!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
11
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
Still defined by possessions and profession?! Well ... you’re not on a spiritual path yet.
You see ... most of the times when we present ourselves to the others we say our name, the profession we have and maybe ... the possessions we have.
We truly believe that these define us.
We do not see any spiritual component of our lives ... but only clear things that describe us as people of great success.
I’ve been for one year in a group at the liberal party and each time someone new was coming, he was presenting himself with the full cv from kindergarten to the intention of buying next month the last model of Porsche.
A spanish guy i took there, even told me that our meetings look like the ones from AA.
And he was probably right, cause everybody in there had a very strong addiction, not to alcohol, but to the Ego.
The day i realized the non sense of those meetings ... i stop going to meet those persons.
Today i believe we are not defined by things or the professions we are involved in.
Years ago i met a lady that was involved in many businesses.
She was active and certainly defined by the success she had ... for the italian companies she worked for.
I’ve been working with her for 7-8 years at the beginning of my career, then i stoped seeing her for 2-3 years when we met again in a gas station.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
12
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
She was not working anymore ... but painting and explained me that she is very happy because of that.
She was not caring anymore about the businesses or money or success.
100% she was not painting as a professional painter, but she had a very good vibe because of that.
In the end i conclude that actually we are more defined by the vibe we carry in our souls ... than what we do or what we posses ... and we should pay more attention to that.
The spiritual path that we will need to follow sooner or later ... will appear only we will totally detached by the attachment to anything might look real, cause the only real issue in this life ... is the inner soul.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
13
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
The meaning ... or why we should pay more attention to the message behind the message
So many lessons are repeated to us ... on and on and on ... but we are too blinds to see the meaning behind any message we get from the Universe.
Today ... i don’t believe anymore in personal development.
I read maybe hundreds of books, but i don’t think that this is a path ... at least not for me.
I once read on social media “Personal growth is a lie” ... and i wondered why someone should say this ... but now my opinion is almost a similar one.
Is like you believe in Santa Claus for so many years and then you find out the truth and you are really disappointed.
The non sense of personal growth comes only from the fact that it became a too commercial concept.
Become the best version of yourself was related too much with the images with very expensive cars, or opulent luxury ... or money. Become the best version of yourself ... is a wonderful concept ...as long as this brings joy inside of you.
As any other human being i had lots of desires, but after i had the desire accomplished ... i did not saw the joy inside of me.
But i remembered the pain of getting that desire ... the useless path. Buddha says that the desire brings suffering ... but again is too abstract to understand what he said.
The foundation of personal growth is not a lie ... but the way we use it is a non sense.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
14
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
Is like we go to the church and we say ... “God ... i have this infinite list with desires ... please help me!” God smiles and does ... nothing.
Or ... even worst ... God replies ... “Ahh ... you want that and that and that ... ok ... “
BEYOND THE NONSENSE …
THERE IS A PATH
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
1
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
Title: BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
Year: June, 2021
Author: Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
2
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
“Forgive me my nonsense, as I also forgive the nonsense of those that think they talk sense.”
Robert Frost
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
3
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
INTRODUCTION
Beyond the nonsense ... there is a path
In the real life ... i am not a writer.
I am kind of a businessman and a real estate investor.
Kind of ...
But i read so many motivational stuff ... that my mind started to believe that
we ... all of us ... should try to change the world ... so that it can become a better place.
In the last 5 years, i’ve been involved in a project of building a complex with houses … that had a bar, fitness room, patio with barbeque, swimming pool, a kitchen where you could cook for 50 people, billiards, library with few hundreds books etc etc.
It was not a big complex, but still ... the whole concept of the project was ... live your daily life as in vacation.
I spent a huge amount of money and 5 years from my life to complete everything.
The funny thing ... the whole nonsense is that i now realize that no one is using the relaxing areas from the complex.
They rented a house in there ... happy that we have those areas ... but they don’t even use the barbeque in the week ends.
My intention was a good one and really wanted as people coming in there should enjoy life togheter ... but even if you see that people are living in there, cause you see their cars ... still the “ghost” image exists.
Today ... i am laughing of myself ... thinking about how much money i spent creating that place.
The idea of the bar came to me from an old guy, engineer in Dubai.
We were building the complex at that time ... and when the guy told me the place where i should plant the bar ... i thought he is crazy .. and he is speaking only nonsense.
One year later ... the bar was there.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
4
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
Now is still there ... but empty .. with nobody using it.
An abandoned bar, even if there are lots of people in there that love to drink alcohol.
I am laughing again ... thinking about the nonsense or being alcoholic ... having a bar just few meters from your house ... and not visiting it.
But in the end ... today ... i understand what is really going on.
People don’t like to socialize with their neighbors ... and also don’t have the ability to treat any day ... as a day of vacation.
Life should be a non ending vacation even if we work very hard.
At home we should try to relax and enjoy staying in there in any way.
But we just can’t.
Maybe one day ... we will see that beyond the nonsense ... there is a path ... the one of enjoying any day of our lives.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
5
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
A philosophical question:
“Rich and unhappy ... or poor and happy?! ... which kind of life you would prefer?!”
There are all kinds of philosophical questions, but this one is a great one.
But how can you find the answer?!
If you could be the prime minister of your country, you could just order to the Institute of Statistic to make a study about that and give you the results.
In case you are not the prime minister, you still have the chance to ask all the people you know, what they really think about that. And, at the end, you should also ask yourself .what do you prefer?! 20 years ago i’ve been working with a rich guy from Germany.
He was kind of a nazi style businessman, but in the end i understood he was probably as a mentor for me.
He had millions of dollars, but never told me anything about his financial situation.
But one day seeing that i work so much ... he said to me “I see that you work a lot and you dream to become rich.
Be aware that being rich will not bring you happiness, but maybe a little bit of certainty in your life and nothing more.”
I totally ignored at that time his advice, but later on i remembered it all the time, even in an obsessive way.
20 years later, after becoming rich, according to the financial standards from my country, i still remember his words and the funny thing is that i can’t define myself as a happy person. I am a positive guy.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
6
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
I do believe in the power of positivity, but i don’t believe in the eternal happiness.
I think, it only exists the joy of the moment and nothing more, but i still have, deep inside myself, the illusion that somehow Santa Claus is real.
Today, a dear friend asked me if i prefer to be happy and poor or unhappy and rich?!
I chose the first answer, but i believe that the best version is to have in life a little bit of everything.
Being rich will not bring you the happiness and i know it. Being poor will bring you in front of all kinds of difficulties and probably you will miss the chance to be happy, being too busy to solve all the problems generated by the fact that you don’t have enough money.
So, probably the middle way is the best path you could chose in life. But even being unhappy is a lesson, cause our happiness should not have any dependency of anything.
And being happy is maybe only the decision that you have the right to enjoy life.
... simple as that and nothing more.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
7
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
The long way to freedom
is called “my life”
There is a beautiful book, called “Long way to freedom”, written by Nelson Mandela ... about his life.
The book has about 750 pages, but is very well written ... and has an abundance of details since his early age.
And i was wondering how can someone remember so many details about things that happened so long time ago. ... but probably after staying 27 years in prison ... you try to feed your soul with memories about how the normal life was.
You appreciate more all what you had ... and your soul, if you are a person with a positive thinking, is fulfilled with lots of beautiful moments from the past.
Mandela, spent too much time in prison ... but not all his life.
Many of us have the look of free life ... and in fact live in an invisible prison.
Their whole life is a prison ... but an abstract one.
The home is a prison ... the job is a prison and everything that does not make them happy are the ingredients that create this kind of life. I have a house at the lake and i used to laugh many times with a dear friend, when we were speaking on the phone, i arrived home and had to tell him ... “I am sorry. I need to hang up cause i just arrived at the prison from the lake”.
I loved this house in the beginning.
It gave me an excellent vibe, but somehow, because of the marriage i have ... it became for me as a prison.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
8
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
The only thing i could enjoy in here was reading books and drinking wine in the night.
When i was about 20 years old, i wanted a lot a company with thousands of customers ... and guess what ... it happened. But the company became a prison also.
It ruined me emotionally talking with thousands of people for 20 years.
One day seeing that i can’t stand the office anymore ... i just sold the space where we were located and continued working from home.
I did not wanted to spend my life in that prison .... called my
company.
My “long way to freedom” was taking 20-21 years ... which means i am pretty close to the time Mandela spent in prison.
Today, if i would be 20 again ... i would pay more attention to what i want for my life.
Close to 43 ... i am only looking for freedom.
... and be a wild soul!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
9
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
All the non sense thoughts are about you .... but
accepting them is the key for healing the soul
I’ve decided to let my mind think at whatever wants to think ...
without defining positive or negative anything.
Someone, dear to me ...even defined me as a person with an atomic behavior and thinking.
It was kind of a compliment, cause i am hyper active all the time ...
and i always saw that i prefer new things and thoughts. Letting my mind free ... with a tendency to a wild behavior ... i started to discover a new me.
The discipline that i had till this age, that was somehow induced by the fact that i was expecting so much from life ... created a border that i could not pass.
... and somehow i let myself stay in the prison of my dreams. But not so long, after the decision that i will let myself experience anything ... and also my mind think of anything could possible think ... i started to feel better.
It all looked like a non sense and everything moved very, very fast.
I was reading all kinds of books.
I started to talk to all kinds of people ... and also spend my time with them ... no matter who they were.
In other words ... i let myself experience anything life could offer to me ... without thinking that i do something positive or negative.
I replaced the duality positive-negative ... with the concept ... life experience.
Anything that i thought or lived ... was stamped as something ... that i should enjoy.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
10
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
Today ... the shift i try to do ... let me feel better inside of me.
I refuse the things i dislike ... but in a polite way ... and i do them smiling.
Today i called a client that is not paying me in time and shows no respect at all for me ... announcing him that he can treat this way all the people from his life ... but i refuse to accept his offer. He payed me in the next 30 minutes.
And i have all kinds of non statistic ways of experiencing all the situations from my life.
I try to do everything different ... and let to act only my wild part from inside of me.
... and many times ... everything looks like a non sense ... but i just learn to be a new me.
I actually dare to be ... the one i feel i should be!
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
11
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
Still defined by possessions and profession?! Well ... you’re not on a spiritual path yet.
You see ... most of the times when we present ourselves to the others we say our name, the profession we have and maybe ... the possessions we have.
We truly believe that these define us.
We do not see any spiritual component of our lives ... but only clear things that describe us as people of great success.
I’ve been for one year in a group at the liberal party and each time someone new was coming, he was presenting himself with the full cv from kindergarten to the intention of buying next month the last model of Porsche.
A spanish guy i took there, even told me that our meetings look like the ones from AA.
And he was probably right, cause everybody in there had a very strong addiction, not to alcohol, but to the Ego.
The day i realized the non sense of those meetings ... i stop going to meet those persons.
Today i believe we are not defined by things or the professions we are involved in.
Years ago i met a lady that was involved in many businesses.
She was active and certainly defined by the success she had ... for the italian companies she worked for.
I’ve been working with her for 7-8 years at the beginning of my career, then i stoped seeing her for 2-3 years when we met again in a gas station.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
12
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
She was not working anymore ... but painting and explained me that she is very happy because of that.
She was not caring anymore about the businesses or money or success.
100% she was not painting as a professional painter, but she had a very good vibe because of that.
In the end i conclude that actually we are more defined by the vibe we carry in our souls ... than what we do or what we posses ... and we should pay more attention to that.
The spiritual path that we will need to follow sooner or later ... will appear only we will totally detached by the attachment to anything might look real, cause the only real issue in this life ... is the inner soul.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
13
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
The meaning ... or why we should pay more attention to the message behind the message
So many lessons are repeated to us ... on and on and on ... but we are too blinds to see the meaning behind any message we get from the Universe.
Today ... i don’t believe anymore in personal development.
I read maybe hundreds of books, but i don’t think that this is a path ... at least not for me.
I once read on social media “Personal growth is a lie” ... and i wondered why someone should say this ... but now my opinion is almost a similar one.
Is like you believe in Santa Claus for so many years and then you find out the truth and you are really disappointed.
The non sense of personal growth comes only from the fact that it became a too commercial concept.
Become the best version of yourself was related too much with the images with very expensive cars, or opulent luxury ... or money. Become the best version of yourself ... is a wonderful concept ...as long as this brings joy inside of you.
As any other human being i had lots of desires, but after i had the desire accomplished ... i did not saw the joy inside of me.
But i remembered the pain of getting that desire ... the useless path. Buddha says that the desire brings suffering ... but again is too abstract to understand what he said.
The foundation of personal growth is not a lie ... but the way we use it is a non sense.
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
14
BEYOND THE NONSENSE … THERE IS A PATH
Is like we go to the church and we say ... “God ... i have this infinite list with desires ... please help me!” God smiles and does ... nothing.
Or ... even worst ... God replies ... “Ahh ... you want that and that and that ... ok ... “
